My wife is a stay at home mom for our 2 kids and I work full-time as the sole income provider for the family. I am slowly working on paying back my student loans.

My wife recently received a relatively large inheritance, about 10x the number of my student loans.

A month after everything regarding the inheritance was settled, I talked with my wife about using the inheritance to pay off my loans. She refused to give me any of the money and said the inheritance belongs only to her. I told her that, yes, legally that’s true but we are a family and we should share our resources to make our burdens easier.

She disagreed and said my student loans pre-date our marriage and are my sole responsibility.

I felt like she was being unfair to our relationship and to us as a family, so the next day I told her that if she was not going to help me pay off her student loans, now that she has money I will not be paying for any expense that is solely hers (like clothes, eating out, flights, makeup, spas, new phone, etc.).

Instead, I will be putting that money towards my loans to pay them back faster. She accused me of being controlling with money and abusing my position as the income-earner but I don’t see why I should be responsible for all that when she has her own money now?

Here are what netizens think:

• Sometimes woman want an emergency fund. Especially if their husband is controlling, or other red flags.

• I agree with you. It’s been made clear to him by his wife that his debt is his debt and that he’s on his own — and of course he wants to clear it off as soon as possible. And if that means putting an extra $500 towards it instead of his wife’s non-necessities, which she can now afford herself — then it is perfectly reasonable for him to do so.

• But the money he’s putting into the household is essentially paying her in a way for childcare, cooking and cleaning, that’s how it works when one parent stays home.

I went to a stand up show for a date, got made fun, and then ended up crying in front of my date.

It was my 4th date with her and I really liked her and enjoyed seeing her but now I’m screwed.

So she had the idea to go to a stand up event where comics came up and did their set. 3 out of 5 of the comments made me a part of their routine.

They all just went in on me for the way I looked, dressed, and constantly made it a point that the girl I was seeing was out of my league. One asked how much I paid for her to be my date.

I tried to be good natured about it. I tried to not let it get to me. But honestly my self esteem is such crap anyways and I couldn’t help to take everything they said personally because all of it was true.

I ended up crying by the time the last comic came up and the girl noticed and said that we should leave before it gets worse.

I dropped her off and I tried texting her apologizing for ruining the date and I haven’t gotten a response.

I fell for a Siam bu.

Before u guys judge me, please hear me out. I often frequent Thai disco / Siam Diu as a means to de-stress. I find that the loud music and spinning lights help take the stress away from my work.

Like any other visit, I sat at my usual spot when a petite silhouette from afar caught my attention. Her round eyes, sharp nose, and elongated legs is what many would consider “attractive”. Not to mention that her long and silky hair that is constantly brushing against her shoulder line; any man would subconsciously gravitate toward her and I was no exception.

I could not help but to glance in her direction without making it too obvious. I got caught eventually and we exchanged eye contact for a good 10 seconds. She understood the assignment and came over for a chat. As we began sharing more about each other, I realized that we have many things in common. We immediately clicked as though we had known each other right from the beginning. She introduced herself as “Moon.”

At that moment, I felt as though I had found my soulmate. Talking to Moon made me forget about my fatigue from work. It was as though time had stopped. Deep down, I was sincerely hoping that the conversation could last forever. Time flew quickly, and before I knew it, the place was closing for the night. We exchanged contact and parted ways.

The next day, my phone rang. On answering, I was greeted by a familiar voice. It was Moon. My face lit up knowing that I could connect with her again. We agreed to meet up at a Thai restaurant called NaNa at Golden mille.

NaNa restaurant is a famous Thai restaurant in SG. Moon claimed to be a frequent patron of the place as their food tasted close to home. She even use the opportunity to teach me the name of the dishes in Thai. Halfway through our meal, she was rudely interrupted by a phone call which led her to leaving the restaurant. She claimed that she had something urgent to attend to, and needed to excuse herself. She sounded anxious.

Feeling concerned, I quickly paid the tab and followed her. I was soon led to one of the floor exits where I found her seated on the stairs and sobbing uncontrollably. I approached her to check on her. My presence caught her off guard and, almost immediately, she apologized for leaving me alone in the restaurant. She then went on to explain what happened. Turns out, her mom was terminally ill, and needed money for her operation. Sympathizing with her plight, I agreed to help her out without much hesitation.

As I was about to get up and make the withdrawal. She grabbed my hand and pulled me towards her. She gave me a peck on my cheek to express her gratitude. Things got heated up and we made love in a public space. Despite the shabby location, the S was good and memorable. The day ended on a good note with her settling her family matters with my financial support.

That incident pulled us closer as we started hanging out more. Despite numerous warnings from my friends and family about her intention, I chose to believe her as I felt that the society perception towards hostress is based on stereotypes. Things, however, did get dubious when she started asking for more money…

My wife is the breadwinner. I’m a househusband doing online business for past years so earnings is up and down. So I do housework and cook (I happen to be a pretty ok cook) and take care of a wife after a long day of work. But her mother was very unhappy coz she subscribed to gender norms so in the end I also stay out of her family gatherings. I also stay away from her family coz her sisters quite money face and think I’m useless as a househusband.

My wife has an ex whom she left for me. The ex was not as rich as me till I decided to become home husband coz after marriage I decided to build a business and my wife was supportive of my ambition. But yeah recent times are bad.

my wife’s mother and family seem to love this ex from day 1, coz this ex always driving nice cars and buy all of them dinner always.

Last week, her ex jio my wife for birthday celebration just both of them, they always do it for years but I never bother for many years coz she is a responsible wife and I trust her. But this time he invited my wife’s mother too and according to my wife they had a good time. I had never on good terms with her mother since I decided to quit a regular job. it felt like my wife also enjoyed it.

I can’t a but feel weird. But I also think it’s because my income drop. I don’t have dignity tbh and I regret everything I made about my career. What should I do to make myself better? Please be honest and shoot me if you want.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m just puzzled that your wife goes for her birthday meals with her ex every year. What’s the reason that you allow this to happen? Do they have children together? If they don’t, then I think this is a huge red flag of them keeping the bridge between the 2 of them open JUST IN CASE… It’s happening under your nose and you’re letting it happen. Also why did you quit your full time job? You could’ve done your business part time for a few years first and wait for it to be fully successful before quitting

• 1. It’s odd to allow your wife to meet her ex every single year without anything happen.2. You trust your wife but do you trust her ex ?3. It’s doesn’t make any sense for a past relationship to continue till today4. I am pretty sure they might have something more that u didn’t noticed.

• 1. Your wife is the bridge to the relationship between her mom and you. So she can be the key to how her family views you. Is she doing enough to change their perception? (I dont think she should let her mom join the birthday celebration, it is odd. and even let her ex to conveniently meet every year. Why. You. Let. Her?)2. I think you should not stay away from her family 100%, and should also do your part to build relationship with her family even in smaller efforts. It could be hard but your wife can help, if she wants to help.3. Even if you make less money you can also buy things for her family. No need to be too expensive. And even cook for her family occasionally. Just do what you can do.4. When you dine out with your wife, invite her mom along too (3 people). And sometimes, invite her sister (3 people). And sometimes, invite everyone. Not forgetting just yourself and the wife, like a monthly date.5. There is nothing wrong being a house husband if that works well for the two, especially you also do your own business. The in laws may look down on you, but you dont look down on yourself, which you may start feeling so. However, if a business is not working or things have changed, it is time to re-strategise the whole thing.6. Remember, she chose you. (Pika~) Show to her that she didnt choose wrongly.

I (21F) have a small business, to help me pay for uni. I’m also a red belt in Taekwondo and have been in the same academy my whole life, i even considered my professors and the other students family.

So background story is this. I work in a small SME with only a handful of people in the office.

There is this guy who I won’t say I hate him, but he likes to crack jokes in the office, often at my expense.

Like making fun of my name and saying hurtful stuff. I know he is just playing around but tbh, I don’t really like it.

Now here is where the problem comes. I told another trusted friend about this and he told the guy to stop bothering me.

Couldn’t keep his mouth shut somehow.

Now the guy who I said makes jokes at me messaged me and apologized and said he will only talk to me for work matters from now on.

Sounds abit childish to me, like the primary school kind of I don’t friend you that kind of thing.

So my question is this, would you tolerate getting laughed at and keep the peace or would you tell him off and make the whole office stale and stagnant? Thanks

Netizens’ comments

• Wait, but the guy who cracked jokes about you apologized and stop Liao right?
  Then technically you don’t need to worry alr Ma because now:
  • you don’t have to tell him off
  • that guy said he won’t bother you alr
  • Your trusted friend probably told him in a nice way that actually you feel hurt
    so now win win, you have a good friend who defends you, and a colleague who understands your boundaries. From now you’ll have a non toxic workplace alr no? 😀
• “Couldn’t keep his mouth shut somehow”
  If this is the thanks one gets in standing up for you, I think I’d rather be your enemy

I recently went to the doctor to get a standard wellness visit and got some bloodwork done. I mainly wanted the bloodwork to see if my iron levels were low and check my cholesterol levels. My doctor asked if I wanted to check for stds as well and I said yes not thinking much of it. Well I got my results and I have chlamydia. I know it’s a fairly common and treatable std but I panicked a bit when I found out.

I always get tested before and after each new partner and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for 2 years now. I know I got tested before my current partner and it came back clean. Not only that but I had a been scare about 6 months into dating my current partner and went to go get a test. I went to get tested and I had bv, which I treated, but that test also came back clean for stds.

So my only logical conclusion is that I got chlamydia from my current partner. I was really confused about this because in the beginning of dating before we had S, I had made to sure to ask if he was clean and if he got tested recently. Based on this I was somewhat worried that I got it because he had slept with someone else during our relationship. But I didn’t make any accusations. I called and told him I had chlamydia and that he needed to get tested/treated.

I then asked him when was the last time he actually got an std test. It took a bit of questioning but he eventually admitted that he did not get an std test in between me and his previous ex.

So that really pissed me off and I pointed out that he lied when I asked him if he got tested and was clean in the beginning of our relationship. I asked him if he had anything to say to that. He got quiet and didn’t say anything. He just said that he would get tested and tell me the results. I pointed out that my chlamydia didn’t show up on the test I got when I had bv either which was weird because we had been having sex for about 5 months already (with a condom but we didn’t use condom or dental dam when doing oral and we had a couple of times where the rubber broke..). He didn’t say anything to that either. I said alright let me know when you’re getting tested then I hung up because I was pissed he wasn’t apologizing or admitting to anything or talking in general.

Basically now I’m just waiting until he gets tested and tells me. But it’s been three days and we haven’t talked and he hasn’t told me that he’s scheduled his test or anything. I don’t want to make any rash decisions until he gets his test results back. But I’m pissed. I don’t know how long I’ve had chlamydia and I know the longer you have the more at risk women are for PID and other complications.

I don’t see any other possibility other than him having it from his ex and passing it onto me or him acquiring it from someone else during our relationship. Is it wrong of me to assume this? And should I push for him to get his testing done faster? The waiting is really bothering me and he hasn’t said anything about scheduling it. Am I overreacting by thinking this is possibly breakup worthy?