Cheating wife for eight years

So wife for eight years cheated like 10 times in the 8 years all spread apart but that don’t make any difference. When asked why I get the I don’t know answer.

And when I bring up the subjects or the cheating thing she don’t want to talk about it just move on. How in the world can I do that when I don’t know the reason for cheating like at all

but yet im the one in the wrong. I can’t help but think about all the dudes that f-ed you while we have been married same way same everything.

So am I crazy for not showing love and affection at the moment to see if she is actually sorry and wants to make things better.

Netizens’ comments

1. Kick that ho out the door. Why even bother to stay?
2. At this point, I’m not sure why you’re even with her? Eight times and you still want to be with her. She has no respect for you or marriage, and she firmly believes your incapable of leaving. It’s time for you to immediately seek a divorce.
   She’s betrayed the marriage vow eight times and you obviously are wrecked by this, but seem not to pull the plug.
   You need to to tell everyone on both sides of the family and friends. Also, it’s time for you to be ruthless, do not succumb to her. Ask her to leave the premises, but do not leave yourself, you did not betrayed the marriage.
3. She’s cheating because she wants to and obviously because she can
4. Why are still with her. This someone you not in a relationship with. Period
5. She’s single. You aren’t.
6. Set her free, to the streets.
7. Better question why are you dumb and staying after first time. At a certain point your too pathetic.

Do Singaporeans feel sad?

So apparently due to our nature of being materialistic and being in the rat race all the time, I think some feelings like empty and sympathy are gone due to stepping over people to climb the corporate ladder.

My parents told me it’s a survival of the fittest and I have to step people over and not feel guilty about it.

Sabotage and betrayals are norm and speaking from my dad experience of how he used his best friend to get into particular job and sabotage him for taking the guy position.

And my mom have used some of the people who trusted in her to sabotage and increase her reputation by downplaying her close friends..

When my grandpa passed away, my parents and I didn’t shed a tear even tho I was pretty close to him coz I can’t feel any sadness or emotions related to it. I am prepared to abandon my friends anytime if it benefits me.

So is this normal Singaporean behaviour? Or just me? Do yall experience sadness before?

Netizens’ comments

1. No, it’s not. Your parents are f-ed up. But not crying when an old person dies is common. Because the death did not come as a surprise, the medical bills and levels of care needed were mounting, death was a relief and the expected last step.
2. your family is toxic. its not sinkie nature. its just your family.
3. how you treat others is often how you get treated. if you’re Machiavellian at work no one will trust you and there will be a limit to where you can go or what you can accomplish if you don’t have other people’s engagement. and if you’re an a-hole to your friends you’ll find that you have none when you’re older. and no, it’s not common. there are many decent Singaporeans.
4. What a f-ed up family.
5. I don’t think it’s normal . Your family seems to be very stunted in emotional maturity ? And your parents have unfortunately passed on their toxic traits to you.
   What you mentioned and described is not unheard of (that’s why we hear of toxic backstabbing colleagues and friends… is people like you guys lor, lol)
   But the truth is majority of people around you are NOT like this… as kiasu is our culture, as competitive as it is in SG, most parents still teach their kids to do the right thing. Most of us has normal, healthy, happy relationships and friendships, just like any other similar societies in the world.
   Cmon. I think it’s a good sign that you’re self aware and even asking this question here in the first place..
   OP you need therapy you guys sound f-ed up. There’s still light at the end of the tunnel. Seek help ba.

For people using dating apps, what are the success rates/stories?

i personally myself(F23) have used dating apps(bumble/omi) for quite awhile and have gotten into a few relationships. most of them didn’t end well for me and most are looking for something casual.

just wanted to know everyones’ experiences on the app and if it’s really worth it anymore as i just got out of a toxic situationship from a guy i met on dating app and i am currently emotionally drained to even look for someone new to start all over again.

edit: tldr it ended bc he told me that he felt it was very hard to be seen and heard throughout our whole relationship and wanted me to have social cues whenever he’s upset without him telling me; he’ll have to independently solve his own issues instead and therefore promotes a lack of trust for me to take care of him lol

Netizens’ comments

1. Take a break and reset your emotions before trying again. Usually apps like cmb and hinge have better quality of serious guys. Yes, there are a number of guys who are just looking for casual so it’s important to vet well. I find they tend to get touchy very quickly if they’re looking to hook up. Look at the kind of dates they bring you on and the way the conversation goes. I got burned before as well, so now I always ask “serious” questions by date 2 or 3 so I can more or less gauge how serious they are. I just met my boyfriend from hinge recently, so yes there’s hope.
2. If you’re looking for something serious, try cmb. Higher quality guys too, that’s where I met my fiance in 2018 and this year we got the BTO! I think I’ve met and went on dates with 5-6 guys from the apps before meeting him, so it’s a bit of time and effort, need to read through their bios
   Also 23 is still young, still have lots of time!
3. Met my then-gf in 2018 🙂 on CMB and we are currently married for abit over a year. Had been on CMB for a couple of years, but never really took the initiative to ask girls out as I was still studying back then and wanted to work then start to find a gf.
   She was the first girl I asked out and likewise, I am the first guy she met too in real life as she had just started to try out dating apps. Funny-thing is, we are our both first’s partner as we have never been in a relationship before.
   I only asked another girl out thereafter for a single date but didn’t find the connection as deep as my wife and as I continue to chase her eventually I succeeded and tada!
   So yes, please continue to keep trying!

My boyfriend told me that he approached me first because of my huge bewbs and I feel awful.

We met in school two years ago because we shared a class. He’s a funny and handsome guy and even tho I really love him now, at first I found him kinda annoying because he was always talking loud and making jokes with his friends.

I’ve always been blessed in the chest department and until a few years ago I’d always been ashamed and self-aware of them so I’ve always tried to hide them with big clothes.

I was often getting cat-called or called names because of it and it grew to the point where I begged my parents to help me, I switched schools and things got better for a while, then I got older and started my tertiary education and… nobody cared about them!

Nobody cared about me tho and it was so fantastic and I felt so happy that I took my chance and begun to dress cuter and just allowed myself and my body to exist as I was.

But I want to make sure that I still didn’t wore tight clothes or big cleavages, just… normal clothes I guess?

My experience with guys were bad enough and when my bf first approached me I kept my distance. Eventually we grew closer and begun dating and we’ve been taking it slow, I was happy with him.

If he didn’t had told me I’d had never guessed that he approached me because of that, he did say he found me pretty and since I didn’t talk a lot it pinch his interest. I thought it was cute.

Last Friday we attended a Halloween Party and he had been saying he wanted to see me dressed as Jessica Rabbit, I’m no fool and I knew why, but at this point we’ve been dating for a year, he had seen me without clothes in bed and I really like when he dresses with certain t-shits that show off his arms so I thought ”why not?” and I got a Jessica Rabbit costume.

The party itself was fine, he drank more that he should of so I drove him home.

On the way home he kept complimenting me and trying to touch me like in my arms, my face, my legs, just wanted to have his hands on me.

I told him off a few times and then he just sat there quietly while looking at me. Then he just said when he first approached me he just wanted to sleep with me to see ”how big my bewbs were” and then he just talked about our dates and things like that.

I felt my heart breaking because as I said, I’d never guessed it. I dropped him off, helped him get to his apartment and just tossed him on his bed, he asked if I wanted to spend the night and I said no.

We haven’t really talked since and I don’t know how to approach it, and since then I haven’t really said anything.

I’m a professional housecleaner. My first house today was beautiful and pretty big (4,000+ sq ft.) I had never cleaned this house before today.

It’s kind of interesting to clean the home of people you have never actually met while they are not home. I never snoop but I do learn about people just by the state of their house or whatever is out. These people seemed like they really needed us. I would guess they are busy and don’t have much time for cleaning and organizing (but definitely have an active S life judging by the master bedroom).

I love cleaning dirty houses and was like amping myself up by doing a mini Rocky training montage warmup and finding the perfect music to work to. I was sweating like 4 hours in but I was getting this house sparkling! All I had left to clean were the floors when a man walked in.

I welcomed him home and let him know I just needed to clean the floors and would be finished soon. He looked super confused and then kind of grinned and asked if I was his birthday gift. I didn’t really know what he meant. Maybe his wife scheduled the service on his birthday? I just answered with, “maybe? Happy birthday, Mr. H!” To which he looked even more confused and told me his name was not Henricks.

Well. That’s because his next-door neighbour, my actual client, is Mr H. I walked my happy self into the wrong house and cleaned the hell out of it. And then the guy who lived there came home and thought I was a S worker role-playing as a housecleaner hired by his wife as a birthday present.

I was so totally embarrassed explaining myself to this guy and my boss. (The entry instructions in the app said the client wouldn’t be home but that there was a key under the mat. There was no key under the mat but the front door was unlocked ). This is not even the first time in my life that I have let myself into the wrong house, although the first time was not a work thing.

On the plus side, the dude was so happy with how clean his house was that I finished the floors and he paid me what my company would have charged him plus a tip!

Here are what netizens think:

• I mean. Sounds like a happy ending to me!

• My mom has been a housecleaner for as long as I been alive, damn she knows how to clean a house. She admits she loves the smell of diluted bleach after cleaning and so does her cat, her cat will roll around anything cleaned with bleach and will like rub her face alllll over your hands if they smell like it lol… apparently it mimics some pheromones in wee.

• At least you still got paid lmao so your efforts were not wasted