Should i leave this company sooner?

So i’m from KL, recently graduated and been in this company for like 4 months now and i just can’t handle the daily HORRIBLE commute of 4 hours going between jb and my office.

Everyday i wake up at 4.30am and question myself why i’m living like this why it has to suck so much. i’m in IT tech support but can’t work from home cuz the company’s traditional mindset of “if i don’t see u it means u not working”.

i have already given resignation last day on 4th may but damn now it seems so long away and i feel like going earlier at april.

My offer letter states 1 months notice but i gave 2 because HR told me something about tax residents get lower tax rate and i need to be working at least 183 days as per IRA law.

So i wanna leave earlier but can’t before 183 days, which sucks and i feel like i’m wasting time with this company and feeling so stuck and trapped.

Any advice or anything?

Netizens’ comments

• 2 x 4 hours commute (both ways I assume) for 8 hours wasted per day is equal to another full-time job. Unless you are being paid double what you can get near your home, it’s not worth it.
  I don’t think tech support earns that much, so honestly it isn’t even worth it. Might as well work 2 part time jobs in Msia in the same time and you’ll probably earn more.
  • (OP) its a 2 hour each way so 4 hours total per day but yea it’s tiring af really feel like crying lol
    And i’m being paid 2300 basic + attendance bonus another 300 but company is taking my money (kickbacks) so i also reported them to MOM secretly haha
    But what i fear is the tax thingy supposedly will be taxed at 15% flat rate if i leave before 183 days does anyone have any experience or heard anything like this? cuz i don’t trust HR.
    This is the only thing making me hesitate from leaving. April i can go already actually because i would have already served my 1 months notice then.

I’ve been working in siam dius for over five years now and I’ve seen it all. From the wealthy businessmen who come in with their entourage, to the guys who are just out looking for a good time. No matter who they are, they all have one thing in common. They’re all easy to cheat.

For context, I’m half Thai and half Chinese, and I grew up in Singapore. Even during my secondary school days, because of my huge chest, the other guys would often stare at me and most of them would do whatever it took to make me happy and get my attention.

When I went into poly, it dawned on my that my bewbs were like superpowers, I could control men by wearing low-cut tops in school. I’m not ashamed to say that for a whole semester, I didn’t spend a single cent on food in school because I had a bunch of male schoolmates who would offer to buy me lunch to get my attention.

I worked a little in a corporate job after my uni studies but quit because I realised that working in a siam diu could earn more than twice or thrice my office salary. I also had a friend I met from drinking who introduced me.

I have tried to cheat all kinds of men from all over the world, but Singaporean men are the most susceptible to being taken advantage of.

Let me explain. Singaporean men love to show off their wealth. They enjoy buying expensive drinks and gifts for the women they’re with. But they also want something in return, and that’s usually the woman’s cleavage.

In contrast, I spent a few weeks in Taiwan and the men there are not so easily swayed, as compared to the chaos that goes on inside siam dius.

When a woman shows her cleavage, it’s an instant turn-on for most men. They become attracted to the woman, and they’re willing to spend money on her in order to keep her attention. It’s a simple equation, and it’s one that I’ve seen play out time and time again in the scene.

You know the recent news about the woman from the JB siam diu who had a man hand $300k flower on her? I know her personally.

I’ve seen it happen countless times. The men come in, they see a woman with her cleavage on display, and they immediately start to get excited. They’ll buy her drinks, give her gifts, and even offer to pay for her services after hours. A little jiggling here and there and your money is as good as mine.

At the end of the day, it’s all about money. Women who are willing to use their cleavage as a weapon can get away with a lot. They can manipulate men into thinking they’re interested in them, when in reality, they just want their money. It’s a dangerous game, and we are winning all the way to the bank.

why am I expected to pay for someone else’s own life decision?

For context, I am in my mid-40s, single with no plans on entering any relationship. I chiong a lot during my younger days, with very prudent spending and have reached the stage whereby I have my own house, can survive on the passive income from my early investments and am basically retired now.

There is this guy, whom I knew when I was still a kid. Our parents knew each other and meet up sometimes. Apart from the meetups that occur because of our parents, I don’t interact much with him so I wouldn’t consider us to be close friends.

During one of the meetups when I was around my mid-20s, there was casual chat and my parents brought up how much I don’t like to spend money as if I was torturing myself. I just brushed it off but later, this guy came up to ask me the same thing when we split off with our parents (as they wanted to look at some stuff in the mall that we children aren’t interested in).

I explained to him how I just wanted to spend less now so I can work less in the future, and also told him that maybe he should control his spending, especially seeing how much he splurge on his then-girlfriend.

He just gave me the response “money is meant to be spent, it can always be earned back”. I just moved on since that was his choice and who am I to interfere with it.

Over the years, he’s been doing the same, splurging on his family without a care in the world, until the pandemic happened. He lost his job and is now struggling financially. He asked me for help, saying that I have extra money that I do not need and that I can always work again to top up my own fund.

I rejected, saying that he has to be accountable for his own life decisions. Somehow my parents caught wind of this and chastised me for not helping since even without working, I can still afford to spend on leisure.

Is it reasonable to expect me to dig into my own funds and interrupt the lifestyle which I have planned to enjoy over many years to help someone who has never invested or contributed to the success of my current lifestyle?

My 28m wife 32f keeps throwing divorce in my face over everything. I just agreed and left.

I am currently staying with my sister.

My wife and I have been together for 5 years married for 4. We had known each other for years prior. We have 1 kid together who is 4.

I am the primary breadwinner in the house as she is a SAHM. It was her choice not to go back to work.

For the last year and a half, we have been having arguments about 1-2 times a month. To be clear I do help out with our daughter, I clean, cook, and am involved with both of them.

The first time she said she wanted a divorce was when we got into an argument when my sister called and asked if she could stay with us for a bit as she was having relationship problems(ironic). I said she could. My wife was not happy about that.

I pointed out that her friend stayed with us a couple of months prior for 5 weeks and didn’t do anything around the house. Plus she was just there. No discussion no nothing. She was a stranger to me and my daughter. My sister is lovely and has a great relationship with our daughter and I thought my wife was as well.

She ended up staying with us for a week helping out around the house, cooking, cleaning, and watching out daughter when needed.

I thought we both forgave each other and moved on.

The fights are usually over something small 90% are not started by me. I have suggested therapy and counseling but she always said she/we never needed it.

Well, I had it last night. She picked a fight saying I was spending too much time at work. And that she feels abandoned and that I’m not a good father ended her rant with I want a divorce.

I stood up and told her that the only reason I work so much is because she can’t stop spending our money on things we don’t need or use. She refused to get a job or go to school to help her out.

I provide for the family. For my daughter. I’m always at her important dates, functions, doctor’s appointments anything she needs. She refused to get help through therapy or counseling. I don’t want this anymore ill have my lawyer send her the papers when she writes it up. I got my daughter’s things and left with her to my sisters.

It has been 2 days and she keeps calling and texting saying she is sorry. She didn’t mean it. She wants to go to counseling and therapy. She needs me. She misses me. Etc.

I don’t know what to do. I love her. She is a good mother. But I can’t do this anymore. Internet strangers, please help.

Have you ever been to a job interview and the interviewer insulted and degraded you?

Hi everyone. Just now, I went for a job interview, not my first but definitely the first where one of the interviewers was just a legit c–t. The whole time, the main interviewer who was the manager was disinterested. The other interviewer was the head of HR.

My first impression of the manager was really… Like huh? This is supposed to be a really corporate setting but his beard looked like it had been growing for weeks at least. He looked really out of shape and nothing wrong with that but he could have at least worn a shirt which fit him. He didn’t even do the overall dress code right, he wore a polo-t and jeans on a Monday… Everyone else I saw followed the corporate dress code.

I gave my intro which included my work experience and after that, he just proceeded to completely s–t on it. It was as if his aim of the interview was to devalue all my previous work experience. The manager brought up that he also had worked for said company and made statements questioning my previous job scope because he had worked there before.

I never met him at my previous workplace and might be because he could have been there much earlier than when I joined but who knows if he is lying and just trying to intentionally pull out something from me.

He didn’t even consider that I was assigned more important projects or other secondary roles or had a broader job scope or did more ot than him. I did try to tell explaining to him why and how I got all those stuff that helped me progress in my career.

I even included references from my previous employers and even schools to show that I am actually someone that has a good record even as a student. He just ignored it, cussed softly and even insulted me saying that my level of experience was insignificant and my current drawn salary was sus.

The manager left the interview early and ended off by telling the head of HR that he rests his case on whether I am able to fulfill the offered position… All he did was s–t on me. The rest of the interview with the head of HR didn’t go well and it wasn’t her at all but by that point I felt so insulted and sad.

It really… really sucks tbh. I had two interviews today, this was the second one. The first one went pretty well. They were even open to having me and allowed me time so I could weigh my options since I have to serve a 1 month notice for my current job anyway. I was not expecting such a 180 for my second interview of the day.

Has anyone else had such a shtty job interview experience? Part of me really hates that c–t right now.. I really feel like giving him a piece of my mind along with a free course of my fists, knees, kicks, elbows and slams….

Hey everyone!

So I just started downloading a dating app back in Nov last year and so far have only gone on two dates with two different ppl. Both didn’t work out but will go into it later on.

The last time I’ve used dating apps was back in 2020 and I don’t rmb the dating scene being this difficult? Maybe it’s always been like this but I just got lucky or, well, unlucky since my last r/s didn’t work out ha.

A little bit of content on my background: I don’t wanna come off as bragging but from feedback from friends and exes, I’m considered to be a good catch in terms of looks + intellect + character.

I’m honestly polite and genuinely nice to people (until they give me a reason not to be). Think of me as the girl who got catfished on a date but still stayed till the end ‘cos I felt bad leaving halfway.

Over the past ten years or so of getting in and out of r/s, the periods when I was single were shorter than the periods when I was attached.

Since my last r/s I really looked back and reflected on myself and I think my biggest problem back then was that I jumped into r/s after r/s too fast, and also that I might be too trusting of guys in the sense that some ppl tend to show the best/carefully constructed false image of themselves during the first few dates but later on relaxed and revealed how they really are like after we got tgt (or maybe they just got lazy lol).

It could be that I have a bad judgement of character too, idk. So this time I told myself I’m not gonna lower my standards, have patience in dating and getting to know someone really well. Right now this is actually the longest period of time I’ve been single.

So now I’ll go into the two dates I’ve gone on:

Date 1) Dinner + drinks date with a non-local and went on to have dessert + another round of drinks after. Date went well and spanned over like 5 hours.

He showed a lot of interest in me, mirrored body languages and mild body contact like moving closer to me all that stuff.

He asked me out for a 2nd date following week, I couldn’t make it so I proposed an alternative date and he said he’d lemme know how his following week looks but he never did. So I checked in with him and I got slow ghosted after that lol.

Date 2) Quick dinner + movie date with a local who’s lived overseas and just came back not too long ago. We chatted almost daily for a mth before he asked me out.

I knew it was a bad idea if you don’t meetup after 1-2 weeks max of texting cos you’d tend to form a fantasy/ideal image of the person as time goes on and they’d often not come to meet the expectations when you finally do meet up in person.

But I really didn’t wanna ask a guy out so I waited. Turned out to be a super awkward date with no chemistry.

I’ve since downloaded 2 more dating apps and it’s not looking so good either so I’m feeling quite jaded and honestly afraid I might really end up being alone forever lol.

I always heard that ladies have a better shot at dating or have an abundance of guys to choose from but I’m having a difficult time finding guys I’d like to swipe on whom I have even a little bit of interest in. I’m not sure if it’s cos I’m older so I’m pickier or is the dating scene really bad now?

It’s been a long post but I’d really love to find out and hear any ladies’ (and guys’) dating experiences in SG!