I think that my (29m) girlfriend (30f) is expecting for me to propose on our anniversary. How do I tactfully discourage those expectations?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and our anniversary is coming up. Over the last week or two, she’s been doing things like sending me marriage advice-themed social media posts, or teasing/joking about marriage, and a few other similar remarks, and it’s making me think that she might be expecting me to propose on our upcoming anniversary.
For the record, we have had conversations about our future and marriage, and I am planning a proposal later this year, but I’m not quite in a position to be able to do so just yet.
Is there a way I can tactfully let her know not to expect a proposal on the anniversary, so that she’s not quite as disappointed if it doesn’t happen when she expects?
Netizens’ comments
Honesty is the best policy here. Tell her you’re planning on it but you still have stuff to take care of and it’s not going to be happening until later in the year. Boom, you’re both happy.
Bro, this literally just happened to me. I was planning on proposing, and we had V-day coming up. I didn’t have the ring yet, I wasn’t ready to buy it, but my gf kept bringing up “when we get engaged” comments, and I felt a little pressure. So one day we were on a walk and talking and I said “hey, I want you to know that I love you and we’ve talked a lot about getting married and I want that soon. But, I am not prepared to propose to you on Valentines Day.” She laughed and said “oh baby that’s fine, I know you will do it when you’re ready.” And that was it. She asked if I felt a little pressure to do it then, and I told her yes, and she apologized for bringing it up so often, and I said that I love talking about our future together and we should keep talking about it.
Just tell her you’re planning the proposal but it’s not on the anniversary.
If youre already thinking and planning to propose later in the year, make sure to say that. She’s obviously a woman excited to be proposed to and married- this will prevent a ton of hurt and sadness.
My girlfriend gets turned on when I smell disgusting?
So a month ago I was late for work so I had to leave without showering,putting on deodorant or cologne, I work a pretty physically demanding job so when I go off work I REEKED, I had to drive home with the windows down just to not make myself nauseus on the way home.
When I got home I walked past her on the way to our room and she sniffed the air and I apologized explaining why I stunk but when I did she buying her face in my armpit and breathed deep before saying “you smell delicious..”
So instead of a shower we had rough passionate intercourse, her smelling the air like a bloodhound the entire time, afterwords when we were cuddling she still didn’t stop sticking her face in my chest and arms and inhaling me like Kirby, she was even hesitant to let me take a shower, now someday she requests I don’t put on any product. She says she loves it and calls it “boysmell” even if I think I smell like the devil’s trashcan
Anyone else had this happen? Why is this?
Netizens’ comments
It’s totally normal. Lots of people are turned on by the natural smells of their partner’s body.
That’s a good sign! She likes your chemicals. I LOOOOOVE my husbands natural scent. ESPECIALLY when he is slightly “lived in”. OMG, so good. It’s pretty primal. Happily he prefers me slightly live in as well, so it works out. It can get a bit goaty around here on the weekends let me tell you.
Some people really really really like body odor and natural musky scents. Napoleon on return from a campaign wrote to his wife “Please don’t wash, I will be home in three days” So even a few centuries back, people were getting off on a strong musk.
I have an fwb of 6 years. His natural scent is the reason I can’t quit him – even if we are only down to getting together three times a year or so. This man’s scent literally makes me crazy like no other person I have ever met. He always apologizes for sweating and makes sure to shower but the best memories are of him coming by in dingy work clothes and after a 12 hour shift. Decadent.
It turns out that you’re not actually disgusting and the way you smell is how you’re supposed to smell. The deodorant commercials have been lying to you and everyone this whole time.
Hi all, need some advise from you guys for my situation. I have a narcissistic mum who likes control of me and to do things according to her wishes.
For context, im a 30plus year old adult who is staying with her (70 years old) only and providing for her such as paying the housing loans , bills and her meals .
She would go to the extent of not letting me do laundry claiming that I would mess up the clothes and stupid stuff like going through every single thing i throw.
I also have to eat whatever she wants me to. Recently, she wanted to force me to drink chicken essence before going to work which i hate.
I was rushing for work and I told her no. Subsequently, when I came home she told me that she would not have her meals as I did not follow what she wants me to do.
This is the third day for her hunger strike. She does this frequently when things dosent go her way. I gave in to her frequently but not this time as I am so sick and tired of her.
I am not sure if she did eat anything when I am not around her though. But I saw her once while on hunger strike snacking on peanuts after I have head off to bed.
Does anyone have any experience on this kind of situation or know is there any authority which i can get assistance from? I am emotionally drained because of her.
Netizens’ comments
by giving in to her u are giving her attention just ignore her and she will automatically start eating by herself also try to move out if possible as this is not good for your mental health, also since she is already 70 she should be able to stay at a care centre if she isn’t able to take care of herself
If you’re going to work I seriously doubt she’s doing a hunger strike. What’s the point of a strike if you’re not there to watch? You have to stand your ground or she’ll know threats like this get you moving her way. Same goes for kids. Some old people are just big toddlers. My mil is the same way like to “force ” people to eat things. Just leave it and go. She’ll have no choice to keep it or eat it herself.
A 41-year-old man in Malaysia, Syed Fakrulrazi Syed Abdul Rahman, has been accused of assaulting his wife after she declined to have intercourse with him at their residence in Taman Tanjung Minyak Perdana, Melaka.
As reported by Berita Harian, the incident occurred on 12 February when the man allegedly slammed his head against his 33-year-old wife’s nose and made threats against her life.
These charges were officially presented to the accused on 6 June at the Ayer Keroh Sessions Court, overseen by Judge Darmafikri Abu Adam.
If proven guilty of causing grievous hurt under Section 325 of the Penal Code, in conjunction with Section 326A, the defendant, who is a father of four, could face a maximum sentence of 14 years’ imprisonment, along with a fine.
Additionally, he has been charged under Section 506 of the Penal Code for criminal intimidation, which carries a possible penalty of up to two years’ imprisonment, a fine, or both.
During the court proceedings, the accused pleaded not guilty to both charges.
According to Utusan Malaysia, Syed Fakrulrazi’s lawyer requested a lenient sentence, citing his recent employment as of 1 June with a monthly salary of RM2,000, as well as his wife’s intention to file for divorce.
The court granted the accused bail in the amount of RM10,000, with one surety, and scheduled the next court hearing for 10 July.
Until the resolution of the case, the accused’s passport will be confiscated, and he will be prohibited from contacting his wife.
In light of the charges against Syed Fakrulrazi Syed Abdul Rahman, the local community has expressed concerns about domestic violence and the importance of promoting healthy relationships.
Non-governmental organizations and advocacy groups are urging the public to raise awareness about consent and respect within marital relationships.
They emphasize the need for support systems, counseling services, and legal interventions to protect victims of domestic violence.
It is hoped that this case will serve as a reminder to address the issue of domestic violence and work towards a society that values and upholds the rights and safety of all individuals.
43 PERSONS INVESTIGATED IN MULTI-AGENCY ENFORCEMENT OPERATION A total of 31 men and 12 women, aged between 33 and 75, are being investigated for various offences following a multi-agency enforcement operation conducted from 21 May 2023 to 26 May 2023.
The operation was led by Bedok Police Division and supported by officers from the Criminal Investigation Department, Central Narcotics Bureau (CNB), Health Sciences Authority (HSA), Immigration & Checkpoints Authority (ICA), Singapore Customs, Ministry of Manpower (MOM), Land Transport Authority (LTA) and Singapore Food Agency (SFA). The operation aimed to clamp down on illegal activities in Geylang, including illegal gambling, vice activities, sale of illegal enhancement medication and illegal street hawking, among others.
The details of some of these operations are as follows:
Illegal gambling
In a joint enforcement operation against internet casino operations involving officers from Bedok Police Division, Criminal Investigation Department, ICA and MOM, an industrial unit at 8 Ubi Road 2 and a unit along Macpherson Road were raided. Fifteen men and three women, aged between 39 and 75, are being investigated for offences under the Gambling Control Act 2022. More than $3,400 in cash, computer terminals and other gambling paraphernalia were seized. Under Section 20(2) of the Gambling Control Act 2022, an individual who gambles with another person in or from any place or premises in Singapore and knows, or ought reasonably to have known, that the place or premises is an unlawful gambling place shall be guilty of an offence and be liable on conviction to a fine of up to $10,000 or imprisonment of up to six months, or both. Under Section 18(3)(a) of the Gambling Control Act 2022, an individual who conducts betting operations, gaming, or lotteries unlawfully, shall be guilty of an offence and be liable on conviction to a fine of up to $200,000 and imprisonment of up to five years.
Pills peddlers
In a series of joint enforcement operations in the vicinity of the Geylang Lorongs involving officers from HSA, ICA and CNB, unregistered health products consisting of cough syrup and various enhancement products with an estimated value of around $37,440 were seized. Two men, aged 32 and 51, are being investigated under the Health Products Act 2007. Those found guilty of importing, manufacturing and/or supplying of unregistered health products, may be liable to an imprisonment term for up to two years and/or fined up to $50,000.
Massage establishments
Officers from Bedok Police Division conducted an enforcement operation against two massage establishments located along Geylang Road. Two men, aged 36 and 60, are being investigated for purportedly operating without a valid licence under the Massage Establishments Act 2017. Three women, aged between 42 and 48, were arrested for offences under the Women’s Charter 1961.
Officers from the Criminal Investigation Department conducted an anti-vice enforcement operation in the vicinity of the Geylang Lorongs. Six women, aged between 33 and 47, were arrested for offences under the Women’s Charter 1961.
Secret societies
Officers from the Criminal Investigation Department and Bedok Division conducted checks at public entertainment outlets along Geylang Road and Geylang Lorongs. A 26-year-old man was arrested under the Societies Act 1966.
Duty unpaid cigarettes
Singapore Customs officers conducted enforcement against duty-unpaid cigarettes. A 64-year-old man, was arrested under the Customs Act 1960 for dealing with duty-unpaid cigarettes, and another 66-year-old man was issued with composition sum under the Customs Act 1960 for possessing duty-unpaid cigarettes. Nine cartons, 51 packets and 12 sticks of duty-unpaid cigarettes were seized as part of the operation. Buying, selling, conveying, delivering, storing, keeping, possessing, or dealing with duty-unpaid goods are serious offences under the Customs Act 1960 and the Goods and Services Tax (GST) Act 1993. Offenders can be fined up to 40 times the amount of duty and GST evaded and/or jailed for up to six years.
Illegal street hawking
Officers from SFA conducted enforcement against illegal street hawking in the vicinity of the Geylang Lorongs. A 60-year-old man, was investigated under Section 33(a) of the Environmental Public Health Act. Raw satay meat and a few packets of sauce were seized during the operation.
PMDs/PABs
Officers from LTA conducted an enforcement operation along the vicinity of Geylang Road, targeting illegal modifications for Personal Mobility Devices (PMD) and Power Assisted Bicycles (PAB). Six men, aged between 20 and 30, are investigated for various offences under the Road Traffic Act 1961 and Active Mobility Act 2017. One PMD and three PABs were impounded during the operation.
Employment offences
Officers from MOM also led an enforcement operation in the vicinity of Geylang Serai Market. Two men, aged 36 and 40, are assisting with investigations for offences under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990. Investigations against the 43 individuals are ongoing.
The Commanding Officer of Geylang Neighbourhood Police Centre, Superintendent of Police Muhammad Firdaus Bin Abdul Raub expressed his appreciation to all the agencies involved for their strong support and commended the officers for their professionalism and excellent teamwork during the operation. The Police will continue to work closely with other enforcement agencies to clamp down on illegal activities.
The Police take a zero-tolerance approach towards illegal activities and will take firm action against those who blatantly disregard the law. Members of the public are advised to report those engaging in unlawful activities to the Police.
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PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE 07 June 2023 @ 1:10 PM
In a harrowing incident that unfolded in Malaysia, a 12-year-old boy’s playful adventure turned into a terrifying ordeal when he slipped while attempting to climb the metal fence surrounding his house. As a result of his misstep, a sharp spike impaled his buttocks, causing immense pain and danger.
According to reports from Free Malaysia Today, the boy remained stuck on the fence for approximately 20 minutes while being impaled, with the spike embedded inside him until firefighters arrived to rescue him.
Thankfully, the arrival of the Selangor Fire and Rescue Department brought a glimmer of hope to the distressing scene. A team of skilled firefighters, equipped with the necessary tools and expertise, swiftly responded to the emergency call and raced to the boy’s aid. The sight that met their eyes was one of anguish and desperation, as the young boy clung to the fence with the spike deeply embedded in his flesh.
The firefighters sprang into action, assessing the situation and formulating a plan to extricate the boy safely. They carefully sawed off the spike from the fence, all while ensuring the least amount of additional harm to the young boy.
A representative from the Selangor Fire and Rescue Department informed the media that the firefighters then transported the boy to the hospital, still with the spike attached to his buttocks. The spokesperson emphasized that the spike had penetrated his flesh to a depth of approximately 15 centimeters.
The rescue operation involved a team of ten firefighters.
As news of the incident spread, concern rippled through the local community. Questions arose about the circumstances leading up to the incident and the potential preventive measures that could have been taken. It was revealed that the boy’s mother was absent from home at the time, leaving him unsupervised.
Further investigation into the incident unveiled that the young boy had been seen frequently playing on the fence by concerned neighbors.
As the young boy continues his recovery in the hospital, the community has rallied around him and his family, offering support, prayers, and well wishes for his speedy healing. The incident has ignited discussions about child safety, prompting local authorities to emphasize the importance of educating both children and parents about potential hazards and implementing preventive measures to mitigate risks.
A 22-year-old man who allegedly armed himself with a knife and robbed a 14-year-old boy along Bukit Batok, was arrested in one hour after a police report was lodged.
Mohammad Nor Khaliq Abdullah, a 22-year-old, has been officially charged with one count of armed robbery on Thursday (8 June).
The incident took place on Tuesday around 3 pm at Block 636 in Bukit Batok Central. Allegedly, Nor armed himself with a karambit knife, a weapon featuring a curved blade resembling a claw, and proceeded to rob the teenager of several items, including a wallet, a mobile phone, and a pair of Apple Airpods.
According to a statement by the police, they were notified about the incident at approximately 6 pm on the same day.
Fortunately, no injuries were reported during the incident. The police swiftly acted on the information, conducting on-site investigations and utilizing footage from police cameras to ascertain the suspect’s identity.
Within an hour of the reported crime, officers from Jurong Police Division successfully apprehended the suspect, recovering the victim’s wallet and handphone in the process.
A police spokesperson stated, “The police are fully committed to apprehending individuals who engage in violent crimes.
In the event of a robbery, we urge members of the public to remain calm, take note of the perpetrator’s physical appearance and unique features, and promptly contact the police.”
Nor’s case has been adjourned until June 15.
If convicted of armed robbery, the offender may face imprisonment for a term ranging from two to ten years, in addition to receiving a minimum of 12 strokes of the cane.
Other cases of armed robbery
Last month, a former Aetos auxiliary police officer, Mahadi Muhamad Mukhtar, who was previously sentenced to 16.5 years imprisonment and 18 strokes of the cane for robbing a licensed money lender in Jurong with a loaded gun, had his prison sentence reduced to 14 years on 8 April following an appeal.
In the upcoming presidential election, Senior Minister Tharman Shanmugaratnam has announced his candidacy for the presidency, marking his departure from politics after a lengthy 22-year tenure.
Informed PM Lee of his decision
In a letter addressed to Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong on Thursday, Mr. Tharman conveyed his decision to participate in the forthcoming presidential election, along with his intention to retire from politics and relinquish all government positions. Prime Minister Lee, who also serves as the secretary-general of the People’s Action Party, received the letter.
Mr. Tharman outlined his plan to resign from the People’s Action Party and step down from his roles as Senior Minister and Coordinating Minister for Social Policies on July 7, which is approximately one month from the date of his letter. He expressed the need to fulfill his immediate commitments within Singapore and on the international stage while ensuring proper arrangements are in place to serve his constituents in Jurong GRC for the remainder of the electoral term.
PM Lee thanks Tharman for his service
Responding to the letter, Prime Minister Lee accepted Mr. Tharman’s resignation and expressed gratitude for his distinguished service to Singapore.
This announcement follows the decision of the incumbent President Halimah Yacob, who declared on May 29 that she would not seek a second term. As Madam Halimah’s six-year term concludes on September 13, the election must be scheduled before then.
At the age of 66, Mr. Tharman is the first potential candidate to publicly express interest in the presidency. His eligibility is supported by his fulfillment of the public service requirement, as dictated by the law, due to his ministerial positions.
According to the Constitution’s public sector service requirements, presidential candidates must have held office in various capacities, such as minister, chief justice, Speaker, attorney-general, Public Service Commission chairman, auditor-general, accountant-general, or permanent secretary, for a minimum of three years.
Political career
Mr. Tharman was initially elected into Parliament in November 2001 as a representative of Jurong GRC and has since been re-elected four times.
Currently serving as Senior Minister since 2019, Coordinating Minister for Social Policies since 2015, and chairman of the Monetary Authority of Singapore (MAS) since 2011, Mr. Tharman also assumes the role of deputy chairman of the Government of Singapore Investment Corporation (GIC) since 2019 and chairs its Investment Strategies Committee.
His past portfolios include Deputy Prime Minister, Finance Minister, and Education Minister. Prior to his political career, he spent a significant portion of his professional life at the MAS.
On an international level, Mr. Tharman has served as chairman of the Group of Thirty, an independent global council comprised of influential economic and financial policymakers, since January 2017. Additionally, since April 2017, he has chaired the G20 Eminent Persons Group on Global Financial Governance, overseeing the review of multilateral financial institutions.
21-year-old Muhammad Ayyub Mohd Rafie is being accused of utilizing counterfeit medical certificates (MCs) on multiple occasions to avoid work at the Jurong Police Division Headquarters, where he was previously serving as a full-time national serviceman (NSF) for the police.
He had allegedly committed these offences between November 2021 and March 2022.
The Singapore Police Force confirmed that Ayyub, aged 21, had formerly served as a special constable and had completed his national service on October 6, 2022.
Chao keng
Ayyub appeared in court on Wednesday (7 June) and was charged with five counts of forgery and one count of cheating through impersonation.
In November 2021, while stationed at the Jurong Police Division Headquarters, Ayyub purportedly presented a forged MC from NuHealth Medical Centre, claiming he was unfit for work from November 10 to November 11.
He is also accused of committing similar offences four more times between December 2021 and March 2022.
Used someone’s identity to apply for Foodpanda rider account
Additionally, he allegedly deceived Foodpanda Singapore in August 2021 by assuming another person’s identity when applying for a rider account with the food delivery company. Subsequently, Foodpanda Singapore reportedly approved his application.
Ayyub is expected to enter a guilty plea for his offenses on July 19.
Singapore Police Force’s statement
In an official statement, the police emphasized that officers of the Singapore Police Force (SPF), including national service officers, are expected to abide by the law and uphold the highest standards of conduct and integrity. They stated that severe action will be taken against officers who violate the law, including bringing charges against them in court.
The SPF promptly initiated investigations against Ayyub following the incident, and no further comments can be made due to the ongoing court proceedings.
Forgery carries a potential sentence of up to four years’ imprisonment and a fine for each count, while cheating through impersonation can result in a maximum penalty of five years’ imprisonment and a fine.
A driver who was driving towards Ang Mo Kio via Bartley Road East, drove over a loose drain cover on the right side of the road, resulting in significant damage to his vehicle.
The car sustained deep scratches that looked like it was scratched by “Godzilla”, according to the driver, Mr Kevin Ng.
In light of the substantial repair costs, he is now seeking compensation from the Land Transport Authority (LTA) for the damage caused by road debris.
31-year-old Ng shared that he was travelling with his wife on the morning of May 22nd. They were on their usual route along Bartley Road East towards Braddell when the incident occurred. Due to the rain, visibility was limited, and he unexpectedly went over a misplaced drain cover.
He recounted, “It was raining that day, and my visibility was poor. Suddenly, I heard a loud impact and felt as if I had driven over a speed bump at high speed.”
It was only upon reaching their destination that Mr Ng noticed two large gashes on his car doors. He likened the damage to scratches caused by the fictional creature Godzilla.
Fortunately, no accident occurred as a result of the incident, and Mr Ng expressed relief. However, he raised concerns about the potential dangers.
He questioned, “Had the drain cover become lodged between the wheels and caused my car to flip, resulting in a major accident, lives could have been lost. What if the debris had hit another vehicle carrying young children or passengers?”
Currently, Mr. Ng’s car is being repaired at an NTUC Income-authorized workshop. Technicians have identified additional damage, including a compromised undercarriage and coolant leakage, in addition to the gashes on the door panels.
Disheartened, Mr Ng shared, “They informed me that the gashes can be fixed, but the car won’t look the same as it did originally.”
As a salesperson, Mr Ng heavily relies on his vehicle for work purposes. Furthermore, without a car, he faces difficulties in transporting his family during weekends.
Believing that he was driving within the speed limit, he is adamant that the LTA should compensate him for the incurred damages. To present his case, he has written letters to both the authority and the Ministry of Transport.
In response to inquiries from MS News, the LTA has stated that it is currently investigating Mr Ng’s claims.
