My husband’s ExWife sent me a video of them getting intimate the day before our wedding?

She and him were married for 4 years. He ended it saying she was impossible to live with but she made claims about him being violent to her which never been proven.

She sent me a video of themdoing it literally the day before my wedding. she did it using social media. It was….unexpected and for some reason made me feel unwell and uneasy.

It certainly affected me mentally because everyone noticed how I looked and behaved at the time. My husband found out after the wedding and he swore he had no idea his ex was still keeping this stuff because he made sure everything they shared was deleted/wipped.

He was as shaken as me but told me to just let it go and not let it take anymore of our time together but I just can’t get it off my mind, especially when I’m intimate with him.

It feels off, really off and I hate that this is how it feels when it’s supposed to be our best time together.

I feel like his ex’s anger and resentment ruined the best time of my life for me and my husband. I don’t even get why she would do such thing and what she would gain.

I could never understand.

My wife wants to divorce me because I have prostate cancer.

I got diagnosed with prostate cancer recently. It’s a life-changing period in my life not because of my diagnosis but also because my wife is leaving me….

she said she can’t do it, she can’t take all this stress and anxiety my condition has caused her so far. This was a more devastating shock to me than my cancer diagnosis.

I don’t understand why she’s wanting to end things between us. I cried, begged, offered her space if she wanted but nothing changed her mind. I don’t understand because we were happy and now she’s walking out on me.

I’ve just started my first round of treatment and it’s torturing both physically and emotionally I don’t want to continue.

I get so weak and feel like I’ve already lost so much. She moved out days ago and although my sister moved in, I’m feeling incredibly lonely and heartbroken.

I need her here but she walked out so easily. Just like that, hasn’t even called to check in on me and I’m about to lose my mind blaming myself and my condition.

I keep considering stopping treatment but if I could, I’d die right now because I love her and can’t handle her absence even when she’s wronged me, I’d still take her back if she wants but she doesn’t. I feel numb.

I told my mom that I don’t want my gf (23) to move in with me until she has a job.

She will graduate from undergrad soon and has not yet secured a full-time position, however, we have been planning to move in together early next year.

I am 26, make nearly six-figures, and have been in the corporate world for almost 4 years. My mom says I’m being ridiculous and thinks that given my financial situation, I should allow her to live with me and pay the majority of the bills if she can find a part-time job.

My mom also thinks that this will open unnecessary doors to meet other women while I am living away from my girlfriend.

But I feel that I should not be paying for everything until I am personally ready and have taken care of my own debts and responsibilities.

While I make more than enough to cover all necessary expenses, the unnecessary burden created by covering the expenses of someone I am not yet married to is unreasonable in my opinion.

My gf has been contacted by multiple recruiters on LinkedIn, and it has always fell through the cracks due to “I don’t want this job” or her resume not being ready. 

I understand that it is stressful and anxiety-inducing to step out into the real world and begin your job search.

To conclude, I have been reminding her that she needs to begin applying to jobs since like forever ago and she has not applied to a single one yet.

Netizens’ comments

It seems like you are in a challenging situation, balancing your financial stability and relationship dynamics. It’s essential to acknowledge that both perspectives have valid points, and the key lies in finding a compromise that aligns with both your financial goals and relationship expectations.

Your concern about taking on unnecessary financial burdens is valid, especially if you have personal financial goals or responsibilities to address. However, your girlfriend’s perspective and the challenges she might be facing in her job search are also crucial to consider. Entering the job market can indeed be stressful, and everyone navigates it differently.

Open and honest communication with your girlfriend about your concerns, expectations, and financial goals is crucial. Understanding each other’s perspectives and finding a middle ground that allows for support without undue strain is essential for a healthy relationship.

Ex husband came back after years still living happily.

ex-husband Singaporean Chinese

Myself Singaporean Chinese

Since my 2nd girl was born 10 years ago and we had a divorce as he had a mistress outside. Thereafter he never give a cent to the family and went mia for years. Uncontactable even his parent can’t contact him.

I have to raise the 2 kids all by myself with some help from his parent.

Now he was back to visit his parent and sometime will bring the kids out. Knowing that he drove a bmw and had a pretty gf and had an adorable dog now. So I requested maintenance like $300-$500 for both the kids, he agreed. After 3 months, he stopped giving. He will give a kind of excuses and went mia again.

What should I do?

I only have his hp number but not address. I only know he stayed with his gf. If I apply for legal action, letter will go to his parent address, I do not want to bother them as they had contributed enough. All the driving fines he got all send to his parent address, and they will just pay for him. I seem no way to do anything.

How should I go about taking action toward him?

Here are what netizens think:

• $300-$500 for someone who drives a BMW? U are too kind. The man should take responsibility and bear the consequnces for his actions, for the marriage, for you and for the children for the rest of his life. So YES u should pursue the matter and seek advise from relevant authorities.
• As per your mentioned; “Since my 2nd girl was born 10 years ago and we had a divorce…”, that means it has been 10 years after the divorce, without any contact, without any finacial support from him. So if it was for me, I will just let it slide. No point. Moreover, if he is driving a BMW, and he also can MIA and stopped giving after a few months, don’t waste time with this ex-husband of yours, unless you got lots of time, energy & money to file a lawsuit to go after his neck. On a sidenote, I won’t ask only $300-$500 from him if I know he is driving a BMW now. I would have asked for $1000-$1500. So if now $300-$500 also he can’t commit to it, then just move on… continue to do what you’ve been doing without him in your life. Take care. And all the best.
• Hi sis, just let him be. You have done a fantastic job of raising the kids single handedly. No need for him to be in the picture now. Keep doing your thing and dun expect anything from him. Whatever and whenever he give its a bonus. Yes if u want to ask him to provide than file a petition with family Court. He will be asked to appear. After all he is the father to the children. But the process can be emotionally and mentally draining. See if u need that kind of stress now. Just my 2 cents worth.

Am I wrong for distancing myself from my friend?

I can’t stand how he is so desperate to look rich. He always asks to borrow my designer items to appear like he has more than he actually does.

Few months ago, I sold him my LV bag (brand new without box). Now he is asking me to call the LV store to give him the empty box. Ship it to him. An empty LV box. Isn’t it so embarrassing?

He likes to borrow my Rolex and posts photos of himself wearing them like it’s his. Even like to take photo with my car keys.

It’s not that he don’t have. But he wants to act like he has so many. And use mine to do these embarrassing things.

Sometimes I will make excuses not to borrow him my things. But he will say “why not? You’re not using it that day.” Or if not next day, or next day or next day until he can use it. So desperate.

It’s his right to be like this but I don’t want to associate with this type of people because it is so low class to me and embarrassing. I don’t want to call LV to ask for an empty box.

I don’t want to tell him he’s embarrassing and has no class. I don’t want to hurt his feelings unnecessarily. But how do I cut him out of my life?