“I seriously hate university, cannot put into words what it is doing to me.

I used to be such a happy person, loved my year out working but as i felt i had no other choice i ended up at university, it feels like its sucked the life out of me, all i do is sit around feeling stressed out about how much work i have to do and crying.

i wanted to drop out from day 1, but kept telling myself it would get better/that i hadn’t given it a proper chance, but now i’m one term into my second year (out of 4) and i feel like its getting worse.

i feel whats massively pushed me over the edge this year is an assignment i recently got marks back for, i told myself 2nd year was a new start and since i only had this one assignment due in the first term i would work my ass off on it. I really did try, i’ve never put more work into a piece, and i proof read it and re-edited it loads, was pretty damn happy with it after my weeks of slog. got my marks back, i got 58%, i know this isn’t bad, but i seriously don’t get how it could of been any better and it was one of the easiest assignments i’ve had. My friend who’s not overly academic and did her entire assignment the night before it was due got a better mark than me for gods sake. All that effort and i don’t get any decent mark to show for it? whats the point?

The work is ruining my life, i’m not a particularly fast worker and i just can’t keep up, i’ve got 8 assignments due in the space of 6 weeks soon and i’m pretty sure it’s going to kill me doing them. I’m so sad all the time about it, i have to give up things

i want to drop out, i really don’t think i’m as academic as i was at school, but i’m massively scared what to do afterwards, i just want a job, a job that pays enough for me to live my own independent life, but i know they’re so hard to find these days, i can’t deal with the idea of being a 21 year old who works part time at a supermarket (which i already do now alongside my studies) and still lives with his parents.

Its not the course i hate i don’t think, it’s just the whole academic process, i can’t see how i’m going to cope with all this work in this year whilst trying to find a placement for my 3rd year, and then come back and do the worst year out the 4 and a dissertation.

i need help and advice please”

Am I wrong for thinking I should inherit my late mother’s house over my sister?

I’ll try to make it short because I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong here.

My mother passed away a few weeks about and her house has become an issue between my sister and me. I’m married with three kids my sister is married but no kids yet. We both live in small apartments.

I think because I have a family and she doesn’t I should get the house. She is fine with me getting the house but wants me to pay her for her half. I feel like I have never heard of that usually one child inherits the house.

I think that’s crazy we are a family and I have three kids and a wife to provide for and she is using our mother’s death as a payday. There’s no way I could afford to give her that much and she knows it.

Now she wants to sell the house and split the money from it. My wife and I think she is being beyond selfish and putting money above family and being an all-around brat. Now she is demanding i decide what I want to do with the house but I’m not budging.

When she wants to grow up and put family before money we can talk.

Here are what netizens think:

• Actually, selling the house and splitting the proceeds is what usually happens in situations like this. Sorry, the idea of sister gifting you the house is not a fair result to your dilemma.
• I cracked up reading how OP acts as if this sort of agreement is rare or doesn’t ever happen.
• wow entitled much, it’s actually the common standard to buy the other one out if one wants to live on the property. You and your spouse are the ones needing to grow up. Your children dont make you more important

A man shared a story of how he was caught by his friend at Boat Quay after drinking at a pub.

The man then told his friend he had a “sacred relationship” with his mother.

Here is the story:

My friend of 5 years just blocked me on all social media accounts after he caught me with his mother.

My friend was a “teen baby”, his mother was only 16 when she gave birth to my friend, meaning she is 36 this year. But she still looks so delicious.

I often go over to his house to play games and his mother often called me “handsome boy”, that was one time I went over and saw his mother was sleeping on the couch without wearing anything on the inside and it was simply irresistible.

She suddenly woke up and caught me staring, she then asked “What I want”, I said Im just waiting for her son to shower finish.

She then went into her room and asked me to come, I followed and she showed ME MORE. She took my number and tell me to come back tomorrow at 8 AM.

So I went back the next day and my friend was not around we kind of did it

It started from here to a weekly thing and there was one time we went to Boat Quay for a drink.

As we were heading out of the pub to wait for the taxi at the coffee shop, she kissed me on the cheek before boarding the taxi.

My friend happened to be eating noodles at the coffee shop and shouted. His mother quickly got into the taxi and left and I was left getting questioned by his friend.

After getting interrogated by him, I finally broke and admit that I had a special relationship with his mother.

This was just last week and he had blocked me from all social media. But his mother still tells me to come over when my friend is not around.

She told me that she has been alone for a long time and his son will eventually get used to it and tell me not to mind so much.

My brain is telling me is wrong, but my little brother is telling me that it is right. There is no turning back

Dating advice for my 18 yr old self.

Be careful of men who insist on paying for everything, they just want you to feel indebted.

Also, be careful of men who insist on splitting the cost of everything, they’re not doing it for equality, they’re being cheap and don’t value you.

Sleeping with him won’t make him stick around. If you have to resort to physical intimacy to maintain his interest, he isn’t interested.

That older guy doesn’t really think you’re mature for your age. He likes that you’re too young and naïve to smell his bull.

Casual hook ups isn’t fun. Stop pretending it is. Your heart will keep getting broken.

If a man can’t compliment anything other than your appearance, it means he isn’t looking deeper. Don’t waste your time.

Partying gets really old really quickly.

Stop judging your friends who settled down early into committed relationships, one day you’ll be jealous of them.

Men will sleep with anyone so stop thinking male attention is important.

Men who are the most exciting are often the biggest douchebags.

One day you will want children. Desperately. You will be jealous of your best friend’s beautiful baby. Keep this in mind when deciding what to prioritize in your dating life.

Here are what netizens think:

• You are contradicting yourself, first you say don’t make man pay, then you say if they wanna split their cheap.
• Sounds like you have issues and might need to seek therapy soon.
• You this kind sure is those hang up to sell one, this cannot that cannot.

I have a mandatory internship where I study, difficult to arrange, luckily I got it and then I found out that the most beneficial internship time for me would be in the morning, when I study and my internship supervisor would always be there.

Weeks later, a vacancy for another intern appeared and that’s when I made the offer to my friend, Sofia (W,19), who didn’t hesitate to take the test, I spoke to a friend and told her not to tell about the vacancy for more no one guaranteeing Sofia’s spot.

She got it and we started working together in the morning as we chose to skip a few days of school

Sofia and my boss started to get really close and I ended up becoming a kind of cupid between the two, who didn’t stop flirting at work until we found out he had a girlfriend and I told Sofia to stay out of trouble. She said she didn’t want to be the reason for the end of the relationship, but the gifts, pampering and flirting continued between the two, especially from my boss. Until one day my boss(M, 27) is kicked out by his girlfriend, who I believe has suspected her crush on the intern.

From then on I started to go to work less due to the huge amount of absences and due to the distance between my boss and Sofia with me, because I was no longer fit to be a cupid and all the conversations revolved around the two of them, but Sofia continued to work the same shift and after a while she made her relationship official

She started to ask me to glue her notes and activities, because she didn’t go to classes, which ended up tiring me, until one day she didn’t come to class to return one of these works to me on the day of delivery because she was in the trade and didn’t study to a double test with my friend making her get a low grade, in addition to other feats I decided to ignore her the other day, because our proximity was no longer the same and I was already fed up with all that and she didn’t like it, the following week when I went to the internship she also ignored me.

After a few days it got worse, every time I went to the internship I was also ignored by my boss who rarely gave me any work and when they went to have lunch together I was alone in the room, they acted as if I wasn’t in the room and talked each other. It was weeks before she decided to apologize to me and my friends over WhatsApp for acting arrogantly, but the other day at school she ignored us again and acted like nothing had happened.

It is worth mentioning that I had not talked to Sofia but a mutual friend between us tried to resolve the situation and Sofia just said that she was fine and that there was no problem.

Then I decided to go to the internship less often and Sofia ended up switching classes, staying for the afternoon shift, I finished my internship and now we don’t speak anymore Was I an asshole for ignoring her?

Note: she’s going to get a job where she’s interns according to my old boss

Not because he’s pro life.

Not because he didn’t get consent.

Not because abused me in any way.

By all accounts he’s been nothing but kind, sweet and attentive. The reason I’m done is because despite knowing who I am he treated me as hysterical and ridiculous today.

It was a small disagreement and nothing consequential. The argument isn’t the problem. His response to it was.

This was a casual relationship on the face of it. I care for him, I’ve enjoyed my time with him, but my mom always told me those famous words from Maya Angelou: ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them.’

She always emphasized the last part to me, ‘and believe them the first time.’ You know what? She’s right. This wasn’t a big argument. This wasn’t a big deal. But his response to something so small tells me everything I need to know.

I know who I am, I like who I am, and I worked hard to get that way. I don’t deserve to spend my time teaching someone how to show me and my feelings basic respect.

Maybe my standards are too high. Maybe I just don’t want to invest my energy wholly in a relationship. Maybe it’s a lot of things or none of them at all.

What I do know is that I love and respect myself enough not to let anyone make me question that

While scrolling through Tinder I found that my friend’s wife had made a profile which said she was looking for new friends. The photos were from her Facebook so nothing too provocative. What concerned me was the lack of any mention of her being married or having kids.

I screenshotted her profile, swiped left, and spent the next hour stressing out about whether I should tell my friend or not. In the end, I described what happened to him but in a hypothetical scenario involving another couple where I asked my friend if I should tell the husband about finding the wife’s dating profile.

My friend said yeah, I should tell the guy so I handed him my phone and showed him the screenshots of his own wife’s Tinder account. Predictably he was upset that even if she was just looking for friends that she hadn’t told him about the profile. So he leaves to go home and talk to her and I message his wife (who is also my friend) to let her know that her husband is going to be in a bad mood.

She asks why and I tell her about the Tinder account. That made her very upset with me as she explains that her friend made the account so the two of them could find other moms in the bigger city an hour away to hang out with and do group kid activities like going to the water park. She then informed me that the Tinder account was only an hour old when I found it and she hadn’t had a chance to tell her husband about it and implied that I might have ruined their marriage because I had made her husband irrationally angry and now she had to deal with that which would also make her late for work.

I felt like a huge AH as I’d apparently just ruined my best friend’s 10 yr marriage. So I apologized profusely to his wife for not talking to her first. A while later I called my friend and he sounded more sad than angry by this point. Apparently his wife was angry at him as well as me, though he said he didn’t understand why she was upset at him. (He didn’t elaborate so I don’t know how that conversation went.)

Now I’m wondering if I did the right thing, should have spoken with the wife first, or minded my own damn business. If her profile had said she was married and was looking for other moms to hang out with I’d have totally ignored it but it said “looking for new friends in.” And its hard to be comfortable with my friend’s wife saying that her friend made the account when that friend has been caught using social media to cheat on her husband more than once.

Though my friend’s wife has never cheated on him to either of our knowledge we both kinda feel like crap considering how upset she is over the whole thing. Am I the one at fault here?

My husband spent almost $500 on Onlyfans and custom content from random women.

I (f25) saw some questionable charges on my husbands (m29) credit card and when I asked him about it he pretended he had no idea what I was talking about and that it must be fraud.

Okay I won’t argue. He has a history of making impulsive purchase so I expected I would have to investigate myself.

I logged into his email and looked at the emails from the same day of the purchases and saw a bunch of PayPal transactions.

Long story short I was able to trace it to only fans subscriptions, custom content purchases and saw he was sending money to random women for god knows what.

In the span of a month and a half he’s spent almost $500 of OUR MONEY on this shit. My birthday was two weeks ago and he said he was low on money but would take me out next time he got paid.

Now I know why. I haven’t confronted him yet bc idk what to do. I feel completely disrespected, disappointed and angry and I know that I can’t talk to him right now when I’m so worked up.

Also I’ve been trying to be more adventurous sexually and feel like we’ve been great lately so this just feels like such a slap in the face and like I’ll never be enough.

I’m so angry and I have no one else to talk to about this bc it’s so embarrassing. I don’t know what my next step is going to be. I don’t deserve this.

An insurance agent recently shared a story about how he was able to retire young after selling multiple insurance policies to high net worth individuals.

He also shared how he did it.

Here is his story:

When I first started insurance, I was a bit sceptical. I was contemplating between being an insurance agent and being a property agent.

However, I passed my insurance exams first and got my license earlier.

I was a bit lost as most of my friends were people who drink day and night without any consideration to their futures.

I had to start somewhere, I joined my friends for a drink and did not expect much. Until one of my friends shared the medical bills his mother was facing as she was not insured and unfortunately lost her job after cancer strikes her.

So they started to talk about insurance policies and I happened to be selling. I managed to close several deals with my friends, including investments and medical. The best part I did not even have to push them.

So just a week after getting the policies, my friends asked me for a drink again but with a different clique.

It was a bunch of older guys that I had not met and most of them appear to be uncles who dress casually.

One of the uncles ask me what I was doing, I said: “I just started insurance recently and trying to work my way to afford a home in the near future.”

The uncle probed further and asked me about investment policies as he’s retired and do not want to waste so much time monitoring his investments.

I told him he can always start small and slowly work his way up.

I did not expect him to buy after a few beers and he told me to follow him after the drinking session ended.

He was wearing shorts, flip flops and an old T-shirt. But when we exit the pub, a Bentley was waiting for us outside and his chauffeur was there.

His driver took us to his house in Orchard and said that he felt that I was sincere and felt an affinity with me.

We continued drinking beer and he decided that he will buy a policy from me, I was thinking “It must be the beer talking”.

He contacted me the next day and he really did buy a policy from me that was in the 6 figure range.

We became friends and I started to mix with his friends who were of the same rich standing and it goes on and on.

Each of his friends bought multiple investment policies from me which range from 5 figures to 6 figures and all the policies from him and his friends totalled several millions.

The moral of the story is not just “don’t judge people by their covers” and also don’t ditch any activity just because it’s unhealthy.

From a glass of beer to riches. All the best to the people who are working out there.