My wife is my roommate.

My wife and I are both 52, together for about 30 years-27 of those married. We used to be very active in bed when we were younger and it seemed like we f-ed all the time, trying different things and in different places.

Once we started having kids things began to change. I completely understand that this happens but had hoped as our kids got older she might regain some of her earlier drive and adventure.

Unfortunately, that has not happened. Where we once might get spontaneous and f in the middle of the day, wherever we were, we now only have it some nights after going to bed.

And this is only when I am told by her that I should come to bed-no build-up, flirting, or simple seduction like when we first got together.

Both of our kids are now adults and mainly out of the house. We have plenty of opportunities to rekindle some of our spark but I see no effort from her.

She says she is interested and that nothing is wrong but every time I attempt to flirt I get a lukewarm response if any at all.

It just seems like we are roommates and as much as I want to see that change I don’t see promise. I have discussed this with her many times and every time I do there seems to be one more thing that holds her up.

She said I drank too much so I quit about a year ago. She said she wanted me to spend more time at home so I do. I help do things around the house and offer to do more. I’m no selfless saint but I feel I am giving what she asks for but not getting the result I expect.

Making love is not only a way for me to maintain a connection with her but it also helps me relieve stress. I end up just pleasuring myself more than my wife does, just to take some edge off.

27M Recently found out I absolutely love sharing my GF

I’ve been with my GF (22F) for almost 3 years now and we are always exploring something new together, but few months ago I’ve stumbled upon an idea of sharing her with another guy.

We have a peak communication and it’s easy to talk about anything with her. At first she was not into it that much but after few months we decided to try it.

I’ve got my friend over, he was not informed on what we planned to do. We had a night of fun talks, few drinks, and then is when things went wild.

Long story short, after it hit, we got all cuddly and as it was hot we took our clothes off. She suddenly started giving blowing me. After few minutes I’ve asked her if she would like to give head to my friend, which she happily did.

Things went perfectly and everyone had so much fun, but the catch is, I think I’ve got addicted on sharing her with my friends, I can’t stop thinking about random situations where I’d just ask her to “help out” my friend. It gets me incredibly turned on and we don’t do it as much as I’d want it.

Also I’ve realized that showing her off makes me way too turned on than it should, can’t stop thinking about how hot and good in bed she is and that is probably why I want to share her so much, that moment when they get off, when they try her, when she goes down on them and their eyes go into the back of their heads. It’s just amazing!

Feel free to say anything, just had to get this off my chest, and also thank you for reading

Netizens’ comments

1. I’ve got my own opinion about these kind of things and the people involved, but that doesn’t matter as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone i guess.
2. As long as no one gets hurt, do your thing.
3. You’re about to find out you absolutely hate it when she leaves you.

I want to know how screwed I am when I get called back to reservist and all my stuff as been dropped off at the depot where they collect old LBVs and uniforms.

For context, I worked overseas for a very long time after NS and my parents decided to free up space in their storeroom by disposing of my NS items at a logistic base without my knowledge. (Least they went through the correct process)

As I’ve returned to Singapore for work and when I get called back, how tf am I gonna explain to my CO/RSM/S4 that I don’t even have a pair of number 4 let alone my iLBV and helmet? Can I just request a new kit?

Any regulars or seasoned officers can help?

Here are what netizens think:

• Use emart credits (and cash if not enough credits) to buy new sets of uniform. Inform your commanders for controlled/issued items such as helmet and LBV. The unit will be able to procure them for you. At most you will get fucked a little and get arrowed to do some stupid tasks that nobody wants to do. You will not go to DB.

• Tell your sergeant major and commanding officer the truth. You’re not the first person to misplace/dispose of SAF equipment by accident. They will find a solution for you, though part of the solution will likely entail buying new stuff like uniform. Since your parents messed up, get them to pay for you haha. The controlled equipment like helmet and LBV will have to be sorted by your unit.

• You may want to find someone who is going to MR soon for a iLBV and helmet.Those items cannot be bought on emart.

• Just explain to your unit what happened. Some more your parents disposed properly so not like they anyhow throw downstairs. I got 2 sets of lbv and uniforms cause the older ones somehow shrank after a few years so they gave me everything new.

• Bro relax you are reservist not NSF. Not a slave anymore who will anyhow get thrown into DB. Just explain things like an adult and people will understand.

Is it normal kind of landlord here?

Just relocated for work and currently residing in a shared room with the landlord for a few weeks. However, I’ve noticed that the landlord in Singapore has quite a few stringent rules (bearing in mind the room isn’t cheap), or perhaps my landlord is just quite a Karen.

Rules include:

1. No cooking allowed
2. Laundry is limited to once per week
3. Air conditioning is only permitted during sleep time
4. All windows must be kept closed (despite having sunshade and protection from rain)
5. No consumption of snacks in the room (like bread), although I maintain a clean space and don’t litter
6. Air freshening the toilet after use (even though I promptly flush after every 💩 sounds)
7. Switching off plugs, even when no devices are connected

Additionally, there’s the issue of her entering my room in my absence.

I think myself as a discipline guy but this seems too much. Really want to know the local views.

Netizens’ comments

1. Sadly, it is very common.
   Best to try to find a place where the landlord isn’t staying with you.
2. I am also a landlord renting out one room in my flat. Unfortunately you just chose the shorter end of the stick.
   My rules are pretty fair I guess? :
   Don’t mess up or damage anything in my place. Or fix it / pay me to fix it.
   Cooking, eating, etc. I have no restrictions as long as my tenant doesn’t cause ants or pests. Clean up after themselves.
   Utilities I don’t really restrict too, but they will pay the difference if they cause an increase of more than what per pax is supposed to cost. (hdb averages). Same goes for laundry.
3. Landlord has no right to enter the room with ur permission and reasons. That’s in standard Tenancy Agreement. Check yours.

How do i stop being afraid of sleeping with women.

I’m a 21-year-old loser man and so far only slept with escorts for the sake of getting experience (which was terrible) and also i have never kissed.

Even if i will be able to get a girl one day, i am terrified of being “exposed” as someone with a lack of both experience and skill.

Not only that, i feel like the sleeping around thing overall is just such an anxiety inducting activity. Its supposed to be natural and super fun right?

Where is the enjoyment when as a man u constantly have to perform? Whether kissing, eating her out, or fingering, you have to perform. Do it right, long enough, not for too long.

Then you start f-ing and guess what, u need to last long but not too long, u need to know what you are doing as well and also it can be hard physically (from my experience with escorts, as someone that is in overall good shape). I wont even mention thinking if im looking good while performing.

Honestly even if i could make girl interested in me, its possible that i would bail out because of that fear of embarrassment.

Netizens’ comments

1. You need to perform if you are sleeping around with people, because those people will assume you know what you are doing. that is not a romantic context though.
2. Think of sleeping with a woman as being like having a conversation between two people. I think of it as exploring someone else’s body free of clothes. No one expects you to be good out of the gate. In my experience, it’s better to be new at it with every woman. Every woman in my experience is different. Some like it rough while others like it slow and gentle. What you watch is an over exaggeration of what really happens. My experiences have lasted hours. Above all do it with someone you love and enjoy. The other way is much worse and you feel empty inside
3. No one starts off being good in bed and know how to do everything perfectly for every woman. Your aniexty is kinda your problem and you have to figure out a way to get past that.

My soon to be ex wife wants me to lie about the reason we’re getting divorced (her infidelity) and has begun insinuating the reason she cheated was because I did.

hello everyone. I’m 38m. I was married to my soon to be ex wife (39f) for 15 years, until I found out she was cheating on me. We’re in the middle of divorce proceedings.

I don’t talk about why our marriage ended to many people out of respect for our kids, however a few close friends and family have asked and I have told them.

One of my best friends is married to one of my ex wife’s close friends. He was one of the people I confided what really happened to, and apparently this has affected his wife’s friendship with my exwife, according to my exwife she has become distant and doesn’t want to hang out anymore.

My ex wife has now asked me to lie about the reason why we got divorced, and to say to people who don’t know that she cheated that it “just didn’t work out”, and to tell the people who do know about her infidelity that I also had begun to develop feelings for my current girlfriend (31f) while we were still married, in my ex wife’s words, “so her cheating doesn’t seem “as bad”. This is absolutely untrue, and even though I knew my current girlfriend while I was married, there were never any romantic feelings until about a year after we separated and divorce proceedings had begun.

This morning at my sons football game, my girlfriend, who has a son on the same team, was talking to another mother, and that mother made a “joke” about my girlfriend “snatching” me from my exwife. My girlfriend was confused and asked her to elaborate, and this woman said that my ex had insinuated to her that my girlfriend and I had begun dating a full year before we actually had, while I was still married, which my wife knows unequivocally isn’t true.

I want to keep a civil relationship for our kids sake, but I’m incredibly upset at her for not only suggesting I lie to cover up a mistake she made that destroyed our family, but also that she’s spinning the narrative that she only cheated because I was cheating too.

Is this enough to cut off all contact, with the exception of things that don’t directly have to do with our sons?

I don’t have evidence or religious knowledge but I really noticed a pattern that the universe is sending me signs. And the signs keep getting louder and louder.

I noticed since years ago that I tend to get very sentimental about ex boyfriends. Every time I intentionally go to somewhere we went to previously in order to relive good memories, something very bad will immediately happen within 24 hours. And none of these “unlucky incidents” happened when I didn’t try to reminisce about the past.

There was even once where I didn’t believe the coincidence and tried to walk back to an old dating spot one week after getting into trouble for the same act earlier. The bad karma following that was UNBELIEVABLY HORRIBLE.  The universe is trying to tell me, don’t do this, move on. You’re not supposed to be doing this. But it can’t verbally say so it sends some “punishment” in my direction.

The most recent ex I loved with all my heart, I save the songs he like into one playlist and looped it. (I did this while in a relationship, my current doesn’t know he likes such songs) and  I noticed every single time I loop it, inconvenient and frustrating stuff keep happening at work. (5-10 days) When I don’t loop it, all are well. (3 days)

The universe is strongly signalling to me, don’t pine over someone who’s not worth it anymore! Look at ur current boyfriend, and how loyal he has been! Why can’t you see the good in him and remain loyal to him and only him! This is emotional cheating!

I realise every time I use music or any other form to reminisce about sweet expired memories, especially with a current boyfriend, the universe will punish me in some way. To send me in the right direction.

To all the sentimental and emotional girls like me who develop strong bonds with the one that got away, I want to say that it’s better to use all the emotional attachment for ur current than for ur ex . It’s good to be able to love someone so isn’t it better to redirect it at someone who really cherishes and sacrifices for you, not your ex? Don’t make the devoted current boyfriend disappointed in you!

Does anyone else experience strong signs from the universe whenever you attempt to reconnect with an ex while in a relationship? Does anyone cheat (physically or emotionally) and suffer strange repercussions after that?

Netizens’ comments

• It’s called confirmation bias…You tend to look for incidents to justify your beliefs….Nothing to do with universe giving you signal.
  Don’t worry so much. Just change your beliefs and your realities will change

• The moral of your situation is to find someone that you really love and not someone that you don’t love that much. This will definitely trigger you to think of your ex which is unfair to your current.
  Please reconsider your current r/s & let him go if you keep thinking of your ex…or else the bad karma will follow you for life.