I cheated and I don’t think I’ll forgive myself

ldk if anyone will see this but I think it’ll help if I just text this out. I was in a relationship with one of the most beautiful human beings I’ve ever met, we were together for a year and I made a mistake and sent explicit pictures to somebody, I’ve never seen or met before.

I was honest and I told her and it broke her heart it broke my heart, that I could cause so much pain to somebody, especially her.

Her and I were best friends she felt like home, and now I can’t even talk or see her. It’s her birthday today, and I’ve already given her presents at her door and I have done all I can to try to get her back.

But I’m starting to realize I probably never will. I don’t want sympathy, I can’t imagine what she feels like.

We loved each other so much and It’s my fault I ruined it. It’s hard to forgive myself for that, but I try not to think about her or what I did. But i see her in my dreams and in my mind and I will never forget her.

I’ve grown so much these past couple months and just realizing certain things I need to change. One thing that hasn’t changed though is the love I have for her, she’ll always have a place in my heart and I’m just grateful to have known her to even hold a conversation with her.

She chose me and I chose dishonesty and Betrayed my best friend. Idk if I’ll ever get over her but I hope I can, I hope she can get over me, I hope she’s healing in a healthy way.

It’s been 3 months since we broke up. And I’d be lying if I told you I don’t want to see her, but I mean this like MEAN this I would give ANYTHING to see her again anything…but maybe it’s for the best that I don’t.

This is a warning to anyone that thinks about cheating or doing something like I did, take time for yourself and figure out what you want before you break your partners heart like did.

It’s something that you will never want to experience. for her and for me

Netizen’s comments

• Why did you decide to send those photos to a stranger? Not judging you just curious as to why someone would do that.

I have an 18y/o cat Misty, I’ve had her for most of my life and she helped me overcome many things such as my parent’s divorce, coming out, my mom’s death and many more. She’s precious to me and I know she doesn’t have much time left so I go out of my way to spoil her every single day.

2 years ago I got into a relationship with my bf, James knew I was a massive cat fan and although he didn’t share my enthusiasm for cats she didn’t mind it.

Last year I offered James to move in with me, I have my own apartment which I inherited from my mother, it’s in a nice location in our town and is close to James’s job. He agreed and moved in the following month.

Half a year after moving in James fell ill out of the blue, he brushed it off at first saying it’s probably nothing but I convinced him to go see a doctor and have some tests done.

The test results came in and we were shocked to discover James is allergic to cats. Apparently, he was probably mildly allergic to cats all his life but since she was never exposed to them for a long period of time it was never discovered. Him being exposed to Misty for over a year is what made his allergies much worse.

I’ve talked with James about our plans for the future. I offered he could start taking anti-allergy medication (which I said I’ll pay for) but he refused saying she doesn’t want to swallow a pill every day so he can keep living at home, which is valid.

I then asked him when she’s going to move out. James looked at me confused so I explained that since he is living with Misty is what causes him health issues it’ll be better for him to move out.

James started arguing with me, claiming I’m ridiculous for suggesting he moves out over a cat. I told him I’m not going to re-home Misty under any circumstances, and offered he could move in again after Misty passes away eventually, but until then he have to find a different place to live in.

After arguing some more James left to sleep at his sisters place and I’ve been getting calls from mutual friends who caught wind of the situation, some were sympathetic while others called me heartless for preferring a dying pet over a living human.

I’m very conflicted over this whole situation and although I feel like I’m doing what’s right and my request isn’t unreasonable I’m afraid I might be wrong.

I found out my husband of 6 years watching “Son-and-daughter” videos

I am 29, my husband and I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I recently went on his phone while he was sleeping and found weeks of these types of searches, and various videos.

I’ve asked him to buy cameras so we can put it everywhere in the house but he refuses saying there is no need.

I don’t know what to do or how to confront him about this. I slept with my daughter the past 2 nights and didn’t tell him why.

If I confront him he will 100% yell at me for going through his phone. I cannot leave as I have no where to go. What would you do if you were me? I feel trapped, scared and ashamed.

Netizens’ comments

• Don’t let the people in these replies make you feel bad for being concerned and disgusted by what your husband jacks off to. But do talk to him about this.

• I’ve been an escort for around 15 years. Although I don’t know his exact circumstance, I used to get a lot of guys who wanted to role play in similar scenarios. (Some ask for stepdaughter role play, some say niece role play, et cetera.) 

• Ignore everyone else, just talk with your husband, don’t let your marriage end because of bad communication

Denied exit from JB to SG

Hi everyone. As per the title, my family & I was otw back to SG & about to exit JB custom today when we got stopped at JB immigration. We were told to get out from the vehicle. The officer took us to their waiting room, and brought my dad into their office.

In short, they claimed that my dad owes them Income Tax from 2020. The officers insisted that we pay the Income Tax from 2020 before we are allowed to leave JB. We were given a hotline number & were told to call the hotline as they close at 10pm.

However, after checking on Google, the said department closed at 7pm & the hotline number is different. This raised some suspicions as we cannot be sure if what they are claiming is true. We refused to pay as we are all Singaporeans, and my dad has not worked in Malaysia for more than 25 years. It did not make sense to have Income Tax owed to them.

As we refused to pay without talking to the relevant departments, the officers called their law enforcers (not sure if it’s their local police) & refused to return our passports until the enforcers came to pick us up. We were then given the option to all U-turn to JB, or return to SG without my dad.

Has anyone encountered or heard of such incidents? I’m very worried as my dad is still in JB to settle this & I dont know how many days it will take before he is allowed to exit Malaysia.

Thank you in advance.

EDIT: my dad was Malaysian, became a Singapore citizen around 2013 & had not worked or have any business in Malaysia the past 25 years. This is his 6th visit to Malaysia this year, hence our surprise when an Income Tax from 2020 is only flagged now.

Netizens’ comments

1. Make a police report here in Singapore, and seek help from SG embassy in Malaysia.
2. Sketchy AF. How can a Singaporean own income tax in Malaysia? Better to call Singapore consulate for assistance.
3. Hello – my family also got into a similar situation when we were trying to enter JB to celebrate CNY with my dad’s family this year. Got held up at JB customs because they said my father (ex-Malaysian who became SG citizen in 2014) owed them income tax in 2020/2021 when he had not worked in Malaysia for more than 30 years. JB customs told him that if he chooses to enter with us, he will not be allowed to return to SG until he settled his income tax. He stayed behind in JB for a few more days to settle the issue with the tax authority. I agree that it’s very suspicious and I hope the embassy can help.

My boyfriend’s mom wouldn’t accept me. What should I do?

I have no one to go to share this with. I’ve been crying so much the past two days & I’m at a loss of what to do.

I (28,F) have a daughter from my previous marriage (husband brought a lady back home and I caught him). Bf (28,M) knows about my daughter. He has spent time together with my daughter, having dinners etc.

He told his mom yesterday about me having a daughter & his mum went almost mental. She started crying and saying that she does not accept it because she would not know how to tell her parents/in-laws why her son chose to be with someone who had a kid. She gave him the ultimatum, said if he chooses to be with me, the family will disown him as a son.

I’m heartbroken. I can’t possibly make him choose me over his family. And he would not do that either. We are waiting it out to see if his mom will calm down & speak rationally.

He is heartbroken as well because he cried last night and just kept apologising to me.

It just sucks to know that despite knowing me as a person, liking me & almost treating me like a daughter in law (before she knew of the kid), that her traditional mindset still could not be changed. It sucks to know that I’ll be facing more of these in the years to come. It absolutely hurts to know that even though I’ve tried my best, I still was not good enough.

I’m tired of being here. This place brings me so much pain. I want to take my daughter and leave this country (esp with the accumulation of negative experiences/divorce/catching adultery).

If you’ve read all the way till the end, thank you very much. What should be my next course of action? Any tips on leaving this country? And how feasible is it to move out of here with my daughter? I do feel that my daughter is still very young so honestly should be quite adaptable..?? Anywhere is fine, really. I think I really want to start a life somewhere else.

My BF won’t sleep with me anymore bc my I’m not tight.

Any advice helps. My boyfriend (M22) and I (F20) have been in a relationship for 1 & 1/2 years. The beginning of our relationship was perfect, we made plans, went out on dates, & spent most of our free time together.

We both have a very high libido which worked well. The only issue begin since the start of our relationship he has only eaten me out once.

We have discussed it but he has never given me a real answer. However that is not the main problem or point of this post.

Around 3-4 months ago my boyfriend sat me down to have a serious talk regarding our relationship. He complained that i was no longer as tight as i used to be & suggested I use kegels or “squeezing him tighter”.

He also mentioned that I don’t dirty talk him, along with a few other things. When he said this I was heartbroken, I literally didn’t know what to say.

I lied to him and say it was okay and I would try to make things better for him in bed. And after that I really did attempt to make things better. I basically did anything he asked (consenting of course) because I felt I had to prove myself.

Recently about 2 months ago we just stopped f-ing ompletely, besides one exception which was not satisfying for either of us, just very uncomfortable & awkward.

He couldn’t stay hard & I just wanted to stop. I have no confidence anymore, but the problem is I’m always unbelievablely in the mood.

I’m very frustrated, and having a high drive isn’t making it easier. nothing seems to keep me from thinking about f-ing.

Another things is I’m very nervous of initiating intimacy. I can try if I get the sense my partner is in the mood as well, but with no reciprocations is feels way to awkward.

Because of this I have been going to bed every night disappointed and almost crying because we have done nothing. He teases me all the time but never follows through.

I’m done emotionally and I don’t know how to explain my feelings in a productive way, I just want to yell at him to f me. I dont want to break up but i dont know what to do. I just would like advice on my whole situation.