I’m a 24-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past two years. We started off as friends and things just blossomed from there.

We had a great connection and I thought that I had found my soulmate.

We were lovey then things started to change when my boyfriend stopped giving me the attention I seek

For the first year of our relationship, things were going great. We had a lot of fun together and we were always laughing and joking. We had a great time and I thought that I had finally found the one.

However, over the past year or so, things have changed. My boyfriend has become distant and uninterested in spending time with me. He barely talks to me and it seems like he doesn’t care about me anymore.

He’s always either out with his friends, at work or playing games which leaves me feeling lonely and neglected. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just shrugs it off and says he’s busy.

I started to seek attention from my male colleagues and yearned for it because they gave me a lot of attention

I’ve been feeling increasingly lonely and desperate for attention and so I started to turn to my male colleagues at work.

They were all older than me and they treated me like a sugar baby and I contemplated ‘doing it’ with them but I could not bring myself to cheat on my boyfriend.

They would take me out to fancy dinners, buy me expensive gifts and shower me with compliments.

It was like a breath of fresh air for me, and I felt appreciated and wanted for once.

I ended up getting caught up in the attention and I became too dependent on it. I started to focus all my energy on pleasing my male colleagues, and I stopped focusing on my relationship with my boyfriend.

One day, my boyfriend found out about the attention I was getting from my male colleagues and he was furious.

He accused me of cheating and he said that he didn’t want to be with me anymore. We ended up going our separate ways after an hour long talk about all the issues and feelings we faced.

My Job Interview Experience

I recently went for a job interview for a position I had been dreaming about. I was excited and nervous at the same time.

One of the questions the interviewer asked me was about my current drawn salary with my current employer.

Decided to ‘upsell’ my current drawn salary and told them that I was drawing $500 more than what I was actually drawing

I had been earning a low salary at my current job and I felt that if I was honest with them, they will try to lowball me and offer me around the same or just slightly higher than what I was getting.

That was not what I wanted of course, I wanted a raise of at least $500 to $1,000 in this job hop and so I decided to lie and declared that I earn $500 more than what I was actually earning.

I was not sure whether my lie was going to work or not but I had to give it a shot.

It paid off, the company offered me $500 more than the amount which I declared to them and so i got $1,000 more than my previous job

I received a call from the company’s HR a few days later and they said that they were pleased to offer me the job and when it came to the salary part, they offered me a $500 increase of what I told them I was earning.

I was ecstatic and couldn’t believe my luck. I was relieved that I had taken the risk of lying and it had paid off. I was so happy that I had managed to get a raise of $1,000 in one go just by lying about my previous salary.

What is the most polite way to ask a casual friend if he wants to have s- with me?

Context

I broke up with my ex a couple months ago and am not really feeling like chasing new relationships right now. But I still have a healthy libido and want to get laid.

I’ve got a friend whom I consider as an acquaintance who lives very near to me, like opposite block near. I don’t know him super well, but he has always been very sweet and polite to me and we hang out together sometimes.

We have a little bit of an age gap (I am 22 and I believe he is about 30) that I think would prevent us from actually going out together or anything. But I do think he is hot and I’d like to go for a ride if he is down.

But I’ve never really done the friends-with-benefits thing and I’m not sure how you go about asking someone for that. Is it as simple as just asking him “Hey, do you want to come over and f- me?”

What is the most polite way to tell someone that you’re not looking for a relationship, but would like to have s- with them?

Here are what netizens think

• Probably the most turned on I’ve ever been (me, 32M) is when I went out with a girl and afterwards she pretty much said, “I know this is forward but how do you feel about hooking up?”
  
  It was direct and it was so complimentary that it turned me on. We men don’t get that direct communication very often. Just text him that or ask him in person.
  
• When I was in my early 20s, a 30-something work friend asked me back to her place after we hung out at a bar.
  
  I was turned on by how direct she was. As you said, it’s not often that most of us guys have a woman flat out say “so you want to go back to my/your place and f- right now?”.
  
• Be straightforward and honest. Say something like “hey I split up with my ex a while back and have always found you attractive. If you’re interested in hooking up sometime we should”.

I Flipped Watches to My Friends to make a huge profit from them, Only for Them to Find Out the Truth.

Today has been an absolute roller coaster for me. I totally messed up by flipping watches I bought from a website to my friends for serious profit.

I never thought they would find out, but oh boy, did they ever. I guess it was an uncool move though so that’s on me.

Context

So, here’s the background: I follow alot of budget watch forums and one newer watch website got these watches that looked so pretty fricking legit for cheap.

So, like any other budding entrepreneur, I came up with a genius plan to make some serious cash.

I started buying these watches and flipping them to my friends, family, and colleagues, claiming that I had connections with luxury watch suppliers and could get them at a discount.

I’d buy the watches from the website for a fraction of their perceived value and sell them for a huge markup. It felt like I was running a successful little side hustle.

Everything was going smoothly until one of my friends, who had bought a watch from me exposed me.

His brother apparently pointed out that the watch brand is budget. He found the exact model he had purchased from me was listed for way less than what I had charged him. As you can imagine, he was not happy at all.

Things escalated quickly, and he shared this with our mutual friends, who also had bought watches. They all felt betrayed prob for good reason. Blew up in my face and they got pretty mad. I mean its not like it wasnt a consensual deal though.

The fallout has been rather brutal. My friends are mega pissed have even started distancing themselves from me.

Hopefully they mellow out in a week. 

My last 2 ex gfs did not want children. We broke up for completely unrelated reasons.

Today my current gf told me she might never want children.

I am amazed at the consistency of child preferences of women I date. Is it becoming more prevalant these days or is there some other reason for this pattern? Might I be attracting a certain sort of woman and why? My gf’s reason is her fear of having children will affect her career progression and her indignance about the unfairness that men do not have to give birth. My exes did not want children for fear of damaging their figure.

I am not opposed to not having children but my status quo is want to have children as I like them and that is also the usual path in life.

I understand the benefits of not having children but I am not completely convinced.

Here are what netizens think:

• Don’t waste each other’s time if this is something you cannot overlook. One of my friend who became a mom said she will not have anymore children and will stop at one. The world of today is unlike the past. Even though she has a supportive husband and family and she is able to work, she will not want to bring more children into this world. Covid, war, climate change etc. She thinks she has brought a human into this world to suffer. Even if domestic, finance, spousal support are not an issue, there may be other unforeseen concerns and reasons for not wanting a child.

• You can never force someone to be a parent if they never want to. There’s no need to justify why they never want kids. This is their personal choice. Since she made her stand clear, u might seriously want to consider whether to continue or end it in order not to waste each other’s time. If having kid is one of your requirement, u might want to make it clear first before even getting together in the first place.

• Just shoot inside la

• Raising a kid ain’t easy. I goes beyond just the financial aspect. I can bluntly say not enough Parents ever considered if they’d actually make good Parents, and raise their kids right by instilling them with proper values and morals which shapes them through life.

Is it ok for guys to ask to split a bill after the first date if the girl declines invitation for a second date? I have been on 3 dates so far online, where there was no second date.

None of those girls initiated to pay and its abit costly to pay for 6 portions of meal when nothing materialises. Personally i feel its abit weird to ask for split after cause i assumed girls would at least pay for their share if they have no intention of seeing the person again.

Appreciate some feedback and opinion here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Then go somewhere cheaper like food court or hawker next time? Buy your own food. No need to treat. Lol. Why must go restaurant?

• If you mind, pls ask to spilt at the first date, not when they reject the second date. However, asking to spilt on first date may not lead to second date. I suggest that you talk to the gals more and ascertain they are really keen before u ask them out. Else it would be costly if you adopt a “cast net” style and meet many gals at the same time, without knowing them better.

• Just invite for a coffee. Why is there a need to have a meal? If there’s nothing much to talk about , just cut the story cut and part ways. Honestly if u r not my cup of tea, I won’t even want to waste my time out to entertain you.

• LOL. I would suggest you to ask them to go dutch at the start and not when you see they aren’t gonna meet you then you ask for their share. That’s like going to the doctor’s and asking for a refund after a week has passed by cos you didn’t recover.

• real issue here is why they are not willing to go on a second date. It’s like if the girls are in for a free meal, why will the reject the possibility of another free meal?

I’m in my mid 30s…I often find myself feeling stuck in my career. I had high hopes of working my way up the corporate ladder, but the truth is that I haven’t made much progress.

I’m stuck in a job that I don’t particularly enjoy and I’m frustrated that I’m not moving up.

I have a Master’s degree, which I thought would be enough to help me get ahead, but it hasn’t made much of a difference. If anything, I feel like I’m stuck in the same place and I don’t know how to move forward. It’s been a real struggle trying to figure out how to advance my career.

I’ve been trying to figure out what I can do to increase my chances of success, but it’s been hard. I’ve looked into getting additional certifications, but I haven’t found any that are relevant to my field. I’ve also considered going back to school, but that would mean taking time away from my job, and I don’t think my employer would be too happy about that.

One of the biggest problems is that I don’t have much in the way of experience.

I have a good education, but I don’t have any practical experience in my field. I’ve been trying to find ways to gain experience, but it’s been a challenge. I’ve looked into volunteering, but most of the positions require a lot of time and I just don’t have the flexibility in my current job.

I’m also trying to build up my network. I understand the importance of having strong professional connections, but it’s been hard to meet new people in my field. I’ve tried going to events, but I always feel like an outsider and I don’t know how to break the ice.

I’m starting to feel discouraged, but I’m not giving up. I know that there must be a way for me to advance my career, and I’m determined to find it. I’m going to keep researching my options and networking as much as possible. I’m also going to look for ways to gain experience, even if it means taking a part-time job or volunteering in my free time.

I know that it’s going to take time and effort, but I’m committed to advancing my career. I’m confident that with the right plan and the right attitude, I can make it happen.

Note: I’m from a third-world country