I have something that has been troubling me for the past few months. I’m a twenty-one-year-old woman and I’ve noticed something strange happening to me.

No matter what I do, my underwear is always wet.

Could not figure out why

At first, I thought it was just because of the weather and that it was normal. But then I started to become concerned because this was not normal.

I was always wet, no matter what time of day, what season, or what kind of clothing I was wearing.

I decided to talk to my doctor about it, thinking it was a medical issue. He ran some tests, but came up with nothing.

He told me that it was probably just normal, and that I should just be more mindful of my personal hygiene. I was relieved that it wasn’t anything serious, but I still couldn’t shake the feeling that something was wrong.

I decided to take matters into my own hands and start monitoring my body more closely. I tracked my food, my exercise, my sleep, and my stress levels.

Nothing seemed to be related to the wetness I was experiencing. I was stumped.

I decided to take things one step further and started tracking the moisture levels of my underwear throughout the day.

Again, I couldn’t seem to find the reason and I was at a loss as to what could be causing it.

Realises that she’ll unknowingly pee when she yawns

I was so frustrated that I was ready to give up. That’s when I noticed something strange. Every morning, my underwear was always the wettest.

That’s when I realized what was happening. It was me.

I would always let go of a little pee whenever I yawned and that was the reason for the wetness.

It was embarrassing and I would always bring out an extra pair of underwear ever since I discovered the reason why because I tend to yawn quite often throughout the day and I don’t want to be seen ‘leaking’ by anyone.

I work at a neighbourhood shop selling handphones and electronics, you know, those shops which they call a typical ah beng handphone shop.

Recently while working in the shop, I witness a scene which was very heartbreaking which made me cherish my parents again.

Here is what happened

An elderly man, easily into his 80s would walk into my shop with his crutches almost daily to ask me to check on his handphone.

He has been doing it for almost 2 weeks straight.

Every time he comes in, he would insist that there was a problem with his handphone and make me check it.

At first, I entertained him because I figured out he was probably lonely and needed someone to talk to.

However as the days passed by, it was getting a little annoying and I ended up raising my voice a little to him saying:

“UNCLE, confirm your phone got no problem la, you every day come here I spend half an hour checking on your phone I lose a lot of business leh! Can don’t always come and disturb me a not!”

Hearing what I said, the uncle wept a little and apologised to me before standing up holding his crutches tightly and began to leave the shop.

I felt guilty, apologised to Uncle and found out the sad reason why

Feeling guilty at raising my voice to an elderly uncle who probably was not good with technology and just wanted some help, I went up to the uncle and apologised and brought him to the food court for a cup of coffee.

I chatted with the Uncle a little and told him that he can always come and look for me if he needs someone or got any issues with technology.

Suddenly, he told me something which broke my heart.

He said:

“Ah Di ah, sorry if uncle always come and ask you if my phone got problem a not. Actually I also think got no problem but I not sure la, because my children always say will call me from two weeks ago, but my phone never ring and is very quiet. So I come and ask you lor”

He also mentioned that he was staying alone as his children had all grown up and have their own families and ever since his wife died, they did not contact him much.

He says he misses them but does not want to interfere with their lives and only hopes for a call from them every now and then.

I honestly teared up a little when I heard him saying that.

Reflected on myself

It got me thinking that sometimes while we are busy with our lives, we tend to neglect the important things in life like quality time with our loved ones.

Our parents are also aging as we age, and we’ll never know how much time we have with them.

After that incident, I vowed to constantly keep in touch with my parents, no matter how busy I am outside.

I also hope that the elderly uncle’s children will realise this and take care of him.

As I sit here, reflecting on my past relationships, I can’t help but feel a bit of sorrow. Not because I regret any of them, but because it’s a reminder that those times have long since passed.

I’ve had plenty of relationships in my lifetime, both short and long, but I can’t help but feel like true love only happens once or twice in your whole lifetime.

I’m not sure why I feel this way. Maybe it’s because all of my relationships have been meaningful to me, but none of them have been that special kind of connection that I imagine when I think of true love. It’s a connection that goes beyond the physical and mental aspects of a relationship, and something that’s difficult to describe.

It’s a connection that’s so strong that it’s almost impossible to break.

It’s a connection that feels like home, no matter where you are or who you’re with. It’s an understanding that you can’t quite explain, but you know it’s there. It’s a connection that transcends all other relationships, and one that you’ll never forget.

I think this kind of connection is rare, and that’s why I believe true love only happens once or twice in your lifetime. I’m not saying that all of my relationships have been meaningless, because they haven’t. I’ve had some amazing relationships, but none of them have been quite like what I imagine true love to be.

I think it’s important to recognize that true love isn’t something that you can force or expect. It’s something that happens naturally, when you least expect it. And even if you don’t find it in one lifetime, you can still find connections that are meaningful and fulfilling.

I also think that love is something that can change over time. What may feel like true love at first may not be in the long run. That’s why it’s important to take time to get to know someone before you make any big commitments or decisions.

At the end of the day, I think it’s important to remember that true love isn’t something that you can find in a moment. It’s something that takes time, effort, and understanding. It’s something that requires patience and trust, and something that you can never force.

So, while I believe that true love only happens once or twice in your lifetime, I also believe that love is still out there. It might not be the same kind of love that you’re expecting, but there’s still something special waiting for you. All you have to do is keep an open heart and an open mind, and eventually you’ll find the connection you’re looking for.

As a young woman in her early 20s, I’m sure I’m not the first one to feel overwhelmed by the world of dating.

With so much to consider when looking for a potential partner, it can be exhausting to figure out what kind of person you want to be with. When it comes to my own criteria, there’s one major factor that stands out above all else: music.

I’m a firm believer that music is one of the most important ways of expressing yourself, and I’m particularly drawn to those who can sing well. W

hile I’m open to all types of musical interests, I find myself gravitating towards those who can carry a tune. There’s something incredibly attractive about someone who can take a song and make it their own.

That’s why, when it comes to dating, I’m not afraid to admit that I only date guys who can sing well. It doesn’t matter to me if they have a professional career as a musician or if they only sing at karaoke, as long as they can hit the right notes and put their own spin on a song.

Of course, this isn’t to say that I’m not open to other qualities in a potential partner. I think that money is an important factor to consider, and I’m certainly not opposed to dating someone with a healthy bank account. But when it comes to my own criteria, it’s all about the singing.

Money I have no need worry

There’s a certain level of comfort that comes with being with someone who can sing well. I know that if I ever need a little pick-me-up, I can count on them to deliver a beautiful song. Plus, it’s always nice to be able to go out and have a fun night of karaoke together.

Sure, some people might think it’s a bit shallow to only date those who can sing, but I disagree. I think it’s important to find someone who can offer something special to the relationship. For me, that’s music.

I’m not saying that I won’t date someone who can’t sing, but it is something that I take into consideration. Everyone has different criteria for finding a partner, and this is mine.

To those out there who might be in the same boat, don’t be afraid to admit that you only date guys who can sing well. It might seem like a strange thing to look for in a partner, but it’s important to find someone who can offer something special. Music is a powerful form of expression, and it’s important to find someone who can express themselves in that way. Money is important, too, but music is something that will always be close to my heart.

I had been living in Singapore all my life, but I had never ventured outside of the city before.

So, when my friend asked me to join him on a trip to Johor Bahru, I was intrigued. I had heard stories of the bustling city and wanted to experience it for myself.

We arrived in Johor Bahru late in the evening, and the streets were alive with activity. My friend and I decided to go to the local pub to get a drink. We took a seat at the bar and ordered a couple of beers. It was then that I noticed a woman sitting at the other end of the bar. She was a hostess, wearing a tight dress and high heels.

The woman approached us and asked if we wanted her service.

My friend and I politely declined and continued to sip our beers. As we were talking, the woman started to tell us her story. She said that she had been working in the pub industry for the past five years to support her single-mom life. The money she earned was barely enough to make ends meet, and she was struggling to get by.

The woman asked us if we could help her out by giving her some ladies drink. She said she would be very grateful if we could just help her with a few dollars to make ends meet. My friend and I looked at each other and decided to do our part to help her out of her situation. We gave her some money and she thanked us profusely.

The woman then proceeded to tell us her story in more detail. She said that she had been working in the pub industry since she was a teenager, and she had never been able to break out of the cycle. She had dreams of going to uni and having a better life, but she knew that was out of her reach due to her meager income.

She then asked me for Wechat and asked if she is attractive. I replied yes, she asked if we could be friends and I agreed.

Soon after she kept texting and texting and asked if she could be my girlfriend. We then go further and further. Eventually, she wanted to leave the pub and asked if I can rescue her from nightlife (Rescue meaning take care of her)

I told her no and said I couldn’t even afford to take care of myself. She has the perception that Singaporeans are rich and money grew on trees.

I’m really afraid to love or commit myself fully in a relationship.

The first crush I had, we clicked well together and we ended talking just like how couples do. But maybe I’m the only one who think that we’re in a rs after all. She ended up ghosting me out of nowhere which makes me question a lot on what had I done wrong and why.

After a few years, I was ready to love and give it a go again to find someone that I want to spend my whole life with. Due to my career and work, it was difficult to meet someone new. So I decided to try on a dating app, which most of my friends found their one there.

And finally after almost close to a year, I matched a girl during circuit breaker period. Our conversation are always two way and we clicked so well. Long story short, we ended up in a rs. Two years plus gone by so fast and I’ve always thought she is the one. What I didn’t expect, suddenly happens. One day, she just drop a big bomb out of nowhere saying all the flaws that I have and things she dislike about me and this rs which she didn’t mention before cause she said she wants to be understanding.

I’ve always told her to let me know what’s she had on her mind or about me so all along I thought everything was fine. In the end, she break it off over a text saying love isnt enough here anymore which I don’t get why she wouldn’t give us a chance or at least meet in person. I couldn’t accept that things just ended this way so I went over and met her. Just to tell her the solutions I came up with to overcome this situation, but the more I talk to her I started to notice she’s gone.

The last thing she said to me was smth too painful for me to deal with. She said she didn’t want to do this to me, and tbh she found someone new and is happier now. Yea I was shocked and took me awhile to get my mind back because it’s just right after we broke up. So yea I really wish her the best, there’s nothing I could do anymore. She’s the only one that I gave all my love to, therefore this is the biggest trauma I have.

I’m afraid to love again just for this to happen in the end. Knowing all the promises doesn’t mean anything and can be broken off so easily. I just feel like I’m replaceable and can be dispose anytime when ppl find someone better than me.

Thank you for reading, it really meant a lot to me to be able to share it out. Sorry if my English is not up to standard. Hope everyone stays strong and have a good day.

A lie

Just sharing a terrible experience today.

I am a singaporean with malaysian spouse staying in JB. Today I cross the borders to Singapore to look for part time work. I contact a fast food restaurant for an interview. The famous KFC restaurant.

Despite showing him my pink IC, the manager asked for my passport as well. I didn’t know that when applying for work, singaporeans need to show passport as well.

He even said no passport cannot work, illegal immigrant he called me. I said Hello, I have pink IC, you want my passport what for? You have plans to harm my family in Malaysia? Or you are a robber planning to rob us? He said it’s under HR request.

I stopped replying him and texted another KFC manager, she’s my classmate from ITE. She said no, singaporeans only requires to show IC, vaccination cert and food & hygiene cert if we have any. She said I am welcome to work for her if I do need a job.

Today I finally knew, singaporeans whom marry a citizen of another country, need to show passport when applying for a job in their home country. We are being treated as foreign workers here despite we have flushed our pink IC out.

I do not know whether to laugh or to be angry now……..oh yes I am going to use a skill which is common in singaporeans behavior, to submit a complain against him.

Valentine Day is around the corner. Looking back, there are many things that I want to share.

Throwback to two years ago, 23 years old, I never had a boyfriend. I am that kind of girl with pimples and oily skin. I deemed myself to be single.

Throwback to one year ago, 24 years old, I had my first boyfriend. A boyfriend who loves you for who you are, when he tells you you look better without makeup.

A boyfriend who accompanies you ups and downs. However, as a ladies man, he was talking to other girls too. I was unable to accept it and the relationship fell apart.

Currently, I am in a loving relationship with my fiance.

He is everything I wanted, smart, caring, generous and kind. Most importantly, treats you well, protects you and encourages you. What I want to say is don’t lose hope. A failed relationship does not mean that you are doomed. Be at your very best, be yourself and you will attract the right one. No mind games, no forced convo, and everything just flows.

Here are what netizens think:

• You sound like a person who let your emotions rule your head. Less than a year of being together is still honeymoon phase. Most people who are level headed will ride out at least a few years of being in a relationship with the same person before committing.

• One year ago you are with first boyfriend. Now you have a fiancé? How long was the relationship with the fiancé?

• I couldn’t help but to compare the two…. Ex BF and fiance. A ladies man and one who is not. Good looking and charming against one who is neither?