I had never dated *finished* until the night my friend of 6 years and I had this tension around us that could be cut with a knife. Blame the things we never said… or the extra alcohol.

We were tipsy, not drunk. I take consent extremely seriously so we half-jokingly played trivia about each other before making out and eventually engaging in oral.

He ate me out so good I lost my voice. Returned the favour and he was reacting to every bob of my head. I can still feel his fingertips caress my face while he muttered words of praise. We then cuddled, showered each other in kisses and fell asleep.

This all happened at his place. Not a shitty hotell, not the back of a car. He did things right. But the next morning he was cold and curt towards me. Sent indirect about me needing to leave cause he had to go to work. Didn’t have an issue with that cause we’re super close and I know his schedule, but it was odd that he didn’t even drop me off nor offer me a measly cup of coffee. Left hungry, dirty and very confused. Walk of shame, yup.

Texted him to meet up for weekly lunch together. Left on reading. Did not pick up my 2 calls and I will not call him a third for I rather die than beg.

But we always had an amazing bond, endless love for each other and, well… he was my first. I know that means nothing to men but it did mean something to me.

Have I been used? Is he conflicted about his feelings? A common friend says we’re in the middle of skinny love (both parties wanna date but neither makes a move) yet my efforts debunk that! He’s the one running away after getting some honey.

Here are what netizens think:

• Honestly, I (f) once hooked up with a really good friend of mine, regretted it, and then was distant towards him/tried to act like nothing happened because I wasn’t interested in pursuing anything further. My friend definitely seemed interested in a relationship/seeing where things went and I felt like a horrible human being because I just wanted to forget we hooked up at all. It took a while (years), but we are actually good friends again and both of us have partners who suit us way better. Sorry to put it bluntly, but sometimes friends hook up and it means nothing to the other person.

• I don’t think you were used. I think he was just relaxed enough to act on what he wanted in the moment but now regrets it. 

• I would not try for some big confrontation. Hang back a bit and then contact him in a normal way. “Hey, I don’t know what’s going on with you but you have a lot of my stuff and I’d like access to it. I wish we could talk but if you can’t handle it right now then let me get my things so I can use them and we can talk whenever you’re ready “..

• This happened to me when I hooked up with a close friend. I called and asked him for reassurance a few day later, that our friendship was not going to be affected by the night. He freaked out, said something like, “I thought you’d be more cool about it.”

Became a sugar daddy because I’m lonely and disabled.

With my level of disability and being social in person is nearly impossible.

I can’t really go to bars/hold a job/do anything socially, I run into people just walking down the street, and let alone being in a dark bar. Doesn’t work out well even with me trying several times. Nearly got into a fight once over it.

So I tried dating apps – those are a joke. Too few of women and too many guys. Hard to stand out.

So I found sugar dating sites – sifting through the undesirables is easy enough. I’m early 20s so I purely wanted women my age.

During all this I basically had a new girl every weekend, met some cool hippy chick, and eventually met a girl I really liked. Well 3 actually. Chose one and let the rest go.

Sure it cost me quite a bit but the pool of women was amazing. Ever since covid it’s been dead though and I’m lonely again.

Just thought I’d leave this here for any other guys with disabilities that there’s options out there if you can afford it.

Oh and there was lots of bed activities, if you know what I mean. Some quite good – some quite bad. It’s a box of chocolates.

I (20F) have lived with my fiance (23M) near his mother (55F) for 7 months.

I see her every day, she acts fine to my face but talks behind my back. She does the same thing with everyone including her children and grandchildren.

My fiance heard from 2 or 3 people that his mother called him hurtful things. So I said “you know what you say about people can get back to them” where I then explained the situation and she lied saying she didn’t say that. She never said that. I told her she would have to ask her son who it was. The next time they talked she said I snapped at her and I said he was mad at her and never wanted to talk to her again (I didn’t even hint at that.) So the next day I asked if I came off rude and she said “No, you just stated it”

Last night I cut my fiances hair and she got upset with me over it and was talking to HIM about how I was doing it wrong when I was right there. Then she lied saying she doesn’t do that (talk about the person with them right there). My finace asked her why she was lying, she avoided the question then went on to talk about me to her children saying I am always rude and smart off to her everyday.

I was going to send her a message saying if I was being rude to tell me so I can stop but my finace asked me not to say anything.

What can I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• You have to make it clear to your husband or there will be endless troubles.

• Sometimes its better to speak your mind rather than be quiet and let her take control of the situation.

My bf seems very nua – what should I do?

Hi, seeking genuine advice here. I am F (26) and have been with my Bf (26) for around 10 months. I realize there is an issue between us.

Everytime we meet on one day during the weekend, we would just end up at mostly my home (because its has lesser people), then watching Netflix, eating at home and sleeping. To me, it does feel very nice because we can be so chill with each other and live like a family, but on the other hand I sort of question this because we are still a new couple but we are not going for dates out. The only date we go for is food dates.

When I see my friends’ social media, I do envy them sometimes when I see their stories of them going on various activities with their bf e.g. to events, Sentosa, game arena, I do wonder why I did not experience this.

I feel that without these date experiences, it feels that I am not really enjoying the full package of the relationship. Yes I did bring up and suggest for places to go to during our dates, and he is always willing to accompany me. But I do not see him initiating much ideas, which made me feel that he is not putting in effort, the thing when the guy gets you and then he stops putting in effort flashed past my mind.

Initially when we first started, his initiations were also food dates only, so I am not sure if it is because he is not an explorer kind of person or what. Somehow I just feel down about it, any experiences or advice to share? Thanks in advance

My soon to be ex wife wants me to lie about the reason we’re getting divorced (her infidelity) and has begun insinuating the reason she cheated was because I did.

hello everyone. I’m 38m. I was married to my soon to be ex wife (39f) for 15 years, until I found out she was cheating on me. We’re in the middle of divorce proceedings.

I don’t talk about why our marriage ended to many people out of respect for our kids, however a few close friends and family have asked and I have told them.

One of my best friends is married to one of my ex wife’s close friends. He was one of the people I confided what really happened to, and apparently this has affected his wife’s friendship with my exwife, according to my exwife she has become distant and doesn’t want to hang out anymore.

My ex wife has now asked me to lie about the reason why we got divorced, and to say to people who don’t know that she cheated that it “just didn’t work out”, and to tell the people who do know about her infidelity that I also had begun to develop feelings for my current girlfriend (31f) while we were still married, in my ex wife’s words, “so her cheating doesn’t seem “as bad”. This is absolutely untrue, and even though I knew my current girlfriend while I was married, there were never any romantic feelings until about a year after we separated and divorce proceedings had begun.

This morning at my sons football game, my girlfriend, who has a son on the same team, was talking to another mother, and that mother made a “joke” about my girlfriend “snatching” me from my exwife. My girlfriend was confused and asked her to elaborate, and this woman said that my ex had insinuated to her that my girlfriend and I had begun dating a full year before we actually had, while I was still married, which my wife knows unequivocally isn’t true.

I want to keep a civil relationship for our kids sake, but I’m incredibly upset at her for not only suggesting I lie to cover up a mistake she made that destroyed our family, but also that she’s spinning the narrative that she only cheated because I was cheating too.

Is this enough to cut off all contact, with the exception of things that don’t directly have to do with our sons?

So I’m just chilling at home. Go on Snapchat see who’s broken up and who’s birthday it is that I couldn’t care less about when I got an add from my cousin.

I knew it was my cousin because her username is literally her exact full name so I added her back and that’s when she sent me some explicit photos of herself 5 minutes later saying “you like?”

I don’t think she realised who she sent that to and so I sent back a photo of my face quoting “our parents are cousins.”

She then realised who I was. And then blocked me. The end.

Our family is messed up and that side of the family have completely disowned me so it wouldn’t shock me if she didn’t remember me.

Plus we haven’t seen each other in about 7 years lol.

Netizens’ comments

• Can’t be worse than this one dude in my school bus who told us of this story where he and the girl that made out found out they’re cousins through a family reunion.
• Print the photos, frame them, then give them to her as a present and say “thought you might want these back”

A netizen shared how her boyfriend is bi and all his exes are all guys, which she doesn’t have any issues with. But she found out that he is on the “receiving end” of his past relationships and now she feels like he can’t provide her with security.

Here is the story:

“My boyfriend is bi and his exes were all guys. I’m aware and don’t have any issues with IT.

Recently I got to know one of his close friends and he briefly shared that my boyfriend was the bottom in all his relationships and hookups. I thought he was kidding but he laughed it off and said I can ask my boyfriend if I don’t believe it.

I’m a bit thrown off as my boyfriend looks like the top in a gay relationship instead. He’s tall, fit, tanned, and is quite well endowed down there.

I didn’t ask him directly initially and snooped around his room when I stayed over. While rummaging through belongings, I found his adult toy and it’s bigger than mine… wtf.

I confronted him about the adult toy and asked him about his bottom status and he didn’t even deny it. He said he likes the feeling from receiving and uses the adult toy now for his own pleasure now that he’s attached with me.

He even clarified that’s where the male g spot is and there’s nothing to be ashamed of receiving pleasure from there. The only taboo is straight people might see it as gay, which he emphasizes is not as it’s an anatomy thing.

He also reassured me that he enjoys sleeping with me and has never betrayed me with any guys. I trust him on this.

I tried to move past all of this but it’s challenging, especially when we sleep together. I will imagine him being penetrated and dominated and I just lose all my interest in him. I just cannot unsee and unhear that he’s a bottom.

My subconscious self also tells me that he’s less manly and can’t provide me with the security I need. I know it’s selfish of me to think this way but I can’t help it.

Anyone who has the same experience or has advice on how I should deal with this?”

Editor’s note: He’s not cheating on you, so what’s the problem?

There are many jobs in this world, but some types of jobs are normally frowned upon because of moral values and society’s perception.

But at the end of the day, the one that makes it is definitely happier than those who are mocking. A netizen shared a story of how he observed KTV hostesses making it big in the late-night industry.

Here is what he said

I’ve been to KTV numerous times and in my observation.

I notice that the very pretty hostess tend to be having a LV or chanel bag, a rolex on their wrist,a iPhone and a sugar daddy waiting for them in a bmw sending her back to her hostel at times detour to somewhere somewhere lah.

The not so pretty one has a Burberry bag, a seiko watch, a xiaomi phone and take a mrt or taxi at times beg for a lift straight back to her hostel. This is a true fact in the KTV world

Netizens’ comments

1. Is no different, The one with top marks gets headhunted and high job offers. Ppl make a big fuss when attractive people make money and have a good life. But truth is everyone is making use of their natural endowment, be it If you have a good voice, good brain, strong lungs, fast legs and make a career of it, you are no different from someone else making a living with their own gifts from nature.
2. If they willing to lie down, I am sure they will be owning a house and car instead of just LV bags.
3. if you’re going to KTV just to look at bags and watches, you got your priority wrong.
4. So u wanna moonlight at ktvs so doing homework to see which category u want to aim for eh is it?

I am an insurance agent. So many negative and hilarious posts about my job. Thought I’ll offer another perspective to some people who are considering joining.

My credentials: I am under 30, in this line for years, quarter-million annual taxable income, MDRT and all the other awards, blah blah blah….

1. Do not underestimate the privilege of having no liabilities & responsibilities.

I joined this line at 21, and only needed to take care of myself financially. This means I could afford to earn only $12k a year back then while building my career slowly and organically. Treating every day working as a learning opportunity rather than being super despo to close the sale. Those desperate to close the sale usually fail because consumers are not idiots. Then it becomes a vicious cycle, no sale = no money = more despo. Trust me, you will earn like nuts the first few years. That’s normal. Those “successful”, “young” agents that earn money “fast” are liars. There are so many dirty tricks in this industry to con the consumers. If you know you know.

2. Literally get good at money.

So many agents only call themselves “investment specialists” but can only sell their companies’ ILP. That’s bull. I know so many junior agents that do not even have a brokerage account and whatever issues the client has, ILP will always be the answer. While you are earning like peanuts, you should invest your own money and be legit good. Attend courses like CFA, CFP, ChFC, Certified Private Banking etc and APPLY the knowledge learnt. Do your own investments, talk to doctors to be aware of medical trends, be extremely familiar with all the different hospitals processes. Personally, I have certain qualifications and run my own investment holdings company, hence clients trust my advice more than some XMM in a LV bag talking about why her ILP is the best.

3. Network like f.

Consumers can buy insurance online and this trend will increase in the future. So what is the agent’s value proposition? I am the problem solver. Need some free legal advice? I can set up an informal dinner with my lawyer clients. Need a medical appt soon, I can bypass the long waiting time and set one for you within 3 days. Need to divorce your spouse? I know many private investigators and dirty tricks to increase your chances of winning. Need car mechanics and workshops? I get kickbacks from the shops and pass it to you as a form of savings. Need renovators and interior designers? I know people. Wanna get a job in IB (JP, UBS, Morgan Stanley etc), I know people, lemme set up a lunch. This network is exclusive to paying customers only, not even my extended family or friends have access to it, unless they are paying customers. The more the customers pay, the more priority you get in my network. So, it becomes a bidding war among customers and it makes good business sense.

That’s all. You can earn a lot in this career, but it is all blood sweat and tears. Young naive people also quite dumb ah, you think can just suka suka earn $100K fresh out of school, with no qualifications meh? There is always a price to pay, hope this enlightens people out there.

Maybe I shall do a confession exposing how agents appear successful? and churning practices? hahahahaha

I am 27(M) and she is 22(F). We dated for three years and recently broke up mid last year but remained as friends.

While I still harbour feelings for her, she has already moved on and started dating other guys. It was taking an emotional toll on me just to be friends with her, till I told her we can’t be friends anymore for the time being until I have moved on. She agreed and we stopped all communication.

She suddenly messaged me one day asking if I’m willing to be her sugar daddy. She is a struggling student coming from a broken family. She really does not have much money each month. It barely covers her rent.

I am trying to move on, having this kind of relationship is definitely counter productive. I asked her, “what would you do if I say No?” Her reply was to find someone else.

I asked her again, “are you sure you want to exchange S for money?” Her answer was “With my studies, I really can’t work, so my answer is Yes”.

I loved her so much. I even planned to marry her after she graduated. But to be hit with such a surprise is a bit tough and hard to swallow. The girl you loved was willing to sell her body for money.

I really don’t know what to do. To say Yes is stupid. To say No hurts me.

Here are what netizens think:

• Really sad and disappointing to see young girls resorting to prostitution to earn money. Better to avoid her, you don’t know who’s she’s been with.
• Whats her number? My friend wants to talk some sense into her
• I can’t judge her for what she chooses to do as she’s probably in a tight spot but worth considering if she’s been engaged with others for such services.You’ve got a lot more to lose since she’s not into you.
• Don’t do it bro, I know you probably want to do it to “protect” her and I know you still have feelings for her. But it will crush you, to her sex is a means to an end, to you there are feelings attached. You only stand to lose in this situation.She’s an adult, let her make her decisions and let her bear the consequences. You owe her nothing, time to focus on yourself.