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POLICE CAR CRASHED INTO RAILING & END UP INSIDE LONGKANG @ WHAMPOA, 2 SENT TO HOSPITAL

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On Wednesday, December 20, a peculiar incident unfolded at Whampoa Makan Place that caught the attention of residents. An unmarked police car was involved in an accident, resulting in two individuals being sent to the hospital.

Accident Details

According to The Straits Times, the accident occurred at about 5 pm at 90 Whampoa Drive, the location of Whampoa Makan Place. Witnesses reported that the unmarked police car, devoid of the usual police markings, was partially inside a drain. 

The vehicle had apparently collided with the railing beside a pedestrian walkway before ending up in the drain, as a banner featuring the photos of the 4 smiling Jalan Besar GRC MPs wishing residents a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year overlooked the wreckage.

Injuries and Response

As a result of the accident, two female car passengers, aged 21 and 66, were transported to the hospital. The 63-year-old car driver, identified as a police officer, is currently cooperating with ongoing investigations.

The Singapore Police Force (SPF) confirmed the incident, stating that the accident involved the unmarked police car and a motorcycle. The SPF assured that investigations are underway to determine the circumstances leading to the accident.

Visuals and Location

Photos posted by ROADS.sg on Facebook depicted the unmarked police car partially submerged in the drain. The incident occurred right in front of a banner displaying the four Jalan Besar GRC MPs wishing residents a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Images source: ROADS.sg on Facebook

ROUGH BF MAKES GF BRUISE BADLY EVERY TIME WHEN THEY DO IT

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Hey all. So basically, I (20f) have been with my boyfriend (23m) for a few months now and things are great, except S, it really hurts sometimes. I am left with ugly bruises that don’t go away for a while (thighs, hips, chest mostly). He says it’s because I’m too skinny (160 like 50kgs, so not that skinny). Either way, it’s hard for me to gain weight and I don’t really feel a need to. It’s just like painful sometimes when we do iot.

Also, the last time we were intimate I wasn’t really turned on (my fault, I just had a lot on my mind) and it still hurts inside, how do I treat that?

Thanks!!

Here are what netizens think:

  • Has he even tried to be very gentle during s? If he’s not taking into consideration the fact that s hurts and needs to be nice and slow so both of you enjoy it, then he’s not doing it right. I don’t think being skinny is the main cause of your bruises.
  • Honey. S hurts because you’re having it with a man who doesn’t care if you’re enjoying yourself or if he hurts you. Dump him. If a man is willing to use your body to pleaasre while you’re not turned on to the point where you are still experiencing internal pain, then he doesn’t care about you.
  • Don’t have s when you aren’t into it. It’s not your job to have s no matter what. Find a new boyfriend who is gentle. Don’t get attached to these rough, entitled, idiots.
  • You are “underweight” enough that you should be checked out by a doctor to make sure those symptoms aren’t symptoms of a larger health issue. There are some conditions that can cause easy bruising and slow healing that are more common with poor nutrition/low body weight, such as anemia & blood pressure issues.

AH BENG ARRESTED IN YISHUN RAID, 2.9K CARTONS OF ILLEGAL CIGARETTES SEIZED BY S’PORE CUSTOMS

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In an ongoing effort to combat illegal cigarette activities, Singapore Customs executed a successful operation at a carpark in Yishun Avenue 5 on December 20, 2023.

Operation Details

During the operation, customs officers observed a man opening the door of a van suspected to be carrying duty-unpaid cigarettes. Swift checks were conducted, revealing a substantial haul of 2,900 cartons of duty-unpaid cigarettes concealed within brown boxes in the van’s cargo compartment.

Arrest and Investigation

Subsequent investigations disclosed that the 31-year-old male Singaporean was allegedly hired by an unidentified individual to collect and transport boxes containing duty-unpaid cigarettes. The suspect was promptly arrested, and the illicit cigarettes were seized during the operation.

Financial Implications

The total duty and Goods and Services Tax (GST) evaded in this operation amounted to approximately $342,134. Legal proceedings are currently underway to address the charges against the arrested individual.

Singapore Customs’ Statement

In our ongoing efforts to curb illegal cigarette activities, Singapore Customs conducted an operation at a carpark in Yishun Avenue 5 on 20 December 2023. 

2 During the operation, our officers saw a man opening the door of a van suspected to contain duty-unpaid cigarettes. They conducted checks and uncovered a total of 2,900 cartons of duty-unpaid cigarettes, which were packed inside brown boxes kept within the van’s cargo compartment.

3 Investigations revealed that the man was allegedly engaged by an unknown person to collect and deliver boxes containing duty-unpaid cigarettes. The 31-year-old male Singaporean was arrested, and the duty-unpaid cigarettes seized during the operations. 

4 The total duty and Goods and Services Tax (GST) evaded amounted to about $342,134. Court proceedings are ongoing. 

5 Buying, selling, conveying, delivering, storing, keeping, possessing or dealing with duty-unpaid goods are serious offences under the Customs Act and the GST Act. Offenders can be fined up to 40 times the amount of duty, and GST evaded and/or jailed for up to six years.  

6 Members of the public with information on smuggling activities or evasion of duty or GST can provide information to Customs at https://go.gov.sg/reportcustomsoffence. 

Annex A: Photos of the operations 

KTVS & LUPSUP MASSAGE OUTLETS RAIDED IN POLICE BLITZ, BIG NEHNEHPOK WOMEN ARRESTED

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A total of 885 men and 509 women, aged between 15 and 77 are being investigated for various offences, following a month-long island-wide multi-agency enforcement blitz that was conducted from 15 November to 18 December 2023. These operations are part of SPF’s ongoing efforts to mitigate physical crime during the year end festivities. 

Over the course of four weeks, the island-wide multi-agency enforcement blitz was conducted by various Police Land Divisions and supported by officers from the Central Narcotics Bureau (CNB), Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF), the Health Sciences Authority (HSA), Immigration & Checkpoints Authority (ICA), , Singapore Customs, Land Transport Authority (LTA), Ministry of Manpower (MOM), Housing & Development Board (HDB) and the Singapore Food Agency (SFA). 

More than 1900 officers from all seven Police Land Divisions were deployed with over 630 operations conducted. Officers also conducted checks on more than 6700 people, of which 523 were arrested. The enforcement operations were aimed to bolster the Police’s presence island wide, by effectively targeting illegal and criminal activities. 

The details of some of these operations are as follows (photos at the end):

  1. Between 20 to 25 November 23, officers from Central Police Division conducted a series of joint enforcement operations involving officers from the Special Operation Command and CNB. The operation targeted illegal activities at massage establishments, public entertainment outlets and private premises in the vicinity of Little India, Boat Quay, Bugis and Chinatown. A total of 146 women and 36 men aged between 18 and 76, were arrested for various offences under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990, Gambling Control Act 2022, Woman’s Charter 1961, and Misuse of Drugs Act 1973. A total of five public entertainment outlets were found to have contravened various licensing conditions. During the operation, police also raided a shophouse at Little India targeting vice activities, and arrested 14 men, aged between 18 and 39 years old, under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990. Condoms found at the premises were seized during the raid.
  2. From 27 November 2023 to 9 December 2023, officers from Bedok Police Division led a joint enforcement operation with officers from the Criminal Investigation Department (CID), CNB, HSA, SCDF, ICA, Singapore Customs, LTA, MOM and SFA. The operation aimed to clamp down on illegal activities in Geylang, including illegal gambling, vice activities, sale of illegal sexual enhancement medicine and illegal hawking. A total of 18 men and 12 women, aged between 24 and 65, are being investigated for various offences under the Societies Act 1966, Women’s Charter 1961, Employment of Foreign Manpower Act 1990, Massage Establishments Act 2017, Gambling Control Act 2022, Health Products Act 2007, Customs Act 1960 and the Active Mobility Act 2017. 
  3. On 1 December 2023, officers from Tanglin Police Division led a joint enforcement operation with officers from the CID, ICA and SCDF at various public entertainment outlets in the vicinity of Orchard Road. Six women, aged between 28 to 40, were arrested for offences under Women’s Charter 1961. Two men aged 17 and 30, were arrested for suspected involvement in gang activities. One 29-year-old woman was arrested for remaining unlawfully in Singapore under the Immigration Act 1959. Fire safety violations were also detected in two of the premises and SCDF is following up with enforcement actions.
  4. On 8 December 2023, officers from Jurong Police Division led a multi-agency operation alongside officers from the Singapore Customs, ICA and CNB. The operation targeting potential public order incidents, illegal drug activities, immigration, and customs-related offences was conducted at one of the migrant worker dormitories located in Tuas. Arising from the operation, 28 men aged 21 to 49 are being investigated for alleged offences under the Customs Act 1960 and Tobacco (Control of Advertisements and Sale) Act. 531 sticks of duty-unpaid cigarettes, two e-vaporisers and a packet of chewing tobacco were seized during the operation. The e-vaporisers and chewing tobacco were handed over to HSA subsequently. 
  5. On 5 December 2023, officers from Woodlands Police Division, supported by ICA and JTC, conducted checks on vacant buildings, along Sungei Kadut industrial estate areas. During the operation, police officers also recovered items such as suspected controlled drugs, drug paraphernalia and knives. The joint operation was part of the authorities’ ongoing efforts to clamp down on criminal activities in vacant buildings in industrial areas, including premises used by illegal immigrants as hideouts. 
  6. On 29 November 2023 and 12 December 2023, officers from Clementi Police Division, CID and HDB conducted enforcement operations targeting massage establishments operating along Jurong East Avenue 1 and Jurong East Street 21. A total of four operators and three women are assisting in investigations for their suspected involvement in various offences. During the operations, two massage establishments were found to be allegedly operating without a valid licence, while vice-related activities were allegedly detected at another two licensed message establishments. The three women, aged between 27 and 46, were arrested for allegedly providing sexual services at massage establishments.
  7. From 8 to 12 December 2023, officers from Ang Mo Kio Police Division conducted joint operations with officers from the HSA and LTA at the vicinity of Serangoon Central and Sengkang. Four men and one woman aged between 28 to 40 were caught with e-vaporisers, which is an offence punishable under Tobacco (Control of Advertisements and Sale) Act. Five e-vaporisers were seized during the operation.  Officers also detected three offences under the Active Mobility Act 2017, with one Power-Assisted bicycle impounded. 

Investigations against the 1394 individuals are ongoing.

Director of Operations Department, Senior Assistant Commissioner (SAC) Gregory Tan, expressed his appreciation to all the agencies involved for their strong support and commended the officers for their professionalism and excellent teamwork during the enforcement blitz. 

He added, “The four-week anti-crime blitz is part of the Police’s ongoing efforts to clamp down on crime and illegal activities, including those that intended to be in possession of weapons and do harm to others. We have observed a 35% increase in the number of cases involving offences under the Corrosive and Explosive Substances and Offensive Weapons Act 1958 from January to October 2023 as compared to the same period in 2022. Offenders detected via proactive Police checks (such as during enforcement operations, spot checks during patrols and at Police roadblocks) have also increased by 62% from January to October 2023 as compared to the same period in 2022. The Police remain steadfast in our commitment to upholding law and order. By working closely with other law enforcement agencies, we want to send a strong message to criminals that law enforcement agencies will continue to be proactive in our enforcement and criminals will be investigated to the fullest extent of the law. We urge members of the public to remain vigilant and to report any criminal or suspicious activities to the Police. Singapore remains safe and secure due to the strong support and trust from the public, who act as our eyes and ears in the fight against crime.”

Images source: Singapore Police Force

PRC MAN TRIED TO STEAL FROM 3 PEOPLE WHILE ON FLIGHT TO S’PORE, CHARGED & REMANDED

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Yi Huaichun, a 44-year-old Chinese national, has been remanded in Singapore on charges of attempting to steal from passengers during a flight from Phnom Penh, Cambodia’s capital, to Singapore, according to a report by Channel NewsAsia.

Charges and Court Proceedings

Yi Huaichun faced three charges related to attempting theft from passengers on Cambodia Airways flight KR751 from Phnom Penh to Singapore on the morning of December 15. The charges allege Yi’s attempts to steal from different passengers’ belongings, including a black haversack, a black backpack, and a black leather bag.

Yi was initially charged on December 16 and has been remanded since. In his court appearance on December 22, when asked to indicate his plea, he declared his innocence. The charges against Yi fall under Section 3(2) of the Tokyo Convention Act, allowing Singapore to prosecute individuals for offenses committed on board an aircraft that subsequently lands in Singapore.

Legal Consequences

If convicted of attempted theft, Yi Huaichun could face a maximum sentence of up to three years in jail, a fine, or both. The case is set for a pre-trial conference in January, where further legal proceedings will be determined.

Similar Incident

This incident follows a recent case involving another Chinese national, Zhang Xiuqiang, who was charged with stealing approximately S$31,000 (US$23,260) from three passengers on a Scoot flight from Vietnam to Singapore. These incidents underscore the importance of airline security and the legal consequences for individuals attempting theft during flights.

MAN PLAYS PRANKS ON WIFE UNTIL SHE FED UP, SHOUT AT HIM IN PUBLIC

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So my husband Caleb (31) is a prankster. He jokes about everything and pulls pranks of all types all the time. I hate them all and I made it clear to him that I will not tolerate any prank or joke no matter what his justification is. He’s always like “chill, it’s just a joke” or “that’s hella funny you should be laughing instead of yelling” and stuff like that.

Yesterday, We were going out to grab some stuff. He said he “was in the mood” to joke around today (then) and when I attempted to get in the car he began driving back and forth while laughing. I told him I’d go back inside if he did it again and he stopped.

We arrived to the location and he kept locking the door and then unlocking it preventing me to get out. I told him to stop it and he said “okay I’m sorry”. We got into the store and he kept returning the items I put inside the cart til I caught him in act and told him to stop. He stopped

After we got done we stood behind a long line to pay. I stand and he stands beside me laughing and mumbling stuff. I then suddenly feel something on my head. I reach out and find that he stuck a candy that he was eating on it which freaked me out I started screaming at him while everyone else watched.

He looked red in the face as I berated him for what he’s done and kept trying to get me to quiet down, repeatedly saying people were watching us. there was an officer nearby and he noticed the commotion and asked if there was something wrong. Caleb looked stunned but I told him he wanted to make a scene he just got one. Then I left him with the stuff and walked out.

Upon his return he started arguing with me saying I shouldn’t have screamed like a lunatic and drafting public’s attention and making a scene over a prank. He said this was not acceptable to him and it shouldn’t be to me as well since we have a reputation and what I did at the store made us both look bad. I shut the door and remained in the room til he went outside.

he still thinks I overreacted and embarrassed both of us by screaming.

S’PORE COVID WAVE HITS PEAK & WE MIGHT STILL SEE A SLIGHT SURGE – WEAR A MASK IF SICK

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In a recent statement, Singapore’s Minister of Health, Ong Ye Kung, addressed the current surge in COVID-19 cases in the country, providing insights into the situation and outlining strategies to navigate the challenges.

He allayed fears that the worst is still to come, assuring the people that we are already seeing the peak of the current Covid wave, hence no mandatory wearing of masks is required at the moment.

Post-COVID Scenario

Minister Ong began by acknowledging the global increase in patient loads post-COVID, particularly affecting older individuals whose health may have deteriorated during the pandemic. Despite officially exiting the pandemic and entering DORSCON Green in February, Singapore, like many parts of the world, is grappling with the enduring impact of COVID-19 on healthcare systems.

Three Waves in 2023

Highlighting the timeline of events, Minister Ong noted three waves of COVID-19 in Singapore this year. The first occurred at the beginning of the year, followed by a second wave dominated by the HK.3 and EG.5 variants in October. Before the second wave subsided, a new wave, propelled by the JN.1 variant, emerged.

Current Status and Healthcare System Strain

Minister Ong reported a recent plateau in estimated infection numbers, indicating a potential peak in the current wave. However, with Christmas and New Year celebrations approaching, a slight surge is anticipated. Approximately 600 hospital beds are currently occupied by COVID-19 patients, constituting a significant workload on the 10,000-bed healthcare system.

Managing the Situation

Despite the strain, Minister Ong expressed confidence in Singapore’s ability to withstand the current situation without implementing additional safe management measures. He emphasized the importance of personal responsibility, urging individuals to wear masks when sick, stay at home, and continue getting vaccinated, particularly for seniors and those with underlying illnesses.

Snippet of Ong Ye Kung’s Speech

On COVID-19. In February this year, we came out of the COVID-19 pandemic officially and entered DORSCON Green. Post-COVID, patient loads have increased everywhere around the world. Older people are becoming more sick. I think during the three years of the pandemic, their health probably deteriorated. It is not just us but everywhere in the world. We all suffer from long COVID-19 as a healthcare system.

Post-COVID, the hospitals are getting a lot busier. COVID never really goes away. It is endemic, which means we will have to live with it. We had three waves this year. The first wave happened at the beginning of the year. The second wave happened in October, and was dominated by two variants HK.3 and EG.5. Before that wave subsided, a new wave was stacked on it, which was driven by another variant called JN.1.

In recent days, we have been reporting very high estimated infection numbers, but probably the actual numbers are much higher. The indications are that we have plateaued. For the past few days, the estimated infection numbers have come down so I think we have plateaued. However, we are coming to Christmas and New Year with lots of celebrations, family dinners and parties. We might have a slight surge, but more or less we are seeing the peak of this wave.

All in all, about 600 of our hospital beds are taken up by COVID-19 patients. About 10 to 20 ICU beds are taken, which is not high. For hospital beds, 600 or 700 hospital beds are quite a drain on our system which is a 10,000-bed strong system. To take up 600, 700 beds, at 6% or 7%, is not small. It is a significant workload on our healthcare workers and system. Nevertheless, I think our assessment remains that we can wear through this. We can withstand this.

There have been many members of the public who have written to me to say that many of their friends have been infected with COVID-19 and it is time to change the rules and impose mandatory mask wearing, especially on public transport. I have always assured people that in Singapore, when we have to implement a measure, we will do so if it is necessary. But for this wave, where we are now, based on the impact and the burden on our healthcare system, I think we can withstand this without additional safe management measures.

But we appeal to everyone: when you are sick, wear a mask and stay at home. If you have to come into contact with someone, wear a mask. Very importantly, continue to take your vaccinations once a year, especially if you are a senior or if you have underlying illnesses and are vulnerable. Whatever vaccine you have taken will wear off in about one to one-and-a half years. It is important you get it renewed because your antidote does not last forever.

To help with vaccinations, I think we need a new strategy.  We have been relying on Joint Testing and Vaccination Centres (JTVC). There are eight or nine around the island and gradually we are reducing to maybe five sometime next year. But I think at this stage, when people feel that COVID-19 is endemic and is part and parcel of life, not many people would want to purposely go to a big centre to get themselves vaccinated.

I think we need to rely on the GPs. Today, we have a couple hundred of GPs who administer COVID vaccinations. We have to work hard to increase that number and then put it as part of Healthier SG so that we roll it out very actively to as many seniors as we can, to get our vaccinations up. Next year, if we have another wave and we will, we will be much more prepared.

 I should make one more point about COVID, which is that we have finally completed a very long process of awarding all our COVID heroes. As you know, this is a crisis of a generation. It is a concerted national effort because so many people were involved. We have conferred recognition and awards to over 110,000 people, many of whom are healthcare workers. All of them are heroes who have worked together to help us overcome this crisis.

Unfortunately, we hear of news that people are selling their medals. I think it is a very small minority. I will say this: It is wrong to sell your medals. It is with great appreciation and respect that we selected the names and conferred the medals on these deserving people. Therefore we hope too, that you reciprocate the respect and cherish the medal and the recognition. There are others who wrote in too. Some are individual doctors or nurses who wrote in to say that I have contributed but somehow, I was left out. We will look into these cases. As you know, we try to be as inclusive as possible in recognising this national effort and everyone involved in this national effort. Over 110,000 recipients – that is how inclusive we have been.

We had a nomination process. We had an appeal process and one appeal after another, trying to include as many as possible. It is possible that we missed out some and if we do, that exercise is over but we will try our best to make it up as much as possible. There is however one anonymous group who apparently are doctors in isolation wards. They have claimed that they have also been missed out. But they are anonymous so I do invite them to please give us your names and the hospital you worked in, and we will certainly look at your cases objectively.

On manpower, we set out this year to recruit 4,000 healthcare workers, nurses in particular – 3,000 for the public sector and 1,000 for the private sector. It is important because we are expanding our facilities and healthcare capacity, and we need manpower to be able to operate them. It also makes up for the nurses that we lost during the pandemic due to international competition. I would say the number needs time to finalise, but I am very confident that we will exceed our target this year of 4,000 nurses. It is a very good encouraging sign that shows that Singapore is a place where people are willing to join healthcare and foreign nurses are also willing to work in Singapore, working side by side with our local nurses. We will continue this effort and not back down.

And finally, we are doing a lot more to expand our capacity. This year we opened two new polyclinics, one in Tampines North and one here in Sembawang. Next year, there will be more. All in all, by 2030, we hope to have more than 30 polyclinics. Hospitals take a longer time to build but painstakingly, after a lot of the hard work, we are seeing the first signs of expanding capacity and it starts here in the Woodlands Health Campus.

SCAMMER SHOWED UP AT ACTRESS XIANG YUN’S MUM’S FUNERAL, OFFERS “RITUAL” FOR $1.2K

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In a distressing revelation, veteran Singaporean actress Xiang Yun shared her harrowing experience of almost falling victim to a heartless scammer at her mother’s wake.

The incident sheds light on the audacity of scammers who prey on vulnerable individuals, even during moments of deep grief and mourning.

The Scammer’s Scheme

Lianhe Zaobao reported that Xiang Yun, mourning the loss of her mother who passed away on Sept 21, faced an unexpected and troubling situation during the wake. A man claiming to be from a funeral services company arrived, asserting that the scheduled monk for the ritual had to attend another funeral due to the master’s demise.

The man proposed an earlier ritual, expressing a purported sincerity by donating the fees to the deceased master’s funeral. However, this apparent goodwill concealed malicious intent.

Attempting to exploit the situation, the scammer informed Xiang Yun that the ritual could be conducted earlier, requesting an immediate payment of $1,200 via PayNow. Sensing the suspicious nature of the encounter, Xiang Yun wisely decided to verify the man’s claims by contacting the funeral services company directly.

Swift Intervention and Disillusionment

Upon contacting the funeral director, Xiang Yun swiftly discovered the truth – the man’s claims were entirely false. The funeral services company had not sent anyone for an unscheduled ritual, and the entire scenario was a deceitful attempt to scam the grieving actress during a vulnerable moment.

Xiang Yun’s Response

Expressing her dismay, Xiang Yun questioned the morality of individuals who would exploit someone during a funeral. She emphasized the emotional toll such incidents take on grieving families and urged everyone to remain vigilant against scammers, especially in moments of vulnerability.

Images source: @xiang_yun_ on Instagram

GIRL’S PARENTS ARRANGED A MARRIAGE FOR HER, BUT THE MAN TURNS OUT TO BE SOT & PSYCHO

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In my (20f) culture arranged marriages are very normal, 3 months ago.

I met a guy through my mother, and after the second meeting, my parents agreed to the marriage without even asking me first.

Whenever i told anybody at that time that I wanted to end it they would tell me to give him a chance, so i did just that because of either way i couldn’t tend it straight away.

Now 3 months later I absolutely hate him, I came to realize that he is a master manipulator, and whenever i talk to my mother we get into a huge fight that usually ends terribly.

Today I tried talking to my father and it did not end well, he says that my reasons to end things are very trivial and not the things that would break or make a relationship, I am now considering ending it personally, but the problem is i could shame both my parents if i do it.

How should I proceed from here?

if i stopped my forced arranged marriage which could lead to embarrassing my father??

Here are what netizens think:

  • Do it as an investment, divorce take his money and run away.
  • It’s your life, you were never given a choice when you are born to this world, but I think you should at least have the choice of choosing your life.
  • Tell your father straight to the face if they force it, you will end it. So don’t bother wasting everyone’s time.

WOMAN SAYS NO TO HUSBAND FROM ADOPTING HER SON FROM PREVIOUS MARRIAGE

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I’m married to my husband of two years, “Devon”, I have a son named “Levi” from a previous relationship. Devon has known him his whole life, Levi’s father and I were together until he went missing before our son was born.

So about my ex… he went missing. MISSING. he didn’t abandon me, he didn’t walk out, he went missing. I don’t care about your theories or if you think he did so save it. That’s not what I’m asking here. Be respectful at least.

Devon loves Levi with all of his heart, and Levi loves him too, I know it. Levi looks a lot like his father and while I’ll always love him, I’ve moved on from the relationship. He was a big adventurer and I often talk about him with Levi, I show him photos and he visits his dad’s family pretty frequently, he knows he’s ”daddy” while Devon is ”papa” or ”Devon” depending on his mood, either way, he’s his father figure. We do receive money from my ex’s side, his father takes care of some of Levi’s expenses, but that’s not the issue here.

Three days ago, Devon asked me about adopting Levi, he wants to give him his surname and become his legal parent.

I said no. He was devastated by this, but I don’t think I’m ready or that it’s even fair. We can legally do it but I don’t wanna. I said he could hyphenate Levi’s last name with his, but he wants to fully adopt him, he said my ex’s parents can still be a part of his life, he doesn’t have any problem but I said he could ask when Levi was older and that if he says yes, then I’m okay with it, but in the meantime, my answer is no.

He’s been distant ever since and now and I might be wondering if I was crushing his hopes, I called my sister to ask her opinion and she said I was because this is the only father Levi has known all of his life and I’m taking something big from him.

Here are what netizens think:

  • your son should decide when he is older.
  • They just need to talk about it more and see where his need to adopt right now is coming from.
  • What would happen if something happened to you? Who would get custody of Levi? I wonder if Levi’s biological father has been declared legally dead.