Long story short(ish), a few months ago she came and admitted to me that she had a crush on her coworker, which, I was okay with. Feelings are feelings, and acting on them is a different matter. I’ve had crushes on coworkers before, and shutting that down cold would’ve deprived me of some of my best platonic friendships once the infatuation subsided. I’d be a hypocrite for being the overbearing jealous boyfriend and shutting down a potentially good friendship just cause it’s another dude.

Fast forward a few weeks, and now she’s doggedly asking about opening up our relationship. Obvs I knew what it was about, and my response was an honest “Yeah maybe! But not right now.” and that was the end of it. In the meantime she’s still seeing him at work regularly, and hanging out with him a couple times outside of work, and I’m ignoring that niggling feeling in my brain. (At the same time, our S life was great, which probably helped with looking past some stuff)

Eventually they got hauled up to a manager and reprimanded for being too friendly on the floor and my gf got questioned about her relationship (which, regardless of the situation, isn’t management’s business, imo ) so in the meantime I’m defending her to my coworkers because I still think platonic friendships should be fine and healthy, regardless of gender!

Now in the meantime, one of their after work hangouts she absolutely lied to me about where they were, and I tried to explain it away to myself. After the management incident they haven’t had a chance to hang out, which brings us to the other day. I was using her phone to mass call the passport office before the trip we had planned, and while I was waiting to get through curiosity got the better of me and I ended up two months deep in their text conversation.

Which, before the management stuff, included a couple nudes from her, plenty of sex talk, references to her grabbing his dick at work, all kinds of talk about making out, sneaking around the store, their “car hangouts ” among other stuff.

Tack that onto finding this out literally a week before a three-week vacation with my entire family and I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can’t go with her and have this in the back of my brain the entire time, but I also can’t just break up with her and leave her home with all of my stuff for three weeks.

boyfriend cheated with a hooker

I’ve been dating A(46) for 3.5 years. I’m 34 (yes there is an age gap, I never thought it was an issue). I own my own home, I have a high paying job, multiple degrees, I’m not stupid. At least I thought I wasn’t.

I’ve been traveling for work a lot lately and this weekend I went out of town to see some friends and do some community stuff with my alma mater. I got back Sunday and every thing was fine. Today he went to dinner with family and left his phone. I’m not proud of this but I snooped and found out he hired a hooker for the weekend, for a grand.

I confronted him when he got home and he didn’t have a good excuse except he’s been working a lot, stressed, drunk and I was gone. The thing is, he’s been avoiding intimacy with me for a year and he finally admitted that he doesn’t find me attractive, I’m pretty but not physically his type. I’m overweight and losing weight is hard due to hormonal issues. He swears he feels horrible and doesn’t want to split but idk what to do.

Im devistated. He’s been my rock from day one since my divorce from my ex husband. He’s been my best friend and I’m just thrown for a loop. If it wasn’t me in my shoes I’d be the first one to say GTFO. I keep thinking ‘why would he do this??’.

He’s not willing to see a therapist and I kicked him out for the night but I’m just lost. I thought he was the one I was going to end up with.

My husband’s ExWife sent me a video of them getting intimate the day before our wedding?

She and him were married for 4 years. He ended it saying she was impossible to live with but she made claims about him being violent to her which never been proven.

She sent me a video of themdoing it literally the day before my wedding. she did it using social media. It was….unexpected and for some reason made me feel unwell and uneasy.

It certainly affected me mentally because everyone noticed how I looked and behaved at the time. My husband found out after the wedding and he swore he had no idea his ex was still keeping this stuff because he made sure everything they shared was deleted/wipped.

He was as shaken as me but told me to just let it go and not let it take anymore of our time together but I just can’t get it off my mind, especially when I’m intimate with him.

It feels off, really off and I hate that this is how it feels when it’s supposed to be our best time together.

I feel like his ex’s anger and resentment ruined the best time of my life for me and my husband. I don’t even get why she would do such thing and what she would gain.

I could never understand.

I (35M) am a single father of 3 boys (10M, 7M and 3M).

Their mother died last year due to ovarian cancer. It has been a rough year to say the least.

My sister got divorced 6 months ago and temporarily moved in with me and the boys. She has a son, my nephew (9M) who stays with us most of the time. My nephew and my 10yro are not the best of friends, but so far they got along fine apart from some teasing from both sides. A few weeks ago my 10yro started telling me that his cousin was bullying him and being mean to him.

He called him names, pushed him around, took his video games etc. I talked to my sister many times and told her to talk to her son, we talked to the boys together and things settled down. Yesterday was my 3yro’s birthday, so my whole family was here and my late wife’s family as well. It was extremely emotional for everyone, because it was the first birthday since my wife’s been gone.

The boys (10yro and 9yro) started fighting again and I asked them both to calm down and behave. My son started crying and told me his cousin teased him about him not having a mom. I choked up and asked my nephew if that was true, and he said yes, but that he’s sorry. I figured I’d have a proper talk with him and my sister after the party, so I just told him what he said was really awful and he cannot say it again. I comforted my son and we went back to the party.

Before we cut the cake, my sister came yelling at me, saying I had no business disciplining her child. I told her to drop it and we’ll talk later, instead she said “besides, he’s right, kids need a mom”. I had tears in my eyes by that time and she just said “see, it’s even turning you into a p***”. My in-laws were crying, I was tearing up, the kids were upset, just awful. I told her to stop it and just leave me and the kids and the family to cut the cake and we will talk in the evening.

She said “listen we both lost our spouses, but at least I’m still a normal person”. She stormed off. After the party I told her she has 2 days to pack her stuff and leave.

She is begging me not to throw her out, because she and her kid will be homeless. Aita for throwing her out?

I married a woman out of my league and I kept it a secret that I am struggling to maintain her lifestyle. She is extremely beautiful and came from a very rich family. When we were dating I found her to be humble and nice even though she loves shopping and wears designer brands from head to toe. We had no committments and I was able to afford to go holidays with her every few months.

I saved almost a year of my salary to get her the diamond ring that she wanted as I feel pressured to make myself seen worthy of her. She has an expensive taste but she can be simple and eat hawker with me too. Once we almost broke up because of her parents and her lifestyle but she had told me she didn’t mind my background and convinced me to stay with her, saying she can spend humbly too. We managed to get her parents’ blessings before getting married.

Her family helped with a lot of the wedding expenses and also for housing. After she gave birth to our first child we sold it to move nearer to her family’s place. The 2nd place we got we need not pay for it. I let her keep most of the money from the sale of the 1st house as her family had put in more money and I wanted her to feel assured of my love for her. She also wanted to be a sahm. Her parents gifted her a car after she became a mom. I am aware she still takes money from her family while I am also giving her a monthly allowance. Somehow I feel a bit useless even though she told me to just let it go that her parents pamper her. Her parents also gifted her more than 1 apartment so she has passive income. Her combined income from everything is even more than what I earn monthly. I have never allowed her to give me any money that came from her parents. I wish to provide for my family myself but I am struggling. At the same time I struggle with the thought that her parents are still providing for her even after she had married me.

She likes to have yacht trips a few times a year, mostly to hang out with our mutual friends and for the gram. She had been doing this before we are dating so I find it hard to restrict her from continuing her habits. I don’t feel good letting her pay for everything so I would chip in the costs to hold the yacht parties. I know she had lied to her friends that I paid for the trips so I know she is secretly ashamed of me for not earning enough. She will deny it whenever we have disagreements.

In an effort to try to earn more, I changed my job. I work longer hours. Some days I barely sleep 2 hours. My wife would ask me when is our next holiday as she is tired from minding the baby and I feel pressured to take her somewhere even when I don’t have enough savings to do that. I let her believe that I am earning enough so she continued spending and shopping.

I secretly gambled and won enough to pay for a month long Europe trip (before covid) for our wedding anniversary. I was so glad covid gave me an excuse to not plan holidays for at least 2 years. I wasn’t making much money too from staying home.

I wish she spend less instead of leaving our baby with her parents while she go for beauty treatments and shopping trips but we got pregnant again. I admit it’s my fault that I stupidly think I have the ability to afford her lifestyle. I find myself drinking a lot more nowadays and avoiding home because I am afraid she would find out the truth and regret marrying me.

Please offer me practical advice on what I can do to earn more money legitimately. Please don’t bash me. I married the girl of my dreams but I am living in hell now from all the stress. I don’t want to dash her dreams that what I am providing for her is actually a lie.

I honestly think im gonna be alone forever (romantically)

Im 24(f), V, never have been in a relationship other than a couple one night kiss in clubs. Like seriously now it just feels weird to imagine myself in a relationship.

My friends ask me if i honestly believe im gonna be alone forever and i so confidently tell them that yes i do. And i know i believe this.

Some say that that’s really sad, others say that it won’t happen, that one day i will find someone. But honestly, many people die alone and never marry, never are in a relationship, and then they die alone in their house.

Why couldn’t that happen to me?

Idk i think about this so much it keeps me up at night. People say not to stress about it, that “one day love will come” but i feel that’s nonsense. You either get lucky or you don’t.

Netizens’ comments

I don’t think it’s down to luck. It’s more like you either put yourself out there or don’t. If you are content in being alone in your own company and building a life onward without a romantic partner, then that is what will more than likely happen. You’ll sort of manifest that lifestyle.

If not, you’ll find someone you like and they’ll like you, and you’ll build a life together and make it work if that’s what you both want.

My parents hit me as a way of discipline and I didn’t turn out fine.

Now I’m an emotionally, socially stunted adult who cries when people get slightly upset with her. Cool.

I appreciate everyone who has expressed their support and shared their stories. I’m sorry so many of us went through similar experiences.

To those who think that we’re being dramatic or that we’re weak, we’re not. It’s crazy to support putting your hands on a defenseless being because you can’t communicate effectively.

To hurt inflict physical pain to someone smaller than you, relies on you and looks up to you is wrong. It is a powerplay and it’s not right.

To put it simply, physical violence against children is 100% excessive.

I have 3 well-behaved cousins who have never been hit, spanked, or yelled at They excel in everything they do.

They’re kind. They’re thriving because they are not threatened or humiliated. Their parents do not use any type of violence against them because it is not as effective as their parents thought it was. They receive proper discipline. They know they are loved.

Locking up your home is the first thing one will do after leaving their gate.

While most of us have one, two or three locks. This uncle “overkills” his security at home.

A man who resides in Malaysia was seen unlocking his home which has over 10 padlocks and chains.

Over 3 minutes to enter his home

The man was seen in a video taking over 3 minutes to unlock his door.

However, netizens commented and said that if a robber has the intention to rob his home, they would have waited behind him and threatened him with a knife.

Others said: “It’s like advertising your home that there are a lot of valuables inside”.

While some defend the man’s action by saying: “Maybe he got kena robbed before and unsure to secure his home. Therefore he just add more locks.”

Here are what netizens think:

• Uncle, you need one good lock not 10 lousy locks

• Inside sure got gold bar, if I robber i don’t even bother unlock the locks, i jus saw hole through the wooden door.

• Uncle ah, by the time you open finish a robber waiting behind you loh.

@ahbengloh89

Kiasu Malaysian Uncle locks 10 plus lock at his home

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Bf bought me an obiang branded bag from overseas. What should I do?

Bf insisted to spend min 1k on my upcoming anniversary gift because I have gifted him an ipad pro for his bday.

Nearing the anniversary, I have bought him an iphone to replace his 4 year old phone. He was actually quite unhappy upon receiving the present because he once told me he don’t appreciate receiving a phone as present. So I intend to sell it on carousell since I can’t refund the phone that was purchased during Lazada flash sale. My bf decided okay he will use the gift since it’s a gift from me so he broke the seal of the iphone box even though i managed to find an interested iphone buyer but left it unused up til now. In fear that I wouldn’t like his 1k+ gift, he revealed he’s buying a DSLR for me as I can take nice photos if travel overseas. I stopped him from buying. Reason being the current working adult me has no use of a DSLR, and my flagship phone camera is suffice for someone who doesn’t take photography to the next level. I find the bulkiness of the camera more of a hindrance for an amateur.

A few days later, bf went into jb with his friends and asked me if I am cool with getting a branded bag for my anniversary gift since they are headed to JPO. I have zero branded watches/bags, because I believe that scrimping and investing are good for my future. I just thought it’s a good idea to be gifted my first branded, so I gave him the green light. I very much prefer a swissmade watch but since he suggested, I decided to flow along with no objections (additional info – He doesn’t like to be restricted by a wishlist…. And I clearly updated him I wanted watch/necklace/proposal ring from him). I specifically told him no coach/longchamp in order to avoid “auntie” designs. He chose to surprise me with a gucci instead.

I was ecstatic to receive it initially, however…. After unboxing and removing from the dust bag…. The bag looks just like what I’ve imagined a coach bag to look like. When I posed with it in front of the mirror, I couldn’t control my expression and my bf could feel that I was disappointed. The bag doesn’t feel like a luxury bag…. I would pay $150 tops for the bag, but it costs around $2k. He chose the bag based on functionality(i.e. Able to store umbrella and water bottle) rather than aesthetic. Later I went on to google about the bag and JPO, and realised that the design is unlisted on gucci website (any bag pro could tell me what this means? Does it means my bf has bought a fake?) and JPO mainly sell outdated products.

Bf told me if he’s alright with me selling if I can sell it above cost price, but the max the buyer is willing to pay is only 50% of cost. Bf is still heartbroken and unwilling to bring it back to JPO for exchange/refund because it’s very bulky and he said it’s hard to bring across the custom via bus. It’s endearing to see him put effort into choosing my gift, and I’m really guilty of rejecting the gift. If this bag is <$300, i would have willingly kept it as a memento instead of desperately wanting to turn it back to cash.

It’s now sitting at my house gathering dust for the past week. Have been feeling uneasy whenever I see the bag… Probably because I don’t want to use it and a $2k bag that I don’t want to own is now my responsibility. Can anybody advise me what is the next best step?

So I finally crossed paths with my ex at my workplace after 3 years. Since we parted ways I’ve always wondered how I would react to her reappearance again. All I did, quite pathetically, was tapped on her shoulder and uttered a measly “hi”. Even as I walked away, my heart was pounding frantically, as if back to the first time we met after my fateful confession.

She was my first love and every shade the dream girlfriend as a teenager I yearned to have. We were also our class’ model couple, and received heaps of marriage invitations as if everyone expected us to pull it off eventually. We were also inseparable throughout secondary school and JC; she was there through the lowest points in my life, and so was I for hers. But as it turned out, we grew apart and ultimately went our separate ways.

As far as I know, she’s relishing a life of familial bliss now, married and happily raising a son – a future we had once envisioned as a couple. To be honest, I’m just a tad little envious, but mostly happy that she realised her dream. As of me, it has been a rough journey since 3 years ago. The gaping hole that she left behind remains to be filled. There is this girl I met in CCA that caught my attention, but for reasons unbeknownst even to myself I haven’t been able to summon enough courage to even strike up a conversation with her, much less start a new relationship. Once bitten, twice shy, perhaps?

To all budding, first-time couples out there: don’t be afraid to devote your all in a relationship. Even if it doesn’t work out in the end, you would have written a exhilarating chapter in your life – that of first love. There will be countless regrets, and I dare say, they are even inevitable.

But the one thing not matched by subsequent relationships is the naive, innocent and pure romanticisation of love; a signpost you will look back later for guidance as you try to navigate romance in the harsh, real world.

To P, I’m thankful for everything. Really.