I moved out of my parent’s house when I was 22. My sister (25), on the other Hand, Has been living with our parents up until about 2 months ago.

She has always had the upper Hand in life, our parent’s baby the absolute special one. She doesn’t cook or clean. She doesn’t give them any money. All the money she gets, she spends on things like clothes and jewellery. If she were to save up, she could have a condominium or maybe even a house by now.

Our parents are extremely loving, but they can be pretty strict when it comes to specific things.

This is where her “Moving” Out comes in.

Our parents somehow found out about my sister’s job, in short, she sells her body to men. Not exactly sure what kind, but she’s in the prostitution business. I didn’t even know until they found out. They were absolutely pissed. So, they kicked her out.

My sister and I have a fine relationship. We aren’t close by any means, but we’re still sisters.

She calls me up and begs me to let her stay with me until this blows over. I say fine, because like, she’s my sister. I felt bad for her.

She shows up with several bags, and even some furniture she stowed away in her boyfriend’s place. I watch in awe as I see them unloading it into my home. I tell her that I can’t and won’t be able to accept her putting all this stuff in my house. She blows me off and tells me that I won’t even notice she’s there.

She never cleans up after herself. She’s staying in my second bedroom, and I don’t even wanna know how messy it is in there. There’s always plates piled onto the coffee table in the living room, cigarette buds in my candle holders, wrappers, garbage, dirty clothes, all over the floor. I’m constantly up cleaning after her because if I ask her to clean, she says she will and just never does.

She spends forever getting ready, her showers usually take like an hour and forty-five minutes. She’s driving up my water bill, and of course, if I ask her to be more mindful about the time she spends, she says she will be but just never does.

I could continue but I think you get my point.

I eventually put my Foot down and tell her that I can’t have her here anymore unless she starts acting differently. This is when she tells me she’s pregnant, most likely to get sympathy out of me. I offer to pay for her stay at a hotel that’s not too far away, but she declines because they aren’t up to her living standards.

Up until this point, my sister has been relatively passive towards me. But while I was helping her load things into her boyfriend’s car, she tells me that I’m the worst sister ever. She hasn’t called or texted me since and I don’t know how she’s doing, or where she’s staying.

I don’t even know if I’m in the right at this point. I feel like I could have done more to help her realize what her responsibilities are. Cause, in my Mind, she’s kinda like a child. Like our parents never disciplined her or taught her anything.

A man shared his story of how he got scammed for over $15,000 and warned others not to fall for the same trick.

Here is the story:

Chatted with the person for quite some time and got introduced to how she was making quick money by fulfilling orders on the site luisaviaroma.

Basically, the scam goes like this:
1. They provide you with a link to the product and ask you to transfer the amount to a given bank account (money mule). The given bank account names are both Malay names based on what I’ve experienced so far.
2. They start off with products that cost < $100 to bait you into thinking its a good deal
3. You make the payment and get the initial sum refunded plus a 5% commission.
4. Slowly the items get more and more expensive and the conditions suddenly change from 1 quantity to 3 quantity and they request that you make that payment twice.

I did not notice the change and only make the transfer for 1 item. They then contacted me that I’ll have to make the payment for the other 2 items (Which i did, thinking that I’ll get back my money).
Then later they told me that I’ll have to repeat the process again as it was a double order.

It then did i realised that I’d been in a scam all along.

When confronted, the scammer would make all sorts of excuses to get you to pay that balance amount. Even to the extent of offering to pay up to 10k of the balance amount).

IF IT SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, ITS MOST LIKELY A SCAM, DON’T BE BLINDED BY GREED.. THIS WAS INDEED A PAINFUL LESSON TO LEARN.

I, (18F), have a boyfriend (19M). We’ve been dating for around 2 months. Our relationship together has been great so far.

Things go smoothly until I tell him about a guy from an entirely different state.

This guy is his age, in a band, and sometimes a bit of a mess mentally and emotionally wise, especially after a breakup he experienced 3.5 months back. I’ve been there, strictly as a friend, to support him and help him through times. Around a month after breaking up, this guy consistently flirted with me (only at night, which you know how that goes) and said things like appreciating my kindness, my patience, etc. To clarify, yes, this is before my boyfriend and I dated, however, he did know I liked my boyfriend at the time.

My responses were always dry.

I tell my boyfriend about these incidents. Complete mistake because every few days or so, if he even sees a single text on my phone from this different state guy, he’ll be upset for the entire day until I finally get him to tell me what’s wrong. It even gets bad if I briefly mention him. I think he wants me to stop talking to him but I mainly follow him to watch the progress of his band and send each other memes/videos. That’s all we ever do anyways when we text.

My boyfriend thinks the guy stopped flirting because he wants to get close to me, allowing himself to get “chance” from me even though that’s clearly not his intention. Should I just block him for the sake of a happy relationship?

Here are what netizens think:

• Doesn’t sound like your boyfriend has ordered you around or anything… What on Earth is the point of telling your partner about how a guy flirted with you about a month before you started dating though? It’s no surprise he’s wary of your friendship.

• this is huge red flag. If after 2 months he’s insinuating you having to cut ties with your long distant friend, and you do, then imagine after 6 months what he’ll expect for the ones much closer to you. Once all your guy friends are out of the picture he’ll move on to eliminating the girls because “they’re bad influences”. That’s usually how it happens anyway. Don’t let it.

• You’ve only been dating for 60 days and he wants to tell you who your friends should be? Not a good sign.

• your partner is trying to control your friendship with someone because of their own jealousy. This is not a good sign after only two months. If this is what they’re like now, be aware of attempts later on to stop you speaking with, meeting or hanging out with other male friends.

Hi, I’ve had this one on my mind for a while, and I just need advice on what to do, but I do feel like an a-hole for what I’m doing behind my mom’s back.

I will move to my bf’s place for good…

My mom (34) and I (16 at the time) had an argument. My dad had thought I was hiding something from them, because I wasn’t showing him my phone immediately. i was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of three months at the time. I didn’t want my parents to find out because my boyfriend is half Thai, half white. My parents do not want me dating someone who is not chinese.

My mom had a history of bad experiences with white guys and she told me she did not want me to dating a white man because she didn’t want the same thing to happen to me. My dad on the other hand is very racist against everyone.

On to the argument, my dad had went to the bathroom, and my mom was left interrogating me asking what I was hiding. I told her I had a boyfriend because she threatened to take everything away from me if I didn’t tell her. She seemed relieved, and asked his name. I told her his name and her immediate question was “is he a foreigner?” And I nodded. She immediately told me to break up with him and that “I shouldn’t be doing that.” I told my mom I would break up with him, but I never did.

I do feel guilty for lying to my mom, but I’m very in love with my boyfriend. We’re both young (17) but he’s been by my side more than my parents have.

We constantly face time, text, play games etc. Whenever we get into an argument he never yells at me and we communicate correctly. It’s us vs the problem, as we describe it. My dad has made inappropriate comments towards me, and I would tell my mom and she blew it off and said “he sees you in me, don’t pay attention to it he doesn’t mean it” I think I do resent my parents because of that. There’s more like not taking my mental health seriously, constantly treating me like a child, and sexualization from my dad. I resent them for all of that and I feel guilty because they are my parents.

My boyfriend treats me very well. Has been there for me, never has called me out of name, and does everything he can to make me happy. I do not want to break up with him, but I feel like I’m the asshole for going behind my moms back and resenting her. I know what she’s been through, but I do love him with all my heart and feel like I should be allowed to love who I love. Regardless of how my parents feel. Am I the asshole?

I (31M) took my terminally ill friend’s virginity before she passed

Today is her one year anniversary since she passed and I can’t stop thinking about her. She was my friend for 6 years.

Her cancer came back aggressively, she told us she doesn’t want to go through chemo again so she planned to enjoy the time she had left.

Before that she was also kind of a homebody who was only close to a small group of friends which was us.

One night when we were all drinking she admitted to me she was still a virgin but she doesn’t want to lose it to just any stranger. At least somebody she trusts before she goes.

That person was me. She didn’t force me to do anything I didn’t want to, she asked but was willing to drop it and pretend it never happened if I decided no.

We decided to make it extra special. Got a nice hotel room, got those fake candles all over the room to make it more “romantic.”

Was the first time I ever slept with someone I loved but wasn’t in love with if that makes sense. It was still a very intense experience.

Not in a bad way. There was still lots of emotions. Even though she seemed so happy she got to lose her virginity to someone she trusts part of me wonders if I did take advantage. If I was wrong for saying yes.

It’s just hard because I miss her so much. But I’m still glad at least I got to give her something before she left.

Anyone miss your NUS student days cos you had a much more active s– life back then?

I really do. Back then, I hooked up with 3 different girls in the same orientation camp and joined overseas community service trips with f buddies, even getting to experience the thrill of doing it in public places and risking getting caught.

But ever since I grad and started work, things took a turn. Sometimes I just feel so tired and jaded from work and other life issues.  I guess I lost the spark and enthusiasm I once had when picking up girls, and I come across as boring and worn out. Or it could be that the carefree school environment makes it easier for such casual flings to happen. I’m not sure. All I know is that girls are way less responsive to me than before.

I went from being able to hook up with a different young hot chick every month to going for half a year without scoring except for a rather old lady I met at a club who didn’t excite me half as much. It makes me feel depressed and miserable. I really for the good old days when I got so much action that it feels almost unreal.

What should I do? Do I work very hard and try to get really rich, to be able to live the same life again? Or should I go back to school as a freshman once more? I really enjoy hooking up with many girls, and I’d do anything to have that again.

My friends are calling me an ignorant person for refusing to go to a friend’s birthday party after they cancelled our plans

This is a pretty conflicting situation and I don’t know what to think. I have been friends for years with that person but they do have a habit of canceling plans and often giving fake excuses.

Well it was their birthday this week so I offered to take them out for lunch. Everything was going very well, they seemed excited for it and I was too. I try not to be pessimstic but with their history of canceling stuff, it can be hard to not think about the chances of them canceling last minute.

For context im 24 and my partner is 31, we also live with a roommate who is 26. I have been with him for 3+ years and the roommate has lived with us for about a year.

So semi-recently I realized that I was being forced to do every single chore as well as keep up with finances, run both the roommate and him to their separate jobs every day, make sure rent is paid on time, etc.

I tried having a conversation with both of them a month or so back, that even if I was stay at home I simply cannot manage EVERYTHING. (I am not stay at home I have a full time job) I told them that I shouldn’t have to ask them to do the dishes every once in a while, or take the trash out if they notice its full. They both then said “well ask us for help” I tried to do that and I was told that they were tired or that they would get to it later. (Spoiler they don’t do it)

The house in such dissarry and trashed, the toilet hasn’t been cleaned, dishes haven’t been done, their laundry is piling up, trash hasn’t been taken out and the floors are disgusting. I wanted to see how long it would take for them to clean 1 singular thing and neither of them can be assed to do it.

Even after all of that im still getting told “oh by the way the trash needs taken out. The dishes need done, you should clean the cat box, (not my cat btw), my laundry needs done,etc” and those are only the cleaning chores, I still shop for the house, take care of Financials and have everyone’s schedules on my phone so I can wake them both up in the morning so they get to their jobs on time.

Here are what netizens think:

• Ask us for help sounds like they are doing you a favor rather than just keeping up with doing their share.

• Oh God get out! Find a new place to live. Find an actual adult to room with if you need to. Your partner is thirty-one, you shouldn’t have to mother him or spend your time forcing him to do things all normal adults do. 

• This is called weaponized incompetence and you need to leave now. It won’t get better.

For context I’m an early 30’s male, in a relationship for 7 years with an early 30’s female, and we have two small children. A few years ago, I was in terrible credit card debt, which my partner cleared me of with $17k of her savings. We never set a serious repayment schedule or plan, as we were together and knew we’d stay together, with her savings likely going towards a deposit for a house at some point.

Fast forward to a few years later, I bring home around $3800 a month, she brings home around $1200 nett from her online business. I work 40 hours a week and do roughly 8 – 12 hours a week in a second job. She does not work, looks after our son during the day, and takes/collects our slightly older daughter from school.

Our financial situation has been poor until recently when I really took control and got us out of a real rut. My financial planning and taking on a second job have allowed me to pay off $600 of her credit card debt, a defaulted $300 debt of mine, I comfortably paid off a small holiday we were worried over, I’ve paid $130 for her to have her hair done in the last week, I’ve bought her new shoes she wanted and basically she has free reign with our money. My recently acquired sense with money has meant that we don’t go without at all, even when having to pay out around $300 to get our car fixed, paying for days out with the kids or budgeting for stuff like increased bills and transport expenses.

Whenever I suggest saving for something that I want (a guitar of around $900) I am met with an attitude that essentially says “no way”.

I flat out asked her what it would take for me to be able to buy something like that without her being annoyed and her answer was “I really don’t know.”

Am I the arsehole for wanting to spend some of the money I earn on me? I’m out working extra hours to ensure we don’t go without, and as a result we are thriving rather than surviving. I definitely feel like she sees more right to spending our money, even though I’m out earning it.

I understand that I’m technically $17k in the hole, but considering our financial situation has completely reversed and now I’m the saviour of our bank balance and not her, I feel like I’m doing a lot of work (missing out with my children because of it) and the only benefit to me is that we’re not struggling every month.

I know that saving etc. can take time – I’m not trying to take away from anything we have to treat myself, I’m willing to save even if it takes months and months. Do I need to fully pay off that $17k before I have a say?