A netizen shared how he has been married to his wife for almost 3 years but he doesn’t love her anymore – he said that he doesn’t dare to ask for a separation.

Here is the story:

“Hi, I got married for close to 3 years.

I don’t love my wife anymore but I don’t dare to propose a separation. I think my wedding was a big mistake.

But the house was too attractive to forgo at the time although it hasn’t fulfilled its MOP. We sleep in different rooms. Should I leave? But I don’t want to disappoint my parents.

We have no kids. I can totally see my marriage is on life support”

Editor’s note: Grow a pair and be honest with her.

A woman who got married earlier this year shared her horror story about living with her mother-in-law and warned others about moving in with their in-laws.

Here is the story:

“I just got married earlier this year and decided to move in with my mother-in-law (her husband is not in the picture).

She has retired and owns a 5 room flat. She lives there with my husband (the only son in contact with her). She has 3 other children and all do not keep in contact with her.

5 room flat – more than enough space for all of us. But many things happened that caused us to eventually move out.

Unreasonable

1) The master bedroom is empty and is used as a storage room (she has many items that she refused to throw). Before we move in, we asked her if we can use the room and she agreed. However, weeks before our wedding when we were preparing to move in, she refused to move the items in the storeroom. So, she actually expected us to stay in there with all the items she does not use but refuse to throw. I was upset but I have no choice, it’s her home.

2) Her home also does not have an electric kettle. When I bought one, she did not allow me to use it in the kitchen (although it is huge and the countertop has a lot of space). I ended up using in my already cramped room with her things everywhere.

3) When I brought some of my clothes with me to move in, she kept saying I am bringing too many things into her home. Mind you, I didn’t bring too many things since I did not even have a wardrobe (it’s full of her clothes and items that she refuses to move). I only brought 2 duffel bags.

4) She also woke us up daily at 5 am asking us to help her with house chores before we go out for work. My husband said she has never done that before we got married.

Ignored her

There are many other things but these are the ones that I can remember clearly. Throughout this ordeal (which lasted only a few weeks), I did not say anything mean to her or talk back to her at all. In fact, I tried to talk to her nicely and asked her how her day was, prepared food for her. She completely ignored me every time or just glared at me. I just remember crying a lot. She did not even talk to me, she only spoke to my husband. She did glare at him and all, but at least she talked to him.

It has been a few months but it really hurt me. It also affected my marriage negatively. It made me feel like I was better off not being married since I felt very unwelcomed. I felt like nothing when I was living there. I cannot lie but at that point in time, I even felt regret marrying my husband. She was totally normal before we got married FYI.

Finally moved out

Now we have moved out into our own resale home. Whenever I visit (just out of obligation), she is mostly normal and acts as if all of that did not happen. However, I don’t think I can ever forgive her for treating me that way. I am still extremely hurt today. I even have nightmares about it.

I have made it clear to my husband that she is not welcome to stay with us in our home, even if she gets sick and needs extra care. I feel bad but I really cannot forgive her. I wish I can get rid of this pain and hatred I feel towards her.

So.. yes.. pls be cautious about moving in with your in-laws.. you will never know their true colors until you have lived with them on a long term basis (staying overnight doesn’t count!).”

Editor’s note: Very well said.

I just had surgery a week ago and I don’t even get a chair.

I work as a host at a restaurant. I just had laparoscopic surgery a week ago, and my manager denied my request for a chair at the host table.

She said it was because “we don’t want customers thinking our employees are lazy.”I almost quit and walked out. Instead I got someone to cover my shift.

The worst part is that, before I got this job, it was standard for the host to have a chair. Apparently two of the hosts “took advantage” of it so now I don’t get a chair when I need one.

My shifts last six hours and I’m usually not allowed to sit down at all. I’m in pain and I’m tired and I’m thinking about quitting my job over it.

It’s been two days, I was sent home early last night because I couldn’t stand up straight halfway through my shift, this is affecting my income.

The rest of the employees are just as angry as I am about it, and they’re all fully supportive of me. I just don’t know what to do at this point.

My surgeon did give me a doctor’s memo. However, that doctor’s memo was for two days off, because most of the people he works on have office jobs.

He knows I have to stand up for six hours straight for my shifts and all he did was give me a few extra doses of my pain meds. Basically, a doctor’s memo isn’t gonna happen, I already tried.

Netizens’ comments

1. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve eaten at a restaurant where the hostess is seated as I check in and you know what? It had no effect on my dining experience whatsoever. Like I never even gave it a second thought. Why do restaurants do this?
2. I really don’t understand why so many places of work are so mean to their workers.
3. Take a seat. Walk in with a sign for the table that says, “broke my back. Had surgery. Now, my boss is forcing me to stand for entire shift.” See just how quickly guests start taking the business apart online and in person.
4. As a customer, you being comfortable doesn’t bother me at all, nor does it affect my experience at the restaurant in any way whatsoever, I’m there for the food, not the people standing up.
5. I have never once in my entire life been even close to being offended by an employee sitting while doing their job.

I found out my gf is married

10/28/2023 is the day I found out my gf was indeed married and cheating.

I had a rough day. I asked if she could come and see me because who doesn’t like holding the person they love in their arms.

It helps calms me down a lot and now I’m crying thinking about it.

She told me she was with her dad and his gf and couldn’t go out for the night. I said f it and went home. I was on ig watching stories and see her with another man and him mentioning her on his story.

I ask him if she is his gf and he tells me she is. Then corrects himself by saying she’s his wife repeatedly.

Moments later I find myself blocked on everything from her. She gave me so much reassurance and made me trust her so much. That she isn’t like the others and it turns out she is even worse then the others.

I have no clue what to do it hurts. I stopped going to the gym cos I just can’t go out of bed. I feel like I’m watching myself from a third person view. Like I’m watching myself on a tv or something.

My mind is clouded with so much memories of us. I feel like I’m reliving them again and it’s making me cry every time. What did I do to deserve this? I have been just wanting answers. She killed me.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m going to give you some life advice I learned the hard way. Hoes will be hoes. Never trust a girl until you know every single thing in her life
2. That and send all the evidence you’ve been with her to her husband. If you want to go scorched earth send it to everyone important in her life along with an apology stating you never knew.
3. Tell the husband he deserves to know
4. Hang in there bro. It is a lesson learned and you will laugh about this in a few years. Make sure you get to know someone as much as you can before falling in love. . Reality doesn’t always match your imagination. Stay strong

Company had me come in for 3 interviews for a position only to give it to someone else and offer me another position at lower pay after saying I got the job

I applied for a Project Manager position at a local chemical company. They seemed highly interested in me and brought me in for 3 interviews.

The third interview I even spoke to the owner of the whole company and that was a positive experience. I was given an email that I was selected and to call the manager of the department before they sent the offer.

I called the manager only to find out bad news. They said they selected someone else but wanted to give me an opportunity working 6am-430 pm at a lower salary.

Needless to say I’m shattered. I just got my degree, have worked for years and was going to finally move up. I am at a loss for words.

If anyone has any kind words or ideas on what to do next is appreciate anything. I have already told everyone I know that I got the job and this was supposed to be a big step forward for me in my life.

Only to find I’m stuck where I’ve always been as a wage slave, It’s been a hard day.

Netizens’ comments

1. Speak to your present HR now, tell them you want to rescind the offer of 2 weeks and if they will accept it. If they do, great-just stay there for at minimum 6 months. If HR doesn’t, start looking for another job ASAP aggressively. Do not take this bait and switch position that this new company offered. You arent the first and definitely not the last.
2. Decline their offer. Let others know that you got bait and switched and the name of the company so that they know not to deal with that company, as an employee or a customer.
3. That is complete disrespect and is only a sign of things to come at this place. I would leave immediately and keep looking for work. You don’t owe them anything at all.

My ex boyfriend (M29) is forcing me to pay back all the money he spent on me (F22) in our relationship

early in out relationship, we would sneak around and have fun and our relationship was pretty much toxic, I have to beg for a little time for him to spend with me or to talk to me…

he was distant and always “busy” and he wrote down every single thing he paid for me or bought me as a gift.

when we broke up he started demanding money back, but it’s just so stupid and he keeps threatening me to sue me, because he has “proof” that he lent me money, but he just wrote down everything he paid (trips, movies, festivals, restaurants, clothes…)

mind that I also paid as well, but never asked for my money back. the money I actually did ask him, I already returned.

Is this stupid behaviour or am I tripping? Who’s in the fault here? Can he sue me for this?

Netizens’ comments

1. Lmao those were gifts and he has no evidence they weren’t. Let him sue and give the judge something to laugh about.
2. He can sue and get laughed out of court
3. Take screenshots of his messages to you so you have proof in the future, but otherwise just block him and ignore him. He’s not going to sue you, and no lawyer would take his case anyway. If he sues you, he’ll lose. Move on and forget this loser.
4. Tell him to go ahead and sue you. He does not have a leg to stand on.
5. Block him on everything. You don’t owe him anything. He won’t sue you he is just doing this to keep the communication open between you. It’s a form of control.
6. These were gifts. Block this dude from contacting you and move on with your life, OP.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We recently successfully applied for a BTO. We are both 25 years old and work in the civil service ( we are in difference sectors).

Recently, we have been talking and he did randomly mention that in the future, probably he could be the one at home looking after the children and house, doing some trading as a source of income, while I would go out and work.

I am not sure if this is feasible as I am doubtful if he stays home all the time, he would become a lazy person (he is a pretty nua person, even during weekends on our dates we would just stay home and lie on the sofa watching shows) and would not be someone who is motivated or have a goal if he does not have a job. I am also unsure if the kind of trading he is talking about is able to help contribute to the family and am concerned about me as a female being the sole breadwinner and providing for the family.

I am not sure if this is a red flag in the relationship, showing that my bf is an unmotivated and lazy guy? Any one out there has similar experiences please do share with me and also all your perspectives.

Here are what netizens think:

If you are not comfortable with this then it’s a red flag. He has already verbalized his potential intentions. Better clear this topic in greater detail with him soon as you can.

If your daughter is seeing such a man and is about to marry him, would you give her your blessing?

He can stay home and care for kids and even nua (if the children needs an wants are all met, which is impossible one) provided, he can bring in around $4k every month through trading. If he can, then just let him stay at home and do trading.

My (35f) husband (44m) is a good man but whenever he does the dishes, folds laundry, or goes to the store, he says I have to “pay” for that with my body (ie blowing him or sleeping with him). If I don’t, he gets all pouty and sulks for a bit.

Example: today we were attending our nephew’s birthday party and we needed to get a gift. I was more than willing to go buy a present but my husband said “I’ll go get it – no worries!” So he goes and comes back and tells me “now you gotta pay up” while grabbing himself.

This isn’t normal, right? I know I’m probably not making things better by just doing it because he gets all bent out of shape if I don’t and I do it to shut him up.

It’s not like we don’t get intimate normally. Like this isn’t the only time he gets some. But I’m tired of him using this as a tactic to just perform basic functions around the house or tasks that needed to be done anyway.

I’m going to clarify a few things (NOTE: I’m not defending or condoning his behavior):

1. I should have been more specific – this does not happen EVERY TIME he does a task/chore. It does happen pretty regularly but I definitely do not help the situation by giving in.
2. THIS IS NOT A TURN ON. To be honest, I’m not really attracted to his advance tactics usually. When we first started dating/got married, yes I was attracted to him but it has gone down in recent years.
3. I recognize this now as coercion. So I will be having a long chat with him, however, he doesn’t respond very well to criticism.

I’m not stupid, people. I just didn’t know how to handle this and I appreciate all the comments and messages reaching out.

I have been becoming more confident and vocal about what I want and expect from him. Granted, it usually turns into a fight because he claims I’m being selfish and dramatic. (Gaslighting, I know) I’m working on a plan – I’m not in the best place financially (we keep our finances separate) so I want to make sure I have that figured out before I get me and my son out. I do know I’m being gaslit – he doesn’t seem to think so. Can someone gaslight you without realizing it? Anyway – I appreciate all of you. Please ask anything. I want to be confident in myself and my decisions. 🙂

I’m seriously considering divorcing my overweight husband.

I know how awful that sounds. Just hear me out. When me and my husband first started dating we were both reasonable weights. Not fat, not skinny, just reasonable. We got along, he was super sweet, would take me out to nice places, super romantic.

We got married 7 years ago. Ever since then it’s been hellish. He got let go from his job after some budget cuts. He started playing online games, and eating out for most meals even though i offered to make him lunches before i left for work but he refused and said it would be too much work for me. We were still good romantically and apart from his slightly worrying gaming addiction, at the time we were fine.

We had our daughter 2 years into our marriage and I had some complications which led to me being unemployed for a bit because i was recovering from a few surgeries. He refused to get a job and said he would rather spend his time gaming and “taking care of our daughter” so we ended up borrowing money from my mother. This hurt because my mother isn’t in that good of a place, financially, and her giving us the money felt like a really low point.

I love my daughter more than anything and I noticed he didn’t seem too care as much as i did and preferred take out and computers more than our child.

5 Years later, I’m employed, he is not, he is now over 250 pounds, i am still at the 160-170 mark. My husband spends more time interacting with his friends online than me and his daughter, my daughter will occasionally go up to him wanting to play, or spend time with her dad, he 9/10 times will brush her off. He hardly leaves his gaming chair, we haven’t been intimate in 2 years because is physically impossible and he gets tired too quick.

I’ve counted, he has only left the house to run errands with me this year 4 times. We never do things as a family, he’s never fully there with me. I feel like a single mother to two kids, one an actual child with curiosity and a desire to do fun things, one with its ass glued to a game console.

I have tried convincing him to diet, he will always go like 3-4 days before i catch him with a takeaway box or an uber order. I’ve tried so hard with him but he never tries. Our relationship feels so one sided and i don’t know how much longer i’ll be able to hold out like this. I don’t want to divorce because i know what it’s like to grow up in a broken home but i also know what it’s like to have a dead beat father and i can’t tell what i should do?

Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

Why are singaporeans unhappy despite having so much?

I find that there are many good things in SG that ppl from other countries would be very envy- safe and secure environment, good healthcare, education and public transport, convenience to get around anywhere, affordable and wide variety of food options etc

Most singaporeans don’t need to worry about when their next meal is coming and access to clean water and shelter.

Nor any conflicts, violent crime in the streets or natural disasters. Most can get a job if they wanted to. There is a wide variety of entertainment options to suit every taste and many can afford at least a short overseas vacation a year.

Even the poorest and most destitute people can receive some help from the community and government. I bet you probably can’t find most of the above in even many developed cities.

Why are Singaporeans generally feeling unhappy when they have so many good things?

Netizens’ comments

1. a few things:
   – you generally don’t miss what you’ve never had. if you haven’t lived (not taken a holiday) in a foreign country, it’ll be hard for you to appreciate the ways in which Singapore stands out globally
   – wealth inequality is increasing, and we tend to compare ourselves to those who are better off. the fact that some of those are politicians gives rise to a perception of unfairness
   – in the past few years, things haven’t been so good, and recency bias is very real
2. Honestly, I think it’s just the high stress nature of Singaporean life. From young you are stressed at school to study and get the best marks so you can go to a good University.
   Then you need to get a good job and save so you can get married and then you need to keep working to support your family etc.
   About the only real time you can relax is when you finally retire and even then, it’s not something a lot of Singaporeans can consider as they still need to worry about their finances.
   You are right, there are a lot of great things about Singapore and I do feel that the younger generation are slowly changing, but let’s not kid ourselves, Singapore is not the place were we can practice, work like balance.
3. The unhappy minority is loud and happy people don’t complain. The loud ones makes you think that people are unhappy. Most of the people in my circle are happy with their lives.
   Sg is a good place, we do have space for improvement but, definitely one of the best place to live in right now in 2023. I won’t wish to live elsewhere considering the amount of global turmoil that’s going on right now.
   With every unhappy sentiment, there’s so much more to be thankful for. The unhappy whiney peeps probably don’t realise they can whine this much because, life is good too.