A man was turned off after a potential gf candidate told him that she is looking for a rich that can supplement her lavish lifestyle of going for facial treatments of over S$10,000 and buying her branded goods.

Here is the man’s epic response to the gold diggers out there:

A potential gf told me something that made me so turn off I wanted to vomit.

The girl said: “All these are costly. I have to consider looking for a man with a lot of money to make up for it. Otherwise, I can’t afford to support myself, and the speed of spending money is faster than making money.”

she said, “these” referring to cosmetics, facials and branded items.

My reply: Good luck finding a guy like that, here is a picture of the birthday present I’m getting for you next year.

I then told off the girl saying,

if I want find a girl that is like that I rather go for social escorts or chickens because every day can change “flavour”. Today find short hair tomorrow find long hair next day find ang gong siao.

Much more economic, just like buying economic rice, can pick so many different dishes and at a cheaper price. Without going through all the garbage dates at restaurants that cost so much more.

Nowadays, I know why so many guys marry a foreign woman. Most of them only have a simple request such as not living in poverty.

I’m not saying I’m poor nor I cant afford, I’m simply so turn off that this is the mentality that gold diggers have.

Starting from the beginning:

I began working at my current place of employment nearly 3 years ago. When I first started, I had only worked with my boss for about a week. She then left on maternity leave for a few months. She was having her 2nd child with her boyfriend (with whom she has been with for 8 years, lives with, already has another child with, and he has 3 of his own from a previous relationship).

When I first started working there, I got the impression she did care for me. Though I’m sure her being close to her due date was probably the most forefront thing on her mind.

3 months went by and she returned to work. We worked closely together from that point on. Each day, we started getting more and more friendly with each other. We were getting along great, having fun at work, and seemingly having a great friendship.

We would even play video games online together with each other, her boyfriend, and some other co workers as a group. Although she and I were always competing with specifically each other.

I felt like I had a practically new best friend. We would text about various things after work and on weekends. Share funny videos we saw, say something that just happened to us, etc. Though I always made sure to never push the boundary. While I may have found her attractive, she was a mom of 2, (plus 3 “bonus”), in a relationship, and about 8 years older than me. I never actually considered any sort of action I wanted to take.

As the months went by, we found ourselves at a colleauges wedding reception. By some turn of events, we wound up alone together. It was at this point that she told me how she thinks of me often, and while she and her boyfriend didn’t have a “S” life at home, she often thought about me for her own pleasure.

We did it that night.

Shortly after, we decided to start a physical only “relationship” where we would flirt, touch, and do whatever else we could do during work hours, secretly of course.

We did it several more times. Keep in mind, that I am barely 21 during this beginning phase, she is in her early 30’s.

Nearly 2 years have gone by since the start. We have “ended” things just to have them start again several times after.

What was once physical has turned highly emotional. We are always jealous of when the other is with someone else (ie me on an actual date, her getting drunk and messaging me the “acts” she just performed on her boyfriend).

Every night I have guilt. We still work together. I feel like I’m attached to this woman. I don’t have feelings per se, but I feel that we are connected and these emotions will never break. I know what I did was wrong. I know I was used because i m a much younger single male.

I feel bad for what I’ve been doing. And yet my mind won’t let me out of this hole I’ve put myself in.

My husband admitted to his friends that he didn’t find me beautiful. Nothing feels the same anymore

I’m newly married. After our honeymoon my husband had a group video call with his best friends. After I said hello and chatted for a bit with them I excused myself to go for a walk.

I decided I needed to get my raincoat because it looked like it was about to rain but my husband and his friends thought I’ve already got out.

They started interrogating about our honeymoon and they were all teasing and laughing until one of his best friends asked him if my looks were still an issue for him.

My husband told her that he loved me and that we had a great honeymoon and that I’m beautiful on the inside and he said “you can’t have it all”.

She insisted on wondering whether he felt he’d downgraded from his ex girlfriend and he said “maybe, but she (me)makes me happy.”

Another friends then interjected and said I wasn’t bad looking if I lost some weight, my husband agreed.

Nothing feels the same anymore. I always knew I wasn’t beautiful but I thought that he liked how I looked, or at least, didn’t mind it so much.

I know he values my other qualities and that he loves me and is very kind to me but I don’t feel good with him and I haven’t been happy since that day (5 weeks ago).

I have lost weight under these weeks and he’s paid me a lot of compliments about that but I don’t want him commenting anything about my physical appearance anymore.

I hate every encouraging word he has to say and yet I feel like I need to be more appealing to him. I feel so much hurt it’s insane! 🙁

Oh goodie, wait till y’all hear this one.

a bit of backstory, my sister has about.. 4 kids, which have all been taken away and she hasn’t seen any of them in 5-6 years.

i walked into my dads room to get my phone when i found my sister sitting on the bed, sho0ting up, if you don’t know what that is, you should probably avoid this post.

The catch is, she’s 8months pregnant!

I tried to ignore her and just said ‘Hand me my phone.’ and she replied with ‘its not here, you need to get the f out’, to which i replied ‘its right there on the f-ing bed, and this is my dads room!’

She said ‘you need to watch your attitude little girl, and know your place’

i said, ‘insert name, you need to find somewhere else to stay if your gonna be doing that stupid stuff. Your gonna lose that baby like all the rest and it will be your fault, that baby will never remember you as anything more than a stranger and I’m not too upset about that, its probably for the better’

Her, being high and crazy said ‘shut the f up you little f-er’

‘oh come on, you don’t deserve to be a mom, you love to make the babies, but never take care of them; you don’t deserve to be a mother!’ those were the last words to cone out of my mouth before i took my phone and walked away, I’m furious , because there are teenagers and kids in this house that are curious of new things, and if they got poked by one of those needles they would be done for and that makes me so mad because she knows.

I (20sF) am pregnant with my fiancé (20sM) and I first child. We’re really excited to welcome our little baby in the fall.

Now I have a dilemma, I really don’t want anyone to smoke around our baby. Like at all! I understand that we have people around us that smoke, and I can’t tell them to stop, but I want them to not smoke when our child is near. Like if they coming over, the thing i would think was okay was if they smoked before getting in the car (the closet is 30 min away). I know we’ll get backlash for this. Especially from my FMil and FSil. Then also from my grandma and aunt.

But the most will be on my fiancés side.

I really don’t want this to be done, but I’m scared of the backlash. But I’ve also heard smoking around a baby increases the risk of SIDS, something I’m terrified off.

So WIBTA if I said no smoking around the baby?

Here are what netizens think:

Your child’s health is more important than your families addictions. It’s not only risk of SIDS that is increased by second hand smoke, there is an increased risk of ear infections, asthma, and respiratory infections including pneumonia. The “need” to have a cigarette has a name, its called an addiction. Your family should be able to put their addictions on hold for the sake of your child’s health.

im a heavy smoker and i have been for almost 9 years. i struggle to go a few hours without smoking because im severely addicted to nicotine. you know what i dont do? smoke around kids, smoke around people who dont want me to, smoke around people with illnesses, smoke in peoples homes. im a smoker, yes, and thats my choice, but i respect other peoples ability to choose whether or not they want to be around that for whatever reason. i respect that some people dont even want to smell cigarette smoke, let alone be around someone actively smoking. even if their request seems ridiculous to me (like “dont smoke for six hours at least before coming over” or something) ill either respect it and go along with it, or politely refuse and just not be around that person because its their right to not be around smokers if they dont want to be.

This! If someone doesn’t care enough about your child to avoid smoking around them, they don’t care enough to be around your child.

Growing up, my mom always pushed the importance of family connections onto me, as she was close-knit with hers growing up. She believes that family will always need each other and always comes first, and is always trying to get me to follow that principle.

It’s not quite the same for me, though. All of her relatives lived near each other, while mine live overseas. We’ve only ever visited so many times, and that was in my early childhood. It’s hard for me to remember my time with my relatives because I was simply too young. She usually got along fine with her family as well, whereas her and my relationship is rather strained.

Because of this, I don’t really have a connection with my relatives or my mom.

The relatives knew me as a little kid and hear of my activities now on occasion, but that’s how far it goes. Never went to grandma’s house or played with my cousins after school, that part of life that’s so integral to some has never been present in mine. I’ve never been able to get close to my mother either, but that’s a whole other story for a different time.

Due to these reasons, it’s hard for me to desire a relationship with my family. It’s something that’s always been absent in my life, so therefore I haven’t ever really desired it. To me, they’re people who knew me as a baby and call ever so often to ask me the same dated questions they always do.

My mom seriously thinks I’m horrible for treating them like this, and I do feel bad about it, but I can’t help the way I feel. I just don’t know these people and yet I’m forced to have interactions with them. I don’t feel as greatly for them as they do for me.

I honestly don’t want a relationship with my relatives. Is that wrong of me?

Here are what netizens thinks:

• I don’t think you ought to be rude or cut them off entirely, but it sounds like you’re just deciding not to actively cultivate the relationship, which is fine.

• Family is what or with who you make it, not the blood line you were born into.

• Despite what some people want to believe relationships aren’t forged in blood. They’re forged in bonds and you simply haven’t had a chance to bond with any of your relatives. Now theres still chance for you to do so but you’re also not obligated to

Don’t give in easily ok. Stay true to yourself. I’m speaking from personal experience. I once had this bf who made me believe that I loved him very much and that he was the one for me. I never noticed the red flags when he avoided planning for the future with me all the time.

But I gave him my virginity anyway. He kept begging and i couldn’t say no anymore. After the deal, he became another person. He ignored my texts frequently, only making me happy when he wants S. When we finally broke up, I was so traumatised and upset, I couldn’t open up to anyone.

I felt like a cheap chicken and the most sinful person on earth.

I really let down my parents and myself. To me, it wasn’t just losing my virginity. I felt like I lost my values, beliefs and trust. So please, if you’re not ready don’t go for it.

I spent almost 1.5 years trying to walk out of that hole my ex threw me in. Don’t follow my footsteps…

Here are what netizens think:

Aiya don’t blame guy or girl la, both gender also got their own set of problems.

I encounter this kind of thing before but its a girl she behaves all sweet to me, just because she wants it. But end of the day she picked a rich guy. and uses me.