I will like to seek advice about how to deal with my in law here, especially from those whom are married.
My brother recently got married, as his girlfriend was pregnant. Our family is a normal Singaporean family. Unfortunately I can’t get along with his girlfriend, aka wife now. She keep comparing and gossiping about me behind my back. She’s 23 years old by the way, my brother is 24.
She loved to tell our parents how poor I am, she say these things weekly at our family dinner gathering. She said I am earning SGD1.4K where else she’s earning RM2500 in Malaysia. she’s a vietnamese working in Malaysia and she come from a rich family background which her father is a businessman. Recently she brought a car using her dad’s money and she mentioned that I have no money to buy a car. I was thinking, what the heck do I need a car for? SG is so small. She also like to mentioned that I do not have a husband and kid.
I simply don’t understand what’s the fun in comparing. I mean, we are all individuals, no one is the same.
I feel like blocking her on my social media accounts and after the baby is born, I will not give him/her any present on his/her birthday, which I knew, this thinking of mine is childish. They are organising their wedding dinner in July, which I am totally not keen in attending.
How do you all normally deal with an in law like that, and do you all have any siblings just like her, whom like to compare?
Instagram user Zaki Hussain, recently took to Instagram to respond to a netizen’s comment, saying that his mother appeared to look younger than him.
The comment in question said, “why your mom looks younger than you?”
In his video, Zaki could be seen crying and wiping tears off his face as he addresses his audience, saying “guys, I kinda hurt by this comment sia.”
He then turned the camera to his mother, asking her “mak marah dorang sikit mak” (translation: “scold them a bit mum).
Looking flattered by the comment, his mother then said “age is not all about how old you are, age is about how young you feel.”
She then lifts the camera up and films herself smiling from different angles, as she holds up a heart shape with his fingers.
Netizens’ comments
i thought she was your daughter bro
Quick question, can your dad fight?
DROP HER SKINCARE ROUTINE
i see where you got your personality… see even your personality is just been copied and reprogrammed
Aunty got no wrinkles like seriously
Nah brooo she rlly does…that’s crazy
ppl wont believe that’s ur momma.She looks like ur sister instead..she looks good..
I thought you were gold but then YOUR MOM and the song kills me everytime
so that’s where you got your goofiness lol..
My gawd… that’s not your mom, you lying. Your sister, right… Right..? Right!?
Hey mom, u feel younger everyday with a son liddat, i bet he helps u alot at home kan?
That’s your older kakak lah don’t bluff
Im sorry bro you looks like your mom older brother.
Seriously bruh.. your mom looks younger
You shave beard for sho you look 10 years younger. That’s how guys around me do it
I understand how you feel bro. Since school whenever i go out with my mom people will either think I’m her brother or nephew. After i go to uni people thought I’m her husband
Drop the beard, you probably gonna get young by 10 years, btw your mom look like your younger sister
In a recent ruling, Chief Justice Sundaresh Menon rejected the appeal of a third-time drink-driving offender seeking a reduction of his lifetime driving ban.
The offender, Mr. Lee Shin Nan, argued that he felt pressured to move his car after an altercation with the owner of another vehicle blocked by his, according to The Straits Times.
Chief Justice Menon upheld the initial sentence of eight weeks’ jail, a $10,000 fine, and a lifetime driving ban imposed by a district judge.
Background of the Case
Mr. Lee Shin Nan, a 45-year-old individual, faced his third drink-driving conviction in June 2022. The incident occurred when he, after consuming four glasses of beer at a coffee shop along Serangoon Road, received a call to move his vehicle, leading him to drive to the nearest car park. However, he was stopped at a police roadblock on Petain Road, subsequently failing a breathalyser test. The test revealed 89 micrograms of alcohol per 100ml of breath, well above the prescribed limit of 35mcg.
Legal Proceedings and Sentencing
Mr. Lee pleaded guilty to the drink-driving charge on March 16, 2023, and received a sentence of eight weeks’ jail, a $10,000 fine, and a lifetime driving ban. Chief Justice Menon dismissed Mr. Lee’s appeal, asserting that the act of moving his car, even under pressure, did not constitute a “special reason” justifying a reduction of the lifetime disqualification.
Chief Justice’s Rationale
In his written grounds issued on Dec 18, Chief Justice Menon explained his decision, emphasizing the dangerous and irresponsible nature of Mr. Lee’s decision to drive after consuming alcohol, especially considering his prior drink-driving convictions. The Chief Justice deemed the desire to avoid unpleasant encounters insufficient justification for the reduction of the disqualification.
Sentencing Guidelines for Repeat Drink-Driving Offences
Chief Justice Menon also took the opportunity to set out sentencing guidelines for repeat drink-driving offences. Following the 2019 amendment to the Road Traffic Act, which doubled the maximum punishment for such offences, the guidelines provide a framework comprising four sentencing bands for fines and disqualification periods based on the repeat offender’s alcohol level.
The Ministry of Health (MOH), together with other government agencies, is stepping up enforcement and education efforts against electronic vaporisers (e-vaporisers). This multi-agency approach is aimed at protecting our population from such harmful tobacco products and preventing vaping from being entrenched locally.
Harmful effects of vaping
2. E-vaporisers typically contain nicotine, a highly addictive substance, that can also harm the developing brains of youths. They also contain cancer-causing chemicals and other toxic substances such as metal nanoparticles and particulate matter (PM2.5) that increase the risk of heart and lung diseases. Vaping is also associated with lung injuries, known as e-vaporiser-use associated lung injury. The toxic substances found in the heated aerosol produced by e-vaporisers can harm users and others through second-hand exposure. In addition, there is evidence that e-vaporisers can be a gateway for non-smokers, particularly youths, to start using cigarettes.
3. Any person using e-vaporisers should seek advice from a healthcare professional and quit as soon as possible. Those who do not use such products should not initiate its use. More information about the harms of e-vaporisers can be found here.
Current enforcement measures against vaping
4. E-vaporisers are illegal in Singapore. Under the Tobacco (Control of Advertisements and Sale) Act, the possession, use or purchase of e-vaporisers carries a maximum fine of $2,000. It is also an offence to import, distribute, sell or offer for sale e-vaporisers and their components. Any person convicted of such offences is liable to a fine of up to $10,000, or imprisonment of up to six months or both for the first offence, and a fine of up to $20,000, or imprisonment of up to 12 months or both for the second or subsequent offence. All prohibited tobacco items will be seized and confiscated.
5. Currently, the Health Sciences Authority (HSA) monitors and targets illicit sales of e-vaporisers via social media and messaging platforms to curb online access of e-vaporisers. HSA works with the Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA) for the detection and enforcement of illegal imports of e-vaporisers. HSA also works with other agencies, such as the Ministry of Education (MOE) and National Environment Agency (NEA), to conduct random checks or opportunistically enforce against illegal usage of e-vaporisers in the community.
6. Despite the ban, the authorities have observed that some users continue to purchase e-vaporisers online, from messaging applications such as Telegram, or when they go overseas. We are therefore taking measures to protect our population and prevent vapes from taking hold in our society.
7. Moving forward, the government will enhance enforcement measures, to disrupt the sales and supply of e-vaporisers. The enhanced enforcement measures include:
a) Working with enforcement authorities to disrupt the sales and supply of e-vaporisers through our borders; b) Improving detection and removal of sales and advertisements of e-vaporisers online; and c) Enhancing enforcement in the community to curb the possession and use of e-vaporisers, including in schools.
Strengthening upstream measures to disrupt sales and supply of e-vaporisers
8. In the coming months, HSA and ICA will conduct inter-agency operations at air, land and sea checkpoints, starting with Changi Airport. Incoming passengers may be screened for e-vaporisers and their components at the arrival halls, and those found with e-vaporisers or their components will be fined.
9. Incoming passengers are reminded to pass through the Red Channel at the checkpoints and declare the possession of e-vaporisers to the checkpoint officers, so that they could dispose the e-vaporisers into the disposal bins. Travellers who declare and surrender these items at the Red Channel will avoid penalties. Anyone who is found with e-vaporisers in their possession without declaring to the ICA checkpoint officers may be liable to fines under the Tobacco (Control of Advertisements and Sale) Act. ICA will also continue to conduct security checks and work with relevant authorities to detect and deter smuggling attempts.
10. MOH and HSA are also working with the Ministry of Communications and Information and Infocomm Media Development Authority to step up enforcement to improve detection and removal of sales and advertisements of e-vaporisers online.
Enhancing enforcement in the community
11. MOH and HSA are working with agencies such as MOE, NEA, National Parks Board and the Singapore Police Force to step up enforcement against the possession and use of e-vaporisers locally. Since 1 December 2023, NEA’s enforcement officers have been empowered to take action against individuals who use or possess e-vaporisers, and cases have been referred to HSA.
12. We will also step up checks at public hotspots, such as the central business district, shopping centres, parks and smoking areas, as well as public entertainment outlets (e.g. bars and clubs). Offenders will be issued with a fine on the spot by enforcement officers.
13. MOE takes a firm stand against vaping. Schools and Institutes of Higher Learning (IHLs) will strengthen detection and enforcement efforts against vaping. When students are caught using or in possession of e-vaporisers, the prohibited product will be confiscated and their parents will be informed. The schools and IHLs will report the offender to HSA and continue to manage vaping-related offences through their existing disciplinary frameworks. These include taking school-based disciplinary actions, such as suspension or caning for boys. Students caught vaping will also be placed on cessation support programmes where counsellors will guide them through their cessation journey to effect long-term behavioural change.
Intensifying education efforts
14. In schools and IHLs, the Health Promotion Board (HPB) will continue to work with MOE to amplify anti-vaping messages in educational materials and preventive programmes, raise awareness of the harms of vaping, and provide vaping cessation support for students who are caught vaping.
15. Parents have an important part to play as well. There are resources and relevant information parents can access on Parent Hub. Parents are encouraged to have a serious conversation with their children about vaping to prevent it from becoming a life-long habit. More information about the harms of vaping is available on Parent Hub at https://go.gov.sg/parent-hub-vaping.
16. At the population level, HPB has rolled out a digital vape-free campaign in 2023 to raise awareness of the harms and illegality of vaping. HPB will also intensify public education efforts through campaigns and greater visibility of signages in public areas.
17. Information pertaining to prohibited tobacco products in Singapore is available on the HSA website. Members of the public who have information on the illegal possession, use, purchase, import, distribution, sale or offer for sale of e-vaporisers can contact HSA’s Tobacco Regulation Branch at Tel: 6684 2036 or 6684 2037 during office hours (9:00am to 5:30pm, Monday to Friday).
MINISTRY OF HEALTH HEALTH SCIENCES AUTHORITY 19 DECEMBER 2023
would someone be willing to explain to me why are some girls so shameless and disgusting?? going after a taken guy and requesting him on social media knowing he has a girlfriend .. sitting beside him during staff dinners and photos like you are trying to stand a chance??
i have always been a girls support girls person but this girl is getting on my nerves these days. I have never met someone like this before and i am fumbled by the audacity of this person’s behaviour.
Can someone advice if i should genuinely be concerned about this or just let it go. My boyfriend on the other hand is someone who likes attention and has hard time saying no but he does tell me when i ask and does not lie (sometimes) . I have not been in a rs since 2017 and this is my 2nd rs in my 20yrs of living and this is my first time encountering such experience.
My boyfriend also used to kept his ex gf in his spam acc without me and lied to me by saying that it was only for the boys and that was the reason he could not accept my following which i found out, turned into a huge fight .. he was sorry bla bla and we got over it. I got over it because i saw that he actually posted me on his spam acc altho i dont know why he could not accept me??
There was this one time when i went out to eat with him and as i was getting up to queue for his food, in that span of time he liked someone’s picture while i was beside him and he was cranky the whole time we ate.. this hurt me alot btw but i did not said much.
idk if my bf is the problem or my overthinking is the problem. and that girl that have been snaking around his workplace trynna get something from my bf.. what am i supposed to do wit her or just let them be.
or would it be the best to leave this rs and js focus on my studies since whatever this guy can provide for me , i can provide for myself 3 times more.
In a recent incident caught on CCTV, two boys were captured attempting to steal e-bikes at Block 641, Ang Mo Kio Avenue 4.
The incident unfolded when the owner emerged, prompting the would-be thieves to flee the scene. However, the saga continued later that day when one of the boys resurfaced in Serangoon, allegedly stealing an eco-drive e-bike.
The CCTV footage of the foiled thievery attempt was shared on the Instagram page @sgfollowsall.backup.
Ang Mo Kio Attempted Theft
The attempted theft occurred at Block 641, Ang Mo Kio Avenue 4, where CCTV footage revealed two boys in the act of trying to steal e-bikes.
As luck would have it for the bike owner, his timely appearance startled the culprits, prompting a hasty retreat. The incident underscores the importance of vigilance, especially for those who park their bikes outdoors.
Serangoon E-Bike Theft
Surprisingly, the story took an unexpected turn when, later on the same day, one of the boys involved in the Ang Mo Kio incident was reportedly spotted in Serangoon.
It is alleged that the same individual was responsible for the theft of an eco-drive e-bike in the Serangoon area.
What The Netizen Said
These two boys caught trying to steal ebikes at 641 amk 4 when owner came out both boys ran away then on the same day one of the boys was seen at serangoon also same person steal eco drive ebike. just want to spread to everyone to just take note if park bike outside.
Netizens’ Comments
Report to police. These people don’t have parents to teach them how to behave when they grew up. Probably don’t have father mother. No education in school, and fail in life
Report to police to arrest this 2 potential thieves
Small boi only wants his parent’s attention cus his rich parents don’t bother giving him care and love so sad
YPs these days cant afford ebikes but want to pangkeng ehhh who these idiots parents la… why their hair like sh-t covered mop
Writing in for some advice because I’m feeling very lost. To give some background, my parents don’t have the perfect relationship but they get along quite ok.
My mum said that she chose to marry my dad even though he was poor, because he was responsible, honest and hardworking. So fast forward 20+ years, he has been a good father and is very good to us. However, recently he has been going out late at night, which he says is to drink with his friends to destress due to work stress. But he has also been behaving weirdly and paying alot of attention to his appearance.
I was getting too suspicious so one day i decided to look at his phone (i know its wrong) and saw that he had a whatsapp chat with a young woman, and their chat were just quite flirtatious, like asking whether she was ok because she drank alot etc. after reading it i was really hurt and disappointed because i hate cheating and would never condone it.
But i am also not sure how to move forward because my mum relies on him and i know that this will hurt her deeply. I just feel so helpless and dont know what to do.
I cant even look at him in the eye now even though i had a close relationship with him before, i dont think i can respect him anymore
Here are what netizens think:
Dun get involved with adults affairs. Most of the time, you dun even know what’s going on between your parents and put up a facade that it’s a happy family. Keep quiet and just watch your dad gets his own karma.
I empathize. The point here is your mom. You want to protect your mom. I recently came across a case of marital infidelity and trust me, it’s a complete mess for everyone involved. If you can stop it before it starts, you will be doing everyone a favour, including your dad, and preventing a lot of potential and unnecessary hurt. Your dad might be going through some mid-life crisis. Some men go a bit kisiao during this period and do things that they will regret.
My advice -have a heart to heart talk with your dad when you can summon up the courage. I disagree with those who asked you to ignore and live your own life and let adults settle their own. This is YOUR family. Now that you know something, and it affects you, how can you ignore it? Your mum also may not appreciate to be kept in the dark IF this flirting behaviour turns out to be more than just a few messages. But instead of revealing it to her, talk to your dad first and tell him what you think. If he has any conscience and plans to save the marriage, your talk with him may be the wake up call he needs before things get out of hand. In the meantime, think of how you can better support your mum if things get ugly.
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, clashes on the road are not uncommon. One such incident, however, took an unexpected turn when a traffic-related dispute escalated into a physical altercation involving a 56-year-old businessman, his son, and a 20-year-old motorcyclist.
The Genesis of the Dispute
According to The Straits Times, Azharin Abas, a 56-year-old entrepreneur running an air-conditioner servicing business, found himself entangled in a dispute with Muhammad Khair Farish Khalid, a 20-year-old motorcyclist. The confrontation originated from a traffic incident in Bedok North Avenue 1 on July 15, at around 4 pm.
As Khair attempted to make a right turn into a car park, Azharin, in his van, sounded the horn. This seemingly innocuous act set the stage for a sequence of events that would lead to fines and legal repercussions for those involved.
The Verbal Exchange
Following the honking, Azharin claimed that Khair, in response, gestured provocatively. Azharin, curious about Khair’s riding style, engaged in a verbal exchange in Malay, questioning, “Macam mana kau naik motor?” or “How do you ride your bike?”
The situation escalated when Khair parked his motorcycle and noticed that Azharin had followed him. Azharin, accompanied by his son Azhani, decided to confront Khair in the car park.
From Words to Fists: Escalation of the Confrontation
The confrontation turned physical as Azharin accused Khair of riding dangerously and questioned if he wished to die. A verbal dispute ensued, drawing Azhani into the mix. Khair allegedly responded with an obscene word, triggering a series of punches exchanged among the trio.
A passerby intervened, putting an end to the altercation. Khair sought medical attention, revealing bruises on his face and chest. Azharin and Azhani, on the other hand, claimed minimal injuries and did not seek medical help.
Legal Ramifications
In the aftermath, Azharin faced legal consequences and was fined $2,500 after pleading guilty to disturbing the peace by fighting in a public place. His son, Azhani, also admitted to a similar charge and was fined $1,000. The legal proceedings against Khair are pending.
The Toto top prize for the upcoming draw on Thursday, Dec. 21, 2023, has reached an impressive estimated S$10 million, creating a buzz among lottery enthusiasts.
This significant jackpot surge follows three consecutive draws without a top prize winner, resulting in a remarkable escalation from S$1.2 million to the current eye-catching figure.
Understanding the Prize Evolution
In the realm of lottery, the term “snowball effect” takes center stage as the prize pool gathers momentum.
Starting from a modest S$1.2 million, the top prize snowballed through subsequent draws, reaching S$2.78 million and then an astonishing S$5.61 million.
The current estimated prize of S$10 million adds an element of anticipation and excitement to the upcoming draw.
Insights from the Recent Draw
The draw conducted on Monday, Dec. 18, provided some interesting insights. While there was no top prize winner, four fortunate individuals clinched the Group 2 prize, each walking away with a substantial S$148,395.
What’s intriguing is that all four winning tickets belonged to the System 7 category, with one of them placed through online betting.
Unraveling the System 7 Bet Type
For those unfamiliar with System 7, it’s a unique bet type that costs S$7 but is equivalent to seven ordinary bets. This not only offers players more chances to win but also introduces an interesting dynamic to the lottery experience.
The availability of online betting for System 7 adds convenience for players seeking an alternative way to try their luck.
Lucky Locations
Adding to the excitement is the diverse range of locations where the winning tickets were sold.
From NTUC FP Bukit Batok MRT Station to NTUC FP Warehouse Club at Joo Koon, and the Singapore Pools branch at Block 211 Hougang Street 21, the winners hail from different parts of the city. This highlights the widespread appeal of the Toto lottery.
TOTO Draw
Lottery enthusiasts will need to adjust their schedules as the Thursday draw time has been pushed back to 9:30 pm, a departure from the usual 6:30 pm timing. This change adds an element of unpredictability, keeping participants on their toes as they await the draw results.
A Singaporean man took to TikTok to share a harrowing experience after his car was vandalized and ransacked in the supposedly secure carpark of KSL D’Esplanade Residence. The incident occurred during a staycation on December 15, 2023, raising questions about the effectiveness of the security measures in place.
The victim, who posted on his TikTok page @thebluecarguy, seeking assistance in spreading awareness, detailed the events that transpired. On the evening of December 15, the Singaporean man parked his car at the residence, emphasizing that the location was “heavily guarded with security guards” and required keycard access for every floor, including the car park. The victim asserted that he had taken all necessary precautions to ensure the safety of his vehicle.
The following day, on December 16, 2023, at 10 am, the man and his friend discovered the shocking aftermath when they returned to the carpark to go for breakfast. The driver seat window had been smashed into pieces, despite no valuables being visible within the car. The victim reported having a laptop and portable charger stored in the boot, away from plain sight.
In a surprising turn of events, the thief not only smashed the window but also managed to unlock the doors and the boot, leaving the car in disarray. The victim expressed concern over the apparent lack of response from the security despite having an alarm system and a CarTrack device installed in the vehicle.
Undeterred, the Singaporean man took matters into his own hands, managing to obtain security footage that captured the perpetrator’s face, the act itself, and his escape. The TikTok post serves as both a cautionary tale and a plea for heightened vigilance, especially during the holiday season.
The incident has sparked discussions about the security protocols in place at seemingly secure locations and the need for authorities to address vulnerabilities. Travelers are urged to exercise caution and take additional measures to safeguard their belongings, even in areas deemed secure.
As the investigation unfolds, this incident serves as a stark reminder for both locals and tourists to remain vigilant and prioritize their safety, especially during the holiday season when criminal activities tend to increase.
What the victim said
“Hi all. Please help me to spread/repost/share.
On 15th December 2023, I drove in Johor for a staycation at KSL D’Esplanade Residence. I arrived and parked at the “heavily guarded with security guards and the need to have a keycard to access every floor including the carpark” at approximately 8pm. My friend and I, after parking, we did not go out with the car anymore and hence it was sitting in the carpark.
The following day, 16th December 2023, at 10am, both of us decided to go for Breakfast. We went to the carpark, and damn the shock when we saw that my driver seat window had been smashed into pieces. Funnily enough, there were NO VALUABLES placed in plain sight. I had a laptop and portable charger in a bag, but in the boot.The thief smashed my window, unlocked the doors and also the boot. Everything was ransacked and was in a mess.
My question was, where was the security when the alarm sounded because I definitely had an alarm. I even had a CarTrack device.
Anyways, I managed to get some security footage and we captured his face, the evidence he did the act, as well as his escape.
So please be careful whenever you’re travelling across, especially in this Holiday Season!”
