I have been together with my husband for 7 years and married for 3 years. Both of us are in our mid-30s and he has been working from home daily.

Right after the borders opened, he started to travel a lot (like 3-4 times a month) claiming that his company had sent him overseas for work.

90% of the time the destination is Thailand.

So he started getting cold to me after he had gone to these trips, he doesn’t answer his phones and often takes forever to reply to me.

He always says that he is in a meeting or he is tired claiming that he went straight to bed after work.

This goes on and on for around 4 months.

Until 2 weeks ago, he went off for his business trip but this time he was entirely uncontactable. I only know that his plane ticket is bound for Chiang Mai and I have no other details.

For 7 days he was uncontactable and I almost gave up. I tried to ask his friends but they had no idea what happened to him, so I stalked his Facebook account and messaged one of his best friends and call him.

Initially, the best friend said he don’t know what happened but I could tell from his voice that he was lying.

He later revealed to me that my husband had met someone else in Chiang Mai and most probably will not come back.

I told him to come over to my home to talk about it. He initially said no, But I managed to force him to come over.

So when he came over, I told him to tell the truth about my husband. I told him to look my kids in the eye and think twice before answering any fake excuses or cover-ups.

He eventually showed me some photos my husband had sent him, it was a girl who looks like in her early 20s and he revealed that my husband met her during his 1st work trip.

I asked if he know where exactly my husband is staying at but he said that he has no idea. I was thinking to fly over and confront him but he has entirely gone MIA.

Now I am in a situation where I do not know what to do. My husband can work entirely online and since he is not coming back the divorce procedure is going to be a problem since it involves the HDB.

Obviously, I will need the HDB for my kids. We both paid 50/50 for it.

I contacted my lawyer and the lawyer said that this kind of case is not as rare as one might think, it happens to both males and females.

Before I take action I am thinking if there is a chance my husband will come back. I don’t want my kids to grow up without a father.

What should I do?

A little background. Kinda long sorry.

I kicked my husband out a few months ago due to him preferring alcohol and his family (cousins). He also stressed us out, constantly giving us orders and constantly asking why the house was never clean, instead of saying hello kid’s I missed you, how was your day?.

I suffer from anxiety, major depressive disorder, cptsd and fibromyalgia plus other chronic health-related issues. My 3 kids range in age 12-4. They also have health issues (we won that health lottery right?)

So the thing is, all week I have been feeling very ill and depressed, to the point where I stopped caring about anything. Today I had a bit of energy and cooked some lunch for the kid’s but, in doing so, my carpal tunnel decided to act upon both hands (I was supposed to have surgery years ago but had a newborn and it would have been a minimum of 6 months recovery) to the point I couldn’t even pick up a fork.

My ex-husband called to see if he could still visit the kid’s since it is a good weather. He is not allowed in my house due to his constant berating and criticism. He is not on the lease anymore either. I asked him what he would be doing since I know how he is. He said he would be upstairs with my daughter (he cares more about her, forgetting about the boys) cleaning her room, just like the day before. I told him her room was clean and he didn’t really have a reason to be upstairs (he likes to go snooping through my drawers and bedroom just to start a fight).

I proceeded to ask him if he could help me wash some dishes since my hands were in pain, my 12 yr old (autistic) can’t wash the dishes due to having problems in his finger’s. He snarkily said no, that since I had decided to kick him out, he had no obligation to help me and to figure it out on my own. I proceeded to extricate myself from the call and gave it to my son. I hate asking for help and he knew that. He knows that I only ask for help when extremely needed.

So my son, still on the phone asks me if his dad was allowed to visit. I said no. Mind you I was already crying from his response and still trying to shake off my depression.

I feel like an ass because I decided to save myself some mental/physical anguish that his visit would cost me over my kid’s seeing their father.

My kid’s say it was okay because they know how he is and have seen me try to hold it in. But still, I don’t think it’s fair to them. I forgot to add, he see’s them almost daily, 2 hour’s or less, outside of my house with the excuse he can’t have them at his house, because my daughter once accidentally made her baby cousin cry. He lives with his cousins.

bf doesn’t like when I look good

I’m a 23f my bf is 23 too. I dont really do much on a day to day, id say i look like a slob, no makeup, workout clothes, etc.

like once a week my bf and i will go on a date, and i take this time to make myself look really good. hair, makeup, cute outfit etc.

he begins acting extremely weird when i start getting ready and it kinda throws off the whole vibe for the night.

the other day he asked if i could wear “comfortable clothes”, i asked why, and he said bc i “act like im better than him” when i dress up..?

first, i don’t understand because he’s right next to me the entire time we’re out.

second i dont even dress up, just a cute shirt and some leggings.

i asked what he meant by that and he dismissed it. not sure what this means or how to proceed from here

Hey, so my friend and I were talking during a lecture. You know, whispering. Since it’s my second time taking the course, I talked a bit more than usual but tried not to bother anyone.

My vision is bad so I always sit really close to the professor so that I can understand the presentation. I sit in the 3rd row and for some reason, everybody else resorts to rows 7 and further up. That’s usually at my uni.

At the break of the lecture, my friend and I just start talking at usual speaking volume.

All of a sudden, a guy really aggressively storms down, focuses completely on me, less on my friend (23, m), and starts yelling: “Shut your F Mouth, you two! People can hear you up to the last row, it’s really not bearable, shut the f up!!!”

And I responded that we didn’t mean to bother anyone, but I couldn’t help but ask why he couldn’t have said that in a friendly manner.

I surely didn’t bother him on purpose, I was simply unaware that my talking was bothering people more than the other people’s occasional talking. I have also been bothered by people’s conversations before but I approach and ask kindly if they could try keeping it down a bit more.

The guy responds: “because you guys have already been bothering me last week!!” So I asked: “Then why didn’t you come and tell us kindly last week?”

And he responded: “Because I wanted to be friendly! For real though, shut the F up!” He seemed very intimidating. My friend and I would have been quiet had somebody told us we were bothersome sooner. We didn’t mean to disturb others. The guy leaves up to his seat (3 rows behind us, not in the last row at all) and the story is over.

I understand I did something wrong and it was never my intention to bother the man, but I fail to understand how it was ok to explode at us like that. 200 other people are still present in the lecture hall.

He was way louder than the entire lecture or people taking a break had been. I have never seen him, met him nor talked to him before. Am I in the wrong for talking and getting upset that I was yelled at?

A man was turned off after a potential gf candidate told him that she is looking for a rich that can supplement her lavish lifestyle of going for facial treatments of over S$10,000 and buying her branded goods.

Here is the man’s epic response to the gold diggers out there:

A potential gf told me something that made me so turn off I wanted to vomit.

The girl said: “All these are costly. I have to consider looking for a man with a lot of money to make up for it. Otherwise, I can’t afford to support myself, and the speed of spending money is faster than making money.”

she said, “these” referring to cosmetics, facials and branded items.

My reply: Good luck finding a guy like that, here is a picture of the birthday present I’m getting for you next year.

I then told off the girl saying,

if I want find a girl that is like that I rather go for social escorts or chickens because every day can change “flavour”. Today find short hair tomorrow find long hair next day find ang gong siao.

Much more economic, just like buying economic rice, can pick so many different dishes and at a cheaper price. Without going through all the garbage dates at restaurants that cost so much more.

Nowadays, I know why so many guys marry a foreign woman. Most of them only have a simple request such as not living in poverty.

I’m not saying I’m poor nor I cant afford, I’m simply so turn off that this is the mentality that gold diggers have.

Starting from the beginning:

I began working at my current place of employment nearly 3 years ago. When I first started, I had only worked with my boss for about a week. She then left on maternity leave for a few months. She was having her 2nd child with her boyfriend (with whom she has been with for 8 years, lives with, already has another child with, and he has 3 of his own from a previous relationship).

When I first started working there, I got the impression she did care for me. Though I’m sure her being close to her due date was probably the most forefront thing on her mind.

3 months went by and she returned to work. We worked closely together from that point on. Each day, we started getting more and more friendly with each other. We were getting along great, having fun at work, and seemingly having a great friendship.

We would even play video games online together with each other, her boyfriend, and some other co workers as a group. Although she and I were always competing with specifically each other.

I felt like I had a practically new best friend. We would text about various things after work and on weekends. Share funny videos we saw, say something that just happened to us, etc. Though I always made sure to never push the boundary. While I may have found her attractive, she was a mom of 2, (plus 3 “bonus”), in a relationship, and about 8 years older than me. I never actually considered any sort of action I wanted to take.

As the months went by, we found ourselves at a colleauges wedding reception. By some turn of events, we wound up alone together. It was at this point that she told me how she thinks of me often, and while she and her boyfriend didn’t have a “S” life at home, she often thought about me for her own pleasure.

We did it that night.

Shortly after, we decided to start a physical only “relationship” where we would flirt, touch, and do whatever else we could do during work hours, secretly of course.

We did it several more times. Keep in mind, that I am barely 21 during this beginning phase, she is in her early 30’s.

Nearly 2 years have gone by since the start. We have “ended” things just to have them start again several times after.

What was once physical has turned highly emotional. We are always jealous of when the other is with someone else (ie me on an actual date, her getting drunk and messaging me the “acts” she just performed on her boyfriend).

Every night I have guilt. We still work together. I feel like I’m attached to this woman. I don’t have feelings per se, but I feel that we are connected and these emotions will never break. I know what I did was wrong. I know I was used because i m a much younger single male.

I feel bad for what I’ve been doing. And yet my mind won’t let me out of this hole I’ve put myself in.

My husband admitted to his friends that he didn’t find me beautiful. Nothing feels the same anymore

I’m newly married. After our honeymoon my husband had a group video call with his best friends. After I said hello and chatted for a bit with them I excused myself to go for a walk.

I decided I needed to get my raincoat because it looked like it was about to rain but my husband and his friends thought I’ve already got out.

They started interrogating about our honeymoon and they were all teasing and laughing until one of his best friends asked him if my looks were still an issue for him.

My husband told her that he loved me and that we had a great honeymoon and that I’m beautiful on the inside and he said “you can’t have it all”.

She insisted on wondering whether he felt he’d downgraded from his ex girlfriend and he said “maybe, but she (me)makes me happy.”

Another friends then interjected and said I wasn’t bad looking if I lost some weight, my husband agreed.

Nothing feels the same anymore. I always knew I wasn’t beautiful but I thought that he liked how I looked, or at least, didn’t mind it so much.

I know he values my other qualities and that he loves me and is very kind to me but I don’t feel good with him and I haven’t been happy since that day (5 weeks ago).

I have lost weight under these weeks and he’s paid me a lot of compliments about that but I don’t want him commenting anything about my physical appearance anymore.

I hate every encouraging word he has to say and yet I feel like I need to be more appealing to him. I feel so much hurt it’s insane! 🙁

Oh goodie, wait till y’all hear this one.

a bit of backstory, my sister has about.. 4 kids, which have all been taken away and she hasn’t seen any of them in 5-6 years.

i walked into my dads room to get my phone when i found my sister sitting on the bed, sho0ting up, if you don’t know what that is, you should probably avoid this post.

The catch is, she’s 8months pregnant!

I tried to ignore her and just said ‘Hand me my phone.’ and she replied with ‘its not here, you need to get the f out’, to which i replied ‘its right there on the f-ing bed, and this is my dads room!’

She said ‘you need to watch your attitude little girl, and know your place’

i said, ‘insert name, you need to find somewhere else to stay if your gonna be doing that stupid stuff. Your gonna lose that baby like all the rest and it will be your fault, that baby will never remember you as anything more than a stranger and I’m not too upset about that, its probably for the better’

Her, being high and crazy said ‘shut the f up you little f-er’

‘oh come on, you don’t deserve to be a mom, you love to make the babies, but never take care of them; you don’t deserve to be a mother!’ those were the last words to cone out of my mouth before i took my phone and walked away, I’m furious , because there are teenagers and kids in this house that are curious of new things, and if they got poked by one of those needles they would be done for and that makes me so mad because she knows.