I was completely ignored and talked over by a male server while ordering food

my boyfriend lost his job so I’ve been paying for the majority of our recent dates, which is completely fine by me because my work is going well.

I had a craving for *restaurant name withheld* and we decided to go there. We walk up to the counter, the man behind the counter asks my boyfriend if we’re ready and I said “I know what I want, he’s never been” the guy cuts me off at the last word (never looking at me or acknowledging me) and says to my boyfriend “take as much time as you need!”.

So he finally decides and my bf tells me to go first, I start to order and the server is looking at my bf instead of me.

I tell him what I want and he completely ignores me. An awkward moment goes by and my bf nervously repeats what I said and then the server puts it in the system.

He then orders his food as I pull out my card and stand there holding it waiting for the total. He looks at me holding the card, faces my bf again and says the total.

I put the card in and pay. At this point I’m pretty annoyed. My bf got a drink that’s behind the counter, and I got a fountain drink that is self serve.

Someone else fills up his drink and puts it in the counter. Another moment passes and I ask if I can have my cup. Server made an annoyed face and handed my cup to my bf, we were also on different sides of the register so he made the choice to grab the cup from my side, then move his hand across the register and hand it to him.

Micro-aggressions aside, I was paying for the meal. He was waiting for my bf, (who had never been) to order for me and know the total. It’s been really grinding my gears lately.

After some of my fail relationships with girls my age or lower here, and as I’m about to graduate, I realize that one thing I have never tried is to have a relationship with a married woman. Had a senior 4 years my age that I liked back in the past, but she turned me down because she deemed me too immature for her taste (or at least that is what I guessed). I started to realize that what I need is warmth, experiences, and understanding of an older-sister figure, yet also providing me the space to become the man to protect her.

So why married?

Probably because I see them as hotter and more forbidden – the more difficult it is to get the more appealing. Yes, yes, I know that my taste in women is degenerative and if I get caught trying to flirt with a married woman, I will be beaten to death. And I don’t really like widows either, I like to have the feeling of taking away the wife of another man and successfully conquer the feeling of a settled, serious, and difficult woman. People say that the more challenging it is, the more satisfying it feels to overcome. I have tried to flirt with girls who had boyfriends before but so far it wasn’t successful (one of them agreed to sleep with me as fwb but cut me off a few days afterwards out of guilt).

What should I do in my case? When I start to work, should I flirt with my older female colleagues and persuade them to leave their husbands for an adventurous and immoral-feeling relationship? How should I do so without the risk of losing my jobs or reputation?

For your information, I would rate myself a 8/10, I have an okay appearance, a bit on the thinner side but also taller.

I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for about 2 months + and things have been great so far. I’m very happy whenever I’m with her. However, there’s something that’s been bothering me since a month ago.

Basically, she got to know this guy (let’s call him Adam) from a mutual friend of hers a month ago, and they started talking and texting (not sure how regularly though), and then arranged a meet up to have lunch not long after.

She then informed me a day before their lunch that she was going to meet Adam for lunch at city area and asked if I was okay about. To reassure me, she showed me his instagram profile and holysmoke, he’s honestly a 10/10 in terms of looks LOL.

So I started to get jealous over him and I relayed how I felt to my girlfriend, and she continued to reassure me that they’re just friends and she loves only loves me.

She then asked if she should cancel the lunch session with Adam, to which I said no because I don’t want to be “that controlling boyfriend” and I respect her right to meet anyone she wants.

Fast forward to this Saturday (2 days ago), she suddenly told me that she’s going to study with Adam to prepare for her upcoming exam (exam is tomorrow). The study session lasted for the whole day, from like morning to night.

Again, I got bothered by it and told her about it. She then asked if she should cut her study session short, and of course, i said no because i dont want to be an unreasonable bf. Anyway, I was supposed to meet my girlfriend today to study together, but she told me yesterday that she don’t think it’s a good idea to head out to study today since her exam is tomorrow.

So, I asked her if I am a distracting study partner, and if she had managed to complete her agenda on Sunday, to which she answered yes for both of the questions. She then further explained that she don’t usually go out a day before her exam.

I was still very bothered by it so I told her how I felt about all of this yesterday night. She told me this is how she is.

She treats guys the same way she treats her female friends. The thing is, she was accused previously by her ex-friends and ex-bf that she hung out too frequently with guys alone. However, since her conscience is clear (she only see her male friends as just friends), she is okay with hanging out with them alone. She then proceeded to reassure me that they are really just friends and she loves me so much.

So my question here is, is it normal for me to feel uncomfortable and jealous about this? Or am I just too insecure to deal with this maturely? I dont really know how to approach this issue since this is my first relationship… your help and opinion are greatly appreciated! 🙂

I was supposed to propose to my girlfriend next week and I just found out she has been screwing my brother

I had a whole thing planned out. We’ve been dating for seven years, since we were 15.

This afternoon I get a call from my brother’s wife sobbing that she found a video of him sleeping with my girlfriend.

So now I’m trying to decide if I show her the ring and tell her about the plans before I break up with her or not.

Netizens’ comments

• Just make sure to break it off for good. That toxicity will never heal.

• That’s awful my dude. If anything, be glad you found out now before a marriage certificate and children. Best of luck to you.

• Confirm the video. Return the ring and get your money back. Return your gf to the streets. Work with your SIL to tell family and friends about your brother.

• Fake propose and tell her after she says yes. She will get excited thinking she gets to marry you then you can swat her down hard.

Husband thinks I’m “too fat”

Because of quarantine and not being able to go out as much I’ve gained some weight over the past 2 years.

My husband has not been vocal about it until recently when he out of no where started to insult me and my weight.

He calls me fat and says things like “I can’t believe I chose this” when I walk into the kitchen in the morning.

I don’t feel like I’m overweight, I’m just not as skinny as I used to be. I’ve asked him to stop but he thinks I’m just joking.

He constantly jokes about finding a younger and prettier girl than me unless I lose weight and I’m starting to think he’s being serious.

Idk what to tell him to make him understand it’s hurtful. It’s been a few weeks where he’s constantly making remarks on my weight and it’s starting to affect me more and more.

I don’t want to be mean to him and get angry so I don’t know how to tell him to stop to make him take it seriously.

To everyone asking: I’ve gone from 165cm, 55kg to 65kg. I still feel fine and usually I actually feel better than I used to which I’ve told him, but he says I’m still overweight.

Netizen’s comments

Your first mistake is this

“I don’t want to be mean to him and get angry”.

Time to stand up for your dignity. Let him know exactly how hurtful his words and actions are. Be direct.

Found Husband’s Tinder

What should I do now? One week ago I(24F) had a friend messaged me and told me that she found my husbands(29M)Tinder account.

We have almost been married for 6 years. I confronted him and he played it off as it was an old account that he used before we were married.

Except the picture was a picture from 3 years ago of us together with me cropped out.

He said that he used the account 3 years ago while I was pregnant and going through a major episode.

But he said he was not on it for almost three years before our child was born. Everyone I talked to said his account had been active.

We talked and I gave him a change to be honest, he said that was it. I told him to delete everything because if I ever saw anything again that suggested he cheated then it would be a divorce.

Last night I saw messages dating back to Nov 2021 to April 8th 2022 (the day before I confronted him) talking to girls, exchanging pictures, and planning to meet up with them.

Lots of “Good Morning” and “I’ve missed you messages” but he swears it’s a kink to set up meeting for sex but that he’s never gone through with it.

Even though some of the messages were, “Okay I’m here, Which hotel room is yours?” He’s been saying that he has not done anything since we talked last weekend.

I told him he can take the easy way out we will get divorced or we can totally overhaul our marriage. What should I do now?