PHV drivers, do they earn a lot?

So my secondary sch friend was telling me he’s drives grab and fetch around 5-6k monthly. He was telling me he drives 8-9hr daily and only farm for peak hours. I’m quite impressed but I don’t know if he’s capping.

Yesterday night I took grab home and had a conversation with my driver, he was telling me most of the driver definitely earns more than 4k and above even with minimal effort.

He also share with me that driving grab is just merely a side hustle. As quite a lot of them owns a business or having side hustle outside.

“Many of them enjoys driving grab because of the freedom and decent payout compared to office job, I have car and I earn whenever I feel like. And the pay is above average singaporeans.”

I’m just quite impressed on the payout, really something to be look upon.

Netizens’ comments

1. Had a friend quit his job and try to do PHV full-time because he said he likes the flexibility of being a PHV driver. 3 months later he returned the car and is now back to looking for work. He didn’t wanna say but obviously he wasn’t making ‘big bucks’ as what you heard. If you add your bonus, AWS, employer CPF, AL, FCL, MC and other staff benefits you’d have to hustle really hard to make the equivalent amount.
2. Only farms peak hours, but peak hours dont last 8 to 9 hours bro
3. 5-6k monthly sounds a lot, but how much of that goes on the car payments, petrol, insurance etc?
4. It depends on the definition of “a lot”
   5-6k monthly for 8-9 hours sounds good on paper, but, you do not get CPF, and 5 years down the road, you are only a grab driver. what other skills you learn other than driving on the road?
   The reasoning of “freedon and decent payout” is true, but if you are a young chap, you have a better ROI if you sort out the kind of career path you want, and be specialized in a legimate skill.

I used to last long and now i don’t. Please help

I (M24) used to be able to last longer, 15-20 minutes and control when i want to finish. Now for the past week , when I’m with my wife I literally last a minute or 2.

It’s becoming embarrassing. 4 strokes and I already feel myself about to shoot out. I force myself to hold it in and when I do… my D just goes flat.

This is starting to concern me, I’m not happy that I’m not satisfying my spouse because of this. So far I’ve tried controlling my breathing, changed condom size, went slow with my strokes, pulled out in between and take a little 5 second break.. changed position, NONE of them has helped.

The moment i go back inside , i’m about to shoot out, I hold it in and my D goes flat. It’s embarrassing.

I go to the gym reguarly and I’m in standard shape. I also do sports.

Please can other men advice me. Thank you

Netizens’ comments

1. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, and performance anxiety are known contributors to such issues. Relationship issues, mental health and a history of trauma can also play a role.
   Biological Factors: Certain medical conditions, such as prostate problems and hormonal imbalances, may contribute to the problem. Genetic factors and abnormal levels of neurotransmitters in the brain may also be involved.
   Environmental Factors: Unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive alcohol consumption, unhealthy diet, poor sleep and a lack of exercise can play a part.
2. Well, since you only have 4 pumps in you, i say make the most of it. Use your hands and mouth first to make your wife finish first, then after that utilize your 4 strokes. OR, just go and see a f-ing doctor for help.

A man who recently went through a divorce felt that it is so easy for divorce lawyers to earn money as the process for his divorce was so fast and furious.

Here is the story:

I went online to seek divorce lawyers and I managed to pick a few and found the cheapest one. After arranging the appointment with the lawyer, I went down and the lawyer started to ask about my situation.

I told him that my wife who is a foreigner has gone missing and was probably away from Singapore after failing to contact her. Even though she agreed with the divorce. she did not follow through with it and went missing.

The lawyer told me not to worry and asked me for a few key details such as the identification number and detail of both myself and my wife, he then started to draft the letter to submit to a court.

He asked for my contact details and my wife’s contact details and type in the letter that she was uncontactable and missing despite trying. The lawyer told me to dial the phone a few times and take a screenshot to attach as evidence.

The whole process for the lawyer to type and submit the letter to the court took less than 30mins. After 30mins I was told to pay around $2,000.

That’s it, the lawyer tells me to wait 3-7 months and I will most probably get approval for the divorce.

30 mins get $2,000. Lawyers earn more than doctors.

After about 4 months, I received a copy of the official court letter saying that my marriage has been dissolved.

Next time got son i sure ask him be a lawyer that focuses on such affairs.

My grandpa with dementia is saying he sees ghosts that take care of him

Recently over the past few days, my grandpa has been telling my family how he has been seeing these ghosts that are taking care of him and are helping him be calm and I don’t know what to think about it.

Over almost 2 years we found out he has dementia, it has been progressively getting worse as his eating habits go from not really eating, to eating like he is starving and straying away from hanging around with family and being alone. But the ghost situation has been very recent.

He’s one to joke around but seeing the expression on his face I could tell he wasn’t joking. I have no idea how to think about if his end is coming or if it’s a part of dementia that is doing this to him.

To anyone else who may have had a loved one with dementia has any of this happened to you? How should I go about it and what should i do?

Netizens’ comments

1. Just lost a loved one to Alzheimer’s. Was his caregiver for several years. He may be having hallucinations which is part of dementia
2. Of course I always thought when people’s time is almost up. they start straddling both sides and maybe he is about to pass away.
3. My great-grandmother had Alzheimer’s and would talk to her mother and sister at the end, like they were there with her, (but she was almost 90 and they were long gone.)
4. Does the staff dress in all white? Does he usually wear glasses but hasn’t been all the time lately? Is he on a medication that would make his eyesight fuzzy? Any of these along with his dementia could have him believe he is seeing ghosts. As long as he feels comforted by them then there is no reason to worry. Just let him know you’re glad he doesn’t feel alone when you and other family members can’t be with him.
5. Hi friend. I used to be a hospice nurse.
   People with dementia can have visions/hallucinations. However, if he has never had these before, I would let his doctor know. Sometimes hallucinations are associated with a new infection (usually urinary tract) or a new neurological change.

When i was in polytechnic, i had a indonesian female classmate who comes from a rich family. Let us call her veronica. We were close and always help each other in our school work. Her looks is 5/10. I didn’t try to woo her even though she is single because i thought i was still young and i will be able to find a chio gf in future. We were same age.

After we graduate, we lost contact as she went to australia to take a degree while i go ns.

When i was 29 years old, i saw her again on the streets. We reconnected. She was still single. I started joining speedating events to try to find a gf but never thought of wooing her as i find her looks to be only 5/10.

When i was 32 years old, i had a mutual match with a girl from speedating event. Let us call her grace. I was on the way to top up water when her cup of water drop on the floor. I took her cup together to fill up water and gave it back to her. She say thank you. We write both our names in the feedback form. The organiser told us we were mutual match.

On our 1st date,

Me: i only earn 2k+ a month. So far i already spend about 6k to join dating agencies including expensive 1 to 1 matches

She: you don’t earn alot but you are willing to spend money on yourself.

I hear liao i feel that she look down on me as i earn less than her.

Me: i prefer not to have kids. What about you.

She: haven’t thought of this yet. You seem to hate kids?

Me: no lah. I don’t earn alot so prefer not to have kids.

She: hehe. You seem to think alot.

I felt that we don’t really click so i never ask her out again. A few months later, i saw her post pictures of she and her new bf in facebook. 1 year later, she invited me to her wedding.

Me: actually can i ask you that time is it u don’t like me after our 1st meeting?

She: i feel that we are more like friends. You also never ask me out again so i thought you are not interested.

Me: you commented that i don’t earn alot but i am willing to spend money on myself. I thought you hiam i earn less than you so i didn’t ask you out again.

She: i don’t remember saying this. If you don’t earn alot is ok. We can together work hard for our future.

Today i saw her posting pictures of her 2 babies with her husband in facebook.

Now let us come back to my polytechnic friend veronica.

Fast forward to 2019, she invited me to her wedding.

At her wedding, another polytechnic friend told me when veronica came back to Singapore to work after she completed her degree, she was single. She paid 3k to join lunch actually dating agency and this is how she met her husband.

Today i become a old virgin uncle. I regretted not wooing veronica and grace. Especially veronica whom i know since polytechnic and we clicked well and somemore she come from rich family. Her father gave her a condominium to stay in singapore.

Thailand is contemplating a bold move to station Chinese police personnel at some of its popular tourist destinations. This proposal, discussed by Prime Minister Srettha Thavisin and senior officials, aims to restore the confidence of Chinese travelers, once the largest group of foreign arrivals before the Covid-19 pandemic. However, the plan has ignited a controversy, with critics expressing concerns over sovereignty and the potential implications of hosting Chinese law enforcement on Thai soil.

Boosting Confidence: The Rationale Behind the Plan

Thapanee Kiatphaibool, the Tourism Authority of Thailand governor, highlighted the initiative as a strategy to enhance safety measures, ultimately boosting the confidence of Chinese tourists. Drawing parallels with a program in Italy, the Thai government sees this as a successful precedent, signaling a proactive approach to ensuring visitor safety.

Controversy and Concerns: Public Reaction Unveiled

Despite official optimism, Thai Internet users voiced their worries, primarily fearing that Thailand might transform into a covert location for operations targeting Chinese dissidents abroad. In response, government spokesman Chai Wacharonke sought to allay concerns, asserting that the plan’s primary objective is to tackle Chinese mafia groups operating in Thailand.

Tourism Industry Dynamics: The Quest for Chinese Visitors

This move is the latest in a series of attempts by Thailand to attract more visitors, especially considering the impact of safety concerns on Chinese tourist numbers. Earlier initiatives, such as waiving visa requirements, demonstrated the government’s commitment to the recovery of the local tourism industry.

Chinese Arrivals: Current Status and Targets

Despite these efforts, Chinese arrivals in 2023 have totaled 2.8 million so far, trailing the government’s full-year target of 4 million to 4.4 million. This raises questions about the effectiveness of the measures in place and the need for alternative strategies to achieve the desired tourism numbers.

Critique and Alternatives: Assessing the Situation

Critics argue that the deployment of Chinese police might not be the most effective strategy and could lead to unintended consequences. Alternative methods, focused on enhancing safety through local law enforcement and building trust, should be explored to achieve the goal without compromising on sovereignty or triggering controversy.

Conclusion

In conclusion, Thailand’s consideration of stationing Chinese police at tourist destinations is a double-edged sword. While it aims to boost tourist confidence and address safety concerns, the controversy surrounding sovereignty and potential misuse of power cannot be ignored. As Thailand navigates these challenges, finding a delicate balance between attracting Chinese tourists and safeguarding its autonomy is crucial for the sustained growth of its tourism industry.

FAQs

1. Q: How does the plan to station Chinese police affect Thai sovereignty? A: Critics express concerns that hosting Chinese law enforcement might compromise Thailand’s sovereignty, raising questions about the potential influence and operations on Thai soil.
2. Q: What is the government’s justification for the plan? A: The Thai government asserts that the plan aims to combat Chinese mafia groups operating in Thailand, emphasizing its focus on ensuring the safety of both Chinese tourists and the local pop

I found out my husband of 6 years watching “Son-and-daughter” videos

I am 29, my husband and I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I recently went on his phone while he was sleeping and found weeks of these types of searches, and various videos.

I’ve asked him to buy cameras so we can put it everywhere in the house but he refuses saying there is no need.

I don’t know what to do or how to confront him about this. I slept with my daughter the past 2 nights and didn’t tell him why.

If I confront him he will 100% yell at me for going through his phone. I cannot leave as I have no where to go. What would you do if you were me? I feel trapped, scared and ashamed.

Netizens’ comments

• Don’t let the people in these replies make you feel bad for being concerned and disgusted by what your husband jacks off to. But do talk to him about this.

• I’ve been an escort for around 15 years. Although I don’t know his exact circumstance, I used to get a lot of guys who wanted to role play in similar scenarios. (Some ask for stepdaughter role play, some say niece role play, et cetera.) 

• Ignore everyone else, just talk with your husband, don’t let your marriage end because of bad communication

I joined a company recently. My manager was very friendly towards me for like the first month. As I am new to the industry she was very helpful in coaching me on the basic procedures. I was very grateful to her and trusted her.

As the day goes by she started to reveal her true character. I was performing well in my job and everyone in the company was praising me. But my manager did not praise me once even then I was not bothered as my responsibility is to complete my job perfectly and get my remuneration on time.

Things got worse, every morning she came to the office she will ignore me but I will greet my colleagues and also will greet her genuinely. She will not reply and I was not affected. She started to monitor me very closely.

She will stand behind my desk, shouting at me in front of everyone despite it being a small blunder. But when another team member does a mistake she will be like tell them nicely and say all will be fine.

My laptop given by my company was defective and it will shut down on its own. I have highlighted this issue to her several times but she turns deaf ears to me. She expects me to reply to her emails and supplier emails promptly. Due to my laptop problem, I couldn’t work efficiently because it keep shutting down.

Other department managers request the new purchase of laptops for their staff, unlike my manager who just ignore our team’s request and ask us to use the same old laptop. We don’t mind using it but it’s laggy and she is pressuring us to submit work on time and be productive.

She dislikes us advising as she thinks she is the only one who knows about everything.

Many staffs working under her tender their resignation as she keeps being unreasonable and taking credit for our work.

Since there was a high turnover, she ask me to do the work of the staff who left.

I just joined I have to cope with my workload and also juggle 3 person’s workload.

I didn’t give up I worked overtime and also worked on Saturday and Sunday to complete all the work.

But still, she scolds me saying I’m not efficient!

After much consideration, I left the company thinking that there would not be a career growth or work love balance here.

My dad wants me to stay with my cheating ex.

Over the past few year, my mom was dying of cancer and I balanced my time between my girlfriend and taking care of my mother.

Despite this, she keeps complaining I spend too much time with my mom and that to cut it down to an hour per week at the most. It even got to the point where she is angry at me just because I’m not in the mood for intimacy.

About 2 months ago, my mother finally passed away and my girlfriend seemed relieved (offering her condolences but didn’t see sad about it).

She then started pressuring me to get intimate not even 4 days in and I had to tell her over and over now is not the right time. What I saw a week ago shocked me.

As I wanted to surprise my best friend [26M] for his birthday, I went to his house and I saw him and my girlfriend passionately kissing.

Despite their begging and insistence that it didn’t go any further, I told both of them to stay out of my life. With my mother dead and my now ex-girlfriend not being faithful, I decided to turn to my father in hopes he can help.

Instead, he is begging me to reconcile with my ex (apparently, she confessed to him before I told him) and insisted she helped me before.

How can I get my dad to see that my ex is actually damaging me more than helping me?

Netizens’ comments

• That’s none of your father’s business. You don’t need to make him realize that you don’t want to be with her.

• Who cares what he wants? It’s your life. Make decisions that are best for you