A netizen shared how her husband doesn’t care about her birthday, despite all she does for him on his birthday.

Here is the story:

“My husband didn’t forget my birthday, he just didn’t care.

For his birthdays, I ask him what kind of cake he’d like and either pick it up or make it. I make sure he has time with his friends, I make reservations at restaurants (or during pandemic, pick up his favorite sandwiches or pizzas), I get the beers he likes, presents, and I keep the kids for the whole day so he has time to have be with his friends or play video games.

This year, he said “happy birthday” at 10 am and I solo-parented from 7 am to 11 pm like I do most days. He didn’t forget, he just didn’t care.

Some people seem to think I want some grand affair. The bare minimum would have been fine, and yes he knows I want some recognition for my birthday. He just didn’t do it. I wanted to get it off my chest before talking to him about it because what he doesn’t deserve is a bunch of verbal insults yelled at him in the heat of the moment just because I’m mad.

Also, it doesn’t matter at all what someone else would or would not want for their birthday; I wanted him to show me he cared and he didn’t, and that hurt. I don’t care if you don’t care about your birthday.

We talked and he claimed not to know I felt this way. I told him yes, he did know and he said “Yeah, I guess I’m just tired.” And that was it. I’m going out with my friends this weekend and having a bonfire in their backyard. Whether he comes or not is up to him.”

Editor’s note: Try ignoring his birthday, let him have a taste.

So fun fact the first (and only) time i’ve ever tried to have intercourse, i had an anxiety attack after i took my shirt off and after the other party calmed me down

I left quite quickly and never spoke to them again (which i feel kinda guilty about but then again they never tried to contact me again and we were never in an established relationship)

Snd since then i have actively avoided any kind of intimacy despite my craving for physical connection and someone who cares about me.

Yea im really touch starved and want a relationship but also dont for obvious reasons….so yeah

Netizen’s comments

• May sound like odd advice, but why not find someone to help you get over it?
  If you’re into any genders and you explain the situation (how you fear intimacy), I’m sure a friend could help you get over it.
  I used to suffer from performance anxiety, I had a close friend agree to let us explore each other and after that I never felt awkward again in a bedroom.

I (26M) hooked up with my friend (41F) and almost got caught by her daughter (19F)

For the record, I was 25 at the time of this happening but I just turned 26 today but anyway…I worked at this store earlier in the year and had been working with this woman there for a few months.

We instantly became friends and better friends over the months of knowing her. I’ve met her husband and her two kids who are 15 and 19.

They all like me and I get along great with her family. She’s in great shape and I’ve always been into her. I knew that nothing would ever happen and I would just always have a crush on her and thought how awesome it would be to hookup with her cuz she’s entirely my type.

But figured I was way too young for her and that would just simply not ever happen. So she quits the job and a few months later, I do too.

We’re both in different jobs now and never see each other, but we still talk all the time and call each other at the end of the week and gossip.

So she calls me at the end of the week about a month ago and says she has news, she wants to get a divorce. I knew that she had been having problems with her marriage and was always hoping she’d get a divorce just so I could hit on her without feeling bad (not that I really cared anyway).

So I ask her out to get drinks to celebrate. So we go out to this restaurant and she’s drinking like 6 cocktails within 2 hours, and I’m tipsy.

She gives me this big hug and thanks me for always treating her with respect, not being an a-hole, and she tells me she loves me, then kisses me.

Then we kiss more, end up making out at the bar of this restaurant on a packed Saturday night. Before we leave, she invites me over to her house.

So we F all night long. And just as we’re falling asleep and cuddling, her daughter tries getting into our bedroom. Thats about it, but it was still an “oh crap” moment.

Here we are 1 month later. We’re still friends and nothing is weird between us. We have agreed to keep it between us obviously.

She still hasn’t filed for divorce either and we’re supposed to have dinner with our friends this weekend. Here’s to hoping for more nights like that.

Reasons to give to sneak off and make love with bf during holidays?

Hey y’all! I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (21M) for about 6 months, and this is going to be our first holidays together.

We’ve discussed me wearing a quiet, remote control “toy” when we’ll be playing board games when we’re with his family. Thing is, I can also imagine that I will want to have fun with him at least once or twice that night.

What are some excuses we could give to his family to get to spend 15-20 minutes alone?

Netizens’ comments

1. Someone is going to need something picked up from a store at some point. Missing coffee creamer? More toy batteries for the presents? Be the first to be the errand runner.
2. please dont do the vibrator during public outings thing. Its so uncomfortable, and as someone who has experienced it: We can tell.
   Its not fun for the people who notice. Focus on family now that you have them there. Pulling other people into your intimate play without their consent is not okay, and you shouldn’t put others in that situation. Keep things like that in private.
3. LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT? You want to have a toy inside your vajayjay in front of and with his or your family present while playing board games? What the f-
4. Dude that’s gross. Leave the family out of it.
5. Maybe just enjoy spending time with your family with out being weird about it. They won’t be there forever.
6. That’s pretty gross to be wearing/using that around his family.
7. Hmmmm, can you ask his family if you guys could run some errands for them? 😉 I mean, do they need more milk? Beer? Wine? Lol
8. Just an unsolicited note – I think most people would find the idea of using remote vibes in front of his parents as antisocial

Being a bridesmaid in Singapore

In May, one of my good friends (23F) approached a bunch of us and asked if we would like to be her bridesmaids. Just for context, we’re all fresh university graduates at that point in time. Some of us just started working while others were still looking for a job.

Anyway, we were thrilled and honored to be her bridesmaids. She suggested a few places to get our bridesmaid dresses (price range was around $60-100/dress) and accessories, as well as the color/theme she wanted. She also told us that everything would be on her.

A few months before the wedding, we started planning her bachelorette party. Initially, she wanted a short trip overseas/somewhere nearby (I’m assuming all expenses paid by us) but we had a hard time finding suitable dates where everyone would be free to travel. We eventually settled on treating her to a meal and activity of her choice.

At around the same time, she asked if we had gotten our dresses and told us to send her a picture of our dresses once bought. That was when we realized that she had changed her mind, and we would be paying for our own dresses and accessories. She chose the accessories, dresses she gave us a color/theme but we were otherwise free to get from anywhere.

I’m not too sure about the others, but I felt a little betrayed/annoyed but we went ahead with the bachelorette party anyway (all expenses paid by us).

Anyway, fast forward to the actual wedding in November, bride took back the gatecrash red packet after we were done taking all the gatecrash pictures and videos. Bride also did not give us any red packets at the end of the wedding. Grab rides to the various venues were on us.

She did, however, thank us in our Telegram group chat for our help but that was pretty much it. We all gave her a red packet for her wedding nonetheless (amount based on market rate).

One of the bridesmaid and I feel “used” and we can’t help but feel very annoyed/angry after the wedding. We’re not too sure how the other bridesmaids feel about everything but we don’t really dare to ask them for fear of being seen as stingy/petty.

This is our first time being bridesmaids and I am just wondering if this is the norm or am I being petty?

Edit: Thank you for the validation/comments. Just to add on, bride insisted on paying for all the expenses for her bachelorette party as well as bridesmaid accessories first because bride wanted her credit card points; and subsequently texted us to pay her back. We initially thought that she would be paying for her own share for the bachelorette party or something (since the dresses and accessories were already on us) but we were wrong, she just wanted the credit card points.

Edit 2: Bride texted in our group chat after the wedding and promised to give us a red packet for helping. It’s been a month now but we haven’t received anything. So this is definitely not ignorance. It’s not about the money anymore but her not keeping her “promises”.

Edit 3: I didn’t write my name on the red packet that I gave her just before the dinner banquet because I was too busy helping out – this is on me (not quite sure about the other bridesmaids or groomsmen). I just placed it directly in the angpow box at reception. Maybe that’s why she didn’t give us all a red packet for helping?

How do you guys afford dating in SG?

For backgrounds context, 23M in uni GF is 23 F full time working.

My gf have been keep asking me to buy her expensive stuff like Dior perfumes, LV bags etc. I have entertained her whims for quite a while. I have footed almost every bill when we have a date out. She always want to eat at those cafes that cost u 80-100 bucks per meal.

Although she didn’t really demand stuff like forcing me to buy etc, she will try to guilt trip me buy sending me all those articles, insta posts, tik tok and YT vids of how other boyfriends are spoiling their gfs with luxurious gifts and how they are treating them as queens by treating them to Hai Di Lao and stuff.

I mean I bought her a Mac before and treated her mookata and other buffet too. But everytime we go out for a date, I am the only one spending for both of us.

Is this normal? She will usually say it’s a guy’s job to treat the girl and foot ll the bills but I think it’s getting out of hand.

I came from a well to do family so.i.can afford more than other people but that doesn’t mean I have spend on everything right?

What are your thoughts and to those who are in rs, how do y’all cope?

I love her and I dw to say I don’t have money or dw to spend which will make me look bad and she might leave

EDIT: I suggested splitting the bill but she said it’s a turn off for her.

Netizens comments

1. Sounds like she’s using you instead
2. Depends on how hot she is, and if she is traditional, if she wants you to be traditional and pay for everything, she has to be traditional as well, stay home, cook for you, do chores etc.
3. I ain’t saying she a gold digger
   • Well I’ll say it then. She’s a gold digger.

Chatty girls outside bars

I’m visiting Singapore for the week. Walking down the road at the back of boat quay I get a lot of smiles and ‘hi’s from young girls in short dresses who are sat at tables outside bars. What’s their game?

I’ve just smiled, said hi back, and walked on without breaking stride as this is clearly scam territory. I’m just curious what they’re intentions are?

Is it simply to get you into the bar or is it more than that? I assume conversing with these ladies is going to lighten my back account significantly?

Had anyone fell for this and what happened?

Netizens’ comments

1. They’re hostesses working at the bars. A friend of mine (ahem) actually went there once before. He shared with me that one would have to pay $64 to buy the girls a drink after which they’ll sit and chat with you, and based on that one sample size visit, will also partake in cuddly-like actions that will release oxytocin in your body.
   • (OP) I assume that extra curricula wrestling wasn’t included in the $64 dollars?
2. The girls there indirectly pay to work at the bar, OP. One common variant is that they buy bottles at a discounted rate, but then get you to buy them drinks (from the bottles they own) at a higher rate. It’s one way to make a living. *Shrug*
3. Hostesses. Want to try get you in to drink together, i.e. buy overpriced drinks for them and their friends. Some (but not all) may also be prostitutes.
4. I worked at Boat Quay for close to 2 years and the whole stretch is a smoky, loud scam. If you want a good night out, walking 20 mins up the river to Robertson Quay is much calmer and more family-centric. Or if you want cheaper local food, Maxwell Market or Chinatown are less touty places for tourists to go to
5. If your pockets are deep enough you will be able to go all the way. Probably in the ballpark of $300-500

I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few months now and things have been going great. We’ve been having a lot of fun and getting to know each other better. But the other day, something happened that left us both a little bit shocked.

My girlfriend and I were in the shower together and she asked me to wash my penis. I thought it was a bit of an odd request, but I didn’t think too much of it and just did it. I figured she wanted to make sure I was keeping myself clean.

Cream Cheese

But then, after I had finished, she gasped and said “Oh my god, what is this?” She had noticed that I had a foreskin and that there was something white underneath it.

I was a little embarrassed and didn’t know what to say. I had no idea that I was supposed to be washing under my foreskin. I’d never heard of it before and it had never been explained to me.

My girlfriend was really shocked and asked me why I hadn’t been washing it. I tried to explain that I didn’t know I was supposed to, but she wasn’t convinced. She said that it was very important to keep the area clean and that I should have been washing it regularly.

When she pulled back the foreskin, she was even more shocked. Underneath was what she called “cream cheese”. She said it was a build-up of bacteria and dead skin cells that had accumulated over time.

I was mortified. How was I supposed to know that I was supposed to be washing under my foreskin? It had never been explained to me and I had no idea. I was embarrassed and my girlfriend was angry, but she said that it was important to keep this area clean and that she would help me do it in the future.

We both agreed that it was important to educate men on the importance of washing their genitals properly. I was so embarrassed that I had never been taught this before and I felt guilty for not knowing.

So, from that day on, I started washing my penis properly. I make sure to wash underneath my foreskin every time I shower and I always make sure to use a mild soap to avoid irritation.

It’s been a few months since that incident and my girlfriend and I are still together. We’re both glad that I’m now taking better care of my body and making sure I’m keeping myself clean.

It’s been an eye-opening experience for me and I’m glad that my girlfriend was there to help me understand the importance of proper hygiene. I would encourage any man to make sure they understand the importance of washing their genitals properly and to never be embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help if they don’t know.