A netizen shared how he started dating a ladyboy and when he brought her home to meet his parents, they were none too pleased about it and eventually disowned him.

Here is the story

“I met Lisa a couple of years ago at one of the pubs in central Singapore, and at the time I didn’t know that she was a ladyboy.

She looked just like a girl, and she was probably the most beautiful girl I had ever seen.

I managed to get her number and we then got to know each other a little more, before she told me that her real name is Lionel and that she was a ladyboy, and she asked if i minded.

i was already in love with her by then and of course I didn’t mind. As time went on, we started hanging out more and eventually got together.

I was very serious about her and felt that it was time for her to meet my family, and I asked her if she was willing and she said of course.

So I invited Lisa to my home to join us for dinner, and we then shared some stories about how we met and got together.

As the conversation flowed, I revealed to my parents that she was a ladyboy, and I could see the smiles on my parents’ face slowly turn into shock.

We finished our meal and I then sent Lisa back to her home, before going back home myself and found my parents waiting for me.

We had a very heated argument because they disapproved of my relationship with Lisa.

Point to note, my parents are very conservative and they hold very old fashioned beliefs, they see Lisa as nothing more than a man playing dress up.

i got angry and defended her, and the argument then escalated, as they told me if I want to continue dating her, then I can jolly well get out of the house and they don’t want me as a son.

I shouted “ok” and went back into my room, packed up some clothes and walked right out of my home, slamming the door behind me.

I had no where else to go so I went to Lisa’s place and asked if I could stay with her for a while, which she agreed.

it has been months since I last spoke to my parents, I didn’t even celebrate Chinese new year this year because of this whole drama and I don’t even know if they still think of me.

Did i make the right decision? or was I too rash?”

Editor’s note: This kind of situation ah, turn left also die, turn right also die, go straight also die. I don’t know ah, all the best and good luck.

A netizen shared how he/she was hired as a marketing staff for 6 to 7 months before her department was removed and she was made to do telesales instead.

Here is the story:

“I was working as a marketing staff for about 6-7 months before the boss suddenly wants to remove the marketing department and make everyone do telesales instead.

I’m not sure if I should even stay, because cold calling is not one of the things I signed up for, and it’s definitely not anything that I want to do as a career.

Before anyone says, just try doing telesales, I did try doing telesales. I can’t hit the target because

1. I am the one who has to do the deliverables for the service that we are selling, this leads me to not have enough time to even call, and

2. I still have other duties to do. I feel tired and stuck :’)

any advice for me?”

Editor’s note: I’ll let Mr. Bear Grylls give you some advice, Bear?

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My husband and I are newlyweds. Both 25. We married only in January. In march my husband said he wants to take a break from living together because he is depressed and wants some alone time.

He said that we will both not date other people and that it would be absolutely disrespectful and wrong if we see other people because he just needs time to feel better. I told him i agree and that if anything changes and he decides to date others, immediately let me know so we can divorce because I’m not ok with extramarital stuff. He said yes he would let me know but he’s not interested.

Well, I just found out that he started the break on march 28 and registered for a dating site the same day. On April 1 already a girl messaged him and they’ve been talking every day and are in a relationship. I even asked him 2 weeks ago that if you have a gf i won’t be mad but tell me the truth so we can divorce.

Because he stopped texting or answering the phone but he lied. I only found out yesterday because he said we need to divorce immediately because he’s marrying someone else.

But I think she’s not who she says she is. He says that she told him she’s 18, working overseas and will come to be with him and they will marry and be together forever because she is perfect and he would never hurt her. Why would someone overseas look for someone in SG without even being here physically? The biggest thing is he has never heard her voice, and she won’t send a picture or talk on video call with him. I am pretty sure it’s a 47-year-old PRC scammer living in a basement.

What hurts is he asked for a break on march 28th and replace me immediately like it was nothing. He calls her the exact same nickname he called me, from all the nicknames he could have chosen. And he writes her the exact same words that he wrote me when I met him on online dating. He showed the messages he sent her.

He lied since april and only now told me. It’s like I’m completely replaceable.

Maybe I’m too old to understand this, but why do people tend to go to social media and tell the whole world about their everyday problems, especially personal problems with someone?

I mean, if it’s a huge public issue that everyone needs to be aware of, then that is very understandable. But, if it’s like a personal problem with someone, what’s the point of spilling everything in social media? And the people reading it will immediately just side on the complaining party just cause they’re “bestfriend” etc. It makes no sense.

When I have issues with someone, I talk to that someone. Find the issue, talk about the issue, come up with a good solution for the issues, find common ground, etc. And still the issues will be between us and not the public.

Do people who spill everything online just want attention? Or perhaps they want the validation up justify that their feelings are “valid”? Or perhaps they are in the wrong, but they want people to have pity on them still?

Is that why? I don’t know. I’m trying to understand this really. So please give me some thoughts.

Here are what netizens think:

• People just need an outlet to vent, social media is right there. And people take comfort in the thought that having a pseudo audience read their rants, having some degree of sympathy/empathy coming their way, is better than bottling up their thoughts internally, until they implode from the pressure. It’s a placebo effect lor.

• You know you doing the same thing right? Theres no limit or catergory to rant. Either you read or not, comment or not is up the them.

• Some people treat social media like a journal or diary. Instead of writing it into a book and putting it away, they get on their phones and post post post. And then get offended when people give an opinion. Just like what you’re doing now. You did not seek answers with people you know. Instead you come online. You’re seeking people who share the same view as you and you will likely be offended when being told off by trolls.

• Oops!!! Isn’t what you are doing right now?

My boyfriend didn’t want to talk to me after I threw a party at home. What should I do?

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for more than 7 years, living together for 5 years. We are both in our 30+ age.

We never had any party at our home. I threw one with my friends, he knew it in advance and didn’t want to join. I prepared everything myself because he doesn’t want to help.

I can understand that because it is my decision to have a party and I took that responsibility. At first, everything went well.

We talked normally as usual. He came home when the party is still ongoing, so he went directly to our room.

When the party was over, I called him for dinner after heated all the leftover food. Most of the time we ate together, but this time he told me to eat first.

When I woke up the next day, I realized he was sleeping in the other room. I asked him if there is something wrong, he said it is about our relationship but didn’t want to tell the details.

Did I do anything wrong? At the party, my friends and I never talked bad about him. They asked me where he is, I told them he went to meet his friends, and they are impressed about his job. That’s all. What should I do now? He told me to leave him alone, so should I do that to give him some time?

When my cat was just a kitten we decided to try and leash train him. He took to it well and it has become a daily thing we do. Take an hour or two and just walk around the neighborhood, sometimes even going to the park.

We have never had any big issues walking my cat, there might be a dog here and there but my cat doesn’t pay any mind to them.

The other day we had a little boy that looked about 10 come up to us as we were walking in the park. He tried to pet my cat but my cat slap his hand before he could even touch him.

His mother came running over yelling at me for allowing my cat to hurt her child and that he shouldn’t be outside if he is that reactive.

I told the woman he shouldn’t go up to random animals and try to pet them, other animals can do way worse then just a pop to the hand. She said she gave him permission to pet my cat and that I should be lucky she didn’t call animal control on my reactive cat.

My parents say that I should have stopped the little boy before he got to my cat but I expected him to ask before he tried petting my cat. I’m starting to think I was in the wrong.

Sounds like a karen to me. “She allowed her son to pet?” Wow, can i allow my cat permission to scratch you just because I gave permission?

Girlfriend refuses to wear underwear and she doesn’t see a problem with sitting in positions that expose her to others in public

Hi all I have a problem with my girlfriend who is 18 (I am 21).

See the issue is that she doesn’t wear underwear on most days — and she also tends to wear fairly short shorts.

She also sits in certain positions where people can easily see her crotch area – such as sitting on steps outside building with her legs spread out. Putting her feet up on seats. Crossing her legs to the side. Etc.

I have tried to ask her to stop before however she tells me that “it is her body and stop trying to control what she wears”. Like a childish and warped retort based on “my body my rules” but… irrelevant?

So I try to say it’s not about what she is wearing but what she ISNT wearing! That is the real problem!

I think it’s disgusting and because people can easily see her private parts, kids included. In fact kids can probably see more of the view because they’re shorter.

It is gonna be seen by everyone who even glances in her direction.

Can anyone please please please help me talk some sense into her? It’s extremely embarrassing to have family and friends have to tell me in codes language that her area is showing and stuff.

Erm so my dad is nearing his 60s and has been a taxi driver for a long time. My sister and I have grad and are working rn. I have been giving a small sum of money (~$400) to my dad monthly, which is about 10% of my salary, the same amount is given to my mom too so total 20%. I really cant afford to give more. I’m not sure if my sister gives him an allowance but I don’t think so cos my sister tends to ignore him.

My dad doesnt have much savings (still can go overseas though), and is tired of working. So recently he asked for more money. I told him to ask my sister instead since she earns more than me but somehow he only dares to ask for money from me. He is threatening me using the parents maintenance act, saying like he wants me to take care of him, and will see dr to say leg pain so cannot work.

So I just want to check if he really files against me, do I really need to pay much more? Will they take into account my husband’s salary? I paid my uni fees myself, so other than bills I dont owe him alot of money per say. If my mom knows that my dad managed to get more money from this act maybe she also wants it. Will they also sue my sibling too?

And even if I need to cough out more money, will they legally force me to bring my parents to my home to take care of them?? I’m really scared pls help me.

This stupid law is making me so stressed out tbh, how can people fuck up their retirement plans and decide to screw their kids. This is like a vicious cycle, some parents didnt think that their kids need the money for their future but just their retirement plan.

I have a story to share.

This story is about me and a girl that I met on Tinder last year around May. She goes by her pen name as she likes to write life quotes on her Instagram.

During the time when we were dating, everything went very smoothly, we loved and cared for each other, there was like really no arguments between us, everything is just seem very amicable, we even plan and bought tickets for a trip overseas in January even though we just started dating. In addition, I actually wanted to have an official relationship with her but due to some circumstances from her side, I can’t be in a relationship with her.

However, things suddenly fall apart on a particular day, that day was a Sunday, we went for brunch and then to Hort Park for a walk and lastly went to Vivo to walk around before going back. At night, she sent me a whatapps message saying that she had a very important thing to discuss with me, she asked me is it possible if we become friends and go for the overseas trip as friends, but she mentioned she is still in love with me. I was devastated at that moment but kept my calm and assure her that we can be friends but we need to meet up again to sort of put this chapter as a closure.

During the meet up, she told me the reason that she decided to split this relationship is because she feels a bit choked and feel guilty that she kept rejecting me when I asked her to meet up during our time together. Furthermore, she also said she do not want to be in any official relationship with anyone within this few years. Due to her circumstances, I can understand why she said that even though I know I have compromised a lot during the relationship. For example, there were times she cancel our meet up at the last minute, and I did not even scold her. I just told her it is okay we can meet up again next week or something. This was one of the many things that I have compromised with her.

Fast forward to after the trip in January (Yes we did went for the trip as friends). A week after the trip, I saw her changed her profile on her tinder. We were still matched on tinder when we were together as she told me she didn’t want to delete it and told me to trust her. That day I was supposed to submit my FYP interim report, after seeing the changes in her profile, I was shivering while I confronted her. During the confrontation, she told me at first that she was keeping her options open. I was like WHAT!!! doesn’t that mean that she was keeping her options open to find new guys. Then she told me she was keeping her options open to find new friends. I continue to confront her until she ended up blocking me after I said some unpleasant stuff to her because I was really really hurt. After which I sent a lot of emails to apologize to her as she blocked me everywhere even on social media. She sent back some emails but the last email really hurt me the most, when I asked her why is she not thinking about our wonderful relationship in the past and just let the whole relationship end, she said to be honest she did not think about that before and told me that we have to stop everything and to not email her anymore.

After I told my family and my friends of the whole saga, they told me I was stupid enough to have apologized to her and that she is just making an excuse saying that she is on tinder just to look for friends. After which, I did not sent her any emails anymore and decided it is time to really moved on.

I’m really thankful and grateful to have such loving people around me encouraging me to move on. I’m very sorry that this is a long post, but I just want to share these things to you good people of NUSWhispers. Please feel free to share any opinions you all have. I will read everyone single one of them.

I am very happy to have met you. I have gained tremendous amount of experience being with you. And tbh, it was really one of the best relationship I ever have although sadly we have to end like that. I wish you good luck in your future endeavors.

Cheers to all!! And be happy always!!