Well, the most delicious is often found at the cheapest places such as hawkers and coffee shops. But not all think so.

A man recently shared a story online about how he ended up with a girl that is breaking his bank. He describes the girl as a spoiled brat that judges everything at face value.

Here is the Story:

People tio ToTo tio 4D, I tio one girl that is draining my savings. She has no thoughts for the future. Everything is about her “perfect” Instagram profile.

I met my current girlfriend back in Poly and she was a thrifty person until she got a high paying job. Although her job is not considered that high it is not bad for someone her age. For context we are both 24.

She started playing Instagram and wants to build a profile to look like an influencer, but deep down I know that she is very vain and does not have many talents. In terms of looks, by far I give her 6.5 points. 6.5 points from a long shot or viewing her from far away.

The worse part she is so addicted to the attention of about 2,0000 followers she is constantly posting photos of herself at expensive places. She is sort of using me to pay for her extravagant meals so that she can appear to be “atas” on Instagram.

There was once I told her I was craving for some good old Hokkien Mee and guess what she said?

“We must eat at places where the dish is at least $50, so people will know. I am a high flying influencer”

The most lan pa thing is, that her salary is high for her age but not high enough to eat every meal at a $50/dish restaurant. At most I let her eat 8 meals a month at this kind of restaurant and shes broke.

But the thing is, she has been making me pay and says “If you love me then do it for me”.

I got together with her when we were not well off and even eating cup noodles was a happen moment for us.

She is beginning to lose everything that matters and the relationship is going downhill. She don’t feel it but I do.

I told her several times that we can eat normal things once in a while but she insist that every date needs to be at some atas place.

I’m not cheapo neither am I poor, just that in terms of thinking about the future this is something that affects the relationship.

But she rather spends her money on makeup and clothes rather than on savings, investment and insurance.

Some might say she is investing in her Instagram profile, but trust me she won’t go far unless she can afford plastic surgery. Since she has no savings, plastic surgery is out of the question.

Sometimes I really want to answer her “jiak sai” when she ask me where to go.

I’m thinking what is the best way for me to break the news to her. “It’s over”.

Got caught by boss walking out of a psychiatrist clinic, how to handle the fallout?

Just some context, I just got this job a few months ago and yesterday, my boss caught me coming out of a psychiatrist clinic…

It was in this place where there were many clinics so I’m not sure where she came from. We left at the same time and I took the bus while she drove a car.

Anyways… I was so shocked I just gave a “hi” and then ran off.

On hindsight I should have just ignored her and maybe denied everything but… well, whats done is done.

Problem is I didn’t declare that I had mental illness and to be fair, they didn’t ask. Idk how am I going to face her on Monday morning… so far she hasn’t asked me about it yet…

Netizens’ comments

• Maybe your boss also goes to the same psychiatrist clinic.

• She won’t ask you about it unless she’s also prepared to answer why she was also there herself. Just behave normally lah, there’s absolutely nothing to feel anxious about. The more you stigmatise seeking mental health treatment, the more it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Your ideal type…

Is bullshit. I haven’t seen anyone actually date, sleep with or marry anyone meeting 25% of their lists of ‘ideal traits for a partner’. This goes for both men and women.

What men really want is a chiobu who doesn’t talk too much. You can win them over with cooking or personality over a very long period of time only if a chiobu doesn’t show up and wink at them in the entire period, but it’s going to be significantly more efficient to learn how to do makeup well rather than try to appeal with other traits. The other things they talk about for the most part don’t matter, it’s just to make them look less shallow than they are. At the end of the day it’s not the brain that decides for most men, it’s the antenna.

What women really want is a man who can talk to make her feel like the only person that matters in the world, lying out his teeth if necessary. You can win some over with a wallet, but then what they love is the wallet and not you. I know someone who married a woman who loved his wallet, and she was so stingy on spending on him she fed him expired food bought during bulk sales to save on ingredient costs, and he ended up with liver cancer. When their daughter threw out the expired food, she had an argument with the mother because the daughter actually cared about the father, whereas the mother only cared about the money.

Herein also lies one of the most commonly repeated failure stories. A man has low self esteem and believes a chiobu he likes will never like him. He ‘settles’ for someone he finds less pretty, and ends up dumped because the woman can tell she’s being seen as second rate. He would have a higher probability of success going for the chiobu he feels is out of his league, because he honestly believes the chiobu is the pinnacle of his world, and would talk in that way – and there is no guarantee there isn’t something about him that he doesn’t care about, but she does. This is not a high probability, but it is not zero. Thinking of a woman as someone you ‘settle’ for is a zero rate unless you lie more naturally than you breathe.

So for men, just cut the crap. Go for someone you’re actually attracted to. Fail. Try again. Fail. Try again. You eventually succeed, or find out nobody likes you. If the former, good for you. If the latter, be thankful you were born in the age of the internet. Don’t ever think of settling, because the woman you’d ‘settle’ for deserves to be treated better than an NTUC housebrand on Wednesday Merdeka card sales, and you’ll waste both your time and hers if you did that.

And for women, stop waiting for men to approach you. A lot of men who you might like second guess themselves and won’t make the first move. If you only want to date men with the balls to speak up, you may never end up with any date at all, and even if you do, he might be the kind of pickup artist trained to lie more naturally than he breathes for a quickie before he dumps you. The key is commitment, none of them will ever agree to marriage before bed.

We continue to lie to each other and ourselves about what we care about as a nation, we will drop below Japan’s birth rate in less than a decade, because while their men are equally absent balls, their women aren’t half as deluded about how to appeal to others as people here are.

My job is causing me to have panic attacks now

Basically title. I’ve had three panic attacks in the pass month. Before that, the last time I’ve had one was when my mom died.

I’ve been sending out applications but it’s similar to screaming into the void. Other jobs would be too much of a pay cut.

We’re over worked, under staffed, and underpaid. Last week 3-4 people were out a day in our tiny department, but they wanted us to continue to help this second department get ahead on their workload while we’re struggling to stay afloat.

Just needed to rant. Thanks for coming to me Ted talk.

Netizens’ comments

1. Get out, it’s not worth your health.
2. Keep on applying! It takes a damn long time to get another job but it’s the persistence that pays off. And at your current job, keep in mind that it’s not your business. Do what you can at a pace you want to work at. If management says anything, tell them you are working at a reasonable pace and it’s the workload that’s way too high. Work isn’t something worth stressing about. I know it’s difficult because it’s a way to make money to live. But you need to find a balance between killing yourself for a job that doesn’t value you and setting boundaries respectfully.
3. I have 1400 applications out since June, almost 50 interviews. It’s a war. I’m going to look for work outside of the scope of my education. Keep looking. My biggest lesson learned is we are always nothing more than a number and never stop looking, even when you have a job. Keep the momentum going because the company you work for today is just a number in your life.
4. one time a coworker made a joke about how all the people on our team have stomach issues. i laughed, then realized, oh shit, we all do! between gastritis, ulcers and “as yet, undiagnosed” we all got at least one of them.

How do I ask men to moan for me without sounding like a pervert?

So far my male hookups seem to not be entirely at ease while doing the deed (understandably so since we’re not that familiar).

I know they’re definitely enjoying it, they’re actively participating making a lot of first moves- but the moans aren’t as frequent as I want them to be.

It’s not silent but I want moreeeee. How do I ask to hear more of those lovely sounds?

Im scared I come off a bit too strong(they make all the first moves but I enjoy taking the leas) and I don’t want to emasculate(or make them uncomfortable) them by asking them to moan for me.

Should I just wait until we get to know each other more and hope they’ll be more vocal? Are guys insecure about their voice during intercourse?

Netizens’ comments

1. Any time they make any noise give them positive reinforcement: “god, your moans turn me on so much” “it’s so hot to hear you whimper like that” etc.
2. I told my guy one time that I love to hear him moan and make noises, and ever since then, he’s really cranked it up. Sometimes it helps to talk about things like that when you’re not in the throws of passion.
3. I tend to tell them I really enjoy their moans and if they aren’t too dense they usually get the hint and end up moaning more. It usually doesn’t come naturally to them, so they need to be encouraged.
4. Just straight up say that it turns you on to hear them.
   It’s not something I did when I was younger, until I was a lot more comfortable in expressing myself in bed, and until some women told me they really loved that I was vocal.
   Since then I’ve never held back and it’s almost universally been positively commented on.
   So just tell him you want to hear him.

I sold a guy $120 worth of pictures of my husband’s feet.

A random dude sent me a DM on IG saying I looked good and wanted to see more, etc…average Tuesday for most women online.

I usually just block and ignore, but this guy was straight to the point: he said he was dying to see a picture of my feet, since I don’t ever post them, and he was willing to pay for it.

The main reasons why I never post them are:

there are creeps like these guy everywhere and I don’t like the idea of a random dude yanking over my feet

my feet are ugly.

My husband, on the other hand, has a pair of “princess feet”. Seriously, he has the cutest feet ever, they are really feminine, and he takes good care of them.

I jokingly told my husband about the guy who DM’d me, saying I should take pictures of his feet and sell them to him. He laughed, but then said “do you think he would fall for it?”

We decided to try our chances and I replied to the guy, saying I would send him a picture for $20. He was pretty quick and paid me.

I then shaved my husband’s legs near the ankles, took a pretty nice picture and sent the guy.

Well, the guy was more than happy, apparently, and said he was willing to pay $100 for a pack.

Me and my husband couldn’t believe this was actually happening, but we accepted it. I painted his toenails and made him wear some skinny jeans and yoga pants.

The guy paid us, and I delivered him the pack. He seemed to like the pictures a lot…a real lot, because he’s asking for more now lmao.

How do I attract nerdy girls?

I used to be a fat nerd so I had a thing for them growing up. I lost weight, hit the gym but I have an issue in the relationship department.

Problem is I keep attracting those ONS, bar-hopper, influencer wannabe types in Uni and in the office but I really just want a nerdy girl I can cuddle with and read funny Harry Potter fanfics with.

I’ve tried asking them out but they just look intimidated by me. How do I attract nerdy girls?

Thanks

Netizens’ comments

1. Expose manly manhood, impress target female. Target female impressed, standby changi imprisonment
2. talk to them like human being
3. I mean, maybe the areas u go to don’t have what you want. Maybe hop on valorant or something instead of going to clubs.
4. Start by putting on weight again
5. Are you for real ? I’m the total opposite maybe we can exchange pointers haha
   Maybe it’s where you hang out or the way you portray yourself ?
   I realised also it’s also who you are seen with. If you are seen with party girls and influencer wannabes you will be associated with that. It’s hard to shake off. I’m the total opposite so only know nerdy girls
6. Time to eat medicine
7. Well for starters you can bring up common topics and get the ball rolling. Put yourself in their shoes, I doubt you would go out with a guy that you hardly know anything about lol
8. Just be yourself and your time will come. Don’t try to force anything. The right person might come to you or you might run into them when you least expect it.
9. So what dating apps have you tried or are trying at the moment?
10. Find out what topics they are interested in and talk to them about that topic and be more expert than them
11. If you need to ask for help then you are not ready / dont deserve them yet. No amount of advice will help when it comes to this sort of things. Everyone gets girls in different ways. You need to figure out whats your own way to do it