I regret having a child

My baby boy is 4 months old and perfect. I wanted to start a family and I bet on the wrong man. While I was pregnant, he became violent.

After my baby was born I tried to steer the relationship to a healthier dynamic and he instead got violent.

Now I’m a single mom, I have to retrain for a new job at the same time I’m taking care of a child and suing my ex so he can never take custody away from me, but honestly? I’d gladly give custody to somebody else.

People say I should be glad I got the baby and that’s all that really matters and I disagree.

My life before was better. I hate my life so much now. I hate having to depend on others, I hate having to raise a child by myself, I hate being judged for trusting that bastard, about how he hurt and humiliated me.

I feel bad for my son. He does not deserve a mother who views motherhood as some kind of punishment. He does not deserve to grow up without a dad. This is not how I envisioned starting a family.

Women, if you’re planning to have a baby, only do it if you’d be OK with raising that child all by yourself. Because when things get hard, men get to just leave. You don’t.

just felt like reflecting on some stuff. For some reason when me and my ex broke up i didnt grief as much as i did in a previous relationship, and thinking about it i felt it may be because i know i deserve alot more than what she had to afford, which were just bare minimum or sometimes even not.

She was broken when she entered the rs and i tried my best to help her and “fix” her but in the process had also lost myself.

She doesnt rly make me feel loved, i receive the most dry “gd morning” text from her, it doesnt seem like she is excited to spend time with me too and never once gave me any reassurance, especially since she hangs out with alot of guys and even go out 1 on 1 afew times,

and im not talking about sweet text(which NEVER happened ONCE throughout the time we dated). She also wears shirts that belongs to other guys which i personally feel is unacceptable( i wld understand if it was a new shirt given as a gift).

She’s lowkey a gold digger also because i realise i always end up spending at least half of whatever money i have each month on her.

And while im taking time to heal now she’s going ard seeking affirmation from other guys trying to fill the void i left which is kind of toxic in my opinion.

That doesnt bother me though because her next relationship wont end up lasting seeing how she treats the whole situation and she’ll probably end up continuously filling that void till she finally wakes up and realise her own mistakes.

At least i get to laugh at her glow down while i have my glow up and watch my bank account grow and eventually find someone else to give the world to and spend my money on.

And if she sees this i hope she’ll realise that it is her loss because someone who she once complained about being poor is now 10 times richer and she lost someone that would do anything for her while all i lost was someone who couldnt give me the simplest words of affirmation.

You may think u got the better end of the breakup but deep down you know u’ve messed up;)

A man shared on Facebook that his wife has always tried to stop him from trading stocks, but he did not stop and made a small fortune from trading stocks online.

Here is the story:

Before reading further, I have to say that I did not do trading of stocks base on friend’s advice nor did I Google for trading tips on the internet.

Trading stocks online is a risky thing and often people who have little understanding of it often tells you to stay away, such as my wife0. But I proved her wrong.

I’m not here to bragged how much I earn but I see too many friends out there that lost their savings because of trading stocks.

There is a very thin line between investing and gambling, most people believe that gambling is luck but the fact is… it is a probability game. Trading online such as buying or selling stocks have much more factors that might affect the outcome of the desired result.

Last night I made over SG$100,000 from the US stock market, but this did not happen in a night. It was a number of stocks that I have purchased at an earlier period and I have been waiting for today’s arrival. I expected the arrival to be at Christmas but did not expect an early year-end bonus for me and my family.

The initial investment amount that I put in was around $50,000 and it too less than a year to reach $100,000. This means my trading yielded about $50,000 after commissions.

Do your research and bear in mind that there is no such thing as luck. You are also not comparing with your friend, you are doing it for yourself.

There is always a risk that a catastrophic event happening that will affect stock markets worldwide. So the best advice I can give you is don’t put in your life savings, invest any extra cash you have.

I (17F) live with my parents (44M and 42F) and my brother(10M). For as long as i can trace my life back to i have always wanted a dog, like literally ALWAYS, my mom is terrified of any animal with fur around her so i was never allowed to even keep one.

Now i will be going to poly in a couple months and as i know i cant have a pet. I thought of working in a pet store or a pet grooming facility to just be around some pets, it could also teach things about being a pet owner and how i can be more responsible, so i researched a bit and found a beautiful animal grooming center near my school and went there to see if they have any sort of work for me, when the owner asked me why i want to work there because i have 0 experience and i am not even planning on studying anything related to business etc i was honest and told her how i could not have any pets around me and i desperately wanted to be around some animals.

She was very understanding and told me i can work there part time with my poly and do some tasks like washing dogs etc which she will teach and monitor me for.

When i tell you i was ECSTATIC i am not kidding i hadnt felt this happy in a long long time. Just one issue, my parents are against part time jobs.. They believe i should only focus on school as money is not an issue, i tried to indirectly tell about the job saying how my ‘friend’ was telling me all about this perfect job and my parents said absolutely not to me, saying how they dont want their daughter to be working instead of studying.

But i will be honest i am still considering the job, not for the money of course i will do it for free as well but just to keep myself happy.

So is it wrong for considering to take up the job?

should i just wait for several more years of completing my school and getting my own house to get myself a dog? or its harmless for me to just be around animals which i know for sure will keep me happy.

Here are what netizens think:

As long as you are able to keep up on your studies, you should be able to handle a part-time job just fine. It was a long time ago for me, but I remember the first year or two wasn’t as hard or as much homework as I had been expecting. AND you can always quit the job if it starts interfering with your studies. No matter what, it will be a great chance for you to practice time-management and be independently responsible

 it’s good to start gaining work experience when you can, and doing something you want to do because you WANT to, not because you need to, is good for your mental wellbeing. I wouldn’t encourage you to do something that would cause a fight or an argument in your household, but try further communicating this with them. I do think you should take the job though, it sounds like it will be good for you.

You’ll be an adult and a big part of being an adult is making your own decisions. You don’t need your parents permission to do anything once you’re an adult. They may not agree with your decisions, and they may cut you off or kick you out as a result, but you’re still able to take any job you want.

I just want a sanity check. I was talking with my friend recently, and we were catching up with each other’s lives. My friend is a Chinese man and an Indian woman. He was talking about one of his cousins, we can call him Tom (27), and mentioned that Tom is getting married soon. I was surprised, I hadn’t known Tom had been dating, but my friend explained that he had been seeing a girl for about a year now. My friend then mentions that the girl is 19. When I expressed my surprise at the situation, my friend just shrugged and told me that “these kind of girls get married early.”

I grew up in a normal neighbourhood so I know that his statement isn’t really true, or is a non-informative generalization at best. But for the rest of the night, I couldn’t help but feel weirded out about the idea of a 19-year-old woman marrying a 27-year-old man. I can’t help but look at Tom in a new light–a creepy light. Several friends of mine have been equally weirded out, but weirdly, not many of my male friends have found it strange, no matter what their ethnicity.

Am I getting worked up over nothing? What would your reaction be in this scenario?

Here are what netizens think:

• I’ll never understand why other guys who do this. I once had to work with a dude who was like 45 at the time (I was like 24 for reference). Once on a lunch break he asked me if I knew any cool spots to pick up chicks, I told him I didn’t and asked if he was into clubbing. He told me he was, which surprised me cause he had a very “homebody” aura to him.

• I don’t understand why it’s not weird to some people. Yeah, it wouldn’t be weird if a 30 year old married a 38 year old. But that’s not because of the age gap itself ; it’s because of the amount of life experience already had by each. 19 has no experience at all. Nothing. Likely can’t even regular her own impulses yet. It’s not okay.

• I’m married to a man who’s six years younger than me. I would never have dated him when he was 19, he would have annoyed me like it’s no one’s business. His own mother describes him as being 35 since he was 15, but even with that he still woods have been too young. At 28, when we started dated he had a really good idea of who he was and what he wanted in life. He had done things and wasn’t being taken advantage of. We were both adults, and I didn’t have any power over him due to an experience gap. We’re equal partners in our marriage and parenting our children because we treat each other as such. I don’t think anyone should aim to have an experience gap over their partner, it really makes things unbalanced.

im Indon helper here in Singapore

i have crush on my sir’s friend

5months ago he visited my employer’s house and we have eye contact haha and i think he also have interest on me. ystd he also visitd my employers house again n he try to talk to me abit

n now i cannot stop thinking about him

im 23year old single

unfortunately my employer not allowed me to have a boyfriend:(

Netizens’ comments

1. Obviously they won’t la. It’s common sense. If you really wanna have a BF. Don’t become a helper but work something else. That where you got freedom for it.
2. You are here to work and you should have your off days. Your sir cannot stop you from making friends or who you go out with. Next time that person you like talks to you, you can ask him where to go during off days..maybe if he likes you he will say to bring you out.
3. Would suggest you just work hard first and save more money. You’re still young and the objective of coming here is to make more money. Keep focusing on that and don’t think about others things that will distract you from your goal.
4. Woahh so bold of u to assume someone’s interested just by few small talk anyway good luck for u sis, but i think ur employer has a point why not letting u have a relationship here.
5. If you are under work permit. If you want to get married with local . You need to get permission from MOM. So even you have relationship. The relationship won’t go anywhere
6. You’re old enough to know what is good from what is right. If you think that you should ignore your feelings for that person, then you must control yourself.. make yourself busy with other things so you will stop thinking of that guy.. boys nowadays only want to fk and then leave. You’re young, you can still find a better man.. don’t rush everything and focus on your goals

Hello everyone. I wanted to share something with you, maybe someone has been in a similar situation.

My gf and I have been dating for over 3 years now. Back then we were both poor asf because we were in University. But after about a year we both got jobs.

After a while we started going on trips, and one of her goals was to have a trip every month, no matter how short or long. But also to go outside of Asia to visit other continents.

Previously,we managed to go to Italy for a whole month, both of us being vaccinated, and work from there. All of that pretty much ate all of our savings that we put aside every month. Afterwards, she went on some solo trips to meet her friends in other European cities. That doesn’t bother me.

She out-earns me on a monthly basis, especially since she gets quarterly bonuses from her job, which are basically another salary. So on average, she earns twice my salary. I was raised in a very frugal manner because we were barely making it on a monthly basis, so a huge fear of mine is to need money and not have them. This makes always saving and looking for the cheapest option.

Lately, we have been to Spain for another holiday, right before our companies called us back in the office. She paid for everything because I literally had no money set aside due to a long trip we took last December. Spain was her dream and she seemed so happy about going and I also had the time of my life.

But now, she wants to keep her goal of going on a trip every month. I just got my salary and for the first time in more than a year I managed to set aside $1,500 and it makes me feel extremely safe (it’s not enough, obviously, but it’s the first step I guess). Now last evening she opened the flights app and asked me: ‘Where do you want to go next?’ And that’s when I sunk, because it made me feel like I HAD to go to one more trip and spend all the money.

For more clarity, one of my goals for life is to be able to retire at 40 years old, maybe 45 of the market doesn’t do great. So I calculated I should put aside around $1000 a month and invest them. I barely managed to put aside $200 in the past years so now I am way behind my goal.

After I told her I don’t want to go on trips with her, we had a big argument and said that this is a deal-breaker (not sure what she meant, it’s not a relationship breaker…I hope). And accused me that now that I have to spend my own money again, I don’t want to go on trips (a reference to the Spain trip which she paid for – she has a point here).

I love her very much and it makes me extremely sad and annoyed with myself that I said those things. I told her to go solo or with some of her friends, but always says that prefers to go with me (which I get, because we are very compatible from many perspectives).

But am I wrong in this situation? I’m not saying that I will never travel again, I just want to do it with a safety net behind me.

We’ve been a couple for 2 years alr but I’m getting tired of him.

We’ve been arguing almost everyday for the past 2 months. Every argument was just full of grudges.

When we first started dating, he seem fine. Good looking, treats me well but as our dating days goes by. We lost more trusts n faith with each other, always second guessing each other. We breakup n get back uncountable times n now I’m really getting sick n tired of this relationship.

We met through mutual friends and his job just happened to be mine interest, so I left a comment on ig and then we started dming each other so end up being together. First few months of the relationship was good. Afterwards, we been arguing at least twice a week. The contradiction between us getting bigger every arguments.

When we dating, I once saw his phone apps consist of those meetings new friends apps ( but these apps usually is meet new gender friend and end up being a couple). I asked him why u need these kind of apps? He said I’ve always been ignoring him, since mine phone always on silence and he suspect I have affair outside just because a guy sent me a hotel room detail. But that was because I need to go his room for works and that guy I working with is a good husband. Everyone know how well he treated ppl, how popular he is at work. I cannot deny having eyecandies on him when he have capabilities as a boss and as a person.

We went out for a date n my bf didn’t say anything. just silent treatment when I asked him qns and he just left me alone in the mall n walk away. I messaged him what wrong,why are you giving me cold treatment. He said was because of the hotel incident and I said why didn’t u ask me. I could’ve shown you the full messages. I was very disappointed that he think I was such an easy person to get laid with. When I was working, all in mine mind was just to earn enough money so that we can have a grand wedding event. We could’ve sat down and talks about his unhappiness but he decided to just being angry and thinking that I cheated on him.

He also been meeting his exes. I once saw his message notifications from his friend stated ” wah, you going meet Ur exes ah? Not scared Ur current found out?”. I was so furious when I saw that notification.

During dating, we said we’ll be honest with each other regardless of what but he didn’t even mentioned that the ex asked for meetups with him. Only when I confronted with him,he started blurting out.

I’ve never mentioned about my exes because it’s in the past n we didn’t have contacts anymore but he did. He not only didn’t mention about it but also went to meetup with his exes.

One of our biggest arguements almost lead us to breaking up permanently. He suggested it but I didn’t want to. So he said ok. Let’s have cooldown periods instead. So during the cooldown period, I went out with 3 other friends( 1 F, 2M) we went to USS tgt. But he been accusing me of cheating on him with one of the guy because we took pair shot.

All of us are close friends and even my bf know them since we have mutual friends. He’s such a atrocious person to think that because of pair photos, I cheated on him. Moreover, the 2M also have gf already. We’re just purely hanging out to catch-up as clique. He also accusing me saying I’m a slut for hanging out with guys during our cooldown period but I don’t see anything wrong with mine actions.

he also ownself went out to drinks with friends, make new female friends at the drinking place. His friend ig stories videoed him playing happily with all the gals and said he’s single during our cooldown period then his friends also proceed to video him asking the gals for their social media, contact no and etc.

He said all the female contacts he added was just Vase. Just to look like he’s popular with gals but he don’t contact them.

He said he just using the ig stories to make me angry cause I went out hanging with clique that have guys included so he’s doing the same and he also have a lot chats that require password to enter.

I’m so done with him but I don’t want breakup with him. I should be the one dumping him not him dumping me. I have many admirers and all of them are better than him whether in looking, studies or as a person. I gave him the chance yet he felt that I was the one unreasonable during our 2 years of relationship.

Here are what netizens think:

• So he has to accept you went to a hotel with a guy alone, but you are not ok with him having app on his phone.”I am so done with him, but I don’t want to breakup with him”You are so full of contradiction. If you can’t decide go and pluck flower petals.”I should be the one dumping him, not him dumping me”What are you 3 years old?”I have many admirers blah blah”With your mindset, nothing will change.

• Just break, both of u are not emotionally and mentally matured to carry out a proper relationship.

• Certainly, there’s NO LOVE between you two, only resentment, hatred & grudges. Why don’t you two break up? Social pressure? or mutual friends? Forget everything about what others might think and just break up. Because at the end of the day, it’s only YOU who are gonna be responsible for your life’s decisions. Start a new life full of love, care & respect. You must be able to LOVE & RESPECT someone in order to be in a relationship with him. Love is about feeling for each other, bringing meaning to each other’s lives, uplifting each other & finding immense happiness in doing all these. That’s so fundamental to start with.

I wish my boyfriend would comfort me when I’m sad

I feel like these past few days have been tough on me and I took the Plan B pill a few days ago. I feel very anxious and I’ve been crying everyday.

My boyfriend has been leaving me alone and went out with his friends to stay away from me so I can calm down and I keep having emotional outbursts and he gets mad at me. It’s been more than 3 days and I’m still crying and feeling depressed.

I feel like I don’t like my boyfriend anymore and I feel like all he does is criticize me when I’m sad.

Like I talk to him about how his sister is mean to me or how I feel bad (he doesn’t like her too) and he starts saying things like it’s all a delusion and my thoughts are wrong and starts saying how I’m thinking is wrong.

I really hate this and idk what to do. I live with him