In a Facebook post, a user sought advice and assistance regarding their domestic helper’s behavior, revealing that the helper had been consistently leaving the residence from midnight to 2 am and returning between 4 am to 5 am. The user suspects that the helper may be staying overnight at a hotel with her boyfriend.

Expressing their disappointment, the user mentioned that they have a fondness for the helper and had previously trusted her wholeheartedly.

In an attempt to address the issue discreetly, the user refrained from confronting the helper immediately, instead opting to drop subtle hints to make her aware that her activities were known.

However, the post indicates that these hints have been ignored, leading the user to consider sending the helper back home.

The user also shared that they spoke to the helper’s previous employer, discovering that a similar issue led to her departure, although the previous employer chose not to report the matter to avoid complications.

Here is what they said

Hihi could I get some help if anybody know?

We have just found out that our helper has been going out every night, about from 12am to 2am and will come back at about 4am to 5am.

She has a boyfriend and we suspect she always overnight at a hotel with her boyfriend.

We actually like her very much and we trusted her with all our heart. It is so upsetting to see her doing this.
We have yet to talk to her, because we wanted to give her a chance to stop on her own.

We left subtle hints to try to get her to realise that we already know, but it seems she really thinks we are stupid – she is still doing it. I am determined to send her home.

We spoke to her previous employer and realise this is the same reason why they send her home. Unfortunately, they did not report her as they didnt want any hassle.

May I know if her doing breaks MOM rules and where can I read up officially about this rule? We would like to report to MOM as well and get her barred.

A man recently took money from his wife’s account and lend it to her sister. The man feels guilty for doing so without telling his wife. But his sister is the real demon behind it.

Here is the story:

My wife and I have joined finances but she has savings account her grandpa set up for her before he passed. It’s around 40k in savings. We both work IT jobs and get paid fairly well.

She stated to me that that money is for either an emergency or in case we plan on buying our own house. She said that in case I need money for an emergency I’m allowed to use it. I also have access to the account but so far I didn’t use anything.

2 months ago my sister asked me to lend her 5k because she wanted to pay for her wedding dress but her card had expired and kept declining. I lend her 5k but since I didn’t have the full amount of my own paycheck, I borrowed money from my wife’s savings. My sister said she’d pay me back once her new card was ready which would take less than two days. I didn’t tell my wife this because I’d replace the money in two days.

It’s been 2 months now and my sister is putting off on giving back the money she borrowed. She keeps finding excuses on why she couldn’t give it back every time. My wife hasn’t checked the savings account in ages but what if she happens to check it and she figures out 5k is missing?

My best friend says I am honest with her and I should accept the consequences of my own actions for not notifying my wife and not letting her know about the money missing. AITA?

I feel very guilty for this and for trusting my sister.

The many web sites advertising services shows photos of “model-like” females mainly from PRC. They are young looking, with curvaceous bodies, pretty and hot. BEWARE this is where the trap begins.

They are mostly housed right in the mist of our public housing and categorized as North, South, East, West and Central. It so convenient for the working men.

But the photos of these “model-like” females are taken maybe 5 to 10 years ago and worst of all some of these ladies are someone altogether from the
photos advertised.

As Singapore males are deem to be “soft”, “kind-hearted”, “afraid of trouble” and worst of all “plain stupid” , they are then trapped in a situation where after meeting the girl in person, they have no choice but to either go ahead and pay the “aunties” for services and or compensate these aunties’ time waiting for the appointment.

I was caught in a situation where the “aunty” was suppose to be a sweet looking 20 year old and when shown the photo on my handphone, the aunty insist that she was with make-up then and the photo was taken in a studio and photo shop!!!!!

Then she admitted that she cannot have her photo published as it will be shameful for her if her friends find out!!!! LOL!!!

I immediately told her I am sorry and wanted to leave but she stood at the bedroom door and demand that I compensate her $20.00 for her time waiting for me.

I was surprised as I was punctual for my appointment but she said that she has turn down “a few” customers because of me and refuse to let me leave the room.

What about my time taken and traveling and parking fees incurred??? Who compensate me??? I threatened to call the police and she told me to go ahead which I did.

These girls are just so brazen and are not afraid of our law. I was unable to provide the police with the apartment unit number and when ask to go out to see the unit number the aunty got so aggressive spouting all vulgarity at me.

I am not a woman beater and I told her so but I just refuse to give in to her coercement not that I mind spending $20.00 but it is just not right!!!!

After much shuffling and without laying a finger on her, I finally got out of that hell hole without paying her a single cent.

Check the arithmetic, if the aunty con say 20 Singapore males per day and demand compensation of $20.00 per male that will be translated into $400.00 per day which is approximately $12,000.00 per month. On a social visit visa that’s a gold mine.

In a heartfelt Facebook post, a Thai woman identified as A. shared her personal story, shedding light on the challenges and misconceptions surrounding her work in a Malaysian disco. A., who previously worked in a Singaporean club, explained that her decision to work in the entertainment industry was driven by the desire to financially support her family and son back in Thailand.

A. expressed her frustration with the negative stereotypes associated with working as a Thai girl in a disco. She emphasized that her work does not involve theft or robbery; rather, she engages in dancing, with men willingly contributing money for flowers and lap dances. A. firmly asserted that her body, even when dressed more provocatively, remains her own, and she sees nothing wrong with using it to provide for her family.

“No steal, no rob”

The Thai woman urged people not to look down on Thai girls working in such establishments and pleaded against the use of derogatory terms or accusations of breaking up families. A. acknowledged that she and her colleagues might share drinks and engage in social activities with men who have partners, but emphasized that they never force anyone into such situations. She stressed that their work does not make them bad individuals and pointed out that the responsibility lies with those in relationships to maintain their commitment.

A., who has a son waiting for her at home, expressed pride in her identity as a Thai girl and concluded her post by emphasizing the importance of understanding and respecting the choices individuals make to support their families, even if unconventional.

What she said

Hello my name is A. and I am a thai girl working in disco to earn money for my family and son back in Thailand. I last time work singapore club but because some things now I work in malaysia.

I want people to know that work as thai girl in disco is no a bad thing. I willing dance man willing give money for flower and LD, we no steal no rob. Is my body and even if I were less clothes is still my body. If I can use body to earn money for family and son, is no bad thing.

I want people to no look down on thai girls, no call us bad words, say we break up people family. Yes we all drink with your boyfriend and your husband, yes we some time go out with them hanky panky. but if they no willing we no force them. we no bad girl. if you no keep your man properly is no our fault so no say us bad. i got son at home need take care.

i am thai girl and i proud of it.

After 18 years of marriage, I just found out that my children aren’t mine.

My wife Kelly and I have known each other for over 20 years and have been married for 18 years. We have 17-year-old twins, a boy and a girl, and I found out that they aren’t mine 2 days ago. My kids were got those ancestry tests for the family and we found out that I am not their father.

Kelly and I met each other as coworkers at a job right out of school. We both were very ambitious, so after working for a couple of years, we decided to start our own business.

We fell in love, and a year after starting our business, we got married. A couple of months into marriage, we had a massive fight over the direction we wanted to take our business in, and I left our home. She came to me a couple of weeks later, and we compromised.

We’ve been inseparable ever since. Kelly got pregnant around that time. We’ve been through thick and thin; our business has been through several hardships but we weathered them together. We were always there for each other; we could always depend on each other. I loved her so much. She was a part of me and I couldn’t even imagine a life without her.

I trusted her absolutely until this happened. Kelly has been crying and apologizing constantly. She told me that during the time we had that fight at the start of our marriage, she got drunk one night and slept with a random guy, and that she has not cheated on me since.

The betrayal has left me disoriented. I told Kelly I needed time to process this and I’m currently staying at a hotel. I don’t know what I’m even doing anymore – the last two days have been a blur. I feel like a zombie, completely unable to feel or process anything. I don’t intend to abandon my kids – I might not be their father, but I’m still their dad and I love them dearly.

Right now, I’m sitting on my hotel bed and I have not eaten anything today. My thoughts are a mess, so I’m writing this down to help me process. Kelly has always been a great wife and an excellent business partner. I don’t know if I’ll be able to look at her the same again or if I’ll be the same person again. I don’t know how to move forward.

A Singaporean girl complained about the lack of manhood size for Chinese Singaporean men.

The girl, who is anonymous, spoke not so discreetly about her experience with a German exchange student, and said that she very much prefers Caucasian men now after that. She even goes on Tinder to seek out exclusively Caucasian men for her night time activities.

What she said

To all those girls out there who are unsatisfied with their partner’s size “down there”:

Based on my anecdotal evidence, I can confirm most Chinese Singaporean guys are damn small. I never realized how small until I had a ONS with this German exchange student right before exams.

It was the best f- I’ve ever had in my life and his tool was larger than I’d ever experienced. And I’ve had my fair share of experiences, trust me.

It was like putting on my glasses for the first time. I never really understood my vision was blurry until I saw clearly for the first time. It was the same in this instance. I never understood how lackluster my life was until I tried an angmor.

I thought maybe this was a coincidence. Maybe it’s just this one guy. Maybe he’s just a god in bed. But after he got on his plane I was left wanting more, so I turned to Tinder, hoping to fill the gaping void left behind in my most basal core.

My first match happened to be another angmor. I was keen to compare. This one also didn’t let me down. Smaller than the German student but much larger than any Chinese man I’d ever been with. I didn’t manage to get much sleep that night. Or ever since, really.

I used to think that whole thing was a horribly offensive myth, but I’ve been proven wrong.

PS why doesn’t Singapore have any black men?

A girl shared how she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years after she found out he was cheating, they even had plans to get married and even had a BTO and ring prepared.

Here is the story:

“My bf and I just broke up 2 months ago and I still can’t get over it. We have been together for 6 years and I am always the one talking about future planning. He would just keep quiet and follow the flow.

Our BTO is ready next year so the plan was to get married this or next year. He already bought a ring (under my pressure because I wanna get married and the house is ready next year) then I realized he giving me cold treatment and doesn’t talk to me. I feel something is amiss and I always ask him if something is going on and if he has anything to tell me. But he always no, he said he loves me. That’s all he said. I take his reply at face value so I thought nothing is wrong.

Found out he was cheating

Only after I found out he is texting and going out on dates with his colleagues. He is flirting with her and bringing her out to eat and play. To my horror because I trust him so much and never thought he is a cheater. After I found out, he texted me to break up and we will not be the same as last time because trust is broken. He didn’t even ask for forgiveness and a chance to get back to me.

Thinking back, I guess he already cheated on me 1-2 years back but I was kept in the dark. Our s– life has deteriorated that I am the one initiated and got rejected. His answer is he has a low s– drive or he is tired. He doesn’t feel turned on or passionate anymore. So I think he cheated back then because he is getting s– somewhere else.

I feel that I am really dumb and took so long to realize something is wrong with us. He is a habitual liar and he lies without blinking his eyes. I only found out his true color after we broke up. The tone and attitude changed so much that I could not believe he is the one I love for so many years.

Why can’t men be loyal

So the lesson I learned is that when you feel that the s– drive change, it is a red alert that he is getting s– outside. Also if you feel that he doesn’t talk to you or reply to you as fast as last time. It is probably he is talking or texting other girls.

Never trust guys who can sweet talk and give promises easily. They know girls will be happy and believe them. They can stay in a relationship with their girlfriend but still have FWB and hookups with no strings attached.

Why men can’t control their little bro and be loyal to only one girl? Is it really so difficult for men?

Women’s youth is very precious and they are wasting their time by keeping her while cheating outside. Guys should be more responsible and be morally upright!

I can’t accept Hookups and FWB is it because I am too conservative? Should I be more open-minded and not judge? I have no idea is it my issue or society issue anymore.

Ethically I feel that s– is an intimate connection with the one you love. Am I am too outdated? Human nature needs intercourse, I can understand.

But with strangers I can’t, I feel it’s dirty and disgusting. I can’t kiss someone I don’t know let alone sleep together.”

Job search is too painful these days

I have been searching for procurement/supply chain job for almost 2 years. I tried applying in construction/engineering/ manufacturing /NGO & in education sector. I have attended a few interviews where they will tell me they will get back to me but won’t get back. Some Low balled me and die to my current financial situation I will be agreeing to what they are offering but yet they won’t select me.

I have people who were with me when I had a stable job but when I lost my job, most of them didn’t keep in touch with me and they cut ties with me. I have a few genuine friends who always motivate me saying I will find a job soon.

I had a girl who wants to date me but when I explained that I’m unemployed she cut contact with me.

I was not bothered because I always look in a positive perspective.

I know people will only be with you when they need something from you.

I really need a job as my personal savings have been used up. I know I will get a job in a matter of time but it’s just that some hurtful words and mockery from people affects me deeply  ..

I’m planning to take up temp role while I get a full time job but my friend told me that if I take up temp job the hiring manager and HR in the future company will scruntize me based on that and will not select me.

How can I find jobs better? Actionable feedback like job portals will help a lot.

Netizens’ comments

I don’t understand the part you really need a job as your personal saving had used up. Then why are you choosy in the first place? To stick to the point to find your own job that you want , and not rather get a job to survive? There are many jobs available, and is you whether want to take it or not. Whether the company low ball you or not, so? The fact is you have zero income, and without a job how you gonna survive? Come on! Be more realistic, be grateful if they want to employ you. In africa, many older kids searching job daily, and they work just to get food for their family.

I miss having a girlfriend

So my boyfriend came out as ftm a couple of months ago.

We were together as a W&W couple for just little over a year before that.

I decided to stay, because I love him and I’m bi. I just have a huge preference for women. (I’m extremely attracted to femininity, whether it’s in men or women. I largely prefer women, but I also like men. I’m just more picky when it comes to men.)

He’s my first partner ever, and I miss having a girlfriend. That’s it.

He’s started hormones about a month ago. And I’m gonna miss the soft skin. I’m gonna miss the beardless face. He’s pre-op (top and bottom surgery), but I already can’t touch him like I used to.

And I miss kissing a female body everywhere. I just… miss everything about what my relationship used to be. Before he came out.

I feel like I can’t tell this to anybody. Because it makes me feel like a horrible person. I’ve been super supportive of his transition. Drove him to appointments, got him packers, I use his pronouns, treat him like a boyfriend.

I just keep dreaming of having a girlfriend. I want to kiss a girl. I want to touch a girl. I want to be in a relationship with a girl.

But I love him so much. I can’t imagine my life without him.

I feel horrible.