My gf (30f) pees on me (31m) in the shower

My gf (who is a doctor) and I are pretty active together in bed and I would say both of us are pretty adventurous in terms of nastiness as long as there is consent. Recently we have started to shower together after lovemaking more often.

I have communicated to my girlfriend many times that I dont have an affinity for any type of “pee-play”. As a personal preference I find it quite off putting.

Last night after we finished making love, while I was washing my face in the shower, she started to pee right in front of me and some of it got on my legs.

I did not realize until I finished washing my face and I did get quite upset but did not raise my voice. I simply mentioned that she knows I don’t like this type of thing especially without consent.

She laughed when I mentioned the word consent and said it’s entirely harmless. And this wasn’t the first time she’s done this – only that I asked her to stop in prior occurrences.

Anyways I am still quite peeved over this because I see it as a breech of consent and trust. Her view is that I am over reacting and we should be comfortable with each other’s “biological processes”.

Just wanting y’all’s opinion on this. I can definitely be high strung at times but I really think this is a hill I’m willing to die on.

Netizens’ comments

1. If you don’t like it, she has to respect.
   But peeing in the shower is just peeing in the shower. It means she is quite comfortable with you. Maybe too much in your opinion.
2. Stop showering with her
   Explain to her explicitly why you are stopping and why you don’t trust her because she can respect something as simple and not doing her biological process on you.
   If she refuses to give or tries to vilify you, it’s time to start reassessing your relationship because that’s kind of sociopathic.
3. Perfect ‘reverse the genders’ type of thread and I’m not the type to think that always applies, but it definitely does in this case.

This time last year I had 30k in my bank account.

Today, I have a nice $500 and just recently had to move back in with my parents, phone gets cut off in 2 days if I don’t pay the bill that hasn’t been paid in months, which if I do I’ll have an even nicer $200 to my name.

But hey, on the bright side I start a new job tomorrow that is close to my parents house, going to be able to pay off $1700 in CC debt and unpaid bills and slowly get my shit (once great) life back on track.

I don’t want to be a burden to my family any longer than I have to be so I’m hoping I can be back in a place of my own in a few months. But this time I’ll take life seriously.

Edit:

I ended up quitting my job because of crap management, thought I could have easily found another one cause of my qualifications but fast forward to today I guess I thought wrong.

Drank alcohol and ate out everyday, buying stupid sht. I learned from it and won’t ever do that again. It’s a blessing my parents let me come back home while I get my shit together.

Netizens’ comments

1. Lesson to all. Don’t quit your job unless you have another lined up that’s pays equal or more.
2. I lost a TON of money trying to get rich quick. Never doing that again. Saving my money and not doing any schemes this time
3. Whatever happened to you this year, stinks. I hope next year is better for you. On the bright side – you have your parents who are letting you move in with them. You won’t be homeless. So I hope you appreciate that. And I hope it means they love you very very much !
4. It’s rough times right now with inflation and so many other financial issues but if you were able to save $30k in the past you should be able to do it again even better after you get back on your feet.

In the diverse landscape of Singapore, where cultures intertwine seamlessly, one Malaysian’s journey at an American MNC has shattered preconceived notions. As a newcomer, expectations were colored by stereotypes, but the reality turned out to be a delightful surprise.

Arriving with a set of preconceived notions about Singaporeans being reserved, rude, and possibly prejudiced, the Malaysian employee quickly discovered that these assumptions were far from the truth. Contrary to expectations, every encounter in the company’s hallways and public spaces was met with smiles, breaking the stereotype of Singaporeans being tight-lipped.

Here is the story:

This might not be a complaint you’re looking for but I would like to share my perspective here as a Malaysian working here for more than 1 year at an American MNC (yes I know quite new right?!)

My primary impression before started was that Singaporean was tight, rude, never smile, and racist. Being a minority ( I guess you can know my race) was also making me worried that I will be unable to perform religious tasks without making few eyes turned.

But boy oh boy was I wrong. Not a single individual that I met in the company that never smile in the hallway (or sometimes in the public places). My colleagus are super tolerant. People are used to holding door for others. I’ve heard of more than 10 sorry’s daily from others who might think they inconvenience you ( eventhough they’re not).

Food is great, public transport are even greater! And I am also smiling wide at every end of the month (due to the currency of course).

Of course there are some issues but what country exists without issues right?. I would say thay being able to contribute here is a blessing and I am solely grateful for the people here. Keep going great guys!

Conclusion: In the heart of Singapore, a Malaysian’s perspective shifted from skepticism to appreciation. The workplace culture, the warmth of the people, the culinary adventures, and the financial benefits collectively shaped an enriching experience. As the journey continues, the Malaysian employee looks forward to contributing further to the vibrant tapestry of Singapore’s professional landscape. Keep going great, Singapore!

A netizen shared how she called her sister’s boyfriend ugly and lazy and kicked him out of the house after he made fun of her boyfriend.

Here is the story:

I have been dating my boyfriend Ryan for 1 year now. Last week was his birthday and I threw him a surprise birthday dinner with our parents, siblings, and close friends at my house.

Our families get along great and it was a very relaxing evening for all of us, until the incident. My sister had brought her new BF of 3 months, Max.

When Ryan was 14 he suffered serious burns from a fire and was in the ICU for weeks. Fortunately, he recovered but the left part of his face and a decent part of his neck is now scarred, he lost his left eye and 1.5 finger, and his left arm is barely functional due to scar tissue.

I find him very handsome, not only because I love his personality but the “healthy” part of his face is clearly objectively very attractive and he has a decent dad bod which I love.

However, he can be insecure about his injuries when it comes to dating because he dated a couple of girls in the past that turned out to have a fetish for scars that creeped him out. He isn’t comfortable with strangers commenting on his appearance but doesn’t mind joking about it with his close friends. He is generally a shy guy but has a great sense of humor and a lot of friends.

Later in the night, it was us, his brother, and my 2 sisters with their partners. Max had a little too much to drink and was getting vocal about Ryan’s appearance.

It started with curious questions but then he made inappropriate comments about how I must be into ”freaky stuff” and bad boys and apparently pirates?? He also said that he must have gotten his job out of pity (Ryan is a an interior designer while Max is unemployed by choice).

I warned him to stop since Ryan was getting uncomfortable. The last straw was when Max said “Why would you date an old and ugly guy unless you have some weird fetish, does his burnt arm and his missing finger turn you on?”

I saw red. I told him “If anyone is ugly here it’s you, not only is your personality terrible but your face could use some help as well. Maybe [sister’s name] has a fetish for lazy ugly men.” Then I kicked everyone out, it was late anyway and the mood was ruined. My sister was silent the whole time, she didn’t even look embarrassed.

I’m not asking if I was right to defend my bf but I feel bad for calling Max out on his appearance. I recognize now that it was a low blow. There is nothing wrong with his face, he’s a regular guy, I just couldn’t control my anger after his stupid comments.

Ryan found my explosion hilarious. My sister isn’t returning my texts but my mother called me and told me that I should apologize to her because I embarrassed her bf and her taste in front of others. My sister is still dating that idiot, her argument was that this is just his sense of humor, he enjoys dark humor and Ryan should have learned to deal with it after all these years.

The modern dating scene is often seen as a never-ending cycle of confusion and conflict. A lot of people, especially women, are fed up with the idea that men are somehow entitled to pay for everything. In this article, we’ll explore why this mentality exists and why the ‘modern man’ is being labeled as a ‘loser’ when it comes to splitting the bill.

A woman said:

Realize a lot sg guys quite loser. Go out with girl split payment, buy drink split payment, buy dinner split payment, buy house split payment also. No money no looks no car.

Netizens respond:

SG guys are gentlemen. Very good, best upbringing. Did their parents proud. First they dint rape, scam or ditch wives and remarry illegally than live double life. They split payment as they dont owe the girls anything. Unlike india girls asking men to buy food, clothing, charge their phone for them as they are not reserved type. Singapore girls are independent, they dont expect or owe anyone anything. No ties if they split the bill. India indians guys pay for chaya and expect her to belong to him. You dont wayang here. More of your stuff you may have to deal with.

A netizen pointed out “Nowadays woman also working”

I don’t see the issue with splitting though. Sometimes split, sometimes treat, and sometimes get treated back. It’s a partnership anyway, supposed to be a team, not just one sided. This isnt the old days whereby men are sole breadwinners and women sit at home to be housewives. In todays day and age, both genders are working, earning good money. If you want equal rights then be equal. Dont ask for equal rights when it only benefits you.

Mother say no such thing as free lunch

I’m a mother of 2 girls , I 10 fingers 10 toes 100% strongly support AA , must educate all girls outthere no free lunch , and reject free things from men , girls don’t fall into trap of all fishy mens’ trap.

Here are what netizens think:

• To be fair with men, how abt us girls? What do we have to offer? If u are sincerely emotionally connected with ur partner u dont need to be so calculative. It should be a give and take situation.

• Cars and houses really expensive. Just date someone way older like 45 years old when you are 20. The 45 year old sure have car and house and will pay for everything

So in fact, my brother was born quite exactly one year before I was born and died when he was one month old due to a heart problem.

My father completely weird about these things, decided not to talk about his death. So I always assumed that he was buried. Fast forward to my twenties, I’ve had a boyfriend, let’s just call him psycho we were laying in bed a Sunday around midnight and he was telling me stories from his life.

Like the time he did a courage test with his friend when he was young. It consisted in walking into the nearby cemetery and peeing on a grave. The first to run away would lose. So they peed on a grave,

Psycho on a smaller grave which wasn’t like the normal ones, these little graves were aligned the horizontal way, the normal ones the vertical way. This night he dreamt of a little boy coming out of the grave and being angry with him because he made a mess out of “his home” Suddenly, I tell him to put his shoes on and get his jacket.

He wanted to know what was going on. I couldn’t explain it, I just knew I had to go with him. He wanted to drive his car, I said no and took the keys. Without ever having been in that cemetery, i drove there, i knew instinctively where to drive..we arrived to the main, big entry of that cemetery, and I tell him: we have to walk that way and then turn right.. pointing at some candle lights in the back of the cemetery. He was so mindblown, but told me: if you are searching the grave where I’ve peed on, I’m quite sure it was back there but on the left side. We searched and searched, in the middle of the night, more than one hour, but nothing familiar to me.

We went back home but I couldn’t sleep. Next day I’ve asked my father where my brother was burried and he answered me..it was exactly that cemetery and after I asked for the grave number I’ve found out, that psycho peed on my brother’s grave… In fact it was going on the right side, exactly where I felt I should have searched.