I am 25 and my wife is 25. 2 years ago my wife had ovarian cancer and had to get her ovaries removed to get rid of the cancer and as such we will never be able to have our own biological kids.
My wife has still not emotionally recovered from this and constantly insists that I should be with someone that can give me children.
I have been in support of my wife since we got married and biology means little to me when there is thousands of kids desperate for parents.
What gets me is the fact when people ask my wife and I in a group when we plan on having kids in a jokey way.
My wife has to make a joke and put on a face so as not to sour the mood but that night she will be in tears all over again that she cannot have her own kids.
Seriously people. You have no idea what challenges couples face and its no ones business when people decide to have kids.
Whether you meant not to be offensive is not the point.
I just had to get that off my chest. We are facing a lot of emotional damage and inconsiderate people set the rails off sometimes.
In the intricate dance of parenting, meeting children’s desires while maintaining financial stability is a delicate act. Recently, a peculiar incident surfaced, where a sixth-grade boy from Taiwan resorted to extreme measures to coerce his parents into taking him abroad. This article delves into the financial struggles of the family, the unreasonable birthday wish that triggered the events, and the broader implications of such incidents.
The Financial Struggle
The heart of the matter lies in the family’s financial constraints. The father, toiling as a production line worker, brings home a modest income. Meanwhile, the mother, a full-time homemaker, faces the dual challenge of managing finances and time with a toddler in tow.
Unreasonable Birthday Wish
In a society where peer influence holds significant sway, the boy’s birthday wish to travel abroad reflects the power of external pressures. The mother, in her frustration, grapples with the challenge of explaining the family’s inability to fulfill such extravagant wishes.
Generosity Towards the iPhone Request
Despite limited resources, the parents generously fulfilled their son’s recent request for a new iPhone. However, to their surprise, this act of generosity did not appease the child but fueled his desire for more.
Extreme Measures: Threatening with Hunger Strike
The narrative takes a drastic turn when the child resorts to an extreme measure – threatening a hunger strike unless his demand for an international trip is met. The parents find themselves in an emotional quandary, torn between concern for their child and the perplexity of his actions.
Unsettling Attitude: “You can borrow money”
Adding a layer of complexity, the child suggests that his parents should borrow money to fund the trip. This audacious response leaves the parents questioning the effectiveness of their parenting methods.
Parental Self-Doubt
The mother, overwhelmed with emotional distress, begins to doubt her abilities as a parent. She wonders whether her parenting has contributed to her child’s entitled behavior.
Social Media Reaction
The incident quickly gains traction on social media, sparking heated discussions among netizens. Opinions vary, with many attributing the child’s behavior to being overly indulged.
Community Discussion
As the story unfolds online, various perspectives emerge on how parents should handle the extravagant demands of their children. The incident prompts a broader conversation on the thin line between fulfilling desires and setting boundaries.
Analysis of Parenting Styles
Reflecting on the incident, it becomes apparent that different parenting styles can shape a child’s behavior. Balancing the act of meeting desires without fostering entitlement requires a nuanced approach.
Suggestions from Netizens
The online community becomes a source of advice for struggling parents. Extracting valuable insights from online comments, this section provides practical suggestions and words of encouragement.
The Importance of Communication
Central to any healthy parent-child relationship is effective communication. This section emphasizes the need for open dialogue, even when discussing financial limitations, to foster understanding between parents and children.
Teaching Financial Responsibility
The incident highlights the importance of instilling financial responsibility in children from a young age. Integrating financial education into parenting practices becomes a key consideration for nurturing well-rounded individuals.
Conclusion
In navigating the delicate balance between fulfilling a child’s desires and instilling financial responsibility, parents play a crucial role. The incident serves as a reminder of the complexities involved and the importance of fostering open communication and financial literacy within families.
Ladies, does it matter if your partner is unambitious and doesn’t have goals career-wise?
Since young, I always liked a simple life and doesn’t like to work too hard. I am currently earning about the median salary in sg.
As I don’t have any desire to move up the career ladder, I can predict how much I can earn maximum in the next 20-30 years. It’ll be enough to lead a simple life but defo not enough to get the finer things in life like condo, cars, exotic holidays, nice clothes, nice Renos etc. As for settling down, I believe my salary is enough for a 3-4 room bto but nothing more than that.
I’ve casually dated a few girls and most of them seem to value ambition in a partner. Unsurprisingly, I could see the disappointed looks on their faces when I told them how my future can be like. Some casual chats with my female friends also seem to confirm they prefer guys who are willing to strive and have good prospects.
I’d really love to find a girl who is willing to live a simple life too.
I know that many families did just fine with incomes lower than mine and I even read about that guy who supported 8 kids on $300 a week in the news recently.
Here are what netizens think:
You can be rich and live a simple life too.There is a difference between Ambitious vs. Diligent vs. Lazy.Most women prefer their men to be diligent. Many professionals out there are not very ambitious but they are certainly very rich because they love what they are doing and are very diligent to excel in the things that they do.
I had an ex who is like that. He stayed in his company for almost 15years. No increment. Not planning to move either. That’s lazy to me. My husband, change jobs every 2 to 3 years, no intention to climb corporate ladder, reject promotions so he can come home to our 2 toddlers and me. He is extremely simple. Not much friends ever since we have children. He just hangs out with us 24/7. This, is totally different from my ex.
You can make your choice, but finances will always be a big factor in any relationship. Jackie Chan was like you once, but the Great Bruce Lee scolded him in a very harsh way and the rest is history. Your low ambition will poison your career and HR can see that clearly … which will lead to nasty stuff they love to do to workers. Think about it.
how do people simply trust the people they meet on dating apps?
some of my friends use dating app because they are afraid of being left on the shelf. it seems like once the guy/girl fulfill a certain set of criteria, they will just go ahead and get married.
Mr A earns 6k a month, has a decent job, a few years older, already bought his own car. Miss B is working in the teaching sector, loves children and her family.
Mr A paints a good picture of a supportive and financially stable husband while Miss B is a potentially loving wife/mother.
of course there are many successful dating stories from online dating, often seeing comments about “i met my husband/wife on CMB etc”
but i wonder how many are actually messed up. for the messed up marriages, the affected parties are unlikely to talk about it so it will not be known.
many people on dating apps know how to market themselves well. all you see is just a photo (taken at their best angle) and a description of themselves which is likely well crafted to make them hot in demand.
how many Mr A actually met their full description? and how many Miss B are really kindhearted and loving? the whole thing just seems like a hoax but for people who use it, they willingly chose to be hoaxed.
Here are what netizens think:
It’s just a way to meet ppl lah. After meetup, catfish will be eliminated and time will tell if rest of description is a hoax or not lah. And pls dun trust anyone u meet online. Google the shit out of them. U may find out they are married or have whatever cheating scandals that ppl have blog abt. Very interesting
It’s about luck.Dating apps suit people who have a small social circle of friends.There are still nice people around.The bad sheep normally has the same characteristics.Inconsistency treatment is the most frequently seen RED FLAG.
It’s not blind matchmaking la.You see their profile, but take it with a pinch of salt, both parties are interested to meet then y’all see if there’s any connection/chemistry etc. You get to know the person before committing to anything, not get married straight away I mean sure there can be hoaxes and catfishes on the platform but there are good people too and u only need to meet that one right person, which may mean meeting many other hoaxes first
Partner (31/m) keeps fondling and groping me (24/f) even after I say something about it
For background, I have been together with him for over 5 years now, been living together for around 5 years as well. Also, apologies for any grammar or formatting issues.
My problem is that he is very… handsy with me. He loves to smack and grab my backside, fondle and play with my chest, touch me between my legs etc.
And he’s not gentle with it either, he likes to grab it like he’s trying to take a piece out of me. He even sometimes bites my more intimate areas. This happens all the time, not only when we’re in the bedroom.
Now, I understand that people show their affection in this way. But I hate it! I don’t feel appreciated or special.
I feel like a piece of meat! Like I’m just an object for him to grab whenever he wants to. And it hurts! Both physically and mentally.
I’ve asked him to stop, told him that it hurts when he does that and that I don’t like it but he thinks I’m over reacting and gets annoyed at me about it.
I don’t want to sound insensitive but he acts like a kid when their candy is taken away. And he just keeps doing it.
It’s been like this ever since the beginning of the relationship and I honestly feel constantly on the edge. Like I don’t have a say over my body just because we’ve been together for so long.
In recent developments, a former deputy director at the National University of Singapore (NUS) and a former director at the Singapore University of Technology & Design (SUTD), Foo Siang Chi, finds himself entangled in a web of legal troubles.
On Thursday, November 23, Foo was charged with a series of offenses, including cheating and voyeurism-related acts, according to Channel NewsAsia.
Background of Foo Siang Chi
Before we dissect the charges, it’s crucial to understand Foo Siang Chi’s professional journey. Foo, a figure who once held a position as a deputy director at the Office of Facilities Management at NUS, later transitioned to SUTD, where he assumed the role of a director at the Office of Campus Infrastructure and Facilities.
Charges and Accusations
Cheating charges
Between April and July 2015, Foo Siang Chi is accused of deceiving his then-supervisor by borrowing a substantial sum, a whopping S$205,500 (US$153,000).
What makes this case particularly troubling is the alleged purpose of the borrowed funds—feeding his gambling habits.
Upskirting
The charges don’t stop at financial deceit. Foo is also accused of violating the privacy of women by taking upskirt photos and videos on at least 31 occasions between April 2018 and March 2020. These disturbing actions paint a picture of a blatant disregard for personal boundaries.
Possession of obscene films
Adding another layer to the charges, between September 2019 and December 2020, Foo allegedly possessed two obscene videos on his mobile phone, sourced from a pornographic website. This raises questions about the ethical standards expected of individuals in positions of responsibility.
Legal Consequences
As the legal proceedings unfold, Foo Siang Chi faces severe consequences if found guilty. For the charges of cheating, a maximum jail term of 10 years and a substantial fine await. Conviction on charges of insulting a woman’s modesty could lead to imprisonment for up to a year, a fine, or both. Additionally, the voyeurism accusations carry a potential two-year jail term and a fine. Importantly, due to his age, caning is not applicable.
An SBS Transit double-decker bus collided with a large tree on Wednesday night, resulting in significant damage to the upper portion of the vehicle, according to Shin Min Daily News.
Local residents were alerted to the accident by a loud crash, prompting them to investigate the source of the noise.
Roof of bus almost sheared off
Upon reaching the scene, witnesses discovered the aftermath of the collision. According to on-site photographs, nearly half of the top of the double-decker bus was severely damaged, with a substantial portion of the roof almost sheared off.
Large sections of the roof and various parts were scattered across the road and adjacent lawn. Notably, a portion of the bus roof’s iron panel remained suspended from a tree branch.
On Thursday morning (November 23), Shin Min reporters visiting the scene observed that the iron panel hanging from the tree had fallen onto the lawn.
Shortly thereafter, personnel from SBS Transit arrived to clear the debris, removing the fallen iron panel.
The Singapore Civil Defence Force and the police have confirmed the incident. A 55-year-old male passenger sustained injuries and was admitted to the hospital, while the driver is cooperating with the police investigation.
The case is currently under investigation, and authorities are working to determine the cause of the collision.
SBS Transit responds
Grace Wu, the spokesperson for SBS Transit, said that the bus involved in the accident was bus service number 88, which was travelling along Bishan Street 22 when it collided with the bough of a tree, damaging the upper deck of the vehicle.
She added that the injured bus passenger who was sent to the hospital, has since been discharged and that they are in touch with him and rendering assistance.
Wu also apologised on behalf of SBS Transit to the affected passengers, and are investigating at the moment.
In the quiet hours of a Tuesday morning, the serenity of Sembawang Road was disrupted by an unexpected clash of interests. A group of approximately 40 cyclists, in pursuit of their morning ride, inadvertently became the center of controversy, much to the dismay of a fellow road user.
The Scene on Sembawang Road
At 5 am on Nov. 21, the tranquil stretch of Sembawang Road, heading towards Springleaf MRT Station, witnessed an unusual sight.
A driver, Mr Hu, was making his way through the early morning darkness, and suddenly found himself amidst a swarm of cyclists.
According to Shin Min Daily News, the driver’s account sheds light on the challenges he faced. Traveling at 70 km/h, he had to make a swift decision to switch lanes, emphasizing the potential danger posed by the fast-moving group.
Faced with a perilous situation, the driver resorted to sounding his horn as a warning. However, the cyclists remained seemingly oblivious to the auditory alert.
Speed and Traffic Regulations
To comprehend the situation better, it’s essential to consider the prevailing rules for cyclists. Since January 2022, guidelines dictate that cyclists should ride two abreast in one lane on multi-lane roads, with a maximum of 10 cyclists.
LTA’s rules on road cycling
Always ride as close as practicable to the far left edge of roads, and allow traffic to overtake you safely
Cycle in a single file on single-lane roads and during bus lane operational hours
Switch on front white and rear red light in the dark
Always use bicycle lanes when available, and do not use any other part of the roadway
[From 1 Jan 2022]Â Keep to a maximum length of 5 bicycles when riding in groups, which means a maximum of 5 cyclists if riding in single file, or 10 cyclists if riding two abreast
A netizen posted online asking how to deal with wild monkeys:
Just a few minutes ago I had a frightening experience with monkeys. Was at macritchie bus stop, holding a small bag of 2 items(small food items) and didn’t realized monkeys were near me. Until I felt someone tugging my bag and yeah. After it stole an item, another 2-4 of them approached me for more food so I threw the rest of the bag at them instinctively. After that, immediately boarded the next bus which arrived at the bus stop, too shocked by the experience.
Pretty lucky got out unharmed. Looking back, should you just surrender your stuff to them once they lock on to you? Or fight for possession of your items and run?
Anyways lesson learnt: do not hold bags of food anywhere near monkeys
Responses
Dont fight with monkeys. Ur 1 v 1 will quickly become 1 v 20. Also their teeths are way sharper than u can imagine.
Just surrender your food, its never worth it to fight with wild animals. You can always replace your food but not any of your body parts lol
You don’t surrender your food. They will come back for more once you surrender to them. That’s the reason the other group approached OP. Monkey see monkey do, and they’re not aggressive, and they won’t attack.
Monkeys have tried stealing my hydration pack, and many times gloves left resting on my bike, all that’s needed is to just shoo them away..
It’s not uncommon to see packs of over 20 monkeys scattered along a trail. for us, we just ride through making sure not to run over any juvenile. some will move some will stand fast, but we just ride through, and saw hikers just walk pass them normally, and not sure about eye contact. never made any..
Same for wild boars.. They’re docile.. many times comes head on with a few in a narrow trail. still scary IMO, and Just stop, and once they spot our presence, they will scatter and run off..
In the quiet neighborhood of Bedok North, tragedy struck on May 13, 2022. What started as an ordinary morning turned into a devastating incident that claimed the lives of three individuals. The cause? An unattended cigarette left for a mere 10 to 15 minutes.
State coroner Adam Nakhoda delivered his findings into their cause of deaths on 22 November and ruled it an unfortunate misadventure, according to The Straits Times.
An unattended cigarette
In the early hours of May 13, 2022, a fire erupted in a flat at Block 409 Bedok North Avenue 2, leading to the untimely demise of Aileen Chan, the homeowner, and two of her tenants – Malaysian Tan Soon Keong and his three-year-old daughter Hui En. State Coroner Adam Nakhoda, in his findings on Nov 22, termed the incident as an unfortunate misadventure.
The fire’s origin was traced back to a cigarette that Mr. Ithnin, Aileen Chan’s boyfriend, left unattended on a stack of cardboard boxes. The lit tip of the cigarette likely ignited the cardboard, setting off a chain reaction that resulted in a raging fire.
The Victims
Aileen Chan, a film producer, and actress, had battled cancer in the past. Tan Soon Keong, a Malaysian tenant, and his daughter Hui En were the other unfortunate victims. The incident left a profound impact on their families, with Mr. Tan’s wife in a vegetative state in a hospital in Kuala Lumpur.
The tragic sequence of events began when Mr. Ithnin, preparing to leave for work, absentmindedly left a lit cigarette on cardboard boxes. Realizing his mistake too late, he attempted to alert Ms. Chan, who retrieved and disposed of the cigarette, unknowingly leaving it unattended for a critical period.
Within 45 minutes, the living room was engulfed in flames. Neighbors alerted the Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF), who arrived promptly but faced challenges in rescuing those trapped inside due to the intense fire.
The Tragic Outcome
SCDF’s efforts extinguished the fire, but the victims were found in critical condition. Aileen Chan was pronounced dead at the scene, while Mr. Tan and his daughter succumbed to fume inhalation later that morning. No foul play was suspected in any of the deaths.
In June 2023, during the inquiry into the deaths, the police investigation officer shared that Mr. Tan’s wife is unlikely to recover from her vegetative state. State Coroner Nakhoda extended his condolences to the grieving families.
