i’ve been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 years now and we initially decided to apply for the May bto but there weren’t any suitable/preferred locations we wanted so we skipped that period. Now we’re eyeing on the Aug bto instead but recently, we’ve been arguing a whole lot more. although all are resolved in the end (we are not the kind to sweep things under the carpet) and we are still each other’s best friend and other half, it still makes me think what will happen if we did end up applying for the may bto and IFFF we rly got it in the end and ended up arguing at almost everything.

Actually both of us are very sure about each other and we have complete trust between us. we know we definitely see each other in both our future despite being together for just less than 2 years. but the recent arguments kind of make me insecure for the future.

As much as i don’t want to admit it, i’m not sure if that mere 1.5 years is the reason for my doubts because i suppose most couples usually date for a longer period of time before applying for bto, right..? so part of me is rly afraid for the uncertainties that the future may bring but idk why i’m feeling this way when i’ve already made my decision to marry this man and have him with me for the rest of my life.

Here are what netizens think:

• Usually such judgements are wrong. Esp those ” i made up my mind i want to be with him rest of my life, or i am sure he is the one” Especially in a particular gender.Reason is u simple. U cant see into the future

• It’s normal to feel uncertain for a 1.5 years relationship as it’s really quite a short time to know someone well. By that I mean have you seen them at their worst and would still CHOOSE TO look past all their flaws. Some relationships get stronger after marriage for years, despite the dating period being short. Others date for years, get married and divorce almost immediately. You can’t control or predict the future, but you can do a mental assessment now based on good observations of each other.

• i mean every couple would have their own disagreements etc, but whats most important is if you & your partner is willing to sit down & compromise to each other. Like talk things out between each other & see whats the issue. Personally , i feel 1.5 years is quite fast to apply bto! But hey, i also have peers around me only 1 year apply BTO already when they dont have financial stability. 

• The period doesn’t matter, as long as both agree and feel comfortable to try. We started balloting for a flat after dating for 6 months. I was the one who suggested it.

So I and my girlfriend haven’t been together long (3 months). She’s very needy all week and I’m okay with that you know 40 50 text messages three or four phone calls a day… but on the weekends I get like four text messages a day and none of them says I miss you or anything like she is all week long.

And I never get a phone call.. she says it’s because she’s with family and she doesn’t want them to know she’s seeing an older man because it’s so new… Now two weeks ago she was bowling with her mother out of town and the girl she was sharing a hotel room with come in when I was on the phone with her and said is that Christian?.. and I asked her who Christian was and she said it was her brother…

she has a really messed up family situation so I still don’t know all of her relatives. Fast forward to this week in the morning she’s showering and getting ready and a Snapchat from Christian shows up and next to his name is the heart just like the dating apps put on there when they add the name to your contact list.

She said he did that as a joke and added the heart that is. like am I overthinking s*** here I understand people don’t need to be calling each other all day but my thing is be f****** consistent like if you’re needy be needy all the time…

What should I do? does she have another man?

Here are what netizens think:

You need a nanny not a girlfriend

I think over relying on someone’s attention is unhealthy it should be a natural thing instead of counting the amount of text, something is wrong with you go see a doctor.

Siao ah, you go count. You go count today pee how many ml anot.

Throwaway just in case. Also, sorry, I’m very upset and trying to organize my thoughts in a more understandable way.

Why do male strangers talk to me?

Had my first hookup since losing my wife

It’s been over 2 years since I lost her. And tbh I (29M) didn’t think I’d ever have it in myself to be with another person. For the last month I’ve tried putting myself out there.

Last night I was at the bar with some friends. He introduced me to his friend Addy. She was really nice, very pretty too. We hit it off. Like while most of our friends decided to go smoke for a little bit we stayed in the bar area just talking about everything.

It was so nice. Honestly I just wanted us to keep talking once we were all about to leave so that’s when me and her decided to go eat something. But after I really wanted her so I decided to shoot my shot and asked if she wanted to come over to my place. She said yes

We ate some breakfast earlier when we woke up before she left. But she also left me her number so we can hang out again if I want to.

The whole experience has me feeling like I’m young and falling in love again and just got my first kiss, it’s crazy. It does feel like a long time since I’ve felt this excited about someone. Can’t stop looking at her number in my contacts and smiling.

Netizen’s comments

And it’s now, I am again reminded that I’m happy that life is made of chapters.

I’m glad for you man.

In the bustling streets of Orchard Road, a seemingly routine drop-off at 313@somerset turned into a harrowing experience when a taxi driver moved off with a child still in the back seat and the adjacent door wide open. The fear that passengers often harbor—of a vehicle departing before they can safely alight—took a distressing turn.

The Incident Unfolds

Caught on camera and shared by SG Road Vigilante – SGRV, the incident unfolded at about 11.47 am on December 17th. A blue ComfortDelGro taxi, having just dropped off a group of passengers, became the center of attention as a young woman in white retrieved belongings from the trunk.

In a shocking turn of events, the driver seemed oblivious to the open door and the child left behind. Instead of immediately addressing the situation, the driver waited inside the car without getting out to check on the stricken passengers, before casually driving away from the scene when the coast was clear.

Details of the Scene

The drop-off point at 313@somerset witnessed a sequence of actions: a young woman handling her belongings, an uncle moving towards the open back door to retrieve a child, and an older woman taking her time with items before closing the back door.

As the vehicle began to pull away, the uncle, realizing the danger, reached in to grab the child. In an unfortunate twist, both the uncle and the child ended up tumbling to the ground.

What’s more surprising is the lack of any immediate response from the driver. Despite witnessing the tumble, the driver did not alight to check on the passengers but simply watched as the younger woman picked up the child and walked away.

Fortunately, two other passengers rushed in to assist, with the younger woman took charge, ensuring the child’s safety and leaving the man pointing a finger at the indifferent taxi driver.

Public Outcry

Unsurprisingly, the incident sparked a wave of reactions on social media, particularly on the SG Road Vigilante – SGRV page. Comments poured in expressing shock, concern, and criticism of the driver’s actions.

I am the eldest in a family of 4, now 3 as mother have divorced father few years back because she can no longer stand living with him.

Father have retired 8 years back and have a huge CPF and savings. (He often brags about it). But that is not the main point.

Brother and I are living with my father still, we are both in our late twenties. Mother is living happily with her family.

My father is a huge headache, he has always been. He has his own unreasonable rules for everything in the house and has this “mine” mindset that makes things very difficult for us all.

Like when we wanted to stream a movie on the TV, he would claim its HIS TV (Brother and I bought the TV btw and so did we pay for the TV subscriptions and all bills) and he gets to choose what to watch. We’ll just give in to him and stream on our computer instead. But then he would get angry saying we purposely gave him cold shoulders.

Sometimes we would just rot in the living room with him while he watched the same documentary/replayed movie for the N times, just to avoid further conflicts.

Brother and father always quarrels over the usage of the car. I can’t side anyone in this one as father bought the car, although it’s brother who paid for the COE renewal and insurance. But father always wants to hog the car, like he doesn’t allow brother to drive the car to work and brother have to “book in advance” if he wants to use during weekends. Brother is expected to pump petrol (father would sometimes drive till it flashes low fuel) all the time and get the car washed once a week.

Brother ended up renting a car on his own and refuse to continue paying the insurance and petrol.

We also have a hard time dining out with father as he always wants to choose what to eat and sometimes he would say ‘anything’ but reject everything we suggested. (Yes, like those mafan girlfriend) Whenever we tried something new he will find things to complain about, we will only be spared if we choose somewhere he tried before and liked it. (Usually that few places)

The worst case scenario happened when my uncle got into a minor accident… It’s not serious but since he haven’t been working and have no medisave, Father randomly decided to shoulder the hospital bills — but he actually expected brother and I to pay with our CPF and spilt the bill between ourselves. He also told us to buy insurance and pay the premium for my uncle! (I saw the quote, its not cheap as my uncle is senior)

My brother rejected the idea, and explained that we are not well to do ourselves, how could we afford to pay for another premium? I second his decision but agreed that we can pay the hospital bill. Father went on to guilt trip us, saying how he had raised us but we’re not willing to repay him or help my uncle out. (But the fact is, we have been paying uncle’s phone bill since it’s bundled with ours)

He said we should leave HIS house if we don’t want to help pay for my uncle!

Having enough, My brother asked me if I wanted to rent an apartment together with him, else he would just rent a room himself. I worried if he leaves, I am going to struggle with the bills and such with me being the only income (I am not hopeful about father chipping in). And honestly, I really wish to walk out of the house too… I am never close to my father tbh, I often feel we are not his biological kids… Plus I know he have the savings to survive, if he doesn’t, I am willing to chip in something, but not more till I can’t afford my own rent.

Stingy bf or greedy gf?

All my life, I’ve always believed in paying for my share of food or fees on dates and I stuck to this principle of mine unless the guy insists on paying and doesn’t back down.

When I met my current boyfriend, he told me he doesn’t like letting girls pay and will pay for everything we eat or do together as long as we’re in a relationship. Of course, I wasn’t comfortable with that so I insisted on paying my share occasionally. 2-3 months into our relationship, we began to go dutch for everything, and even calculate based on what we bought/ordered individually, or we would take turns to pay for meal. e.g he pays for lunch and I’ll pay for dinner regardless of the price difference. I was completely okay with it.

Fast forward years later, we’re still going dutch, and I’m occasionally even paying for his petrol if he fetches me anywhere. Once I didn’t feel like paying for petrol because my finances for that month was a lil tight and he questioned why I didn’t feel like paying. We got into a huge fight.

This guy has got a net worth 40x more than mine. He has a substantial amount of savings 5x more than I do. Plus, he earns 2x my pay. And yet, he is the most stingy guy I’ve ever dated. Even a $5 item can make him think twice, I’ve had to treat him to meals many times because he craved it but wasn’t willing to pay for it.

I began to become unhappy about this situation. Especially after finding out that many of my friends had boyfriends or husbands who would pay their share + fork out more percentage of money for their wedding and house. Mine said we had to fork out 50% each of our wedding, home, renovations, and more.

I struggle to make ends meet most months because I don’t earn much and I have a student debt to pay off. It sucks that as my bf, and as someone with so much money, he isn’t willing to sometimes pay more or pay my share just so that I can have more freedom to enjoy, or a bit of weight lifted off my shoulders. I can barely save each month because of our monthly expenditures + my liabilities.

I’m beyond stressed when I see my bank balance and the crazy amount of money I’ll need for my home in the future. What can I do..? I’ve exhausted all my time working, I’m trying my best to save, but money is just never enough…

Also, am I being greedy for wishing my bf would be willing to spend more on me? Not to buy me gifts but just to bless me by paying my share of things occasionally since he has so much money.