Couples of SG how many of you actually look forward to V day? Speaking as a 22M , personally I feel like its just a marketing gimmick to milk money from mostly guys.

On top of the expectation from the GF, its lowkey kinda stressful to come up with unique gifts and things to do that is meaningful and doesn’t overlap with other occasions such as birthdays and anniversary… after all there’s only so much you can do in SG.

I value the little things in the RS, but getting socially pressured into planning for stuff buying gift just isn’t it for me. It is to the point where I’m wondering maybe I’m just too much of a brokie to enjoy V day or I just don’t value the RS???

That said, I still got her a present and we’re going out tmr.

Netizens’ comments

1. You might need to talk to your girl about this because one day y’all gonna have a nasty argument and I guarantee this sore subject will get brought up
   
2. haha my wife follows japanese vday, so its the GIRLS that give gifts to GUYS. but i still bought her a lego orchid flower, guaranteed to last forever
   
3. I think every couple is different ? It’s perfectly fine to not even celebrate it if both parties are happy can already.
   
   We are married with 3 kids but we still go out every Vday for the fun of it.. I don’t have expectations but my husband thinks it’s fun to find new nice places to bring us to. And I’ll enjoy it no matter what because I’m always happy to spend 1-1 time with him.
   
   After kids and all it’s not so easy to go out every night like pre-kids. So it’s actually meaningful for some couples? I guess really thoughts that counts too. I’ll be happy chilling at home too.
   
   I also make effort to plan gifts and surprises for my husband and the look on his face is totally worth it. It’s very fun to be in a marriage where both parties appreciate each other everyday.
   
   Oh ya and I am kinda sick of people shitting on V day and how over commercialize it is and out to cheat your money bla bla bla . I mean you do you what you want and those that still wants to be predictable/ romantic/ suckers have every right to do so? There’s plenty of ways to celebrate within own means and budget.
   
   I just feel like c’mon lighten up a little, man. It’s literally once a year. I’m sending a bouquet to my husband this year. Happy V day folks
   
4. I’m a female and yes I enjoy vday but not the reasons that you might expect. I love the things that my bf planned out but I also do plan surprises for him.
   
   He’s a cinephile and a gamer so I bought him a sound bar set and snuck into his house to set it up for him while he’s out and to me it’s about seeing the look of surprise and glee on my partner’s face that makes it all worth it.
   
   Once, I ordered some warm desk lights and some desk accessories like solid wood monitor stand and upgraded his desk set up for him.
   
   The look on his face when he came back says it all. We just like to do things for each other on special days like this that we don’t do on normal days (either because it’s expensive to do it every single day, or it’s not practical) It’s more of a tradition for us than gifts, where you pay attention to what your partner needs.
   
   And I believe that doing special things for each other once in a while keeps the spark alive. Hope this offers another perspective!
   
5. My first V-day with my now husband was more than 2 decades ago. He bought some overpriced flowers (first and last time since I can’t appreciate flowers) and we tried to eat somewhere but we hate queues.
   
   I ended up telling him that V-day is a commercial event and I don’t really care for all that, much to his relief. We’ve never bothered with this day since.

My bf (26M) is meeting up with an old schoolfriend (25F) on valentinesday…

We have been in a relationship for 3.5 years now and tbh never really celebrated valentinesday before. It was not something too important for me, even though I‘d sometimes still wished he‘d bring me flowers haha.

Anyway, he started talking with an old school friend of his from 15 years ago, only god knows why the heck he texted her.

They share the same love for marvel and dc, something I am not really into. Now they came up with the idea to meet up. On valentinesday. He even reserved a table in some restaurant for them.

When I saw the reservation ( we share an e-mail account and the e-mail with the reservation plopped up) I was so happy, thinking we‘d go out, just for my hopes being crushed as he announced he‘ll go with that schoolfriend of his…

I know he can have female friends, but why does it still hurt so much? Idk maybe I just overreact..

Edit: I confronted him about it after I went for a walk to get my thoughts sorted out. He kept telling me it was just a friend, and even if he‘d end up having feelings for her we‘ll find a solution.

My solution to it was ending the relationship. I‘m worth more than that and deserve better. I‘m better off being single and enjoying my life.

Thank ya‘ll for also opening my eyes and help me understand I am not just overreacting :> I hope for a better guy to come who takes me out on v-days! It hurts a lot right now though but I try to be positive that its all going to be better soon.

Netizens’ comments

1. Na. Absolutely he can have female friends, but not taking another girl out on Valentine’s Day. Sorry but that’s a massive no no. Why does it have to be that particular day. Speak to him and tell him you’re not comfortable with this.
2. I just….. “even if I end up having feelings for her we’ll figure it out????” The f-???
3. Girl, thank GOD you dumped that absolutely numbskull. There just… has to be fucking sand in his head to think that that’s an appropriate response. God. I’m so utterly proud of you for not even ENTERTAINING one of the stupidest men I’ve encountered on this site.
4. You are watching your boyfriend go on a date. Just think about that for a bit and act accordingly.

It was one of the cringiest moments of my life, my girlfriend was out with her friends and I was out with mine, we went to a pub to drink and sing and just have a good time, and things got out of hand pretty quickly.

I hadn’t been drinking for a while so my alcohol tolerance dropped, I used to be able to drink a few towers and a few shots before feeling a little high, but now just one and a half tower and I’m already floating.

Anyway not too long later, I suddenly felt like I was floating. Like my face was numb and I was very happy and uninhibited. I was completely out of it, and the next thing I knew, I was stumbling around the pub, and for some reason I was looking for my girlfriend.

As I mentioned, my girlfriend was out with her own friends and wasn’t with me at the time, but my drunken self thought she had been drinking with me the whole time.

I started panicking when I couldn’t find her, I thought she went missing and went to my friends for help, telling them Jamie is missing, we have to find her.

Then I finally “found her”, I saw her 3 tables across from our table and made my way across to “save” her and bring her back.

But, I didn’t find her. Instead, I found a girl who I thought was her. In my drunken state, I decided to show my affection by wrapping my arms around her and giving her a big hug from behind.

She then turned around and screamed at me and asked me what I was doing, My friends noticed the whole thing and started laughing hysterically. My friends then had to drag me back to our table as they apologised to her for me. Because of the whole commotion, I was slowly sobering up and at that point, I started to come to my senses and realized that I f-ed up.

I was so embarrassed that I just wanted to disappear, and my friend then dragged me over to the girl’s table to apologise in person, before he made me buy them a beer tower as a “peace offering”, which the girl and her friends accepted my apology.

I have a problem, and it’s a big one. I have a huge crush on my friend’s hot single father. His wife died from cancer many years ago. I know it’s wrong since he’s practically a dad to me, but I can’t help how I feel. It’s been driving me crazy.

I’ve been trying to keep these intense feelings at bay for months, but I just can’t seem to shake them. I care about my friend and don’t want to cause any issues in their family, but I can’t help my attraction to her father. He’s in his early 40s and is so handsome and charming. I can’t help but feel drawn to him.

I know it’s wrong, but I started dressing a bit more revealingly whenever I’m around him. I’m hoping that if I show off my curves, he’ll take notice and I’ll be able to seduce him. I know it’s a long shot, but I’m desperate to do something about these feelings.

I’ve been wearing low-cut tops that show off my cleavage, and tight jeans that hug my curves. I’ve even started wearing makeup and styling my hair to bring out my best features. I’m hoping he’ll be attracted to me and that I can finally get the attention I’m craving from him.

I’m also trying to be extra nice whenever I’m around him. I’ll take the time to chat with him and compliment him on his hobbies and interests. I’m hoping that if I’m nice enough to him, he’ll start to see me as more than just a friend.

I’m not sure if my attempts are working, but I can tell he notices me. Whenever I’m around, he looks at me a bit longer than usual. He also seems to be more attentive to me than he is to my friend. I’m not sure if he’s attracted to me or if he’s just being polite, but I’m taking it as a good sign.

I know it’s wrong for me to be trying to seduce my friend’s father, but I can’t help how I feel. I’m hoping that somehow this works out and that I can get the attention I’m craving from him. I know it’s a long shot, but I’m desperate and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get his attention.

It’s not like I’m a teenager with raging hormones or anything. I’m in my thirties, and I’ve got a great life. I have a nice home, a successful career, and a loving family. But for some reason, I just can’t seem to control my urges.

Yes, I touch myself about 5 times a day, and sometimes even more. And on days when I don’t have work or anything else to do, I spend the whole day just doing it.

It started as a way to relieve stress. I was feeling overwhelmed at work and needed an outlet. I figured I could take care of myself without having to involve anyone else. I never intended to make it a habit, but before I knew it, I was doing it multiple times a day.

At first, I thought it was helping. I felt more relaxed and had more energy. But as time went on, I noticed that I was becoming more and more tired. My energy levels were dropping, and I couldn’t stay focused on my work. I started needing naps during the day, and my nights were filled with restless sleep.

I thought it was just because I was getting older and my body wasn’t as resilient as it used to be. But then I realized that it was because of all the time I was spending pleasuring myself. 

I was getting tired even when I wasn’t doing anything. I was having a hard time focusing on my work, and I was starting to feel like I was losing my motivation to do anything. I was so exhausted all the time that I couldn’t even make it to the gym anymore. I was starting to become a shell of my former self.

I have since cut down to about 2 times a day, and although i am seeing a bit of improvement, I still feel tired physically.

And it doesn’t help that everytime I’m home alone, I just have this very intense and overwhelming urge to just go to p-hub, or when I see pretty girls and I just get tempted again.

Anyone else going through the same thing? I would love to hear from you guys about how you deal with this kind of thing.

Admin please help me share this and hide my name. I have a toxic friend who is in a toxic relationship with a toxic woman, one addicted to gambling and the other addicted to visiting KTV. It’s completely none of my business, but I really buay lun seeing them wasting their life and money away.

My friend, Aloysius (not his real name) earns about $2k per month before CPF deduction, and his gf makes about $2.5k or $3k, I’m not sure, at a recruitment agency.

So they are the type of couple who break up then make up then break up then make up, until we lost count of the number of times they broke up and got back together already, very toxic.

And the problem here is his gf is a hardcore gambler. Singapore pools, casino, mahjong, Chinese new year gambling etc, as long as it’s gambling, she is in.

She doesn’t even watch football, but can bet $200 on the arsenal man city match, then lose all the money. Play blackjack also whack 3 figures like she print money. Please la, you earn how much only…

While the guy is addicted to visiting ktv to play with girls. One night can spend about $500 to $600 per session then after that if he feels like it, another $300 to dabao the girl.

So what happens when they run out of money? they come to me. Girlfriend gamble until left literally $2? come to me. Boyfriend play girl until no money to eat? come to me. Limpeh look like what? Your father ah? Your atm ah?

But I’d like to think that I am a good friend, I always lend them money because I’ve been broke before and I know how it feels, but not because of the stupid things that they are doing.

So far in total, they owe me about $9.5k, and I can sense they are going to borrow money from me again, but this time I’m not helping anymore. this is too much. I’m not too affected financially by them borrowing money, because I make 5 figures a month doing IT sales. But they are the ones who need to wake up.

They need to learn a lesson, let them starve until they wake up their idea, don’t come and ask me for money anymore.