I’ve been married for 24 years. We have a 16-year-old daughter. For the past two years, my wife has been living with another man.

I’ve done everything I can, but she won’t move out. She says she still loves me, and that she’ll get back together with me in the future.

But I know that will never happen. She’s a pathological liar, and she’s taught our daughter to lie just the same. I have no social media outside of this place, so I have no defence. She managed to turn everyone against me, including my parents.

It’s been a long two years since she left.

I’ve been struggling to make ends meet, and I’m always worrying about our daughter. I can’t help but feel like a failure. I don’t want to go to work anymore, but I have to. I’ve been trying to stay positive, but it’s hard. I constantly feel like I’m on the verge of a breakdown.

I’ve done everything I can to make her stay, but she won’t. I’ve tried to be understanding and supportive, but she’s not interested. She’s been living with this other man for the past two years, and I have no idea what goes on between them. All I know is that he’s not the man I thought he was.

It’s been a long two years, but I’ve managed to stay strong. I’ve kept the house clean and tidy, and I’ve managed to pay all the bills. I’ve been there for our daughter, even though she’s not interested in seeing me. I’ve kept myself busy, but all I want is for things to go back to the way they were.

But that won’t happen. I know that now. My wife won’t come back, and our daughter won’t listen to me. I’m alone in this fight, but I’m determined to stay strong and keep going. I know that this isn’t easy, but I’m determined to make it through.

I’m determined to stay strong and keep going, no matter how hard it gets. I won’t give up.

In today’s society, the decision of whether or not to have children has become a topic of increasing importance for many couples.

The traditional notion of starting a family immediately after marriage is being challenged as individuals prioritize personal aspirations, career goals, and financial stability.

Understanding the Importance of Family Planning

Family planning plays a vital role in shaping the dynamics of a relationship. It involves thoughtful consideration of various factors such as financial stability, emotional readiness, and lifestyle preferences. Couples who engage in open discussions about their desire to have children can build a strong foundation for a fulfilling and harmonious future.

Changing Perspectives on Parenthood in Singapore and Factors Influencing the Decision to Have Children

In recent years, Singapore has witnessed a shift in perspectives on parenthood. While the traditional mindset still values having children as a natural progression of marriage, younger generations are reevaluating this notion. They are embracing the idea of individual freedom, exploring diverse life paths, and questioning the societal expectations of starting a family.

Several factors influence the decision-making process when it comes to having children. Financial considerations, such as the high cost of living and the increasing demands of raising a child, often play a significant role. Additionally, career aspirations, concerns about work-life balance, and the desire to pursue personal interests can also affect a couple’s decision.

Impact of a Childless Marriage on Couples and Common Reasons for Conflict in a Childless Marriage

When couples have different views on having children, it can create tension and strain in their relationship. The desire for parenthood can be deeply ingrained and emotionally charged, leading to conflicts that may be difficult to resolve. The sense of unfulfilled dreams and expectations can cause emotional distress and put a strain on the bond between partners.

In cases where one partner does not want to have kids, while the other does, conflicts can arise. These conflicts may stem from divergent goals, societal pressures, fear of missing out on the experience of parenthood, or concerns about the long-term impact of not having children. Communication breakdowns and unaddressed emotions can exacerbate these conflicts.

Societal Pressures and Stigma Surrounding Parenthood

Singaporean society has traditionally placed high value on parenthood, viewing it as a duty and a means of ensuring the continuation of the family line. As a result, couples who choose not to have children often face societal pressures and may encounter stigma. These external influences can intensify conflicts within the relationship and contribute to the couple’s quarrels.

Open and honest communication is crucial when couples find themselves at odds regarding the decision to have children. Both partners need to express their desires, concerns, and fears in a respectful manner. A willingness to compromise and find alternative solutions can help bridge the gap and foster a stronger emotional connection.

I found out I have a thing for mummies and I’m not sure what to do

So a few days ago when my girlfriend and I were getting intimate, I was guzzling on her bewbs like she always liked, but I was doing it gently and slower than usual, she was running her hands through my hair and she whispered “Just like that, You’re such a good boy”

I have never been harder in my entire life, as we got into It I accidentally let it slip and called her mommy, I dead stopped right there, scared she was going to laugh or push me off, but instead she kissed me and told me not to stop and to keep going.

I never thought I like something like that, I’ve never had any parental issues, both my parents are alive and together so I don’t know where it came from. It turns me on more than any other kink but it makes me feel..odd

Any advice?

Netizens’ comments

1. it’s probably less about “mommy” and more about being a bit submissive. Roll with it.
2. It sounds like you found something you both like! Keep it up!
   The “feeling odd” is part of it. The taboo nature is part of it some of the time. Here you are, doing something that feels wrong but is also not only okay but exhilarating. That’s a pattern a lot of us can recognize!
   By the way, acting something like this out does not mean anything about either of your orientations toward family members. It’s just an intimate and warm act.
3. If you have a partner you can share it with and she is able to help you fulfill those needs, that sounds like a win/win… you don’t have to overthink it.
4. Embrace it!!! Sounds like your girlfriend responded well, and ya never know, this could be the start of a whole new branch of intimacy between you two. Personally, I am dying to be the gf in this scenario.
5. If you’re both into it, which it’s sounds like you are, then lean into it. Explore it. Enjoy it. Don’t let yourself shame yourself.

I’m so tired of living paycheck to paycheck

For context I’m a 21 F living on my own where everything is crazy expensive. I had to give up a lot of things including school when my father abruptly sold our home, moved away over a year ago.

I have worked since 15 and always considered myself very independent. I currently work one full time job and one part time, I work 6 days a week usually 7 shifts.

I never have time for anything, nor money to even go out to dinner. I have had $0 in savings since the move and honestly feel like I’m drowning.

Most of my friends still live at home or with a partner splitting the bills, so no one really gets how hard this is on me. My friends always invite me out but I seriously can’t even afford to go out even though I’m 21.

You would think working six days a week I would have something to show for it or money to put in my savings or go on little trips but I am barely paying my bills.

I’ve maxed out my credit card and really don’t know what to do. My main job pays decently well and has full benefits so I really don’t want to let it go and it’s also in the field I love.

I constantly feel exhausted and I don’t have a support system to fall back on in case things go wrong. I had so many goals when I was younger and now my biggest stress is simply keeping a roof over my head. I am tired of this. Working to live or living to work?

Netizens’ comments

1. Moving is expensive and the fact you have no savings would make it impossible. How much credit card debt have you accumulated?
2. It’s a math problem to solve at the core. How do you spend less, make more, and develop disposable income? The emotional impact is very understandable but you’re gonna have to change something to change your results.
3. I feel you, it’s getting more and more impossible to have enough for anything now. It’s more of a struggle to survive
4. Times are tough. I’m a preschool teacher with a toddler. Not only 0$ in savings but sometimes negative as well.

Confused

Hi guys, need some advice here. So I consider myself as straight. However I always had a hard time with girls and it seems to be difficult to find a gf, often being friendzone.

I have this gay friend whom I confided in and he has always offered ‘to satisfy me’, although I’ve rejected numerous times as I don’t like the idea.

However, recently after being turned down by a crush I was feeling down and when my gay friend offered a bj, I accepted it to feel better.

However, I declined to touch him back as ‘I was not comfortable with touching another guy’. Now I’m confused because I have the urge to let him satisfy my needs but I still did not feel comfortable with touching him back or have any sexual desires about guys.

Am I considered bi or confused?

Netizens’ comments

1. Even I am confused reading this. Means you are confused, too.
2. Why you take advantage of your gay friend
3. Ya. Must understand the reasons why you kena friend zone by girls. Most likely you bo money
4. Just a temporary setback in life “confused”. Stop it and stop staying in touch. Move on with life – just be sociable, there are many gals out there.
5. Maybe just desperate and he happened to meet your needs. I pity that friend of yours for being used like this, but hey.. his choice.. I just feel pity for both of you.
6. You are considered “want to eat people, but don’t want to let people eat” type. Maybe thats why you don’t get any girls. Touch the guy back la. Don’t selfish.
7. gays or not they are also just human beings. they can win your heart by pleasing your needs and they can also dump u after pleasing your needs. Think about it.
8. If I were you, I think I would rather go Geylang to visit some prostitute. If she got pregnant then you marry her loh.

Partner snoring has destroyed my mental health

We have only been together 4 years. He refuses for us to sleep separately. He’s been for a sleep study he doesn’t have sleep apnea. He’s not over weight. He’s tried steroids, medication and nasal sprays nothing works.

He doesn’t let me touch him or move him when he sleeps and if I do he screams at me.

I haven’t slept properly in 4 years. Recently he went on holiday for 5 days and they were the most mentally sane I’ve felt in 4 years. It was the best 5 days of my whole life, I actually woke up happy.

I can’t believe I will spend the rest of my life in misery and exhaustion. I know it’s easy for people to give me different sleeping options, but people don’t understand how or why they’re not available to me.

Please believe me if I could sleep elsewhere then I would.

I’ve had anxiety and mental health issues for 7 years but it’s gotten a lot worse without sleep. I’m also constantly nauseous at work because my eyes are fighting to stay awake.

I’m so sad. I’m so sad that it doesn’t matter to him too. I’m so sad that’s it’s okay for him to wake me up every single hour of the night, but if I nudged him whilst going to the toilet I would be screamed at. I’m so sad that only his sleep matters.

Netizens’ comments

1. A decent amount of sleep is vital to our wellbeing, and sleep deprivation is a known torture method.
   You DON’T need to spend the rest of your life in misery and exhaustion. What you DO need to do is leave this man if he thinks you getting sufficient sleep isn’t important.
2. …I mean, you don’t HAVE to spend the rest of your life in misery and exhaustion. I certainly wouldn’t want to spend my entire life with a partner who screams at me and refuses to “let” me sleep in another room (why tf do you need his permission? what is he going to do to you if you just get out of bed and sleep on the couch? scream some more?)
3. Sorry you’re sacrificing your mental/physical health to this issue. Have you considered wearing noise cancelling earmuffs/headbands suitable for sleep?
4. The snoring isn’t the problem, it’s the person behind the snoring.