With the border reopening, it is good news for most of us but for one woman it was her nightmare.

Her husband’s “business” trip turns out to be the start of her nightmare and end of her marriage.

Here is her story:

To all the women out there, be careful if your husband and boyfriend are going to Thailand for whatever reasons. Be it going for a business or leisure, make sure you are going with him or his not going.

My soon to be ex-husband works in an MNC that has offices around Asia.

When the border opened, he told me that he was flying to the Bangkok offices to do some work, initially I just nod my head and said ok as it was his income and I could not say no. But deep down, I am wary of men that visit Thailand.

After he flew to Bangkok he was still contactable and he would video called me after he reaches the hotel. There were one or two nights he was drunk and said that he is treating his Thailand co-workers for a drink and did not call me.

Now I know that the “drunk” is probably a lie, after 3 nights. He told me that, he is taking the opportunity to visit Chiang Mai since he is in Thailand.

He soon went MIA after he touch down in Chiang Mai. His last message to me was “Dear, I reached CNX”.

The MIA continued on for 3 more days and I started to get worried and I expected the worse, I did not tell my friends about it as I know that this will turn out as nothing but an embarrassment for both my husband and me.

Telling friends won’t change the fact that he has gone MIA, friends would most likely put worse thoughts in my mind. I kept quiet and continued to wait, hoping that it might be an accident or his phone got stolen or something.

He finally replied to me on the 4 nights later and said that he is boarding the plane now to return to Singapore via Scoot airlines.

When he was finally home, I asked him why did not reply or call me for that 72 hours. He sat down at the sofa, drank his beer and ignored me.

I finally raise my voice and shouted at him. The words that came out of his mouth was:

“I’m visiting a law firm tomorrow, let’s not waste time”

Deep down I know that I have not been the best wife but I have never cheated on him. He finally gave in and said that he met his “true love” in Bangkok who is his colleague from the Bangkok office. He went to Chiang Mai for a short holiday with the girl he met and said that he wants to be with her.

I agreed to the divorce as I could not accept anyone who is cheating on me.

I am very lost right now, what should I do next, I took a week-long leave and I am currently alone in Johor now for a short get away from him and work.

My husband cheats on me sometimes, but I don’t care because I’m very well taken care of
I know this is against the norm because cheating is looked down upon and I used to care a lot more when I was younger but now, not as much.

My husband and I have two kids together and I consider myself fit, curvy and beautiful. Most people can’t tell that I’ve had kids. I run a few businesses and we also have a nanny which really helps both of us when it comes to having our own time.

I have always known my husband had wondering eyes and for the most part he is amazing. Except for the times where he will go fool around with someone when he goes to Vegas for the weekend or something. Before these trips, he will always leave me extra cash and, he always brings me back something. It’s never the same person and always a one-night thing. He doesn’t take girls on vacations, he doesn’t have sugar babies, he only does hookups. He doesn’t want to commit to anyone else even though in the traditional way he’s not fully committed to me either.

He is safe and I also test myself regularly. We don’t talk about it out in the open and it’s kind of one of those things I know but don’t speak of unless something in particular upset me. We are loving, intimacy is great and nothing is amiss. He lives with us and comes home everyday.

The main reason why I don’t care so much about his occasional ONS is because I’m very well taken care of. Anything I want, he will get me. If I tell him I want to go vacation somewhere, he will take me. I don’t look at the prices when I shop. And if I do decide to leave him (he doesn’t want me to but I do feel that one day I might), we have already discussed my monthly alimony and child support, which is close to the mid-5 digits. Right now, everything I spend is on his card that he pays off and he also gives me monthly allowances for me to keep/save despite me having my own money from my businesses (that he helped me open).

I have never spoken this aloud because I know people will tell me it’s wrong for me to value a comfortable life over a monogamous marriage and call me a gold digger. But the truth is, I’ve been with my husband since he was flat broke. And while I would love to have a faithful marriage, if I had to choose between that and never having to worry about money, I would and am choosing the latter.

My husband’s best friend “Nate” got a new girlfriend “Camilla” about half a year ago. She moved to our city recently so she doesn’t really have any friends here, but she and I hung out a couple of times and started to get friendly.

For context: we are all in our twenties, my husband and I both have nice jobs, we own a small flat, play tennis as a hobby (Camilla thinks it a rich people sport) and we regularly travel by finding cheap plane tickets and staying at cheap hostels for ~3 nights at a time.

Now to the point: my husband and I were hosting a little get together. Nate, Camilla and a few of our other friends were invited. At one point, the conversation went to topics like the current level of inflation, how the lockdown affected people and jobs, the housing market, etc and I had something to say too, agreeing with Camilla.

Camilla cut me off and said something like “Haha, no offense, but you are way too much of a spoiled privileged girl to understand things like this. You would need a tragedy or two in your life to understand struggle. I love you, but you never experienced any hardship in your life, haha.”

The room went dead silent and nobody said anything. After some awkward silence, I stood up and said: “Well, is anybody hungry? Shall we eat?” and we never went back to that topic.

Camilla messaged me the next day asking me how could I do this to her. Nate told her afterwards that I had an abusive father and I fell ill as a teenager, spent months in the hospital, had to have multiple life-saving surgeries and it took me a month to learn to walk again. Camilla is mad at me for not telling these very personal things to her before and for making her look terrible to Nate’s friends. She said that even correcting her at the party would have been better because then she could’ve apologized to me in front of everyone, but I took that chance away from her and now she will never make friends here.

Honestly, this whole thing is ridiculous and I don’t really think I’m the bad person, but it never hurts to ask. Maybe I should have gently corrected her after she said that.

Or Maybe I should just flaunt my father’s wealth since everyone will assume that I am a rich spoiled brat.

In a recent post that was shared of Facebook recently, a man stated about his happiness as he found the right girl to marry. Compared to other materialistic girls out there, she did not expect luxury items from her boyfriend at all.

Here is the full post.

Wow.. reading all these posts of girls expecting their bf to buy luxury engagement rings and even condo, I feel so lucky that I have an awesome gf who doesn’t even expect me to buy her anything.

So recently we were discussing our future and I asked her what kind of engagement ring she prefers. Surprisingly, she asked me not to buy any engagement ring for her as she feels that it’s not necessary.

I also suggested to her that we can get a resale flat because I would personally prefer to not wait 3 to 5 years for BTO. She told me that resale flats are quite expensive and she is ok with staying with my family while waiting for BTO.

As for our wedding, I told her I would prefer to have a banquet of 20 tables but she said she would personally prefer to have a house party to celebrate our wedding as she thinks that banquets are not necessary. But she said she would respect my decision if that is what I want.

I am impressed by how frugal and considerate my gf is. She keeps saying she doesn’t want me to spend money unnecessarily because I only started working for about a year. I’m really amazed by her. She has so many guys chasing her and some of these guys are apparently more well off than me. I once asked her why she never consider those rich guys and she told me she doesn’t care about living in big houses or driving posh cars because she justs wants to be with me and she would gladly marry me even if she has to stay with my parents and two sisters in a 4-room flat. I feel so lucky and I can’t wait to marry her and make her my wife.

Guys, if your gf ask you to buy her all those unnecessary material stuff, I think it’s best for you to reconsider the relationship. If a girl truly loves you, she would always help you save money and not find every chance to spend it.

Basically the my fiancee is “doing” my best friend.

Okay so the basic love story, met in uni fell in love blah blah blah. I and my best friend have been best friends since JC. I found out through a mutual friend that she (my best friend) told me for some reason, I guess she thought that she wouldn’t tell me because they’re closer?

Anyways I don’t believe at first because you know That’s my best effing friend, but the mutual goes into detail about times my fiancé was “working late” or “visiting his sick mom” in which he refused to let me come because of the pandemic which I understand okay, but it was all fake he was with her. So I sit on the new all day come home he’s acting normal telling me he loves me, but I wait till we go to bed and when he’s asleep I check his phone.

so nothing on iMessage nothing on Facebook nothing on Snapchat then I open Instagram….. message after messages of Texting, nudes, talking about how they enjoyed each other bodies talking about how stupid I was for not knowing.

I go to the bathroom all the way on the other side of the apartment we share and have a mental breakdown I was hurt and still kinda am I take screenshots of their messages and send them to myself.

The next day rolls around and I didn’t sleep at all my fiancé goes to work I take the day off and my ex-best friend texts me asking if we could hang I make up an excuse and that was the end. I take a long walk contemplating what I should do next, those text messages keep popping into my head and then I just kinda snap out of it. I had a bad childhood where my parents who would take away things I loved to teach me a lesson so I kinda master the art of snapping out of love just like that

I go home and take a long bath and by the end of it I was over him and her they deserve each other, anyways a week goes by and I’m at my cousins wedding and their interaction is hilarious there just so awkward it’s entertaining, I have a revenge plan that is going to come into plan on my wedding day in a month

yes you guys I have my Financials in order well actually there separate from one another, we might share the apartment but I own it, it’s in my name his car is in my name “our dogs” are mine , and for the people telling to just leave imma go with no. Why should I leave and let them get away with this if only you saw how they were talking about me in there text messages it was disgusting and just cruel. I’m going to do everything to look clueless and play stupid just for a little while and then boom it’s over. OH AND HES PAYING FOR THE WEDDING NOT ME OR MY FAMILY!