I (31 M) have been friends with M (27 F) for at least 6 years. She was introduced to our friend group through my best friend B (27 M) and they had a physical situationship that lasted a long time. They were never in a relationship they just had S times and B cheated on several girlfriends with M. M has also had several trysts with another friend of ours named E (30 M).

Logically, I know this is not someone I should be involved with on more than a friendly level because there’s so much history with my other friends.

But logic goes out the window when I think of this girl. She’s a kind, beautiful, wonderful person who would give you the shirt off her back if you really needed it.

When we first met, I tried to keep her at arms length because with B, there’s no telling who’d be around next week. But somehow M managed to knock down my barriers and became a friend I would be devastated to lose.

Over time, I left SG and came back and we’ve managed to stay friends and spent a lot of time together. She loves me and I love her. For her, it’s just as friends and for me it has somehow morphed into something else. It’s come to a point where the way she looks at me makes me melt. And I’m almost certain it’s not on purpose. I’m really struggling with my feelings on this one and last night I reached my limit.

I had a vivid dream about M and I woke up this morning torn about it. I’m my dream it felt right. But in my mind it felt dirty and wrong.

To have such thoughts about someone who’s been nothing but a friend to me. There has been no hint of reciprocation. I don’t want to be that creep “waiting around for my turn.” So guys, should I stepped back from being friends with M because I can’t control how I feel about her?

ETA: sorry for formatting I’m on mobile

I have made many bad financial decisions since i started working in 2011. Recently i fall into a job scam and lost about $45000, and that is the last straw. Since then, i haven’t been myself.

I decided to do a tabulation, and all in all, for the past 11 years or so, i have lost at least $200 000 (bad investment, stocks, forex, scam etc). My husband also lost quite a bit of money in the stock market (about $150 000). All these are very painful experience as i do not earn much (Started with 2k+ per month, and now hitting 5k+ per month). My husband left his job previously and is not working for the past few years as he is pursuing further studies. We have no children and we stay in a HDB.

Based on my single income, we can still manage a decent living. However, every time i think about the financial loss we had, it will bring chills. We could have paid off our housing loan or have enjoyed more with our earnings rather than saving them away and “investing” it, with now ended with nothing. It is years of hard work and very thrifty lifestyle. Although i have some emergency, i can’t help but to feel very “poor” and insecure.

I don’t know what i should do. I seems to have lost myself and don’t have the passion to do anything. Other than working and going home, i don’t even feel like stepping out of the house. Since i am clearing my leave recently, i have been staying home for the past one week, doing nothing and just watching drama brainlessly, sleeping at 4am and waking up after 11am. I didn’t even feel like step out of the house or talk to anyone. I have a list of things that i wanted to do but i just don’t feel like it.

Is this normal? What can i do to recover?

I remember it like it was yesterday. It was after I graduated, my boyfriend and I decided to take a trip to visit his family in Malaysia.

We had been dating for a few months already and I was excited to finally meet his parents and siblings. Little did I know, I was about to be tempted by something much more than I bargained for.

When I arrived at his parent’s house, his father was the first person I saw. I could tell he was a kind and gentle man, but I was absolutely taken aback by how handsome he was. He had salt and pepper hair, a strong jawline, and a warm smile. It was almost like looking into a mirror of my boyfriend, just 10 times more handsome.

I was completely mesmerized and almost immediately felt a strong attraction to him.

I tried to push it out of my head, telling myself that it was just a silly thought, but the more time we spent together, the more I was drawn to him. His intelligence, wit, and charm were all very attractive and he seemed to be a devoted husband and loving father.

I eventually started to feel guilty about my feelings. I was ashamed that I was attracted to my boyfriend’s father and felt like I was betraying my boyfriend. I tried to ignore it, but the more I saw him, the more tempted I felt.

I eventually told my boyfriend about my feelings, but he wasn’t too concerned. He told me that it was natural to be drawn to someone like his father and that I shouldn’t feel guilty.

I was relieved to hear that and thankful for his understanding. I decided to take his advice and try to focus on the positive aspects of our relationship. I also made a point to spend more time with his father in order to get to know him better and understand why I was so drawn to him.

In the end, I’m glad that I was honest with my boyfriend about my feelings. Although I was tempted by his father, I was able to resist and stay faithful to my boyfriend. I learned that it’s important to be honest and open about our feelings, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

Although I still feel drawn to his father, I’m happy to say that I’m still in a committed relationship with my boyfriend. I’m thankful for his understanding and support, which allowed me to move past this temptation and stay true to my heart.

I was the ‘Boot Licking’ employee. That’s what everyone called me. I was the one who would always say “yes” to my boss, no matter what.

I was the one who was always eager to please and who would do whatever was asked of me, no matter the cost.

I was a hard worker, and I wanted to prove myself to my boss. I wanted him to think I was the best employee he had ever had, and I was willing to go above and beyond to make sure that happened.

I was always the first one to volunteer for extra hours, and I never complained when I was given tasks that were outside of my job description.

However, there was one time when I was asked to do something that I felt was wrong. My boss asked me to come to work even though I was feeling ill. I had a fever, a sore throat, and my eyes were itchy and watery. I knew that I was sick, and I knew that I shouldn’t be at work.

But, I didn’t want to tell my boss that I was sick. I didn’t want him to think that I was a slacker or that I was too weak to do my job. I wanted to be the ‘hero’ employee, the one who was always willing to put in the extra effort. So, I told him that I was feeling fine and that I didn’t need to go home.

I know now that this was a mistake. I should have been honest with my boss and told him that I was feeling ill. I should have taken the time to rest and recover so that I could come back to work feeling better. Instead, I worked while I was sick, and I spread my germs to everyone around me.

We all know how that story ended. Everyone in the office ended up getting sick and having to take time off work. And, of course, my boss was not happy. He was angry that I had come in to work when I was feeling ill, and he let me know it.

So, what can we learn from this story? Well, for starters, it’s important to be honest about your health. If you are feeling ill, don’t try to be a ‘hero’ and push yourself to come into work. Take the time to rest and recover, and let your boss know what’s going on.

It’s also important to remember that you don’t always have to be the ‘boot licking’ employee. You don’t have to be the one who always says ‘yes’.

A friend asked me for a hook up and told me I was stuck up when I turned him down.

Why are guys like this?… I had a male friend who I had known for 5+ years, we got on great but I never saw him as anything more than a friend.

One night he said he wanted to become f-buddies & described it as “well you’re a lonely single girl, and I want to practice intercourse with a girl so that when I get a girlfriend my muscle memory from practice will kick in and I’ll be a good lover”.

I turned him down and said I was disgusted that he essentially just saw me as a piece of meat to practice with & he turned around and said I was stuck up and that a single girl would never turn him down unless there was something wrong with her.

Safe to say we’re not friends anymore … this is the second time something like this has happened with my male friends.

Netizens’ comments

• Wtf is with that excuse, I am cringing so hard imagining someone say that.

• Ugh wow. That is seriously messed up. It just boggles my mind that there are guys who do that.

As I sat in my friend’s living room, I couldn’t help but feel frustrated.

We had been talking about job opportunities, and he was refusing to even consider a job that paid less than $5,000 per month.

I had known my friend, James, for years. We had gone to the same local university and graduated with honours. But now, as we were starting our careers, I was starting to see a side of James that I didn’t like.

He was arrogant and entitled, and he seemed to think that because he had graduated from a prestigious university, he was entitled to only the best job opportunities. He refused to even consider anything that paid less than $5,000 per month, despite the fact that it was nearly impossible to find a job that paid that much right out of university.

I tried to talk to James about it, but he wouldn’t listen. He insisted that he deserved the best and that he wasn’t going to settle for anything less. But I knew that he was just setting himself up for disappointment.

Despite my concerns, James refused to budge. He turned down job offers left and right, insisting that they didn’t pay enough or didn’t have the right prestige. I watched as his savings dwindled and he became more and more desperate.

Eventually, James was forced to take a job that paid less than $3,000 per month. He was humiliated and resentful, and he blamed me for not supporting him in his quest for the perfect job. But I knew that I had done the right thing by trying to talk sense into him.

In the end, James learned a valuable lesson. He realized that he couldn’t always have things his way, and that sometimes, you have to take what you can get. He started to appreciate the job that he had, and eventually, he was even able to negotiate a raise.

But the experience left a bitter taste in my mouth. I realized that James’s entitlement and arrogance had almost ruined his career, and I couldn’t help but wonder if he would ever truly learn his lesson.

I think I am going to be single forever because I cannot find a man that will respect my boundaries and that I am not scared of.

I’m pretty bummed out. I never pictured myself being single for my whole life.

For the past two years I have taken a break from dating because of so many bad experiences and in that time my life has flourished.

I have gotten three raises and three promotions.

My self-esteem and self-worth has skyrocketed, along with my confidence. I no longer allow people to treat me with disrespect or talk down to me and I am not afraid to have boundaries anymore.

Every man I speak to or try to plan a date with blows me off because of this. Most of them blow me off because I’m not comfortable giving my phone number before we meet. Or I get blown off when I make it clear I am not interested in S right away even though my profile clarifies I am not looking for a hookup. Even the men that say they understand still try to F when we meet.

It’s like when I say I am not interested in S right away all they hear is that I need some convincing or as soon as they touch me I’m just not going to be able to resist them (eye roll).

I am so frustrated. There was just a post I saw online where everybody is trashing a girl because she nicely and respectfully decided to go her separate ways over tinder because it was unclear if this man was inviting her over for tea to his house or in public and there were so many comments from men trashing her.

“ You dodged a bullet.” Like this girl was literally so chill and respectful and all of these men see her turning down a man and think oh my God she’s a crazy good thing he dodged a bullet.

The entitlement and audacity of the majority of men these days I can no longer deal with. Does anyone else feel the sense of hopelessness with men now? I think that because my life has improved so much without men bringing me down I should just plan the rest of my life being on my own. It’s just depressing. Why are they so entitled? And the hatred of women for no reason. God it makes me angry.

Hes very nice but might be moving, so we decided to be casual until he makes a decision but we have both stated we are open to a relationship if all stays well, well its been a month, and the more i see him, the more apparent it becomes that if S was off the table, we would not be a good fit

Hes very aggressive and im very sensitive, and our conversation just does not flow well, we just have amazing
“bed time”. im going to give it one last hangout to try and get a real conversation going but if it fails then i want to tell him I don’t see it becoming more than this.

I feel bad and almost like he’s waiting to see how we turn out to decide if he wants to move or not so im feeling pressure to speed it up and make a decision as to not lead him on, once i decide how im feeling. he will definitely ask me why, and i want to know what to say, and can i do it over text, he lives 30 min away and i don’t want to drive that far just to tell him i only see us as a casual thing now, i feel bad because i agreed i could see us being in a relationship, but the more we hang out the less i feel that way, I feel like i walk on eggshells around him and he’s always pissy over something.

he seems like hes always annoyed at me and whether its just his personality or not, i take stuff personally so his sarcasm and mine just wouldnt mesh

I’m scare he feels that I’m only using him for “special”. But it actually is.

I’m worried the age gap between me and my bf is weird. I’m the older one.

Although we are both young, people can tell that I am the older one and sometimes people give me the weird look.

I met my bf when he was 18, I was 21(turned 22 4 months later). There’s under 4yr age gap between us.

He’s 19 now, I turned 23 this month. We are at the same stages of life, I’m first year of University (he started Uni earlier than most and dropped out to do it elsewhere. He is going to army soon.

I did an extra year then changed courses hence starting again now).

I think that makes some difference at least? Because we are at same stages of life but of course we still have different experiences.

I didn’t think much about it before as when we first spoke I assumed he was 19. My mind makes me worried I’m a creep or something as I have always dated people same age as me before.

and feel like a hypocrite in a way maybe because whenever the roles were reversed I’d be concerned because the guy always ended up being weird/creepy and having odd intentions (in my experience from what I have seen)