My husband and I have been married for 6 years.

He works in sales and I am a SAHM for our 1 and 3 year old.

We have always pooled our wages and assets (when I was previously working and including any extra bonuses / gift cards, we got during that time).

My husband has recently made a sale where a $50K gift card accompanies it (half to be paid upfront and other half to come in a few years time once the property is completed).

My husband has recently gotten into watches and wants to buy an expensive watch for $18K.

My husband has said I could have the remaining amount of $7K of the first gift card and the remaining amount (second gift card of $25K) in a few years will all go into our savings. He believes he deserves more because he made the sale – however, I feel everything spent should be equal as being a SAHM (which he likes me being) does not come with those sorts of opportunities so there would be no way to ever get that kind of money.

The conversation has also upset me, making me feel like he does not see us as equals in our marriage.

Am I the wrong for wanting an equal amount out of the $50K and getting upset by this?

When I asked him about this he said I didn’t deserve an equal amount because I didn’t do anything for the sale and thought that I was being ungrateful for what I was being offered. Therefore he has now said he won’t buy the watch at all, so now I also won’t get any money from the bonus, instead, it will all go into savings (which he won’t let me use for anything personal – although he will not use it for any personal items either).

(Note: It’s not exactly the amount that I specifically needed because if the watch was only $5K, I’d also only ask for $5K too. I just feel hurt that he thinks he deserves of more it and how he’s handled the situation)

ust to clarify – I am happy and want my husband to get the watch he really like from the first gift card – I had just hoped for the extra amount to make it equal, to have come out of the second gift card in a few years time.

A man who tried to find girls during his trip to Thailand, Pattaya tried using dating apps but all he got were “ladies”.

He could not accept the fact that they are men as his desperation is surpass his logic.

Here is the story:

I was in Pattaya with my friends last weekend and one of them has always had trouble finding a girlfriend.

Previously, he was addicted to pubs and discos with hostesses and always used the easy way out by attracting the wrong girl with money.

So during the trip, we played the jet ski while he relaxes on the beach.

When we came back to shore, he said that he was able to contact multiple girls on Facebook dating and Tinder claiming that they are interested in him and that one of them will be joining us for the drinking session tonight.

He showed us the photo and we immediately knew that they were not girls but men. One of them looks over 180cm tall.

We tried to be a good friend and tell him that the girls he is talking to are not actually girls but he refused to believe us and thinks that they are interested in him.

I told him: “Firstly, there are like a gorilla, secondly, you think you, Andy Lau, ah. Many girls come to you ah”

He refused to listen to us and insist that they are women as he had “heard their voice messages”. It kind of sounds like a man pretending to sing opera while talking.

So we when for a drink and one of the ladyboys did turn up. She looks like she just shaved as there were small studs coming out from her top lip.

It was so obvious and my friend was happy and showing off to us that he found a girl.

The happiness was short-lived until she started to talk, she sounded more man than man more than me.

He tried to be polite and said he was drunk and went back to the hotel secretly.

Well, since the person he jio is already here we drank together.

When we got back to the hotel, he was hugging his pillows and his eyes were in tears.

For context, he is in his 30s.

[Admin hope you post this soon!] I started my job hunt after grad late this year to rest up and somehow I managed to land on two relatively attractive offer: (I wish I was humble bragging but I really am not. Do read through and let me know what you think!)

1. 90k PA, job scope that’s relatively boring and ded (imho) with a decent worklife balance (introduced by my friend) [relevant to my degree CS related. No its not in any of the big companies youre thinking about. Its not a 996 cs work job]

2. 70k PA, job scope similar to my childhood dream (a job where I get to travel frequently). Not relevant to my degree at all, not CS related. But a job I always romanticised about. Work life balance is not the best (Interviewer was upfront due to nature of job- calls and meetings across timezones)

In terms of prospect, both job have relatively good prospect [in-demand skills] but frankly, the first job probably more cause its a HIGH demand skill [cause CS bro. Yall chose the right course if you want some money]

Alot of my friends say just go for the first one. The 20k difference is a no brainer. 20k can bring me to multiple trips to difference places a year. And fact is. If I don’t like it there. Its probably easier to make the switch. And frankly. I don’t HATE the job. I’m more of neutral with it.

The 2nd job though is so much more relevant to my interest (think of it as a dream childhood job that ends up paying less than you thought it would). Always wanted to do travelling for a job. However, Its absolutely irrelevant to my field. And I may perhaps be romanticising the work as well since i was never in the industry (yet another reason why I have been cautioned to chose the first one instead. I may end up hating jt after a year and give up the lucrative first option). Traveling for work is very different from leisure. And once I enter this field, I will not touch CS at all (so if I stay too long here, it’s really goodbye to my cs degree LOL cause cant rmb jacksht)

Practically speaking, the first option just makes more sense… but the second option….is hard to come by. I’m supposed to respond by Monday for the 2nd option [the first option gave me 2 weeks to think about it whew. Great company honestly]. If only my dream job pays as much…….

But it doesn’t. So now I really don’t know what to choose.

I thought we had a good intimate life, we were open and honest (I thought), had intercourse on average every other day, and had been together for just over 3 years.

My gf has always been secretive, but I never had any reason to think it was a red flag. One day she got a suspicious text though, so I logged in to her phone and saw very clear evidence of her cheating.

What struck me though was that she was extremely graphic about her “needs” and how I wouldn’t be able to meet them because I am not into it (I won’t go into detail about what they are). I am not vanilla by any means and am more than happy to try new things, so I am stumped as to why she didn’t bring this up with me and instead resorted to cheating.

Over the next few days I was deliberating on what to do, and what I settled on is extremely petty and may make me an asshole.

After a couple of drinks for Dutch courage, I initiated and immediately started to do the kinds of things she described in those messages. She was clearly taken off guard, but in a good way as she was very much enjoying herself, a lot more than usual. In fact, I can’t lie, it was amazing seeing how vocal she was about how it felt etc and I almost didn’t follow through with what I did next.

I was edging her for a while (part of what she described as loving in the texts) and was making her beg and plead to allow her to come.

I obliged and as she was convulsing and screaming, I leaned into her ear and told her what I saw and that she was now dumped, while she was coming.

I then left the room and the apartment after grabbing a few things.

Since then I haven’t spoken to her and don’t plan to, but she has been blowing up my phone (I haven’t opened the messages).

During this market downturn, I lost 1million+ US dollars due to the UST depeg and other tokens going down 80-90%. And I’m back to my net worth 2 years+ ago. I took a really long time building that portfolio, from farming defi governance utility/tokens, meme coins, your blue chip stocks. I thought I was smart, but I was merely early in the mania phase.

It felt…. Nothing. I know it can’t be compared to people who are worst off than me.

I feel so desensitized until I blew it all away. I was arrogant at the point to not have diversified properly especially with super high risk on assets like crypto.

I thought anchor protocol has a yield that was unsustainable but still decided to go for it and held it all the way down because ultimately there’s so many smart/VC people backing it. Nothing can go wrong right? And here I’m selling it at 10cents on the dollar.

I’m a really frugal person and even when I had that million + dollars I scrimped like someone who only had 100 bucks in the bank. Because I don’t cash it out at all. No one even knew I was worth that much. When I reached a million, I aimed higher with the same risk taking strategies but I didn’t know that it would be way harder. I would definitely work on my allocation strategies next time.

Anyone who had lost majority of their wealth >90%? How did you guys pick yourself up again?

I probably am able to make it through this phase and 2 more years of uni but I’m not sure if I’m ever going back to my peak net worth again. On the bright side, I still have my family, lifelong friends that see me for who I am and a healthy life. And that to me is more important than numbers on a screen.

Here are what netizens think:

• If it is just paper loss, you never really own it in the first place. Avoid putting all your eggs into the same basket next time specially in very speculative yet unproductive investments.

• Sigh I can empathise your situation cos I’m in a worse shit. But just bite the bullet and move on, believe market will go back up and believe the money can be earned again. Chin up and move on

• What you have lost is only 2 years of time. Take it as a learning opportunity. You are still young, with many years ahead to rebuild it.

I just want a sanity check. I was talking with my friend recently, and we were catching up with each other’s lives. My friend is a Chinese man and an Indian woman. He was talking about one of his cousins, we can call him Tom (27), and mentioned that Tom is getting married soon. I was surprised, I hadn’t known Tom had been dating, but my friend explained that he had been seeing a girl for about a year now. My friend then mentions that the girl is 19. When I expressed my surprise at the situation, my friend just shrugged and told me that “these kind of girls get married early.”

I grew up in a normal neighbourhood so I know that his statement isn’t really true, or is a non-informative generalization at best. But for the rest of the night, I couldn’t help but feel weirded out about the idea of a 19-year-old woman marrying a 27-year-old man. I can’t help but look at Tom in a new light–a creepy light. Several friends of mine have been equally weirded out, but weirdly, not many of my male friends have found it strange, no matter what their ethnicity.

Am I getting worked up over nothing? What would your reaction be in this scenario?

Here are what netizens think:

• I’ll never understand why other guys who do this. I once had to work with a dude who was like 45 at the time (I was like 24 for reference). Once on a lunch break he asked me if I knew any cool spots to pick up chicks, I told him I didn’t and asked if he was into clubbing. He told me he was, which surprised me cause he had a very “homebody” aura to him.

• I don’t understand why it’s not weird to some people. Yeah, it wouldn’t be weird if a 30 year old married a 38 year old. But that’s not because of the age gap itself ; it’s because of the amount of life experience already had by each. 19 has no experience at all. Nothing. Likely can’t even regular her own impulses yet. It’s not okay.

• I’m married to a man who’s six years younger than me. I would never have dated him when he was 19, he would have annoyed me like it’s no one’s business. His own mother describes him as being 35 since he was 15, but even with that he still woods have been too young. At 28, when we started dated he had a really good idea of who he was and what he wanted in life. He had done things and wasn’t being taken advantage of. We were both adults, and I didn’t have any power over him due to an experience gap. We’re equal partners in our marriage and parenting our children because we treat each other as such. I don’t think anyone should aim to have an experience gap over their partner, it really makes things unbalanced.