I’ve been mad at my boyfriend for ignoring me, but I’ve finally realized he’s tired of me.

The last few months of our relationship, I’ve noticed he ignores my texts, won’t acknowledge me when I’m standing next to him talking to him, and just in general ignoring my existence.

I’ve been angry with him, trying to do the same, but I can’t. I can’t give him his own medicine because I love him. I love spending time with him, and I love communicating with him. Thinking on it today, I just realized it’s because he’s tired of me. He’s use to me. He doesn’t appreciate my time like I do his.

I just needed to tell someone this, because it’s the first time I’ve had a different view that wasn’t “I’m not good enough.” It’s a “I’m not appreciated the same way I’m expecting it.”

I don’t know what is next, but this was huge for me. I feel like I’m growing.

people seem to think I’m codependent or have some sort of anxiety separation, and I’m sorry, but it’s not the case.

I work 10 hours out of my day, so texting is our main communication. He’s asleep by the time I come home and I sleep in due to my schedule. He’s on his phone every minute that I’m home.

I’ll make my coffee, tell him I love him when I see him, and he’ll ignore me because he’s too into something on his phone, or respond 3-5 minutes later.

No I don’t think he’s cheating.

I haven’t seen any energy towards the relationship. No dates, gifts, watching tv shows together, movies, chore sharing, etc. The most I get is an “I love you.”

I try to plan dates a minimum of once a month, but he shoots them down. I buy him flowers and things that make me think of him occasionally and he doesn’t seem to appreciate them very much.

I’m going to talk to him before anything.

A bit of context is needed and I apologize it may belong. It all started when my boyfriend (m27) and I (f27) moved in last year.

We introduced ourselves to our neighbour (f30ish) and she seemed great, super nice. We quickly learned that the soundproofing of this building is nonexistent, you hear everything. Regular toned conversations, showers turning on, TVs, you name it, we can hear it. I have tried my hardest to be a quiet and respectful neighbour but the neighbour this is about didn’t seem to care and often watched her tv at full blast and would have loud conversations on the phone at all hours. But it didn’t really bother me that much, what can you do?

A few months after moving in our neighbour had a guy “friend” over and it was loud. Headboard banging, slapping, screaming, loud. It was hilarious we thought, the first time. But this turned into an almost daily, almost always around noon, occurrence for about a month and this girl had lungs.

I could hear it everywhere in the building, toilet, downstairs. Just when I was beginning to get fed up with it and contemplating complaining to management, see I work from home and it was incredibly disruptive, it seemed someone else had enough and complained before me. Ah, the sweet relief of quieter sx.

The screaming was toned down to moaning and I didn’t feel as assaulted in my own home anymore. I do think she thought we complained because she wouldn’t look at us anymore after that but I didn’t care, it was worth it.

Fast forward to two months, she and the guy and slowly was getting louder again. But I felt like I could deal with it since they normally happened around noon, or at least no earlier than 9. I had started working some days in the office as well so I wasn’t home to hear it as much, and most days I was gone before 7 am for my second job.

7:30am and I’m startled awake by a banging noise followed by some squeals and moans. I grabbed my pillow wrapped it around my head and tried to ignore it and sleep. 8am and I’m wide awake the noises were growing louder and the headboard was slamming with impressive force. I could feel the rage boiling up. My sleep is precious to me, I work two jobs and one is very heavy manual labour. Without thinking twice I grabbed our headboard and slammed our wall (the wall we share with our loud neighbor) and yelled not very nice things along the lines of “omg shut the f up” and “I’m so sick of this”. The silence from her side was incredibly satisfying at the moment and it has been beautifully quiet since.

Since BMT i have always had a messed up pooping cycle where as when i am in camp i don’t feel the need to for 5 days and only felt the need to after bookout, like my stomach just decided to ache after reaching home.

My longest was 10 days during confinement, But when I’m at home my poop cycle is the normal once or twice per day till i go back to camp.

Not a troll post but just curious if yall are like this too.

PS. My health is not affected by this, just that I’m surprised that the human body can actually hold in 10 days worth of poop.

Netizens’ comments

• Sounds like it might be travel constipation, it’s when a person undergoes constipation when they’ve traveling, the travel leads to a variety of factors affecting this such as a change in routine, change in diet, change in toilet (maybe the toilet in BMT is less clean, and you don’t constantly have access to it, so your body is less inclined to defecate).

• Same for me during bmt. But you have to force yourself to poop. After a couple months, I go once every other day in camp
  Holding it in for so long will mess up your colon and large intestine health in the long term

• I had a bunkmate like this too. So much so that he would always go home during the nights out every Wed just to poop. We’re talking LCK to Pasir Ris.

My husband is so spoilt and lazy

He has gastritis issue and if he don’t consume food by 11.40 , he will have tummy pain.

Today I was engrossed in my work and didn’t do breakfast , I just made morning tea.

The bread was on the Dining table and the necessary filings were in the fridge..

He sat there in the sofa , just next to dining table and didn’t eat it . ( he wants me to serve him in the plate and keep in the dinning table , he don’t know to make a simple sandwich)

By the time I made the lunch, he got severe tummy pain.

This is not the first time. This happens when ever he misses timing.

Am so fed up , am not gonna bring him medicine.

This time am gonna let him face the consequences.

For all his laziness, am so angry with his mom. For she didn’t train him . But poor MIL , she is also helpless in taming him.

Here are what netizens thinks:

• Then you better train your son now ah, if not next time your dil will blamed you for not training your son too.Cause whether did the mother train or not, is your role now to train especially in your own expectations. You are living with him together, you will be spending 50 years from now on. Do not expect the mother to train him beforehand when she don’t even know what is your expectations.

• Sounds like natural selection

• U tame the wrong beast in him

This happened yesterday.

I was watching Dr Strange 2. There was a couple sat beside me. One of them reached first while the other was late and missed out the first act of the movie (about 10mins or so).

So when the BF came, the GF started explaining what happened in the beginning (i assume). At first, i thought it was fine because she is basically helping him catch up.

A few minutes later, i hear murmers from them again. It continued for another 4 or 5 times for the next 5 minutes and i wasnt having it anymore.

I turned to the BF and said “Bro, can you keep the discussion for later? We trying to watch here.”

He replied and i quote, “Ok. You dont have to be rude about it.” They then proceed to move to another empty seat.

I was like WTF? Was i being rude for telling him to shut up? And whats wrong with peoples theatre etiquette nowadays? Its not my first time experiencing this since the cinema opened.

Hi Just need some dating advice and maybe the opinion of sg men

I am a 25 F who had been focused on academics + career for all her life. Now just trying to get into the dating scene. Not having much luck in the workplace and so I have turned to dating apps. I am used to being chased, but things never go past the 3rd date where I lose interest or I notice something that maybe wouldn’t work if we get into a relationship.

Anyway, this time, I matched with a guy, like a 30 year old, with a work schedule almost as busy as mine. We text daily leading up to our first meeting and I thought we had a quite good time. (Nothing amazing, but it wasn’t horrible).

And for the first time, I arrived home with no “let’s do this again next time” text, which is a new experience for me. Because I wanted to meet again, I sent a “see u again soon? ” text and he replied with “sure haha”, which I tried not to read too much into.

After that, we continue to text somewhat daily. There are days I get too busy to return a text, and other days he’d do the same, but there was still continuation of conversations, initiation of new ones on both parts. But what bugs me is that there is no initiation of another date…

I tried to hint, saying that I have taken leave from work some time next week and all he said was “it is good, you do need to rest sometimes”.  I am pretty straightforward usually and wouldn’t mind initiating another date, but I can’t help but feel like maybe I needed to read the room?

I have discussed this with friends and their advice to me varies: from ask him out, maybe he didn’t want to seem desperate? To maybe he isn’t that interested, don’t waste your time. I have to admit, at this point, I am clueless myself if I am attracted to him or just bothered because he bruised my ego.

This has never happened to me before and I wonder if I am getting the taste of my own medicine. He is an attractive person himself, and so maybe I have met my match (pun intended).

Some insight into a sg guy’s mind would be nice. Maybe I am a boring date? Am I just being left as an option to him? Thanks in advance!

So yeah, we were out drinking last night. She went to bed ~3 am, I stayed up until 4 (had to clean the house) and fell asleep blissfully next to her.

This morning we woke up & things got steamy, but I was noticing a dark residue forming at the base of my bird. I thought she was bleeding but she insisted it didn’t hurt and to keep going. I’m not one to say no, so we fooled around some more until we changed positions and I caught a whiff and looked. Definitely a large unwiped brown stain going from her butt down her leg. I told her she was definitely bleeding and we should stop, then she hopped in the shower to clean off. I noticed a large streak on my sheets and quickly bundled them up and threw them it the washer before she could see.

I’m not sure if she even knows she pang sai herself. Should I just sweep this under the rug and pretend it never happened? She didn’t go overboard with drinking so Im a little concerned this had nothing to do w that but I imagine it would be extremely embarrassing for her.

Both early 20s. I don’t wanna tell my friends about this for obvious reasons. What would you do?

Here are what netizens think:

• Tell her on your death bed

• let her know but re-i force the idea that it was no big deal. i think the biggest issue is that she may be able to get an infection from that though.

• she knows, she had to have noticed in the shower. i am pretty sure she is mortified. i honestly dont think it’s worth a mention unless it becomes a recurring issue.

• You really are a gem of a nice person. You’re handling it maturely and keeping a safe space for you and your partner. Kudos to you