I had always been a bright student while growing up. I enjoyed learning and was always very determined to succeed. I was particularly passionate about my studies and never let anything come in the way of my studies. My parents were always very supportive of my education, and they encouraged me to put my best foot forward.
Unfortunately, I made a mistake of taking my studies lightly and not giving it my 100%. I thought that I was very smart and could get away with it. However, I was wrong. I ended up failing in my high school exams, and I had no other option but to take up a job.
I started working in bars and serving many different kinds of people. It was a difficult job, and I had to be on my feet all day long and be very patient with all the customers. I was also expected to be polite and respectful, no matter how rude or demanding the customers were.
There were days when I would come home exhausted after working for hours on end. I had no time for myself, and I was constantly worried about how I was going to manage my finances. Not to mention, I was very embarrassed about my job. I was ashamed to tell my parents and friends about it.
I kept thinking about how different my life would have been if I had studied hard and given my exams my best shot. I would have been able to get into a good college and pursue my dreams. I would have also been able to have a better job with more stability and better pay.
But it was too late. I was stuck in my situation and I had to make the best of it. I slowly started to embrace my job and I was determined to make the most of it. I became more confident and was able to handle difficult customers with ease. I was also able to save some money and invest it in different ways.
But I can’t deny that I regret not studying hard and giving my exams my best shot. I have learnt the hard way that hard work and dedication are the only way to achieve success. I have also realized that taking your studies lightly can have serious consequences in the long run.
Today, I am still working in bars and serving many different kinds of people. But I am determined to make the best of this situation and work hard to achieve my dreams. I am striving to make the most of my current job and save money to pursue higher education.
I want to be an example for others and show them that nothing is impossible if you are willing to work hard and never give up. I want to prove that despite making mistakes, you can still make something of yourself and achieve success. I want to share my story and help others to not make the same mistake as me.
29-year-old Han Feizi, a Chinese national who recently gained notoriety for filming and uploading videos of her confrontations with a police officer at the Singapore General Hospital, has been hit with two additional charges under the Employment of Foreign Manpower Act today, according to a report by Channel NewsAsia
Allegedly worked as a hostess
Han, aged 29, had been in remand for nearly two weeks before receiving the new charges. These charges, handed down on Tuesday, October 24, accused her of making false declarations in her application for a work permit.
In her application, she claimed that she would work as a clerk for a company named KDL Elements. However, investigations revealed that she had no intention of fulfilling this role.
Instead, from August 1, 2023, to October 11, 2023, she was found to have been working as a freelance hostess at various locations, as indicated in the charge sheets.
These fresh charges come in addition to the six charges Han was originally slapped with on October 13. These earlier charges included public nuisance, assaulting a security officer, using insulting language against public service workers or servants, and harassment.
No friends and family in Singapore
During her court appearance, Han, who does not have legal representation, appeared composed and wore large black-rimmed glasses. She conversed with a Mandarin interpreter during the proceedings. Han expressed her intention to plead guilty to both the old and new charges.
When Han inquired about posting bail, the judge informed her that bail had already been offered during the previous charging. Han revealed that her fingerprints had been taken for bail purposes, but she was later denied bail, without understanding why.
The judge explained to Han that her proposed bailor might have been rejected by the bail center, to which Han acknowledged her understanding.
However, when asked if she wanted to make another phone call to arrange bail, Han requested to make an overseas call to her hometown. She cited concerns about credit card debts and an impending mortgage payment.
The judge clarified that only local calls could be made but suggested conveying the message to someone who could make the necessary arrangements.
Han then disclosed that she had been in Singapore for over a month but had no friends or family in the country. When questioned about the potential bailor she had previously contacted, she could not remember the person’s number.
Han Feizi is expected to plead guilty to the charges on Wednesday as the legal proceedings continue.
Recap on SGH incident
The incident gained widespread attention after a video was posted on the Chinese social media platform Douyin. This video depicted the police interviewing the woman, who had been accused of being insulting the hospital workers.
The Singaporean police received a call for help at the Singapore General Hospital (SGH) at around 2:35 am.
In the video, the woman claimed to have waited for three hours in the hospital’s emergency department without receiving any medical attention after allegedly being hit by a car.
She further alleged that a nurse told her she would not be treated because she was not a Singaporean citizen. These claims were later disputed by SGH.
Insights from SGH
Speaking to The Straits Times, the head and senior consultant for SGH’s department of emergency medicine, Associate Professor Kenneth Tan, said that the woman was discharged after 2 hours, after she had been thoroughly reviewed by the medical staff.
Tan added that everyone who presents themselves at SGH’s emergency department will receive the medical care that they require.
The situation also escalated when the woman refused to wear a face mask and according to Professor Tan, during the triage process at the emergency department, a staff member offered her a mask, which she refused to put on, despite being reminded about the government’s guidelines on wearing masks in Singapore’s hospitals.
As the situation got increasingly heated, the woman continued to behave in an aggressive manner and the medical staff had to call the police for help, as her behaviour was affecting the hospital operations.
Douyin Videos
The woman posted two videos on Douyin, both exceeding 11 minutes. She was also seen demanding a plainclothes police officer to identify herself and attempting to grab her police lanyard.
According to ST, the Singapore Police Force said that the two plainclothes officers, who were investigations officers, had introduced themselves in front of uniformed officers before speaking to the woman.
The female police officer was seen in the video repeatedly asking the woman if she had used vulgarities on the nurse, but the woman refused to answer.
The woman refused to cooperate and used vulgarities on one of the police officers, and filmed her interview with one of the female investigation officers and sharing them on her Douyin account.
The videos, which have since been reposted on several social media platforms, have been viewed more than a million times in total.
The woman had a prior altercation with the law on October 3, when she was reported for an incident at a condominium in Marina Boulevard.
The police were called after she allegedly pushed a security officer and insulted him while being drunk at the time.
She is also said to have possibly breached the conditions of her work permit in Singapore, and the Ministry of Manpower has been alerted to the situation.
The police added that they will take firm action against offenders who behave against their public servants and workers who are carrying out their public duties, in accordance with the law.
Ariff Peter, a 27-year-old businessman and musician, faced a harrowing two-year ordeal of living in his car after falling into deep debt amounting to over RM1 million (S$280,000) following a cryptocurrency investment gone awry.
Fell victim to crypto scam
As reported by Harian Metro earlier this month, Ariff’s misfortune began when he invested in a cryptocurrency that ultimately turned out to be a scam.
Entrusting his financial resources to individuals who promised substantial returns, Ariff acted as an ‘ambassador’ for the cryptocurrency, leveraging his previous business achievements to attract public investments.
However, the ambitious entrepreneur found himself betrayed when his ‘partners’ vanished, leaving him and the unsuspecting public in financial ruin.
Gave up everything to pay back the victims
Ariff, recognizing his moral responsibility to the victims, embarked on a challenging journey to repay their losses by liquidating all his assets.
He parted with his business, two houses, and three cars, ultimately having only his Proton Wira, which he used for both work and shelter.
Despite selling off his assets, Ariff still grappled with an enormous debt burden, compelling him to take on multiple odd jobs daily.
Determined to honor his obligations, he chose to live in his car rather than renting a house or room, believing that his “responsibilities” were too substantial to shoulder otherwise.
90% of earnings goes to debt
Throughout his trying journey, Ariff continued to pursue his passion for music, creating and composing, even as he adapted to his unconventional living arrangements. He resorted to various forms of employment to manage his debt, with approximately 90% of his earnings directed towards debt repayment.
Ariff took to TikTok to share his story and seek employment opportunities through his videos, effectively using social media as a platform for help.
Thanks to his resilience and the support he garnered from online communities, Ariff managed to rebuild his life and become debt-free, as reported by the New Straits Times on October 22.
Power of social media
In the end, Ariff expressed his appreciation for the media’s role in publicizing his story and for the power of social media in transforming his life.
He emphasized that when used correctly, social media can be a powerful tool in overcoming adversity and achieving one’s goals.
Ariff’s story serves as a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the capacity to bounce back from even the most dire of financial circumstances. His journey from debt and homelessness to financial recovery and success is a source of inspiration for many.
As a hostess, I am in a unique position to observe the behavior of my customers. I’ve been working in the bar and restaurant industry for a few years now and I have seen countless customers come and go, all with their own stories and motivations.
It’s a shot glass that is typically filled with juice and costs $20 a glass. I always accompany the customer when they order the drink and I usually try to convince them to buy 10 to 20 shots. The commission I receive can range from 40% to 80% depending on my monthly sales target.
At first, I thought it was a harmless way to make a bit of extra money. But then I started to realize that the men who were buying these drinks were not doing it out of pleasure. They were desperate. They were clearly trying to fill some kind of void in their lives or to numb some kind of pain.
I would start to see the same faces come in night after night, the same desperate eyes looking for a girl. It was heartbreaking. I began to understand that I was preying on these men’s desperation. I was taking advantage of their pain and suffering and profiting from it.
I felt guilty and ashamed. I knew I had to stop, but I was also scared. I was scared of losing my job and the commission I was making. So I kept selling the drinks and kept preying on these desperate men.
But then something changed. I started to realize that these men were not just targets for my commission. They were people with stories and struggles and pain. They were people who deserved my compassion and understanding.
So I started to talk to them. I asked them about their lives and what brought them here. I listened to their stories and offered whatever advice and comfort I could. I even started to drink with them.
By doing this, I realized that I was not just a hostess. I was a person who could make a difference in someone else’s life. I was no longer preying on desperate men, I was helping them.
It’s been a few months since I started doing this and I can honestly say that I am a different person. I am not just a hostess, I am a friend. I am not preying on desperation, I am offering hope.
No matter what industry you work in, it’s important to remember that everyone has a story. We all have struggles and pain and it’s important to be compassionate and understanding. We should never take advantage of someone else’s pain. Instead, we should try to offer them comfort and hope. That’s how we can make a difference in the lives of others.
On Sunday, October 22, residents and passersby outside Casa Merah condominium along 50 Tanah Merah Kechil Avenue in Tanah Merah were stunned as household items rained down from one of the residential units.
The incident, which was caught on video and shared on TikTok, raised alarm among the public.
A TikTok video uploaded on the same day captured the startling scene. In the video, a resident of Casa Merah was seen throwing various household items from a window.
The netizen who shared the video, @leonasoh, captioned that there was a “crazy woman in our condo”, and added that the woman had been throwing things down the condo for the last hour, as of the time the video was taken.
These items included a laundry basket and a small luggage, among many other things. The footage quickly gained attention on social media, leaving viewers bewildered by the unusual spectacle.
SCDF deploys inflatable life air pack
Responding to the situation, police officers arrived at the scene, accompanied by personnel from the Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF), who were seen preparing a safety life air pack, indicating their preparedness for any potential emergency.
The police disclosed that they had been alerted to the situation involving a 49-year-old woman who was throwing household items from her residential unit.
The police acted promptly to address the situation and ensure the safety of residents and the public in the vicinity.
The 49-year-old woman was subsequently apprehended under the Mental Health Act, which empowers authorities to intervene when an individual’s actions pose a threat to the life or personal safety of others due to mental health issues.
This act is designed to safeguard both the individual’s well-being and the safety of those around them.
As of now, the woman remains under the care of mental health professionals, and investigations into the incident are ongoing.
A netizen shared how he was talking to a girl that he liked, then he hacked into her Facebook and found out that she was talking to another guy.
Here is the story:
“I have no intention to brag about myself, but the information I’m giving is gonna be relevant to the story I’m sharing. I’m from Vietnam. I studied and graduated from NTU a few years ago. I’m currently working in Singapore in a pretty hot domain with a respectable salary.
About 1.5 years ago, I got to know a girl in Vietnam through social networks. She is good-looking and smart. She is in her second year at the Vietnam national academy of music. She is from Hanoi (North of Vietnam), while my hometown is in Ho Chi Minh City (South of Vietnam).
We have been messaging each other a lot, almost every day. Most of the time, I’m the one who initiates. I shared almost everything about my daily life with her. She wouldn’t do the same if I don’t ask her to.
Due to the Covid 19 situation, I haven’t been able to fly back to Vietnam to see her. I’ve occasionally bought gifts and food for her and she liked those. She never accepted too valuable gifts, such as iPhone, though.
Earlier this year, I made an attempt to confess to her. She told me that she still got 2 more years to finish her degree, and it could lead to nothing because her family didn’t want her to get married to someone staying too far away.
I responded to her that I’m willing to relocate to her place. She still rejected me. I supposed that my attempt failed. I decided to give up and not disturb her anymore.
Sometime later, she initiates to message me again and I perceived positive changes in her feelings towards me. So I hacked her Facebook to know what was happening. I know that is bad, I apologize.
I discovered that she was having a relationship with a guy for almost 4 years now. He is a Ph.D. student in Japan and is doing a part-time job for his study.
His hometown is a small city in the South of Vietnam. I saw him commenting and giving heart reactions on my crush posts. From her Messenger, they were messaging and video chatting every day. She made birthday cakes for him.
They haven’t met but they had planned to see each other and to get married. I even found her sending to him sexy photos and, I can’t believe it, screenshots of my confession messages too.
I don’t know what to do. My heart crumbles. I know I’m silly, but I still hope for her change of mind. Appreciate help and advice from you guys.”
Editor’s note: Seems like you’re the appetizer bro, block her and move on.
In today’s digital age, social media has become a powerful platform for individuals to voice their concerns and opinions. It can also be a battleground where controversies arise.
One such incident took place on October 20th when a Facebook user named Eric Tan expressed his shock at being charged $8 for a plate of bee hoon at a food court in Singapore General Hospital (SGH), according to a report by Lianhe Zaobao.
$8 for Bee Hoon meal
Eric Tan’s Facebook post made waves when he shared a picture of his bee hoon meal, which consisted of rice with vegetarian roast goose, fried egg, and long beans.
His caption, “First time eat so expensive vegetarian bee hoon,” set the stage for a lively online discussion. Many netizens were quick to express their astonishment at the $8 price tag, labeling it as “daylight robbery.”
Some even called for a boycott of the stall responsible for this seemingly extravagant pricing.
“cannot be”
The stall assistant, Han, spoke to Zaobao and responded to the online outcry by explaining that the diner should have been billed only $7 for the food shown in the photo.
The breakdown of the charges includes $2 for the bee hoon, $1.50 for the fried egg, $1 for long beans, and $2.50 for vegetarian roast goose.
The crux of the matter here is understanding the pricing of vegetarian roast goose, a component that substantially contributed to the overall cost.
Han shed light on the cost of vegetarian roast goose, noting that it’s relatively high, with a bag of it costing $10. This explains the higher price of the dish, which includes this specialized ingredient.
He further added that the prices of their food are clearly indicated and they won’t charge random prices to customers, and he questioned how Tan’s meal had come up to $8.
Han also added that he hopes Tan will be able to show the receipt to prove his claims.
A netizen shared how she was set up on a blind date with her aunt’s colleague’s son, who was advertised as “super smart, funny and a high-flyer at a Big 4 firm”.
Here is her story:
“Really need to rant about my horror blind date, which was my aunt’s colleague’s son, advertised to me as “super smart”, “funny” and a “high-flyer at a Big 4 accounting firm”.
He turned out to be an insufferable elitist with a serious b–bs fetish.
Part 1: The Pure-Blood Rafflesian in the Valley of Gods
We met at Subway, and as there was a queue we started chatting. Apparently, he was also from RJC, and then –
Him: Were you IP?
Me: No, I was from a neighborhood sec sch.
Him: Aha! So you are a half-blood!
Me: What?
Him: You were not from RGS, so you are only a half-blood Rafflesian. I am pure-blood, I was from RI.
Me: (Nani tf?! Are we in Harry Potter??? But before I could respond – )
Him: Impressive cleavage by the way, really appreciate the effort. *creepy smile*
Me: Uh…thanks…
Him: You know, we guys call it the Valley of Gods, because from top-down or bottom-up, girls’ cleavages look like a valley, and because b–bs are made of men’s hopes and dreams, we name it Valley of Gods.
6 years of Raffles education, you say?
Part 2: 5,318,008 lettuce letters
At this point already texting 3 close friends to do the fake emergency call strategy, and then –
Waitress: Do you want any vegetables? Tomatoes? Lettuce?
Him: No I don’t want “leh-tuse”, I want “letters”.
*turns to me and grins*
Me: *expands my texting to non-close friends*
Him: (after we got our food) Have to say, you really have a magnificent pair.
Me: Ummm…okay?
Him: Do you have a favorite number?
Me: No, do you?
Him: Yes! 5,318,008 – because upside down on a calculator it spells B–BIES.
*deranged laughter*
If any of you has had a worse date experience please share so I can feel better and not have to seek counseling.”
Editor’s note:Who were you on a date with? A primary school kid? The guy has the maturity of a 10-year-old…
I’m 39f. My recently ex- husband is 38m. We were married for ten years before divorcing last year. I accused him of cheating on me, I didn’t believe when he told me he was working longer shifts at work since we still always seemed tight on cash, I thought he was cheating on me with a woman, Jen, 30f, since I saw she was on his recent calls quite a few times, both phone calls/video calls, and I saw her name pop up multiple times sending him texts throughout the week, but my husband doesn’t keep texts from anyone so I didn’t know what they were.
I confronted him about it and although I didn’t outright accuse him of cheating I was definitely angry about feeling like he was hiding something from me, and made that clear.
As it turned out, he was working extra hours and putting the money into a separate account to surprise me with a groundbreaking for an extension on our house on the ten year anniversary of us buying it. The conversations with the Jen were him coordinating with her watching the kids while both of us were working while the daycare was closed (when he picked up extra weekend shifts) and the phone calls/video calls were him checking on the kids. He was able to verify all of this with bank account records, emails to and from the builder, and screenshots of the messages between her and him from her end of the conversation. I apologized to him for not believing him, but at this point he said he couldn’t believe that I would ever think he was cheating on me. He said he felt incredibly hurt and said that he would never think something like that about me, and that he never would’ve assumed the worst about me. He asked for space so we first went to living in separate bedrooms, then after a bit he moved into the basement, the entire time he was acting strange and distant and like a stranger to me, only acting normal around the kids.
After a few weeks of that he officially asked for a divorce. I asked if we could do couples therapy first, and he said that there was no point since I didn’t trust him, but eventually he agreed, we went to one session and he admitted that him realizing I had no faith in him after he was working so hard for our family really hurt his self confidence and he didn’t think it was something he could repair while he was still with me, and he again asked for a divorce.
He bought me out of my half of the house, which I put towards a small house close by and our kids split their time between us.
I heard that he began dating Jen from my friend, who lives down the street from him. At first my ex insisted that she was still just helping with the kids, but after four months he admitted they were dating, once the extension was done she moved in and yesterday he asked her to marry him.
I’m happy for him but there’s still a part of me that feels shocked and somewhat resentful this all happened. I feel as though it was a happy surprise if he had told me about his plans for the extension none of this would have happened.
ETA someone asked if I knew she was watching my kids- no, I didn’t. I assumed they were at home with my husband while I was working.
My husband’s crossdressing is the bane of my existence
It makes me sick. All of this started right after we got married. And I do mean RIGHT after. On our honeymoon, he wanted to wear the lingerie I had brought for myself. Then, he shaved his beard and his entire body. He started wearing my clothes. He would only use razors, shaving cream, body lotion, etc that smelled super girly. I was not into this at all, but I wanted to be a good wife so I tried to indulge him. I bought him lots of lingerie and pretended I liked it. I did this to avoid a fight. Now he had started watching adult videos. Pretty soon he no longer wanted to sleep with me. It was always the strap-on or some other weird kinky stuff. We were always kinky before but it never involved crossdressing.
He started tucking and even going out in public in bimbo mode. Our intimacy was extremely emotionally exhausting for me but I did it anyway because I didn’t want a fight. I even brought in an old fling of mine to spend a weekend with us. My husband was dressed up the whole time. I feel sick even remembering this experience, but at the time I just did it on autopilot so my husband would be satisfied. Soon after this, he convinced me to buy him a $600 chastity device. This was sort of fun for me at first. But then he decided he wanted to get it resized. He got one that was about 3 sizes too small. It would take him 40+ mins to get it on because he really had to jam himself in there. It was painful to look at. I was afraid this would cause permanent damage and I begged him to stop. He wouldn’t listen. He wanted to shrink his manhood. This made me incredibly angry, but I bottled it up.
His crossdressing just kept escalating from there. We had an agreement that he would not do anything permanent, and that he had only one hall pass per year. The hall pass thing I had agreed to before we got married, because I already knew he also liked guys and I accepted it. There is one thing a man has that I don’t, so I agreed to let him get that elsewhere once per year. For almost the whole first year of marriage, he was a walking kink. I then found emails between him and a hormone replacement clinic. He was asking them about doing a consultation to go on estrogen. That was the straw that broke the camels back. We had a really long discussion about it, and I told him that if he does this I am gone. The next day he went backpacking to find himself. I was creating an exit plan while he was gone, fully expecting him to come home and tell me that this fetish is more important to him than I am. But actually, he came back a changed man. He wanted to be normal again!
That was almost a year ago, and things have been amazing since then. We’ve even adopted the traditional lifestyle, he works and I stay home. I take care of all the cooking and cleaning. We even do domestic discipline. Things have been so wonderful. It’s been almost a year since he stopped with all that. I’ve never been this happy. I found out we’re having a baby! We were over the moon! And then…
He tells me he wants to start cross dressing again. He said he’ll only do it for “Locktober”. I told him then you must mean next year, not this year because I will be newly postpartum by then and I can’t deal with that in such a vulnerable state, nevermind that I also won’t be feeling up for any intimacy either. He considers this, then says he’ll do it in June this year (I’ll be 6 months then). I try to put it out of my mind, since at this time it was only February. But I’m already thinking of places I can go for that whole month of June so that I don’t have to participate in this crap again. This fetish is absolutely repulsive to me and I don’t think that I can slap on a brave face and suffer through it. Maybe I can for a month, I did it for a year! But I’m thinking it would probably just be easier if I am away somewhere while he’s at home doing that.
We’ve been here before. Either I put on an Oscar worthy performance, and enthusiastically participate in whatever depraved kinky crap he wants to do, or he withholds all love and affection from me until I do. I feel like he’s slipping away and I’m losing him again to this disgusting, life ruining fetish. When he stopped cross dressing last year, I told him that I will not go back to home doing this full time. I can’t. His entire life revolved around this kink. He assured me that he was over it, and no longer found it appealing. That it was a phase. I believed him. And now we’re here. What can I do. Grin and bear it I guess? I feel trapped. I felt trapped before, but now I’m pregnant so I’m REALLY trapped.
