I went to a prostitute for my birthday and it feels like I’m breaking down.

I didn’t want to stoop so low as to pay for something like that, but it’s been on my mind more and more lately.

I’m 35, am (was as of a few hours ago) a virgin, and instead of going down my libido seems to flare up as time goes by.

I have many hobbies but I can’t shrug off the absence of intimacy and the loneliness as easily as I did in my twenties. I used to cook a lot, if that makes sense, trying out a new recipe and attempting to get it right was a good way to get my mind on other things. It’s not as fail-proof as it once was.

I gave up.

I know my body isn’t to blame for it, I’m average. I do have terrible social skills, though, prefer a quiet evening at home and dislike going out a lot. But I spent my life improving these skills, still am, and I did get better.

Broke out of my comfort zone, met many new people, made new friends. But it never seems to be enough, somehow I feel like I’m lagging even more behind. If no one has been interested in me until now, it’s unlikely to happen later.

I don’t like the idea of seeing a prostitute, I don’t want to be alone, I’m a social person and I don’t see the point of leading a life alone from start to finish, but what else do I have? A decade of rejection, I should have cut my losses sooner and focus on other goals in actual reach.

I wanted, just once in my life, know what it is to feel intimacy. And I had to pay for it. It feels like a failure. I hate it. And I loved having someone hold me close as if she wanted me, even if it’s fake.

And it was amazing! Holding someone close and just exploring and learning about another’s body and yours, I should have done it sooner.

Here I am, I worked on myself and put money to the side, at least I will have some intimacy every once in a while.

I broke the no alcohol rule and got sloshed just to feel something else. Here’s to the bottle I uncorked.

just had my gf leave cuz she disrespected my dead dog

We got into an argument cuz I wanted a password on my old phone (I recently found it), I forgot it so I asked her and she said ” you probably still have pictures of your ex so no”

we got into argument and she ended up saying it’s just a dog.

I had nothing but him; no friends, family, nothing, but he was always by my side. I’d wake up and he’d somehow gotten between my arms at night to cuddle, he was more than my best friend.

She kept saying I’m your girlfriend, that’s just a dog, a dead dog. I’ve always hated humans and people wonder why I’ll always choose an animal before them.

Netizens’ comments

• I’m stone cold sober and I don’t even know how OP went from asking for a forgotten password for an old phone to “you probably still have pictures of your ex” to dead dog?? Like, what…

• After I had gotten a rescue dog that had a sad past, we had agreed this would be the dog’s last home. About 5 years into having this wonderful dog, my partner asked “what would you do if I said you had to get rid of the dog?” I replied, “I’d miss you a lot”.
  I’m now with a wonderful partner who sees animals as family.

I didn’t mean to offend any financial advisor.

Seriously, what’s with those financial companies who keep asking people to become their financial advisors? I have already been head-hunted via cold calls and LinkedIn messages prompting me to work as their financial advisor like 5 times over the past 2 weeks.

In context, FoS undergraduate and already have a summer internship – but still being head-hunted by financial companies asking me to spend my summer in their cult of financial advisory – even though I had no knowledge in finance and I even hated being in business.

There are already a lot of FAs these days. Why are they keeping hunting more of their prey?

I know not all FAs are like that, but seriously, I’m this close to giving a bad impression to financial advisory. Seriously, it’s so irritating dealing with all of these sellbots. How do they sleep at night knowing that this is what they do.????????

• Here are what netizens think:

• It’s a highly delusional profession. I was served by one keynote speaker FA, and he was so lousy. He could not answer any of my questions, especially the one “how many of the products you sell are in your portfolio?” On my own, I did better than him and all the FA I have ever known, even if they count their losses as gains. Run!!!!

• Cold call is not headhunted lah. Your case is closer to scam call than headhunting.

• Ignore them lah. They abit like mlm. FA is almost a sunset industry as more people are it savvy and can buy on their own liao

• don’t blame them la, have you anything before? It is tough to sell insurance cause mainly sell base on fear , that is one and secondly you need to have the skill to sell on being able to manage their money . Needs training and a bullet proof skin so that’s why those that make it are so successful. Take it positively la, their profession is literally taking people money to become their own money. It is a very tough job.

• Get this right. You were not headhunted because as an intern or a fresh grad you have nothing valuable for any companies to want to head hunt you.Those who cold called you were transactional recruiters who tried to transacted you for a commission.Know the difference so you don’t become a laughing stock by telling people you are being headhunted.

A guy shared a story about how he was approached by a chiobu insurance agent to buy insurance, and he ended up buying 3 plans because he found it hard to say no to her.

Here is the story:

“I have a problem, I turn into a r*tard when I meet beautiful women.

I am always being approached by insurance agents when I walk past mrt stations and whatnot but I always had no problem saying no.

Because they were all guys.

But then recently a chiobu insurance agent wearing damn tight and short skirt and a low cut blouse approached me and asked if I had 5 mins to spare her.

I thought to myself, 5 mins? I give you 5 hours ah.

I mean she was wearing a mask ah so I could only see half her face but her eyes disappeared when she smiles and I got sot a bit.

Then when we sat down at starbucks and she took off her mask to take a sip from her coffee, i finally saw her face.

Wah she really fking chio until i don’t know how to english.

I don’t know what happened but i ended up buying 3 insurance plans.

i bought a life insurance plan, health insurance plan and some savings plan that I have no idea about.

Do you think she will say yes if I ask her out?

Images source: Pexels and Facebook (images used for illustration purpose only)

A netizen shared how he has been married to his wife for almost 3 years but he doesn’t love her anymore – he said that he doesn’t dare to ask for a separation.

Here is the story:

“Hi, I got married for close to 3 years.

I don’t love my wife anymore but I don’t dare to propose a separation. I think my wedding was a big mistake.

But the house was too attractive to forgo at the time although it hasn’t fulfilled its MOP. We sleep in different rooms. Should I leave? But I don’t want to disappoint my parents.

We have no kids. I can totally see my marriage is on life support”

Editor’s note: Grow a pair and be honest with her.

friend owes more than $15k.. am I able to find a debt collector to help recover the amount?

A friend owes about $15k (14k++) in money and was initially repaying about $500 a month and was paying for last 6 mths but started to Mia for the last 1.5 months. Either giving holding answer or saying (will transfer tonight but disappears or doesn’t answer when pressed)

Started exploring getting a debt collector but not too sure if its possible if its loan to an individual and what’s the success rate?

Edit : I know there is a lesson learnt here and he usually returns promptly but at this point I’m not asking for “you deserve it or u shldnt have XXXX” I’m exploring options on getting it back and knowing the success rate/ what to look out for etc

2nd edit for more context: most conversation is via WhatsApp and transfer done by paynow so I do have the nric and (of course) mobile number, so we do have a paper trail.

Normally I will say hey u still owe xxx after ur transfer of (eg) $500 today.

OR it will say hey u still owe xx when u transferring and he will just go ok transfer u tonight/tmr / insert random date here

Netizens’ comments

• Do you first have it in black and white that said friend owes you this amount of money?

In future don’t lend any money you can’t afford to lose completely.