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GF SAYS BF’S “KKJ SMELLY” LIKE TOILET BOWL, FEELS DISGUSTED

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A woman seeks help from the internet brigade after she have a problem she can’t solve, stating that she is unable to bear the smell of her boyfriend.

Here is the story:

He showers every day, wears nice smelling clothes (good laundry), wears a normal amount of deodorant, wears expensive cologne, and overall I know he has decent hygiene.

But he has a case of smelly “bird” and I want to bring it up but I don’t want to make him feel bad or awkward. He’s uncut if that helps.

I love my boyfriend but sometimes his bird smells awful. It’s such a turn-off to smell it when you’re getting it on. I’ve tried showering with him and washed it for him during “er-hem” explaining to him how I love a clean bird. I’m beginning to think it’s me and maybe my smell is very strong. I wash regularly and no one has ever objected to going down on me so I don’t know.

Sometimes it just smells like a dirty public toilet’s toilet bowl, like you can smell it even before entering the toilet.

I just want to know if anyone else has this problem.

Here are what netizens think:

  • He showers once a day but I don’t think he takes the time to clean his member.
  • my bf had this issue some time ago when we were goin at it pretty frequently, all he had to do was trim up his man-fro a bit and smell decreased substantially. 
  • You just have to be honest with him. It’ll be difficult at first because you don’t want to hurt his feelings but he will appreciate your honesty and you’ll both benefit later from it.

GUY’S BUDDY IN NS DOESN’T BATHE, WHOLE BUNK CANNOT TAHAN ANYMORE

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Help my buddy doesn’t bathe. For the past few weeks, I’ve noticed that he never goes to the toilet to shower. Despite guard duty on weekdays, he doesn’t shower.

Despite repeated warnings by his bunkmates he refuses to bathe. He really smells and tries to mask It with deodorant.

Furthermore, he does not eat any of his meals. He collects the full meal with the extra bun and discards the full meal away after.

When he was confronted by the sgts, he tried to fake bathe by bringing his towel and soap to the toilet stood inside the cubicle for a while and walked out. He then informed me he has bathed

What can I do to convince him to bathe.

Netizens’ comments

  • maybe all of you can hold your nose when near him
  • ok regardless of all the judgement, objectively, if he uses deo it means that he knows he smells bad enough to require it.
    so proper way to solve this would be to find the reason why. if u really want to help, u cant start with the endgoal of him in the cubicle everyday showering since it will just push him further away (think smoking and quit smoking signs).
    is it an in camp thing or in general thing? is it adjustment disorder since u mention not eating as well?

WOMAN FIND IT HARDER TO FIND A PARTNER AFTER HITTING 30 YEARS OLD

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I’m a woman turning 30 this year and I’m finding it really hard to find a partner. Most guys looking are in their early 20s and most guys my age are already with someone.

I work in audit and I work very long hours. I admit I’m married to my job but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to “settle down.” And by “settle down” I just mean having someone I can partner with for the rest of my life. I don’t even care if I have children. I’m indifferent. I just want a guy whom I can spend time and grow old with.

Been on several dates and I realize very few guys want commitment. I only had one relationship that failed because he cheated on me and justified it by claiming I’m too busy with my work. I have already tried my best to spend time with him but audit is a really tough job. But anyway, that’s in the past.

I want a low-maintenance guy who can be comfortable being by himself but who is happy to spend time together when time permits. Surely there are guys like that? Don’t guys have to work in the 30s as well?

All the house-husband types are already taken.

Here are what netizens think:

  • I’m dating anything that walks, please take me
  • There is definitely someone out there who is also scratching his head and searching high and low for a girl like you. Just that both of you could have missed each another or you both have not met. Be a little patient, and look around. He could be around you. Good luck and don’t give up hope.
  • Find a house husband like already house husband so when u free can go n talk n grow old with him, when u r not free he can work on his family…

GIRL NOT HAPPY BECAUSE BOYFRIEND BOUGHT HER AN “OBIANG” BAG

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Bf bought me an obiang branded bag from overseas. What should I do?

Bf insisted to spend min 1k on my upcoming anniversary gift because I have gifted him an ipad pro for his bday.

Nearing the anniversary, I have bought him an iphone to replace his 4 year old phone. He was actually quite unhappy upon receiving the present because he once told me he don’t appreciate receiving a phone as present. So I intend to sell it on carousell since I can’t refund the phone that was purchased during Lazada flash sale. My bf decided okay he will use the gift since it’s a gift from me so he broke the seal of the iphone box even though i managed to find an interested iphone buyer but left it unused up til now. In fear that I wouldn’t like his 1k+ gift, he revealed he’s buying a DSLR for me as I can take nice photos if travel overseas. I stopped him from buying. Reason being the current working adult me has no use of a DSLR, and my flagship phone camera is suffice for someone who doesn’t take photography to the next level. I find the bulkiness of the camera more of a hindrance for an amateur. 

A few days later, bf went into jb with his friends and asked me if I am cool with getting a branded bag for my anniversary gift since they are headed to JPO. I have zero branded watches/bags, because I believe that scrimping and investing are good for my future. I just thought it’s a good idea to be gifted my first branded, so I gave him the green light. I very much prefer a swissmade watch but since he suggested, I decided to flow along with no objections (additional info – He doesn’t like to be restricted by a wishlist…. And I clearly updated him I wanted watch/necklace/proposal ring from him). I specifically told him no coach/longchamp in order to avoid “auntie” designs. He chose to surprise me with a gucci instead.

I was ecstatic to receive it initially, however…. After unboxing and removing from the dust bag…. The bag looks just like what I’ve imagined a coach bag to look like. When I posed with it in front of the mirror, I couldn’t control my expression and my bf could feel that I was disappointed. The bag doesn’t feel like a luxury bag…. I would pay $150 tops for the bag, but it costs around $2k. He chose the bag based on functionality(i.e. Able to store umbrella and water bottle) rather than aesthetic. Later I went on to google about the bag and JPO, and realised that the design is unlisted on gucci website (any bag pro could tell me what this means? Does it means my bf has bought a fake?) and JPO mainly sell outdated products.

Bf told me if he’s alright with me selling if I can sell it above cost price, but the max the buyer is willing to pay is only 50% of cost. Bf is still heartbroken and unwilling to bring it back to JPO for exchange/refund because it’s very bulky and he said it’s hard to bring across the custom via bus. It’s endearing to see him put effort into choosing my gift, and I’m really guilty of rejecting the gift. If this bag is <$300, i would have willingly kept it as a memento instead of desperately wanting to turn it back to cash.

It’s now sitting at my house gathering dust for the past week. Have been feeling  uneasy whenever I see the bag… Probably because I don’t want to use it and a $2k bag that I don’t want to own is now my responsibility. Can anybody advise me what is the next best step?

HUSBAND GOT PROMOTED, TELLS WIFE TO QUIT JOB AND BECOME HOUSEWIFE

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My husband and I both work fulltime. He recently got a promotion and he now makes twice what I do. Since he got the promotion, he has been pressuring me to quit my job and be a fulltime housewife.

The reason that my husband is into this idea is because that would make me responsible for all the cooking and cleaning.

Right now we split chores evenly since we both work similar hours, and I like that arrangement. My husband is not a fan, he hates having to do chores around the house.

I admit that I would love to not have to work, but the tradeoff being offered is not appealing to me. I suggested that my husband should use some of the extra income to hire a maid service, and then neither of us would have to do the chores.

He accused me of “just wanting to coast off of his money without doing anything” and has been annoyed all morning that I suggested it.

Netizens’ comments

  • So he says you are “coasting off his money” but isn’t he wanting to “coast off your labor”. And whatever you do, don’t quit your job. Ever.
  • “Since he got the promotion, he has been pressuring me to quit my job and be a fulltime housewife.”
    First red flag, that’s a big nope, good buddy.
    “Right now we split chores evenly since we both work similar hours, and I like that arrangement. My husband is not a fan, he hates having to do chores around the house.”
    Why do men think women LOVE cleaning? We do it anyway because we’re adults and not disgusting animals.
    “I admit that I would love to not have to work, but the tradeoff being offered is not appealing to me.”
    You are smart. You would lose the freedom that comes from having your own income, connections at work, and the ability to continue to grow your career, which will likely become stalled if you quit.

MAID STOLE $57K OF EMPLOYER’S GOLD BARS & PAWNED THEM FOR MONEY, JAILED

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The quiet neighborhood of Marine Parade witnessed an unsettling incident as a domestic helper, Sri Hastuti, betrayed the trust of her employer, according to The Straits Times.

In a series of calculated moves, she pocketed gold bars and jewelry, totaling over $57,000, from her employer’s supposedly secure drawer. What followed was a year-long escapade of pawning stolen items and sending the cash back to her family in Indonesia.

Background

In a shocking revelation, the serene routine of a Marine Parade household was disrupted when the employer discovered missing items from a previously unlocked drawer in the master bedroom. The culprit, Sri Hastuti, had been employed by a German man, adding an international twist to the case.

This incident underscores the vulnerabilities employers face when entrusting their homes to domestic helpers. It sheds light on the importance of security measures and the need for stringent background checks when hiring help.

The Culprit – Sri Hastuti

Sri Hastuti, a 39-year-old domestic helper, had been entrusted with the responsibility of maintaining a German man’s residence. The absence of specific employment start dates raises questions about the duration of her employment.

The employer’s decision to leave the master bedroom unlocked for cleaning purposes inadvertently provided Sri Hastuti with an opportunity to exploit the situation.

The thefts occurred between July 2022 and September 2023, revealing the extent of Sri Hastuti’s deceptive actions over an extended period.

Modus Operandi

The employer’s practice of leaving the master bedroom unlocked for cleaning inadvertently facilitated Sri Hastuti’s thieving activities.

Sri Hastuti chose a methodical approach, pawning the stolen items at multiple locations across the country.

The ill-gotten gains were transferred to Sri Hastuti’s family in Indonesia, creating a web of financial deceit.

Sri Hastuti faced legal repercussions, charged with theft as a servant of her employer’s property.

On November 21, she received a 15-month jail sentence after pleading guilty to the charge.

KATONG PET SHOP STAFF CAUGHT CANING SCARED LITTLE PUPPY, SHOP ISSUES PUBLIC APOLOGY

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In the bustling neighborhood of Katong, Whatupdawg, a local pet store, found itself at the center of controversy when a video surfaced online, depicting one of its staff members caning a puppy on the store premises.

This incident, which unfolded in November 2022, has sparked outrage within the community and raised questions about the store’s commitment to animal welfare.

Details of the Incident

The circulated 30-second video provides a disconcerting view of a man repeatedly caning a small dog in an enclosed area of the store, eliciting whimpers from the distressed animal.

The incident, captured at night, also captures voices from inside the store, adding to the unsettling nature of the footage.

The video quickly gained traction on social media, particularly within the “Dogs Singapore” Facebook group. The public’s strong reaction and the potential ramifications for Whatupdawg’s reputation are under scrutiny.

In response to the incident, Whatupdawg made the decision to terminate the employment of the male staff member involved. The store released a statement emphasizing its commitment to ensuring the well-being of the animals under its care.

Whatupdawg’s public apology

We sincerely apologize for the distressing incident involving our former staff member. Mr. Sim. who was reported to have mistreated one of our puppies back in november 22 last year.

We became aware of this issue only on June 23 of this year when approached by NParks/AVS. subsequently, Mr. Sim was dismissed. and appropriate actions were taken following reports from AVS and NParks.

We deeply regret any inconvenience caused and are committed to collaborating with the authorities to address this matter appropriately.

Ensuring the well-being of animals is our priority and we will diligently train and educate all our current and future staff members to prevent any similar incidents from occurring.”

WOMAN DOESN’T CARE HUSBAND CHEATS BECAUSE HE BUYS HER EVERYTHING

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My husband cheats on me sometimes, but I don’t care because I’m very well taken care of
I know this is against the norm because cheating is looked down upon and I used to care a lot more when I was younger but now, not as much.

My husband and I have two kids together and I consider myself fit, curvy and beautiful. Most people can’t tell that I’ve had kids. I run a few businesses and we also have a nanny which really helps both of us when it comes to having our own time.

I have always known my husband had wondering eyes and for the most part he is amazing. Except for the times where he will go fool around with someone when he goes to Vegas for the weekend or something. Before these trips, he will always leave me extra cash and, he always brings me back something. It’s never the same person and always a one-night thing. He doesn’t take girls on vacations, he doesn’t have sugar babies, he only does hookups. He doesn’t want to commit to anyone else even though in the traditional way he’s not fully committed to me either.

He is safe and I also test myself regularly. We don’t talk about it out in the open and it’s kind of one of those things I know but don’t speak of unless something in particular upset me. We are loving, intimacy is great and nothing is amiss. He lives with us and comes home everyday.

The main reason why I don’t care so much about his occasional ONS is because I’m very well taken care of. Anything I want, he will get me. If I tell him I want to go vacation somewhere, he will take me. I don’t look at the prices when I shop. And if I do decide to leave him (he doesn’t want me to but I do feel that one day I might), we have already discussed my monthly alimony and child support, which is close to the mid-5 digits. Right now, everything I spend is on his card that he pays off and he also gives me monthly allowances for me to keep/save despite me having my own money from my businesses (that he helped me open).

I have never spoken this aloud because I know people will tell me it’s wrong for me to value a comfortable life over a monogamous marriage and call me a gold digger. But the truth is, I’ve been with my husband since he was flat broke. And while I would love to have a faithful marriage, if I had to choose between that and never having to worry about money, I would and am choosing the latter.

S’PORE AH GUA SLEPT WITH 3 MEN WITHOUT TELLING THEM THAT HE WAS HIV+, JAILED

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In a recent legal case, a transgender individual faced the repercussions of not disclosing their HIV status to their partners before sleeping with them, according to The Straits Times.

The ramifications of such actions led to a conviction under the Infectious Diseases Act, shedding light on the importance of responsible behavior and adherence to legal obligations.

The Case of Mohamad Fazni Mohamad Azini

Background and Identity Crisis

Mohamad Fazni Mohamad Azini, a 38-year-old individual, found themselves entangled in legal woes due to non-disclosure of their HIV status.

Formerly living as a transgender woman from 2004 to 2014 and then from February 2016 onward, Fazni’s case raises questions about identity, societal perceptions, and the legal ramifications of medical non-disclosure.

Legal Proceedings and Gag Order

The legal proceedings took an intriguing turn with a gag order initially concealing Fazni’s identity. However, on November 21, the prosecution successfully argued for its lifting, emphasizing that such orders are not for the benefit of the accused.

District Judge Marvin Bay concurred, stating that the majority of victims had only encountered Fazni once, making it unlikely that their identities would be compromised.

Charges and Sentencing

Fazni faced three charges under the Infectious Diseases Act, involving an acquaintance and two other individuals identified as Mr. E and Mr. B.

The consequences were severe, leading to a three-year and three-month jail sentence. The charges centered on Fazni’s failure to disclose their HIV status, a critical requirement according to the law.

Fazni’s Double Life

From Natasha to Fazni

Fazni’s life transition from Natasha to their current identity adds complexity to the narrative. The use of an alias in their encounters brings forth questions about personal identity and the challenges faced by transgender individuals.

Court documents reveal Fazni’s involvement in obscene work in the Geylang area, offering services to men for a range of fees. This aspect of their life raises discussions about the challenges faced by individuals in marginalized professions.

The Encounter with Mr. E

The case unfolds with an encounter between Fazni and Mr. E in 2018, where Fazni, known as Natasha, engaged in unprotected intercourse without disclosing their HIV status. This incident became a focal point in the legal proceedings.

Mr. B and the Changi Hotel Incident

Another charge involved an encounter with Mr. B in a Changi hotel, where Fazni engaged in protected intercourse. This incident, while different, underscored the recurring theme of non-disclosure.

Medical reports revealed fluctuations in Fazni’s viral load, with undetectable levels turning into high levels due to non-adherence to HIV treatment. This breach of medical responsibility played a crucial role in the legal consequences.

Understanding HIV and Legal Obligations

HIV and its Stages

The Ministry of Health (MOH) defines HIV as an infection attacking the immune system, with acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) being its final and fatal stage if left untreated. This sheds light on the gravity of Fazni’s actions and the potential impact on their partners.

While HIV is incurable, antiretroviral therapy can manage the virus, improving the immune system and reducing the viral load to undetectable levels. MOH emphasizes that individuals with undetectable viral loads pose minimal risk to their partners. Fazni’s case took a turn when their viral load spiked due to non-adherence to treatment, highlighting the significance of consistent medical management.

Legal Implications and Future Appeals

Legal Consequences and Sentencing

District Judge Marvin Bay, in his grounds for sentence, highlighted the severity of Fazni’s actions, emphasizing the importance of adherence to the Infectious Diseases Act. The three-year and three-month jail sentence reflects the gravity of the charges.

Fazni, represented by legal counsel from the Eugene Thuraisingam law firm, expressed the intention to appeal the conviction and sentence. The appeal process adds another layer of complexity to this already intricate legal saga.

With bail set at $20,000, Fazni faces not only the incarceration but also financial consequences. The legal fines, if imposed, could further impact their life and financial stability.

PRI 3 & 4 KIDS TO START CLEANING TOILETS AS PART OF NEW “CLEANLINESS MODULE”

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Senior Parliamentary Secretary for Sustainability and the Environment Mr Baey Yam Keng, launched the National Environment Agency’s (NEA) Clean Public Toilets Campaign 2023 today, together with the Public Hygiene Council (PHC), Restroom Association Singapore (RAS), and Singapore Kindness Movement (SKM).

2          The Clean Public Toilets Campaign 2023 sees continued strong support from partners PHC, RAS and SKM, who are joining NEA to promote the responsible use of public toilets. This year’s campaign, which is themed “Are you nice when no one’s around? Do it right for everyone”, appeals to the concept of social consciousness and encourages the socially desirable actions of ‘Clean, Flush, Dry, Bin’ by public toilet users. The campaign draws parallels to the practicing of acts of kindness without reward and recognition, and nudges individuals to be more aware of their actions behind the closed doors of the toilet cubicle. Please refer to Annex A for key campaign visuals.

3          NEA also partners various other stakeholders to reach different segments of the community directly. For instance, NEA will reach out to more than 2,000 premises across Singapore, including coffeeshops, hawker centres, parks and recreational beaches, petrol stations, sports facilities, schools and public service agencies, to publicise campaign messages.

Ground-up Initiatives From Community Partners

4          The PHC, a supporter of the campaign since 2021, continues its partnership with NEA this year to promote wider awareness of good toilet hygiene habits through PHC’s channels and network. Mr Andrew Khng, Chairman of PHC, says, “More people should be aware that public toilet cleanliness is a shared responsibility. Premises operators, users and cleaners must put in collective efforts to do their part and keep it clean. So, let’s stop pointing to each other and work towards having clean toilets together.” To encourage this partnership, the PHC works with different stakeholders through its Neighbourhood Toilet Community Group initiative to drive the message of joint responsibility in keeping public toilets clean. According to some of the participating coffeeshops such as PDSS 318 Food Cafeteria, MEETUP @ 494 and Get Together Coffeeshop, the toilet cleanliness at their premises have shown significant improvement since joining the programme.

5          The PHC will also pilot a toilet cleanliness module as part of the Buddy Clean Workshop, a programme that aims to inculcate positive social values and norms on cleanliness amongst Primary 3 and 4 students. Through the module, students will get to pick up practical skills and knowledge on how to keep public spaces, including public toilets, clean.

6          RAS continues to advocate for clean public toilets. Mr Ho Chee Kit, President of RAS, says, “Since launching the LOO (Let’s Observe Ourselves) Campaign @ Hawker Centres in 2021, we have reached out to 80 hawker centres. Educational tissue packets on showing kindness to cleaning attendants were distributed to more than 25,000 public patrons, garnering more than 1,200 online pledges to keep hawker centre toilets clean. With the launch of the LOO Campaign @ Coffeeshops on 16 November this year, we look forward to continued support from all stakeholders.”  Through the LOO Campaign @ Coffeeshops, RAS will conduct training on toilet design and maintenance for related staff, toilet audits and public engagement activities through outreach activities at the coffeeshops.

7          For its part, the SKM believes that keeping public toilets clean for the next user is a simple yet important act of kindness that contributes to the well-being of a community. “By cleaning up after ourselves in public restrooms, we help instil a sense of responsibility and consideration in others and become a greater version of ourselves,” says Ms Michelle Tay, Director of SKM. “Inculcating the consideration of others also means we are responsible for one another, accommodating a sense of community and unity. Being greater leads to a kinder you, ultimately creating a stronger us. Let’s strive towards a kinder and more gracious society.”

Collective Action and Co-ownership by Everyone

8          Over the years, NEA has also made efforts to enhance public health standards in relation to the Environmental Sanitation Regime, and to support the enhancement of public toilet infrastructure. The Environmental Public Health Act 1987 was amended in 2020 to mandate baseline cleaning standards and place greater accountability on premises owners to meet those standards. In 2020, NEA also introduced a Toilet Improvement Programme for toilets in hawker centres and coffeeshops. Please refer to Annex B for a factsheet on toilets in some new hawker centres, and toilets in some hawker centres which were renovated as the centres underwent Repairs and Redecoration.

9          However, these efforts, on their own, would be insufficient to raise the overall standard of public toilet cleanliness in Singapore. All toilet users should use facilities responsibly, and this is what NEA’s annual Clean Public Toilets Campaign underscores. Rather than look to public toilet operators or cleaners to improve the cleanliness of public toilets, each of us should adopt a conscientious attitude of cleaning up after ourselves after each use of a public toilet.

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