I recently experienced a situation at work where my upper management required me to upgrade my car to a Mercedes or another car of the same level.

They say people at my position cannot be seen driving a normal car

I have been driving a Honda for the past few years, and it has served me well. However, my upper management decided that people at my position must at least be driving a Mercedes.

They said that it was important to make a good impression on clients and that driving a Honda was not acceptable for somebody in my position.

At first, I was a bit taken aback by the request. I had worked hard to get to my current position and had been driving a Honda for years.

I was comfortable with my car and had no intention of upgrading anytime soon. However, I realized that my upper management had a point.

The Mercedes was a symbol of success and could make a strong impression on clients. It could also increase my self-confidence as I was now driving a car that was commonly associated with people in my position.

After much consideration, I decided to go ahead and upgrade my car to a Mercedes. It was a difficult decision, as I had to take out a loan to finance the purchase.

I also had to part with my beloved Honda, which had been with me for many years. However, I knew that the upgrade was necessary for me to keep up with the expectations of my upper management.

The process of acquiring a Mercedes was not easy, but it was definitely worth it. I had to make sure that the car was in good condition before I bought it and also had to get it serviced regularly so that it remained in good shape.

Additionally, I had to make sure that I had enough money to cover the monthly payments. The process was a bit overwhelming at first, but I eventually got used to it and was thrilled with my new car.

Driving a Mercedes has been a great experience so far. I feel more confident when I’m behind the wheel and get compliments from people when they see me driving it.

It has certainly made an impression on my clients and I’m sure that it has helped to increase my professional reputation. I also feel much better knowing that I’m keeping up with the expectations of my upper management.

Overall, while I was initially a bit hesitant to upgrade my car, I’m glad that I did. The Mercedes is a great car and I’m sure that it will serve me well for many years to come.

It has certainly made an impression on my professional life and is a reminder of my success.

Today I (19M), finally explored my girlfriend’s (18F) body and lost my v-card.

Could not feel anything because I used my hands too much

I was happy doing it with her, but then while we were doing it, I realized something: I couldnt feel anything and my donger was starting to become soft even tho the woman of my dreams was literally on top of me riding it.

She was feeling good and she said I was doing great, but soon enough she was already getting tired and she asked me why i havent came yet.

Not wanting to make her think she wasn’t satisfying me, I blamed the rubber, and started eating her out to distract her.

Took me four hours and changing 3 rubbers to shoot out

It took me 4 hours and 3 rubbers to finally shoot my load, and it was the best one I had in all my life. Still, I wished I could’ve came more and really enjoyed my first time with her, and I wished I didn’t choke my donger as much as I did before today and desensitized my kkj so much, so that I could’ve felt things better.

On the bright side, I learned a lot of things about a woman’s body (one of the things I learned is that the c- isnt as hard to find as people make it out to be), my girl was happy (I was so relieved when she said that i wasn’t as small as I thought I was, which definitely boosted my confidence).

Lastly, my friends cannot tease the shit out of me for being a v- anymore because i’m no longer one, so to my v-card boys out there, don’t jack off too much, or you wont enjoy your first time.

I was young and foolish once and was lured by the chance of living a high life loaded with money.

Back then, I was about to experience the VIP services which the casino had promised me after a few visits to the casino and winning some money. I was about to embark on an adventure that would be the envy of everyone in my circle.

Casino upgraded my tier and gave me VIP services

I had received an invitation a few weeks prior from the casino offering me an exclusive opportunity to enjoy the VIP services available.

I was promised access to the finest amenities, exclusive gaming, and the chance to win big. I was promised a luxurious experience that I could not find anywhere else.

When I wanted to go to the casino, they even sent a vehicle to pick me up from wherever I was at and sent me straight there.

I had a host assigned to me as well to take care of my requests and needs.

I had a little bit of money saved up from my mother’s inheritance, and I thought this would be a great opportunity to treat myself. I knew I was taking a risk, but I figured I could handle it. After all, I was only going to be there for a few days. What could go wrong?

Lost all the $150,000 my mother had left for me

Little did I know that I would be leaving the casino three months later with nothing to show for my time there. I had been lured in by the promise of VIP services and the allure of big wins, but I was quickly disillusioned.

Every night I stayed in the casino, I lost more money. I had started with $150,000, but within three months, I had lost it all.

I had been so enticed by the VIP services that I had let my guard down and lost myself. I was too trusting and too naive.

I thought I could beat the odds, but I was wrong. I had gambled away all of my mother’s inheritance, and I had nothing to show for it.

I had been so foolish and I felt ashamed. I had let my emotions get the best of me, and I had ended up paying a steep price.

I had gambled away all of my mother’s money, and I had nothing to show for it. I was left with nothing but a broken heart and a sense of regret.

I had been so enticed by the VIP services the casino provided me, and I had taken what my mother left for me and lost all of it in three months.

I felt like a fool and my heart was broken.

There was no way I could ever return the money, and I had to face the consequences of my actions.

I 25M have been with my girlfriend 26F for a year and a half.

We spent a year together, introduced each other to our families and she even moved in with me

When we initially got to know each other online and began flirting and having calls here and there. It developed to sending spicy pictures and videos which led to our first proper date.

We made out and immediately got freaky that night and she stayed over at my house that weekend and at least I thought we started dating then.

We grew to tell each other that we love each other after a couple of months and were doing all the couple related things, dates, trips, meeting each other’s families and she even moved in with me six months ago.

We celebrated our one year anniversary but apparently she just thought we were celebrating the time we had a real date.

Celebrated our one year anniversary, but to her it was one year of friendship because I didn’t officially ask her to be my girlfriend so she didn’t know what was our status

Today she took me out for a date and was just thanking me for being there for her especially in the last six months and she basically said she wishes we will date sometime in the near future.

This took me by surprise but basically made me realised I never actually officially asked her out in all we had done and been through.

She actually thought I was hooking up with one of my colleagues who’s my close friend but she hadn’t said anything about it because she was scared of overstepping her boundaries.

She then actually told me that the relationship she thought I had with my co-worker was one of the few reasons she hadn’t just asked me out herself because she wants us to be monogamous as she’s only been with me since we met.

It ended up being cute and all but I did feel like an idiot when I realised I wasn’t actually dating my girlfriend.

Why do financial advisers want to meet up?

So recently, an ex-colleague of mine left the company to join an insurance company. He contacted me and my teammates to have a meetup with him.

I told him that I am already engaging my friend for FA services for awhile now.

However, he still insisted on meeting up. I am genuinely curious why!

Here are what netizens think

• Because it’s generally harder to reject face to face. If you’re not interested don’t waste time.
  
• Its a sales tactic, if he meets you in person:
  
  1. Can make you paiseh which makes it harder for you to refuse eg. He considers you a good friend and hope you can support him blah blah.. Might bring in sob story of no deals or earnings for added effect.
  
  2. Battle of wills – see who caves in 1st.
  
  3. Even if he is buying the lunch or drinks, see point 1.
  
  4. Even if you say you are not interested, he will try to ask you to tell him all your current/existing policies. He will say let him “analyse & assess” for you to make sure you are well covered. Indirectly hinting your existing FA might have conned you. – pls don’t do it.
  
  5. May even ask you to sign something or login via singpass to give him access to your info on other policies or CPF contributions and balances etc.
  
  6. Will probably say those policies he’s selling is better and more up to date than yours and that you should reconsider and update, best of course to buy from him la.
  
  7. Will probably immediately push ILPs or fixed deposits with insurance instead of life policies as they earn more from these.
  
  8. Strangely, whenever you ask for brochures or info sheets to bring back to read and consider, almost always won’t give with lots of excuses. You always end up with their handwritten scribblings.
  
  If you really are not interested, just don’t meet him. Don’t waste your time or his time. Another way is to ask him to call you back 3 to 6 mths later and see if you are reconsidering then.

So I have recently began using dating apps, and the inexperienced me recently stumbled across a brick wall.

I matched w this girl that was superrrrrrrrr pretty (and I could tell that she def gets a lot of matches) and ended up getting ghosted after like not even a few days (yes, very sad I know).

I mean, it was the first time I had to take initiative and I have no idea how to make the convo engaging. 🙁

I suddenly begin to regret ghosting/giving half assed replies to all the dudes that matched w me or replied to my prompts or sent flowers LOL I think I’m getting karma rn :(((( (fyi I’m using CMB)

Note: I’m a girl. I set my preference to guys only for like a few weeks, then I paused the app cos I got catfished and was traumatised by it. Only came back like a few days ago but set to both genders this time round and I also not very good looking so don’t try to find me haha

Pls don’t attack me heh.

Here are what netizens think

• Welcome to the guy’s pov of matching with girls. I read wrongly at first thinking you went on a first date and getting ghosted afterwards.
  
  To match and get ghosted without any chances of going on a date is like 80-90% of what most guys experience. Unless you’re rich, famous, f-ing good looking, or any of the combination.
  
• Srsly, guys who can’t communicate yet wants to go on a date are such market spoilers. Like, if the date doesn’t work out for whatever reason, just try to have fun and have a good conversation man. Not like it’s a blind-pre-arranged-marriage-date smh.
  
• Haha I have learned recently through a bi friend that this is pretty common for y’all. You’re basically going through what we guys have to go through ALL THE TIME.
  
  The difference is, you’re so accustomed to not having to chase/do any work when matching guys, and you’re just as hapless (maybe more) when chatting with pretty girls as we are.
  
  My friend honestly had a shockingly awful game when I saw her trying to date girls on apps, which she was blissfully unaware of because literally anything works with guys.
  
  We laugh at the dumbest nonsense and nod along to all nonsense (no offence) 😛 Had to guide her on the how to be shameless/assertive/make moves like a dude because she was honestly getting nowhere on her own.
  
  Welcome to our world 😉 There’s no easy solution, only practice. Or Rule 1/2, be pretty (girls have much higher standards vs guys)

Background: 24F, staying in a fully paid HDB with my maternal grandmother for quite some time.

My grandma has two children, daughter (my mom) & son. But none actually cares and takes care of the monthly expenses (utilities, phone bill, scc, etc).

I am the only one paying for everything and supporting her

In addition, my mom uses my grandma’s name for phone contract and now a big fat debt so I have been paying for the bills mainly cause I feel that since I’m staying here and her kids aren’t doing anything.

Fyi, I’m also not in contact with my mom cause of past mistreatment and all that family conflict thingy. do not have a dad as well cuz both her husbands left her lol.

To add on, I’m not sure but, I heard that the house is under a lawyer’s letter that it’s 50-50 with my grandpa’s second family. They contribute nth to the household as well & only wants the money.

But the last time we went to HDB to check, the house belongs to my grandma & great grandfather (passed on alr).

Don’t know if I can fight for her inheritance instead of the money being given to all those who don’t care about her

My question here is,

• if my grandma passes away, other than her kids getting the sum of money, is there a chance that i can fight for the duties i have done in supporting her? do i need actual documents like receipts each month as evidence?
  
• if my grandma passes away, will the second family have an opportunity for their share? how does HDB does this 50-50 thing or like how does HDB determine this flat is out for sale once someone passes away?

my grandma is currently mentally and physically abled. no problem with her health other than old age issues.

i know that will-writing is one method but my grandma is not someone who wants to make decisions on her own. she does not want to be put in a position that she have to think and feel unfair to others.

i also do not wish to put her into pressure cause i dont want her to feel like im after her money or what (which i am really not). im posting this here cause there are friends who asked me and had me thinking.

we do have a counsellor as well that i can seek help/advice from but so far, counsellors can only provide information to client which in the end, my grandma have to make the decision herself.

Can a good hairstyle really change your attractiveness?

Don’t get me wrong, I do agree it can make a difference to ones image. In fact, my hair now is bad but I’m not sure if I should be spending 100+ on Korean perm etc.

Like, one day when u decide to not perm anymore and be back to “square one”, wont you be back to your normal self? like am I supposed to perm 4 times a year that means $500+ on haircuts in a year???

I’m defo not attractive thats why I’m trying my best to change things I can(apart from personality) like I have been ensuring I have good hygiene, shave daily, putting perfume to smell good and in general dress more neatly.

But my hair is in a mess right now so I’m thinking of splurging to get a good haircut and hopefully I can max out whatever attractiveness I can have to boost my self esteem.

What do you all reckon?

Here are what netizens think

• Ya la it does la.
  
  Just spend a reasonable amount on it, no need look like a pop star. She also take off her make up and maybe no eye brows won’t look like pop star also ma…
  
  When u find the right one, she won’t worry too much over how u look. Loyalty, faithfulness, honesty, responsible attitude, these things will beautify u.
  
• Haircut is like a multiplier. If a great haircut makes you x times more attractive, if you’re a base 5/10, a great haircut makes you a 5x/10.
  
  Of course if you’re 0/10, the best hair in the world still means you’re 0x/10. Also max score is still 10, so if you’re base 9/10, a great haircut won’t add much to your attractiveness.
  
• Yes, but a good hairstyle has to match your overall style (may not be suitable for a Korean perm) and doesn’t necessarily have to cost hundreds of dollars.

I have recently changed jobs (currently here for 5 months) doing a job scope similar to what I did in my previous job (which i did for 5 years).

The difference between current job and previous one is that over here, things are really super manual. I spend most of my time doing things the manual way instead of what I’m supposed to be doing.

I have tried proposing changes but management here is stuck in their old ways (it’s the “if its not broken, don’t fix it” mindset) .. to the point that I have to work OT just to complete my work.

I’m not learning anything new however my boss, colleagues, culture are all good (or perhaps I’m still naive as I’m new to the company)

People who have been through this dilemma, how can I make this job work for me? or should I call it quits? thanks!

Here are what netizens think

• I think you’ll just have to come to a conclusion is it a net positive or negative. like objectively list down the pros and cons instead of acting on your feelings eg. after a tough day and on impulse feel like quitting
  
  Money, work-life balance, and company culture/environment this 3 factors usually if 2 are fulfilled it is good enough. rare but not impossible to find a job that fulfills the 3.
  
• For me, I love my colleagues. I quite like the job. The systems very manual too but I’m in a position to and has pushed through many small incremental improvements
  
  But I kinda plucked the low hanging fruits already and the pay is also not great
  
  I mean the pay is great for me relative to my colleagues but the organisation doesn’t pay well in general and I can fetch much more outside so I’m looking to move
  
  As for you, you can see what incremental improvements you can do within your power and start doing them. Don’t need to ask for permission.
  
  Maybe start by doing both the manual way and a digital way and submit both and ask if you can do the digital way moving forward