So I’m thinking of getting myself an adult toy.

I’m a V, never really fingered myself (typing these things feels so taboo right now) but I want to start having fun with myself, to like, practise for the real thing, I guess.

I have looked up the type of lube I want to use, and now I’m onto looking at penetrative toys…. but they’re all really long and really thick.

I’m too scared to start with a really thick, long one. I know it will be painful and won’t fit, I’m really super terrified of getting hurt or hurting myself.

Can any of you ladies recommend me a small, thin toy that is safe and not hurtful for beginners?

Netizens comments

1. whatever you do, don’t force it! i bought one without doing much research and it didn’t fit.
   i was so frustrated. then i looked it up and there were suggestions to relax, take your time, and don’t force it. after a couple days it went in fine.
2. make sure to look at the dimensions for girth. If it is longer than you want/need, you don’t have to use all of the insertable length, but if it’s too wide then you can’t do much about that.
   Look at the material too, since many toys (often ones that are really cheap) are not body safe.
3. Don’t make yourself crazy about “getting ready” for the first time. Explore yourself and find out what feels good where. Also don’t set a high bar for yourself.

So during my 30th birthday, I was planning my birthday party for a while.

I was inviting my family and friends and had a table booked at a restaurant with Asian cuisine. When discussing the birthday reservation I have mentioned i would like to keep it adults only.

Simply so we don’t have to watch our language and my friends and family kids are all younger than 8, so spicy/Asian food will not be suitable and they will get bored. The place also doesn’t have kids menu.

This all went well and since the booking was for the noon on a weekend my friends didn’t have a problem to leave the kids with their partners.

However my sister demanded to know why I don’t want her kids at my birthday and refused to accept that it’s my birthday and the food is not suitable for kids.

I got annoyed and told her I would of considered to have her kids(5 and 8) around if she actually educated them instead of being on her phone, since her youngest doesn’t have any manners and throws tantrums whenever the kid doesn’t like/get something.

By tantrums I mean screaming and crying for hours and up to throwing food or running at other guests or members of staff in public, while she keeps being on her phone.

My sister and part of my family scolded me and she said she won’t come to my birthday or talk to me until I realise what I said was wrong.

My friends believe she is overeacting and are on my side, since a lot of them have younger kids and they behave a lot better.

So my fiancé has been raving about a birthday gift he’s planned on giving to me, he said it was sentimental because I told him I wanted more items of my own since I don’t have much money.

He said this gift was going to be $450 and I’m not materialistic but I was so happy he was getting a really thought-out gift and wanted to spend that much. Even though I told him multiple times he really doesn’t have to spend that much.

Anyways, today he tells me my gift is that he plans on giving me the Xbox I bought him for HIS birthday last year and spending money on a PlayStation for himself to replace it.

I said, “so basically you’re giving me something I’ve already paid for and getting yourself a new PlayStation..?” And he said “ugh if you’re gonna react and put it like that… never mind now I feel like Im having the worse day of my life and I don’t want to talk about it” so now it’s this whole ordeal.

I don’t if I’m for responding in a correct way to him.

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Wow, your boyfriend sounds like a moron to me! First, he tells you the value of this gift, which is weird and like he’s boasting about it. Then the fact it’s just his old X-Box that you gave to him? Then HE gets mad at YOU?

• He sounds like an extremely immature boy to me. He needs to do some growing up fast! Maybe this is a sign of too much gaming instead of getting out into the real world and finding out what life is REALLY like and how society actually works.

• All he’s trying to do is save himself the hassle of selling it on Carousell/Ebay. What an utter moron.
• He made out like it was a gift for you, when it was 100% a gift for him. He must know on some level that he’s done an awful thing, because of his reaction. 
• Your reaction is accurate & valid.

A netizen shared about how his best friend recent started dating a girl and now their (the two bestfriends) conversations are running dry.

Here is the story:

I’m finding it hard to accept that me and my bestfriend’s conversations are starting to go dry.
He started dating this girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy for him because he’s been through a really bad break up, I’ve never seen him smile from ear to ear like that in a long time.

I met the girl recently when they visited earlier to introduce her to me, she’s really nice and caring for him which is what he really deserves compared to the toxic bitch before.

Only thing bothering me recently is we haven’t really spoken or chatted each other that frequently anymore.

Like I get it he needs to spend time with her to show his commitment to their relationship and I am 100% aware of that, it’s just deep down I can’t help but feel alone.

After me and my then girlfriend of 5 years broke up because she cheated, “because I want someone better” is what she said, left me a fear of being not good enough that hit me hard

My bestfriend has been there for me ever since, supporting me and always putting me in a good mood helping me forget about my ex, but I never ever forgot about how I felt back then

All i can do now is be happy for him, support him, and be by his side anytime

I’m married with 3 kids and all the normal stress that comes with work, bills and having a low income. It’s been months since my wife and I last got intimate.

Between the kids, work and general stress neither of us have really had the time or urge.

But…

On Saturday my Mum is having the kids for the night. We’ve booked a hotel in the centre of town so we can go out for a meal and drinks then head back to the hotel.

We’re both so excited to have some actual adult time. We’ve both been super eager since we’ve booked and it’s like we’re both just trying to keep a lid on it until we can just go wild on Saturday.

She has no idea that I’ve gone and ordered some viagra and a little toy, and I’m going to bang her brains out all night.

As God is my witness I will give her the best night she’s ever had! I love my wife so much and she’s smoking hot and I WILL BANG HER BRAINS OUT!

That is all

Netizens’ comments

• Bro, you should be writing cards for Hallmark.

• Damn, that was a beautiful poem homie.

Six years ago, i swapped my then-girlfriend now-wife’s cat with a more well-behaved lookalike.

She had an all black cat that was extremely aggressive. It scratched everyone, hissed at everyone, and didn’t use its litterbox half the time. My wife insisted she could get it to behave better. One week she went overseas to visit her family and I was supposed to go to her apartment and feed it.

The first night I went over, it scratched my arm. I joked to the cat that it’s not special and I’ll replace it if it scratches again.

The joke stuck with me until I had thought about it enough that it wasn’t a joke.

The next morning I went to an animal shelter. Found an identical cat who was already litterbox trained and acclimated to people, but was a little skittish (it’s old owner died of a heart attack and the animal shelter people said they think that’s why it was skittish).

But overall, it was a lot friendlier and better behaved, and the skittishness would help it resemble the original cat.

So I adopted it, took it to my wife’s apartment, settled it in, then drove her original cat to another animal shelter.

It’s been 6 years since then. We got married 4 years ago. We still have the swapped cat. It answers to the original cat’s name. My wife knows nothing.

She loves this cat and brags about how much better behaved it is. Everytime I see it, I feel so bad.

Can you accept a guy that ever visited escorts?

Recently, my best friend met someone he is truly in love with. The friend is not me lol it’s a genuine situation that I felt it’s tricky when he approached me for advice.

He met her on a dating app and things went smoothly for both of them. In the past, he ever visited escorts as he was lonely. Presently, he is clean after taking his STD tests.

He asked me should he share that he ever visited escorts to her for full transparency but risk losing the relationship or avoid the situation at all cost?

I told him a relationship is built on complete honesty and trust, but I might be wrong because I have seen happy relationships built with some white lies to avoid hurting the other person.

I shared both perspectives. I am not sure if I did the right thing by offering an alternative view which might be malicious. What do you think ?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would ask – what kind of relationship does he want with this girl? Is it one in which he can share anything and everything safely and also have his past accepted by her? If that is the case, then sharing his past is the right thing to do. If she then decides that she cannot accept his past then I think they should not continue
2. Every girl will have a different comfort level about this, and it also depends on what positive characteristics the guy can offer in the long term future of the relationship.
   Ultimately, it’s better to be upfront earlier than come clean later. If the girl only finds out 5 years later and this is important for her to know, then she would feel even more cheated.
   At the same time, only share when he feels the relationship is getting serious and they’ve reached an assuring level of trust and vulnerability in the relationship.
   If they can’t see eye to eye about it, perhaps some of their values may not be aligned anyway, and it’s better to call it off earlier.
3. If his std is clear and he isn’t still going I feel don’t have to pressure him to say. His past is his to share whether he want to is his problem. Conversely the girl also don’t have to list out every of her past experience to him

I’m frustrated with him I don’t have any love for him

My husband love kids in 4 years of marriage 1st and 2 year we both postponed.

In 3rd year I got pregnant but got a miscarriage..still now we are trying but we didn’t succeed..if I eat something alike, immediately if u eat this u will never baby. if I took a warm bath u will never get a baby every time he mocks me and even in food .your not prepare good food that’s y we don’t have the energy to have a baby..and are fond of money all time. he always discourages me in my career and does nothing. But he never cares for me. Even If I fall sick during my periods he doesn’t take care of me and instead mocks me that everyone has felt more than you, for this pain also you are not able to tolerate.

He opened the company, for himself to earn money which I never suggested. No, he is blaming me, I’m doing a lot of work. What u do is just simply sit.

I worked as a project engineer after marriage he didn’t send me to work. But before others, he would behave s such as he is treating me like a queen..

He used to be an aggressive person whenever we fight he breaks the phone, laptop tv mirror etc.I should not oppose to what he says. I’m scared a lot to convey my side to him whenever he suggest something.he do mostly business on interest without financial background and brings trouble financially and mentally.

Sometimes I do feel like do I need to live like this till I die.. or every marriage life will be some problem if we started breaking nothing will remain ..or am I thinking too much…

Netizens’ comments

• If u already knew that the relationship is toxic, why bring children into the pic? Talk to him abt his behaviour and your feelings and if he does not change for better, u really need to consider your options. Dun keep quiet and expect miracles. It just wont happen.
• So many warning signs to get out of this relationship. Leave him.
• if you are looking for a sign… you already got the answer, everyone must be prepared to walk out of a toxic relationship no matter how painful it is…just imagine u have to spend the rest of your life in a toxic relationship? Be nice to self and love self..this is the basic of living, why should we come into this world to be abuse by our partners??? So in a way everything that happened in your life is you allow it!!!
• I can relate. Especially the throwing and breaking things. Even self harm during fights. Traumatic time truly.

What do you guys think about wearing sleeveless tops in the office?

Are they appropriate or considered to be revealing?

I’m not referring to spaghetti tops here but proper blouses that look more formal but are sleeveless. Can they be accepted as office wear?

I’ve never received any negative feedback about my attire to office before and I’m always very careful to dress conservatively and in neutral colours.

So I was really shocked when my boss came up to me and told me to cover myself up. He said that I’m here to work and not distract my male colleagues, and I should know better since I have worked in corporate for more than 10 years. I was so taken aback by his words that I couldn’t even mumble a reply.

For context I was wearing a sleeveless turtleneck with slacks…how much more could I have covered myself up?

Here are what netizens think:

• Some boss the brain from the gutter one, that’s why he will tell you things like that.
• The one that is getting distracted is your boss who have trouble controlling his urges.
• Your boss think it is the Qing Dynasty, you must cover from head to toe like bao ba zhang. Change job if not happy. No choice, boss paying the money you are just another corporate slave.
• No, it is not inappropriate. It is, however, inappropriate to wear sleeveless tops and then complain that the office is too cold!
• Of course not. Wearing sleeveless tops definitely looks cool unless ur underarms are shaved!!!!
• A woman should respect the office dress code. If its allowed, NO one has the Right to stop her. The appropriate thing to do is to avert your eyes if you get “uncomfortable” seeing it.
• I think some others who are responding are confusing “too revealing” with “too casual.”

A netizen shared how his “hatred for humanity” is getting worse and he hates almost everyone he interacts with.

He also shared about how he finds most people that he meets as insufferable and “bland”.

Here is the story:

My hatred for humanity is worsening

I have always been somewhat hateful of the human species, but these past couple of years it has only exacerbated.

The pandemic coupled with my inborn hatred for humans has led me to detest almost everyone I interact with.

Sure, there are good people out there who I enjoy being around. Unfortunately, the vast majority of the people I meet on a daily basis are just insufferable.

They’re for the most part superficial, stupid, repetitive, and downright bland. An interesting person is maybe 5/100 if I’m being generous.

I don’t want to get into the details as to why I hate humanity because that could take awhile, but basically the hatred I already have towards humanity is growing.

Editor’s note: This sounds like a supervillain origin story.