A netizen shared how he was talking to a girl that he liked, then he hacked into her Facebook and found out that she was talking to another guy.

Here is the story:

“I have no intention to brag about myself, but the information I’m giving is gonna be relevant to the story I’m sharing. I’m from Vietnam. I studied and graduated from NTU a few years ago. I’m currently working in Singapore in a pretty hot domain with a respectable salary.

About 1.5 years ago, I got to know a girl in Vietnam through social networks. She is good-looking and smart. She is in her second year at the Vietnam national academy of music. She is from Hanoi (North of Vietnam), while my hometown is in Ho Chi Minh City (South of Vietnam).

We have been messaging each other a lot, almost every day. Most of the time, I’m the one who initiates. I shared almost everything about my daily life with her. She wouldn’t do the same if I don’t ask her to.

Due to the Covid 19 situation, I haven’t been able to fly back to Vietnam to see her. I’ve occasionally bought gifts and food for her and she liked those. She never accepted too valuable gifts, such as iPhone, though.

Earlier this year, I made an attempt to confess to her. She told me that she still got 2 more years to finish her degree, and it could lead to nothing because her family didn’t want her to get married to someone staying too far away.

I responded to her that I’m willing to relocate to her place. She still rejected me. I supposed that my attempt failed. I decided to give up and not disturb her anymore.

Sometime later, she initiates to message me again and I perceived positive changes in her feelings towards me. So I hacked her Facebook to know what was happening. I know that is bad, I apologize.

I discovered that she was having a relationship with a guy for almost 4 years now. He is a Ph.D. student in Japan and is doing a part-time job for his study.

His hometown is a small city in the South of Vietnam. I saw him commenting and giving heart reactions on my crush posts. From her Messenger, they were messaging and video chatting every day. She made birthday cakes for him.

They haven’t met but they had planned to see each other and to get married. I even found her sending to him sexy photos and, I can’t believe it, screenshots of my confession messages too.

I don’t know what to do. My heart crumbles. I know I’m silly, but I still hope for her change of mind. Appreciate help and advice from you guys.”

Editor’s note: Seems like you’re the appetizer bro, block her and move on.

My wife and I (30F and 34M) just had this argument and I want the internet’s opinion on if she’s setting her sights too high or not.

For the past few months, my wife has gotten really, really into Korean tv dramas. She started one show with a friend around Christmas but she kept going and I’d say she’s watched at least 6 or 7 decently long series since then and is showing no sign of slowing down.

I have to admit I was already annoyed with this before we had this argument – she didn’t used to be really into many shows and a lot of times she was happy to watch whatever and knit at the same time. She said she liked feeling like she was getting stuff done. But since she watches the Korean shows with English subtitles, she doesn’t do nearly as much knitting, so it feels like she’s abandoned a lot of her projects. For example, she usually knits my mom something for her birthday in March like a hat or a scarf, but she didn’t and I could see my mom was disappointed.

So because of this, when my wife told me yesterday that she wants to start learning Korean so that she can watch more shows and get more immersed in that culture and stuff, I got really irritated. I told her that Korean is an incredibly difficult language to learn and since she’s an adult, there’s no way she’ll ever become fluent. She’d just be wasting her time without a hope of actually getting proficient in a language that she would only use in watching tv. I told her it seemed like an unrealistic goal and a waste of time and money. She called me a jerk, told me to eff off, and didn’t give any sort of counter argument. Looking back, I think I spoke sharply but I think deep down she must also realize that it’s a stupid idea but she doesn’t want to admit it.

I should also say that my wife only speaks English, so she doesn’t even have any kind of foundation for learning a foreign language, much less one as notoriously difficult as Korean.

Also, tv watching is not a hobby, it’s a passive activity. Some of y’all seriously need a life if you consider tv watching a hobby.

Me (43F) and my husband (47M) have been married for 8 months now–his previous wife died less than a year ago, and our marriage was quick, but I fell head over heels for him and I couldn’t be happier.

He has two children from his previous marriage, (17M) and (22F), and both of them seemed polite and respectful when I met them as a family friend.

His previous wife, who died less than a year ago from an accident at work, was a great woman and mother. When I married into the family I wanted to try my best to fill the role of a mother figure in her place.

My eldest step-daughter, who we’ll call SD, was very approving of my marriage with her father and has accepted me into the family with welcoming arms. However, my step-son, who we’ll call SS, has been less than courteous.

Prior to my marriage both him and his sister were pleasant and polite. I even enjoyed discussing our shared hobbies, such as cooking, with them. But ever since my engagement with his father, his attitude changed drastically.

I originally assumed this was because he was having trouble adjusting to his biological mother’s death and I was willing to give him the time he needed to grieve. But since then, his behavior has only worsened.

At the start, he was mostly cold and distant–like he would ignore me when I greeted him etc–but overtime he has become snappy and disrespectful of my position in the family. My husband has been primarily laissez faire in the way he has raised him–allowing him to make decisions of where he is and what he is doing under the condition that he is honest with his whereabouts.

SS has always been understanding of the leeway his father has given him, but recently he has taken advantage of that trust. He goes out late at night with his friends, to the point where a few weeks ago he booked a trip overseas for the weekend without telling us beforehand.

My husband and I decided to give him a talk, where admittedly I did most of the talking. I tried my best to be understanding but also firm about the fact that he’d crossed a line.

When I told him that he couldn’t just do what he liked without letting his parents know first, he yelled at me and said, “I don’t know who you think you are, but just because you were itching for the chance to take over this family doesn’t give you the right to pretend to be my mother,” and started to sob.

I justifiably got very angry with him and responded by saying that his inability to move on a year after his mother’s death shouldn’t get in the way of my marriage. He told me to —- off and to get out of his life before storming out of the house.

Since then, SS refused to talk to me. My husband was devastated about our fight and told me that I was responsible and needed to apologize. But SD, on the other hand, thinks he needed a reality check and that I made the right decision in confronting him.

Netizen’s comments

• The fact that you expect after ONE YEAR for a son to move on from his mothers death is beyond me. 
• You married into this family no more than 4 months after his mother died and think you have any business trying to be a “mother figure” to a nearly adult child who has made it clear he doesn’t want one? No. You marrying his father does not give you a parental relationship to this kid in anyways that matters.
• You do not get to choose if you are a mother figure to him. You arent his parent. You arent his mother. As far as he’s concerned your probably little more than his fathers coping mechanism who doesn’t know her place.
• You married a man four months-FOUR MONTHS-after his wife died, and eight months later expect his kids to respect you as a parent??

Ruining my dads last marriage was the best feeling, I’ve ever had.
Back when I was pretty young, my dad decided to marry a woman, who came from another country.

The wife had quite the different approach to raising children, since she was of another culture. My younger siblings and I was often scolded for being “raised wrong” and being “too demanding” towards our dad.

Also the fact we didn’t call her “mom” and didn’t want her physical affection was another huge issue, even while we mainly lived with our biological mother and only visited them, when my dad was home. (He worked offshore and always had between 2-3 weeks at work.)

She could explode into hysteria and scream at my siblings and I for the smallest things, as the years passed she turned more and more horrible towards us.

Claiming we were devil’s spawn and having one of my sisters “exiled” from family activities such as eating in the same room as the rest of the family. My dad felt more and more absent throughout the years too.

One evening went real wild and his wife had run screaming towards their bedroom, due to me becoming a real teenager (I was 16) and starting to being able to have real arguments with her, in English.

We sat and had dinner, my dad was working at the computer, when she rushed down and looked at me, furious.

Something seemed really weird, she had been acting a lot more depressed at the time.

She spat out “Once your dad and I get a child, I will raise that child RIGHT and we will learn that child to act properly!”

Me unknowingly of what was gonna happen just told her straight out about how that wasn’t possible since my dad had had the string cut for 12 years at that time.

My dads wife got all pale and just turned around, took the car and left.

Apparently my dad had promised her children for the past 5 years and her doctor had told her to lose weight since that could be a reason it hadn’t happened yet.

A few weeks later she moved out and they were divorced shortly after. I have never felt more free than right after that, even knowing today, he might have ruined this horrendous woman’s life.

A girl shared how she got scolded by her boyfriend while having “special time” with him over his positioning and her feeling pain, they even stopped midway just to argue.

Here is the story:

“Are there fellow females out there who was scolded by their boyfriends during intercourse?

Me and my bf were getting it on but he was hurting me (i thought it was due to the angle he was hitting it at) so I kept telling him to centralise his body, he shifted a few times but I was still feeling pain whenever he thrust so I kept telling him to move to the centre.

he then got angry at me and shouted “it’s already in the fucking centre la”.

there were also other times when we would argue mid-intercourse due to our rs problems (he would start shouting at me and we would stop intercourse halfway cos our mood was spoilt).

Traumatized

I feel like he has traumatized me and my perception of intercourse bc of the bad experiences I had w him, and I don’t know how I’m going to ever heal from this.

I can’t be the only one who was scolded and shouted at during intercourse right? (it wasn’t in a kinky way btw, but he was legit mad at me)”

Editor’s note: Just scold him back and stand up for yourself.

A netizen shared how she recently got a new job and was sent for a CPR/AED course, and the male instructor lifted up her shirt and bra during the demonstration.

Here is the story:

“I recently got a job as an events organizer and the company sent me for a half-day CPR+AED course with 3 other newbies.

Near the end, the male instructor wanted to demonstrate how males can perform CPR and AED on females. I was 1 of only 3 girls present out of the 15 people in the class so he selected me.

The CPR part was ok, he was v professional in showing how to do it while having minimal contact with my chest.

But when it came to the AED, he stressed that it was very important to remove all clothing before applying the pads.

Then to my horror, he pulled up my shirt and bra, completely revealing my chest to the class. I was frozen in shock as he showed them where the pads should be placed and invited them to look closer, which many of the male students did.

I glanced at the other 2 girls and they looked equally horrified. He droned on about how “modesty is worthless if the person is dead”, “saving her life is the priority”, etc.

While I agree with his statements and concede that he did not touch me inappropriately, I still felt humiliated and wished he hadn’t done it.

My embarrassment intensified when I overheard my 3 male colleagues discussing me in lewd terms after the class.

So my question is, is this worth quitting over? It took me 6 months of applications and interviews to land a job so I really don’t want to, but I just feel miserable thinking about having to work with three creeps who have a twisted perception of me.”

My cousin saw what he believes to be a headless spirit.

I should probably start by saying, my cousin told me about this story right after seeing the spirit.

Some background information: My cousins live in a severely haunted home, that they believe is haunted by many spirits.

The actual story: It was around midnight, and something had woke up my cousin, he doesn’t remember what but he said he saw something in the corner of his eye.

He tries to get back to sleep no less than 5 minutes later, but is distracted again by what he seen however this time it’s closer to him.

He starts to question what it could possibly be and after falling asleep again he is woken up for a 2nd time, at this point it was around 12:30am, and my cousin is woken up again, he lays there for a moment, and he looks to his right and there is was.

A headless female looking spirit right next to him.

It takes my cousin a second to react as he fully didn’t come to his senses and then it hit him. He jumps out of bed and goes to his parents and explains what he had just seen.

His parents go and check and find nothing.

From this point onwards, his parents believed he was imagining things, but to this day my cousin believes that what he saw on that night was 100% real.

In a relationship, I need S to feel loved and wanted by my partner. I don’t know why, it’s just how it is. Outside of a relationship, it doesn’t matter. I might want a hook up once in a while, but I don’t need it as I do in a relationship.

Our S life has been lacking from the start. He doesn’t see S as important, because we have all the non-S affection. Cuddling and kissing aren’t enough for me. Telling me he loves me isn’t enough for me. But he doesn’t get it, and I’m tired of trying to explain my needs as if me not having a good enough reason to want S means the need isn’t real.

So why is S important to you?

Here are what netizens think;

• Him not seeing S as necessary is just as valid as you see it as important. You can’t force him into having more sex with you for validation, which is essentially what you want. No amount of “explaining your needs” is going to change that he doesn’t want to do it as much as you. You’re probably incompatible. And that’s that.

• Incompatibility ends a lot of relationships. You will both be happier with someone with similar drives. That’s my advice.

• Break up and move on. You’re incompatible.

My boyfriend got a “happy ending massage” and god knows what else.

We’ve been together since our schooling days and we’re both 21 now. Last night I went through his phone because ever since I got an abortion everything in our relationship has been off.

I couldn’t get intimate with him for a couple months due to complications and that’s when I noticed a change in his behavior and that it was affecting him.

At this time I found out that he tried to kiss another girl at a party. I should’ve left then but I was very vulnerable at the time and just blamed myself instead.

I went through his photos and that’s when I saw two pictures that look like they were taken in a girls room and I decided to see when and where it was taken.

I googled the address and then proceeded to go through his text messages and that’s when a bank statement caught my eye with a weird name and it was for the same night around the same time.

I googled part of the name and it instantly popped up… The same night he asked for cuddles and was still texting me but in intervals…

I still haven’t confronted him. I feel so embarrassed and disgusted.