A netizen shared about how his best friend recent started dating a girl and now their (the two bestfriends) conversations are running dry.

Here is the story:

I’m finding it hard to accept that me and my bestfriend’s conversations are starting to go dry.
He started dating this girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy for him because he’s been through a really bad break up, I’ve never seen him smile from ear to ear like that in a long time.

I met the girl recently when they visited earlier to introduce her to me, she’s really nice and caring for him which is what he really deserves compared to the toxic bitch before.

Only thing bothering me recently is we haven’t really spoken or chatted each other that frequently anymore.

Like I get it he needs to spend time with her to show his commitment to their relationship and I am 100% aware of that, it’s just deep down I can’t help but feel alone.

After me and my then girlfriend of 5 years broke up because she cheated, “because I want someone better” is what she said, left me a fear of being not good enough that hit me hard

My bestfriend has been there for me ever since, supporting me and always putting me in a good mood helping me forget about my ex, but I never ever forgot about how I felt back then

All i can do now is be happy for him, support him, and be by his side anytime

I’m married with 3 kids and all the normal stress that comes with work, bills and having a low income. It’s been months since my wife and I last got intimate.

Between the kids, work and general stress neither of us have really had the time or urge.

But…

On Saturday my Mum is having the kids for the night. We’ve booked a hotel in the centre of town so we can go out for a meal and drinks then head back to the hotel.

We’re both so excited to have some actual adult time. We’ve both been super eager since we’ve booked and it’s like we’re both just trying to keep a lid on it until we can just go wild on Saturday.

She has no idea that I’ve gone and ordered some viagra and a little toy, and I’m going to bang her brains out all night.

As God is my witness I will give her the best night she’s ever had! I love my wife so much and she’s smoking hot and I WILL BANG HER BRAINS OUT!

That is all

Netizens’ comments

• Bro, you should be writing cards for Hallmark.

• Damn, that was a beautiful poem homie.

Six years ago, i swapped my then-girlfriend now-wife’s cat with a more well-behaved lookalike.

She had an all black cat that was extremely aggressive. It scratched everyone, hissed at everyone, and didn’t use its litterbox half the time. My wife insisted she could get it to behave better. One week she went overseas to visit her family and I was supposed to go to her apartment and feed it.

The first night I went over, it scratched my arm. I joked to the cat that it’s not special and I’ll replace it if it scratches again.

The joke stuck with me until I had thought about it enough that it wasn’t a joke.

The next morning I went to an animal shelter. Found an identical cat who was already litterbox trained and acclimated to people, but was a little skittish (it’s old owner died of a heart attack and the animal shelter people said they think that’s why it was skittish).

But overall, it was a lot friendlier and better behaved, and the skittishness would help it resemble the original cat.

So I adopted it, took it to my wife’s apartment, settled it in, then drove her original cat to another animal shelter.

It’s been 6 years since then. We got married 4 years ago. We still have the swapped cat. It answers to the original cat’s name. My wife knows nothing.

She loves this cat and brags about how much better behaved it is. Everytime I see it, I feel so bad.

Can you accept a guy that ever visited escorts?

Recently, my best friend met someone he is truly in love with. The friend is not me lol it’s a genuine situation that I felt it’s tricky when he approached me for advice.

He met her on a dating app and things went smoothly for both of them. In the past, he ever visited escorts as he was lonely. Presently, he is clean after taking his STD tests.

He asked me should he share that he ever visited escorts to her for full transparency but risk losing the relationship or avoid the situation at all cost?

I told him a relationship is built on complete honesty and trust, but I might be wrong because I have seen happy relationships built with some white lies to avoid hurting the other person.

I shared both perspectives. I am not sure if I did the right thing by offering an alternative view which might be malicious. What do you think ?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would ask – what kind of relationship does he want with this girl? Is it one in which he can share anything and everything safely and also have his past accepted by her? If that is the case, then sharing his past is the right thing to do. If she then decides that she cannot accept his past then I think they should not continue
2. Every girl will have a different comfort level about this, and it also depends on what positive characteristics the guy can offer in the long term future of the relationship.
   Ultimately, it’s better to be upfront earlier than come clean later. If the girl only finds out 5 years later and this is important for her to know, then she would feel even more cheated.
   At the same time, only share when he feels the relationship is getting serious and they’ve reached an assuring level of trust and vulnerability in the relationship.
   If they can’t see eye to eye about it, perhaps some of their values may not be aligned anyway, and it’s better to call it off earlier.
3. If his std is clear and he isn’t still going I feel don’t have to pressure him to say. His past is his to share whether he want to is his problem. Conversely the girl also don’t have to list out every of her past experience to him

I’m frustrated with him I don’t have any love for him

My husband love kids in 4 years of marriage 1st and 2 year we both postponed.

In 3rd year I got pregnant but got a miscarriage..still now we are trying but we didn’t succeed..if I eat something alike, immediately if u eat this u will never baby. if I took a warm bath u will never get a baby every time he mocks me and even in food .your not prepare good food that’s y we don’t have the energy to have a baby..and are fond of money all time. he always discourages me in my career and does nothing. But he never cares for me. Even If I fall sick during my periods he doesn’t take care of me and instead mocks me that everyone has felt more than you, for this pain also you are not able to tolerate.

He opened the company, for himself to earn money which I never suggested. No, he is blaming me, I’m doing a lot of work. What u do is just simply sit.

I worked as a project engineer after marriage he didn’t send me to work. But before others, he would behave s such as he is treating me like a queen..

He used to be an aggressive person whenever we fight he breaks the phone, laptop tv mirror etc.I should not oppose to what he says. I’m scared a lot to convey my side to him whenever he suggest something.he do mostly business on interest without financial background and brings trouble financially and mentally.

Sometimes I do feel like do I need to live like this till I die.. or every marriage life will be some problem if we started breaking nothing will remain ..or am I thinking too much…

Netizens’ comments

• If u already knew that the relationship is toxic, why bring children into the pic? Talk to him abt his behaviour and your feelings and if he does not change for better, u really need to consider your options. Dun keep quiet and expect miracles. It just wont happen.
• So many warning signs to get out of this relationship. Leave him.
• if you are looking for a sign… you already got the answer, everyone must be prepared to walk out of a toxic relationship no matter how painful it is…just imagine u have to spend the rest of your life in a toxic relationship? Be nice to self and love self..this is the basic of living, why should we come into this world to be abuse by our partners??? So in a way everything that happened in your life is you allow it!!!
• I can relate. Especially the throwing and breaking things. Even self harm during fights. Traumatic time truly.

What do you guys think about wearing sleeveless tops in the office?

Are they appropriate or considered to be revealing?

I’m not referring to spaghetti tops here but proper blouses that look more formal but are sleeveless. Can they be accepted as office wear?

I’ve never received any negative feedback about my attire to office before and I’m always very careful to dress conservatively and in neutral colours.

So I was really shocked when my boss came up to me and told me to cover myself up. He said that I’m here to work and not distract my male colleagues, and I should know better since I have worked in corporate for more than 10 years. I was so taken aback by his words that I couldn’t even mumble a reply.

For context I was wearing a sleeveless turtleneck with slacks…how much more could I have covered myself up?

Here are what netizens think:

• Some boss the brain from the gutter one, that’s why he will tell you things like that.
• The one that is getting distracted is your boss who have trouble controlling his urges.
• Your boss think it is the Qing Dynasty, you must cover from head to toe like bao ba zhang. Change job if not happy. No choice, boss paying the money you are just another corporate slave.
• No, it is not inappropriate. It is, however, inappropriate to wear sleeveless tops and then complain that the office is too cold!
• Of course not. Wearing sleeveless tops definitely looks cool unless ur underarms are shaved!!!!
• A woman should respect the office dress code. If its allowed, NO one has the Right to stop her. The appropriate thing to do is to avert your eyes if you get “uncomfortable” seeing it.
• I think some others who are responding are confusing “too revealing” with “too casual.”

A netizen shared how his “hatred for humanity” is getting worse and he hates almost everyone he interacts with.

He also shared about how he finds most people that he meets as insufferable and “bland”.

Here is the story:

My hatred for humanity is worsening

I have always been somewhat hateful of the human species, but these past couple of years it has only exacerbated.

The pandemic coupled with my inborn hatred for humans has led me to detest almost everyone I interact with.

Sure, there are good people out there who I enjoy being around. Unfortunately, the vast majority of the people I meet on a daily basis are just insufferable.

They’re for the most part superficial, stupid, repetitive, and downright bland. An interesting person is maybe 5/100 if I’m being generous.

I don’t want to get into the details as to why I hate humanity because that could take awhile, but basically the hatred I already have towards humanity is growing.

Editor’s note: This sounds like a supervillain origin story.

I am a Malaysian PR who has been working in Singapore for over 4 years now. Like every other Malaysian who is working in Singapore, I came here with only one thing in mind, hoping for a better future and able to provide a better life for my family back home. Now I am not so sure anymore.

Prices are increasing now. And I will soon be a third-year PR which means a 20% deduction of CPF.

At the time my disposable income will be even lower. Every month a whole chunk of my income is for the rent and I don’t know how long until my landlord would inform me of the rental increment. I heard the rental for some of my friends has increased as much as SGD900 per unit.

That’s insane. My landlord asked for a copy of my lease a few weeks ago, I was so scared I told him I have lost it. I am currently making a salary of SGD3,400 but after deduction of CPF, I am getting SGD2,800-ish. After paying the rental for my small room, all I have left is SGD2000.

The transport, the food and the PUB have all gone up in price. Other than that, I have to pay allowance to my family, insurance, phone bills and some monthly commitments back home. At the end of the month, I barely have two coins rubbed together.

When I moved here from Malaysia, I told myself I was going to enjoy my life here, I don’t want to fill my life with works and only money. But now I have to choose money over life because having a life means spending money here in Singapore.

The government has assured the people that assistance will be provided but only for Singaporeans.

What about us? We have left our homeland, our beloved family (some of us even left their kids back home) to come here for a better life and to contribute to the economy here. But what do we get in return? Don’t get me wrong. I will always be appreciative of the privilege the government has given us the Malaysian as compared to other nationalities. But to be honest, most work pass holders and PRs are the most vulnerable under this climate. Sometimes I am really frustrated by all the chaos going on around the world that’s started by the top 1% most elitist group.

They are enjoying all the resources that one commoner like us could only dream for. Yet they are still trying everything to make life more difficult for us who come from the bottom of the pyramid.

I know posting this here might subject me to some of the harsh critics from some readers. For example, what about the construction workers from Bangladesh and Pakistan or the domestic helpers from Indonesia and the Philippines. But this doesn’t mean my complain is not valid. As a work pass holder, we always face oppression from the employer. Because they knew we were expendable. They knew they could always get someone across the border to replace us, easily. Even though it the shut down of the border for the past two years has made employers’ life (only those who abuse this system) miserable. But the COVID is also another burden added on over shoulder. I remember me staying in my room alone during COVID breakdown, crying while everyone was shouting out from their unit for frontline workers. I felt so lonely and I miss my family. I am sure every other Malaysian who is working in Singapore shared the same emotion.

I am already getting words from some of my friends that they plan to move back Malaysia for good. I am not sure, I like Singapore so much but if the situation getting worse maybe I will look for another plan. I can’t imagine the life after GST hikes to 9%. It’s just so much uncertainties now.

seeking wisdom: it’s my first time being invited to wedding and the venue is quite expensive (think 300-odd)… i’m still a student so i would like to ask:

1) must my angbao be able to cover the cost of the seat?

2) if i don’t want to spend that amt, should I not go?

3) how should i reject then?

4) any advice that would help in making a decision!!!

thank you

Netizens’ comments

• Key thing as you mentioned. Just remember that you are still a student. Second, if that friend is truly your friend and knows your current status, what you give will not matter. What matters to him/her is that you attend his/her wedding. If that person is not close to you, it doesn’t matter if you don’t attend. Just my opinion.
• We really need to address this ludicrous expectation that the guest should cover the expense of the wedding. Give whatever amount you can afford or not at all. You’ll know if the couple are friends worth having based on how they react. Or if they are people you barely know, just say you travelling that day and unable to attend. You have zero obligation to attend.
• How much to give is entirely up to you, covering the cost is just a good gesture. If i expect my guest to cover the cost i might as well host the wedding on the moon since cost is basically covered by guest. But please don’t let this distract you from the deal KFC is running at the moment.
• You are not invited to pay for their wedding. Give within your means. If they decide to choose an expensive venue, they should be prepared to top up after the ang pows.

I’ll cut straight to the point.

My mom visited us yesterday morning at 10am while I was at work. She must’ve found the house a mess because once she left, she called me to rant about how filthy and cluttered the house was. she went on a long rant about my wife having an attitude and almost kicking her out for pointing out that the house looked filthy and smelled.

I just nodded and uh-um’d through the entire call then went home thinking this was no big deal. But once I walked in, my wife started arguing with me about my mom berating her for the state of the house and calling it names like filthy and calling my wife names like dirty beggar.

She asked for my thoughts on this “verbal abuse” that mom keeps subjecting her to and I told her to just ignore her cause she’s like this with my brother’s wife too. She got upset and said that no, she doesn’t have to ignore her and mom has one chance to apologize or she’s no longer welcome here.

I said that was an exaggeration because, for one, she knows how much of a clean freak mom is and two, and let’s be honest here, She should’ve tidied up the house if she didn’t want any negative comments from mom or any other guest for that matter.

She said she really had no time to clean when she’s taking care of the kids and the dishes and whatnot and insisted that mom should’ve had basic human decency and called beforehand. I said fine but no longer allowing mom to visit at least for the kids sake was, in my opinion, over the top.

She said if I was okay with the kids hearing my mom’s despicable words then she’s not. She then argued about how I shouldn’t blame her for not tidying up the house when there’s so much on her plate already. I said I get it but she was really making a big out of it. now I could talk to mom about visiting times but I think that my wife is to blame too here. My wife was mortified and is saying she’ll go through to no longer allow my mom into the house if this keeps happening and the fight just got worse.

I feel like I got stuck in between both sides of the argument and was being blamed for both of their behaviors.