Job Hunt Predication

Recently nailed a Admin job in a healthcare institution. Letter Of Appointment signed and pending Onboarding and medical checkup. Now the issue is the medical checkup. Start work would be in Nov 2023.

I did a Walk In at IMH back due to stress and worries over a perm change in status over a loved one. Back then was having mood swing and difficulties in sleep and required counselling and amid some light medications prescribed by IMH. (Had been discharged almost near 2 years since).

During the checkup, reviewing doctor saw the record and asked slightly on it which I gave him a brief overview. He then asked if I was discharged which I told him had been discharged some time back. So he mentioned he’s not going to asked anything on that and will leave it as it is, and he would review again in Dec if I would face stress/difficulty at work. He gave a paper advice to seek supervisor help. He also mentioned to me this is only an advice and he’s not discriminating me. He then gave me the standard vaccinations required for healthcare employment and too a blood test. BT results would be a week later, to see him again.

So now comes my worries:-

* Would HR stop my commencement based an old IMH record

* Would HR demand me to get IMH to release my records (aka would IMH release patients record for this purpose)

* Would the Doc certified me unfit for employment due to an old IMH record

Would appreciate for any advice, esp if anyone have had a similar experience before.

Thanks in advance

how to unlove someone? we broke up in november last year. It was a short relationship (less than 6 months).

but i poured out my whole heart and invested in this rs. we both envisioned a future together.

but his effort for me started depleting towards the end. no matter how much i tried to be understanding, to love him, it was so one sided and I realised that there was no more love. i knew he just didn’t know how to break that news to me.

so I became the dumper not by choice, but the dumper that was left with no choice.

here we are in april 2022, i’m still not over it. i’ve busied myself, went no contact the minute we called it quits, so why am I still not over.

I believe he is already done and moving on. But why am I still so stuck. I can’t do this anymore. I hate feeling so much for someone who has moved on and clocked out of a rs.

Netizens’ comments

• Key is distraction. Go for a random meetup or gym/dance event. Like half of them are there to get distracted and to start again.

You can do it

• Maybe you have to come to terms and forgive yourself for giving yourself to someone undeserving of your love. It might be this tension that you are struggling with instead.

Put in another perspective, it is your emotional losses that hurt. It could be another person that failed you in a similar manner, but the act of giving your all to someone who failed to give it back is painful. This could be because you expended yourself willingly, and the cost was great, and you could be subconsciously blaming yourself for not perceiving better and making a poor choice on whom you chose to pour all your love on. Your ex could simply be a representation of your perceived poor judgement.

Maybe take some time to forgive yourself. Love is a risk, and maybe when we fully have our hearts broken might we know the true value of a healthy relationship when we encounter it. Maybe when you can accept this as part and parcel of love, might you able to forgive yourself, let him go and move on.

So, instead of unloving someone, start loving you instead. Take care!

What is wrong with my dad…

My dad is reaching 80 yo… Just recently fully retired and very frequently sits in the living room just in deep thoughts about every small thing about Other ppl… And mostly are really non of his business… But he gets annoyed by every small thing that affects his sleep daily.

He limits the time we come home, use the hair dryer and use the toilet at night for fear we will cause noise that will disturb the neighbours.

I was taking a dump at 1 to 2 am, and he couldn’t sleep coz I had the lights on in the living room and he ask my mom to text me to tell me to shut off the lights ASAP coz it’s disturbing his sleep as the lights will seep in under his door.

When I turn my room door/toilet knobs he also say it will wake him

I was drying my hair at midnight but he was in the room scolding my mom on why can’t I dry my hair earlier coz it disturbing him and possibly the neighbours

I hv a lot of items selling in Carousell and he also want to interfere saying am I so desperate /need money hence I need to sell my stuffs… And he despise when I sell things… As if I’m throwing his face…

When I purchase things from Taobao he also have the nastiest thing to say about foreign imports, saying only Cheapskates like me cannot afford to buy frm physical stores, so hv to buy frm online… And I will surely get scammed one of these days…

I am already nearing 50 years old and he is giving me curfew say he will lock door if I come back late

I being the Very Cheapskate child, has been contributing to my parents house and their living expenses since ard 19 years old , even when I was jobless…, I still support their expenses unconditionally with my savings, whereas my sibling who permanently lives with them did not contribute a single cent

not only does he Not help with house chores , he treats our mother like a maid…

He creates so much pee on the bathroom floor to add to her cleaning duties…

The best part is, she tell me “that is how men are like… Your dad is like that too !”

Why does my mom enjoy being tortured or wat… , Wats wrong with her brain omg…

Why can’t ppl just SIT DOWN to pee if they are not lifting a finger to help with cleaning AT ALL !???

Pls be considerate and don’t take your mom for granted !

he is highly educated, but Wats the use, he doesn’t even bother to help them read their letters fr the gov and every time my parents had to call me and ask me wat do those letters say… I was really so annoyed they are allowing him to behave like such a brat…

But my mom now tells me, my dad says if I hv any intention to move home, he will move out and I am maximum allowed to stay Occasionally only 1-2days…. And she tells me to stop doing things to make him angry coz he is alr so old, and he keep thinking he is nearing death

I feel very used and not appreciated and deeply hurt ever since she told me that 2 weeks ago till now…

Yesterday I told my mom that only a Dead person will not produce ANY NOISE in the house and I feel that my dad is not behaving like a normal person

He screams at me over every small thing for fear I will disturb the neighbours and his precious son who has to work the next day

But I really did not make any unreasonable amount of noise, even my mom said she hardly heard I produce any noise…

During COVID in 2020, I tried to help my uncle put up his items for sale online as he claimed his business was very bleak and he was in a pathetic state… But it came back to bite me until now…

He is still complaining to my dad about how wrongly I posted his products and it shd not be posted…

It’s been more than 3years btw… And my dad is still screaming at me about it as if I had committed a grievous crime , like it all just happened yesterday (even when there was no loss in any way)…

I did not utter a single word as I did not want to agitate him further as he was behaving like a madman

I think it doesn’t always pay to be a good/kind…

Ppl will just take you for granted…

I had never let their favouritism affect me before, but the part he said I can only stay over for Max 2 days was my last straw as he said he will die very soon if he sees me too often

I am totally speechless…

So yeah I needed to get this off my chest. It’s thrown me for a loop. I am 46, and I was with my husband since I was 21. We got divorced two and a half years ago. We just grew apart and mutually agreed that the best thing for us was to go our separate ways. It was relatively amicable as these things go. We have three boys (22, 19, and 16).

My sister also is in the process of a divorce. Her soon-to-be ex was cheating on her with a coworker of his. My sister has two kids. (10 m and 6 f). Apparently one night last year after my cousin’s birthday party the two of them ended up sleeping together. I remember the night because my sister showed up in a very revealing outfit and was turning heads all night. Little did I know one of the heads she turned belonged to my ex husband!

They’ve been sleeping together off and on ever since. I know they’re both adults and neither is in a relationship but it still seems weird to me and I don’t understand why my sister would go there. For that matter I don’t understand why my ex would do this. He’s a really attractive man, he always has been. He shouldn’t have much trouble finding a woman to date yet he chose my sister?!? Perhaps he’s more angry about our divorce than I thought?

My niece mentioned to me that he’s been around with mommy a lot. So I asked about it and he just flat out admitted what’s been going on. When I confronted my sister she didn’t even try to deny it and said they’re both adults and they’re not hurting anyone. According to her it’s just no strings attached and there are no intentions of them being together as a couple.

I don’t know why this has bothers me this much. Maybe because when I met my husband we weee in college and my sister was in elementary school. Were they looking at each other while they were both married? I asked both of them if they ever messed around while we were married and they both denied it. Maybe I’m foolish but I believed them.

Is this creepy to you?

Accidentally saw my male colleague’s (32y/o single) phone wallpaper and lockscreen the other day when I walked past him. His wallpaper is a very pretty, well-dressed girl whom I thought was his girlfriend. But when I asked him, he told me it’s his idol.

When ask further whether she is a singer, dancer etc, he replied she’s just a model (not those taking skimpy pictures, just really very fashionable and well-dressed girl when I kaypo and search for her instagram account at home). As much as he is a nice colleague, I do find it very creepy, like why would a guy want to have a photo of an unknown girl as his phone wallpaper and lockscreen? I was quite taken aback – like he is a grown-up adult behaving like a teenager fanboying over a certain idol or model.

Anyone ever encounter similar incident? How would you feel about him if you encounter this?

P/s: Please don’t bash me, I’m just curious to find out how people feel about this.

Here are what netizens think:

• and u go out of ur way to look for the model’s ig and wrote a post here? It’s pretty normal for ppl to set their idol or whoever they admire as their wallpaper and this shouldn’t be judged based on their age. I don’t get what is creepy about this and it’s a harmless trivial matter.

• I have a photo of Taylor Swift on my screen. I just need a reason to be happy when I see my phone. We guys are simple.

• it’s his phone and his choice, none of your business who he put as wall paper or whatsoever. regardless his single or not, you ain’t his gf / wife. don’t kaypoh. he don’t answer to you lei.
• – I know where you live