The modern dating scene is often seen as a never-ending cycle of confusion and conflict. A lot of people, especially women, are fed up with the idea that men are somehow entitled to pay for everything. In this article, we’ll explore why this mentality exists and why the ‘modern man’ is being labeled as a ‘loser’ when it comes to splitting the bill.

A woman said:

Realize a lot sg guys quite loser. Go out with girl split payment, buy drink split payment, buy dinner split payment, buy house split payment also. No money no looks no car.

Netizens respond:

SG guys are gentlemen. Very good, best upbringing. Did their parents proud. First they dint rape, scam or ditch wives and remarry illegally than live double life. They split payment as they dont owe the girls anything. Unlike india girls asking men to buy food, clothing, charge their phone for them as they are not reserved type. Singapore girls are independent, they dont expect or owe anyone anything. No ties if they split the bill. India indians guys pay for chaya and expect her to belong to him. You dont wayang here. More of your stuff you may have to deal with.

A netizen pointed out “Nowadays woman also working”

I don’t see the issue with splitting though. Sometimes split, sometimes treat, and sometimes get treated back. It’s a partnership anyway, supposed to be a team, not just one sided. This isnt the old days whereby men are sole breadwinners and women sit at home to be housewives. In todays day and age, both genders are working, earning good money. If you want equal rights then be equal. Dont ask for equal rights when it only benefits you.

Mother say no such thing as free lunch

I’m a mother of 2 girls , I 10 fingers 10 toes 100% strongly support AA , must educate all girls outthere no free lunch , and reject free things from men , girls don’t fall into trap of all fishy mens’ trap.

Here are what netizens think:

• To be fair with men, how abt us girls? What do we have to offer? If u are sincerely emotionally connected with ur partner u dont need to be so calculative. It should be a give and take situation.

• Cars and houses really expensive. Just date someone way older like 45 years old when you are 20. The 45 year old sure have car and house and will pay for everything

So in fact, my brother was born quite exactly one year before I was born and died when he was one month old due to a heart problem.

My father completely weird about these things, decided not to talk about his death. So I always assumed that he was buried. Fast forward to my twenties, I’ve had a boyfriend, let’s just call him psycho we were laying in bed a Sunday around midnight and he was telling me stories from his life.

Like the time he did a courage test with his friend when he was young. It consisted in walking into the nearby cemetery and peeing on a grave. The first to run away would lose. So they peed on a grave,

Psycho on a smaller grave which wasn’t like the normal ones, these little graves were aligned the horizontal way, the normal ones the vertical way. This night he dreamt of a little boy coming out of the grave and being angry with him because he made a mess out of “his home” Suddenly, I tell him to put his shoes on and get his jacket.

He wanted to know what was going on. I couldn’t explain it, I just knew I had to go with him. He wanted to drive his car, I said no and took the keys. Without ever having been in that cemetery, i drove there, i knew instinctively where to drive..we arrived to the main, big entry of that cemetery, and I tell him: we have to walk that way and then turn right.. pointing at some candle lights in the back of the cemetery. He was so mindblown, but told me: if you are searching the grave where I’ve peed on, I’m quite sure it was back there but on the left side. We searched and searched, in the middle of the night, more than one hour, but nothing familiar to me.

We went back home but I couldn’t sleep. Next day I’ve asked my father where my brother was burried and he answered me..it was exactly that cemetery and after I asked for the grave number I’ve found out, that psycho peed on my brother’s grave… In fact it was going on the right side, exactly where I felt I should have searched.

I met her at my work as she was a new employee so I chatted with her and got to know her. From the beginning, I’ve liked her and I always tried to chat her up and spend more time with her at work. I obviously respected boundaries and only did it in a friendly way, but I don’t know how it happened but she started to ask me to come to chat with her more and spend more time with her.

While nothing too serious has happened while we’ve been hanging out and chatting for the past few months, she has dropped quite a few hints for me. It’s like every time she sees me she blushes, she makes little comments about my appearance and my personality, just a bunch of stuff that seems to make her feelings quite obvious. I’ve been doing the same back when I feel it’s appropriate to let her know how I see her as well and I pay attention to her responses to make sure I’m not overstepping and boundaries.

To me, it just seems like a massive green light to try and establish something before she starts to think that I’m a lost cause that won’t make a move. For example, she recently asked me if I liked another girl I was chatting with. It seems like if I don’t make my feelings clear, she will start to think that I like someone else or just don’t like her.

However, her life just isn’t very relationship friendly. We chat a lot at work, but her parents are extremely controlling and don’t allow her to spend time with her school friends, so I seriously doubt they’d allow for an older guy to take her to the movies or something. I don’t know how I should move forward with this relationship as it seems the only time we can see each other is when we’re working. We’ve been texting lately but I was never a fan of that kind of stuff and I just can’t keep a conversation with her that way. I think I know the answer, that I need to decide to give up on her or decide to wait, but I just don’t want to close myself off to her and make the decision.

Also for what I feel is the elephant in the room, the age difference. Legally the age difference is acceptable where I live (12 years). There’s still a moral argument which I personally think is far more important than legality, personally, I feel like an insecure guy… there’s no special thing that separates me from her. That being said it’s still something that concerns me and makes me feel guilty because I’ve always looked down upon age gaps till I had feelings for her, I’ll let others decide what to think and I’ll accept it.

People will judge me, she is 18 I’m 30…

I’ve been living a life of luxury since I was born. From the expensive cars my parents bought me to the holidays abroad, I had everything I could ever want as a child. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve started to realize that this kind of life isn’t really fulfilling.

Sure, I have all the material possessions I could ever want, but there’s something missing. I’m starting to feel like I’m stuck in a cycle of chasing after more and more money and possessions, but nothing ever really satisfies me. I’m starting to feel like my life has no purpose or meaning.

I’m starting to feel like my life is just a rat race. I’m constantly trying to outdo myself and everyone around me. I’m trying to make more money, buy nicer things, and have a bigger house. But even if I reach all of my goals, I still feel empty and unfulfilled. It’s like I’m constantly looking for something, but I don’t know what it is.

The more I think about it, the more I realize that I’m living a “rich before poor before” lifestyle. I’m constantly chasing after more wealth, but I never really stop to appreciate what I already have. I’m always looking for something better, but I never take the time to be thankful for what I already have.

I’m starting to become sick of this lifestyle. I want to find something that will give my life meaning and purpose. I want to find something that will make me feel like I’m really living, not just existing.

I know that money and possessions can’t provide me with the true joy and fulfillment that I’m looking for. So, I’m starting to think about what I can do with my life that will make a difference. I’m starting to think about what kind of legacy I want to leave behind.

I’m starting to realize that the purpose of life isn’t about accumulating more wealth and possessions. It’s about making a difference in the world and leaving behind something that will outlast me. It’s about finding something that I’m passionate about and dedicating my life to it. It’s about making a positive impact on the people around me and the world.

I’m starting to realize that the purpose of life is to live it to the fullest and make the most of every opportunity. It’s about finding joy and fulfillment in the little things that life has to offer. It’s about creating meaningful relationships and making a positive difference in the lives of others.

It’s taken me a long time to realize this, but now that I have, I’m determined to make the most of my life. I’m determined to find something that will give me true joy and fulfillment. I’m determined to make a difference in the world and leave behind something that will last beyond my time here.

This is the life I want to live, and I’m no longer content to just exist in a cycle of chasing after more and more wealth and possessions. I’m ready to make a change and find something that truly fulfills me.

For privacy reasons we’ll call her “Charlotte.” Just for a bit of backstory, Charlotte and I first became friends two years ago.

She was really nice and we would literally face time 3 times a day. I always had sort of a crush on her and I tried to suppress that emotion because I knew that she probably didn’t feel the same way towards me.

Everything was going really well up until the end of the year. We got into a huge argument because her and her friends were making fun of me at school and one of my friends had overheard their conversation.

Whenever I asked Charlotte about if she really said those things about me she would continually deny it and get really defensive.

Eventually, we stayed as friends as I was scared that I would lose her because if I did end up losing her then who else would I talk to?

We had our fair share of ups and downs for the next while and it started going even more downhill on valentines day.

I thought it would be a good idea to tell her that I liked her so later that night when we started face timing, I ended up telling her. (I know that was a dumb idea please don’t judge me).

The worst part about the whole thing is that she gave me the “I’m not ready for a relationship yet” even though she had already been in a relationship with someone else before. I was quite upset after but I got over it eventually and things carried on as normal.

Fast forward to the start of this year and I noticed that Charlotte started showing a lot of the signs of liking me.

I decided to tell her again that I liked her and once again, she gave me the same response as before. (Me telling her this was months after the first time don’t worry).

This next part of the story is the reason why I wanted to post this. So soon after I told her for the second time, she starts out of nowhere starts talking about her other guy friends.

(Note: she’s never done this before and it was pretty obvious she started doing this to make me jealous)

I hated when she did this so after a while, I told her to stop but guess what? She didn’t stop. It got to the point where I ghosted her for a week because it was really starting to screw me up.

Eventually I got really fed up with it and I decided to talk to her about it. Long story short, we got into a big fight over text and we stopped being friends.

I started to realize that I relied so heavily on her to bring me joy that I couldn’t find any when she wasn’t around. My life became an absolute mess. After a few weeks and going to two different therapists, I’m starting to do better now. She hasn’t reached out to me in almost a week and honestly, I think that says a lot.

For the longest time in my life I always thought of her as “the one” but I never truly realized that there are so many other people out there for me who are bound to treat me with way more respect than she ever did. I still think about her a lot because I miss talking to her every night but then I realize that no matter how many times I fantasize over her, nothing is going to ever make her want to come back to me.