A few days ago our daughters (4 year old, 1 year old and the baby just turned 5 months old) went to my sister in law’s house and we had a night just for the two of us and well, we had some fun and without realizing it I left a hickey on my (27F) husband’s (41M) neck and as a joke he gave me one too, and it was in a very visible place so i covered mine with foundation and tried to cover his so no one would see it but he is darker than me and the foundation didnt work so we obviously failed, and the next day when we went to pick up the girls my sister-in-law saw the hickey on his neck even though he didn’t even get out of the car and she started joking about it.

She started telling him to stop acting like a teenager, that we already have three daughters and one on the way (I’m currently pregnant) and that he’s really old for that stuff, and when he told her to shut up because I don’t like to talk about it she just joked telling me to stop acting like a teenager too, because it’s not good for the baby. I just ignored her as much as I could but that wasn’t enough because two days later we went to my in-laws house for my mother in law’s birthday and everyone was like “here come the teenagers of the family” and I could have died of embarrassment that day, I hate when people make jokes about intimate things.

Husband just said to ignore them that in a few days they will forget but but I couldn’t, I was so embarrassed. They literally made jokes like “Next time the kids come here I hope you guys don’t make a new baby, oh I forgot you did that a few months ago.” and they even joked that I should learn to cover my hickeys in another way because the way I do it now obviously doesn’t work.

And it’s not like we went to the birthday party with hickeys on our necks, my sister-in-law saw them when we went to pick up our daughters a few days ago and they’re making jokes based on what she told them.

The point is that when they said something like that for my husband’s birthday they should give him condoms I felt really embarrassed and I burst into tears, maybe it’s the hormones I don’t know I just know that I was crying and that my husband told them to shut up and stop saying those things because they obviously don’t make me feel comfortable. And they said they were joking (and also said something like those were jokes between adults or something like that) and that it wasn’t their intention to make me feel uncomfortable.

And after that the atmosphere changed and I feel like it was my fault because I overreacted when I could have just ignored them. And I would like to apologize to my mother-in-law for ruining her birthday, but I don’t know if that would be right.

I feel like this is a common struggle for most of us in a relationship. While it’s not the end of the world, it would be nice to not be the only one cleaning, doing laundry, taking the trash out, tidying, etc.

He has the audacity to get mad at me for using a towel right after I shower (just barely even dressed yet) and putting it on my chair because it needs washed. He said he couldn’t dry his hands. Meanwhile, there are fresh and clean towels under the sink. Who put them there? Me.

Our agreement since we moved in together years ago was since I hate cooking, he cooks, he hates cleaning, I clean. Well, that’s not working out because he doesn’t cook enough, maybe once a week or two.

Of course, I’ve brought this up when we communicate, but being told “if you want something done, ask me and I’ll do it” isn’t enough. I’m not someone’s mother, no one likes to nag, and no one likes to be nagged. It’s not fun for either party. Just do the thing. If you’re an adult, you should know if something is messy and if you have a minute, tidy up, right? You shouldn’t need a manager.

We were out of laundry detergent so I asked if he can order more. There are two laundry baskets in our room full of his clothes that haven’t been put away in 2 weeks. I hate putting away clothes too but we only have so much space in this room.

He collects two laundry baskets from the room and brings them to me. … I’m studying right now. There are clothes sitting in our dryer. How does it not cross your mind to put our clothes in a basket before you bring them to me so I do it? It’s okay, you go play the drums and I’ll stop studying to put clothes in a basket.

I’m a musician too so that’s not a problem, but holy can you please prioritize and be somewhat considerate.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m a big believer in my partner not asking to help in his own home. This is a shared space, and the cleaning is a shared task. One thing I learned is to stop being angry in silence and hope they notice and make a change. Be loud about it. Stop cleaning, let the chaos build up. You’re not a house wife, you’re his partner. Until he starts treating you like one, don’t give in.

• I stopped cleaning and now I live in a dust filled, dirty flat

• This feels like reading my own thoughts out loud. Like, I love the man but damn, I need a break from being the only one to do any chores.

I (28M) kissed my daughter’s friend’s mom (30f) and I’m really happy about it

My daughter is 6 and she met her new BFF at the start of the school year. Her mom is a very nice lady. They don’t live far either so we have invited them over a lot.

It’s became a regular thing for the past 2 months to have them over every weekend, both Saturday and Sunday.

Either we take the girls out somewhere fun or we stay in watching movies, do other activities. I spend lots of time alone with her. We can talk for hours about anything and next thing we know time has flown by.

Then the butterflies in my stomach and the blushing everytime she smiled started hitting me.

I’ve been a full time single dad for 3 years since my ex decided to walk out on our daughter. So dating has never been on my mind.

They stayed over one weekend. The girls fell asleep on the couch watching Encanto and it was me and her up for another hour chatting.

Had a little bit of wine in me so ofc I blurt out that she looks beautiful right now. Randomly, out of nowhere. In the end we kissed though so looks like it worked out for me.

My heart was racing so fast, I’m pretty sure my whole face was red as hell because it felt so warm suddenly lol. We were both smiling like total idiots.

Before they left earlier she kissed my cheek and man I just wanted to pull her in. It’s my first kiss in years, with someone I feel really connected to. It’s just been a really great weekend. Very very happy

So I divorced a year and a half ago and haven’t really dated much since. We were together 10 years, so it has been a while. Maybe I just don’t get dating culture these days or I am just so completely out of it and can’t read things properly, but maybe the people of the internet can tell me what’s up.

I went on what I call a date 0 with a girl I met online. We met at a coffee shop and chatted a little over an hour. I mentioned not having eaten as it was around dinner time and she suggested we get dinner. We had dinner, she didn’t let me pay and we split the bill which is fine. Like at the coffee shop I think the conversation went well, we laughed, had a good time, etc. After leaving, she suggests getting dessert and sneakily ends up adding mine to her order.

The date wraps up at around the 3.5 hour mark. Then the “there’s your car, bye” and she just leaves. She texts me first that evening, apologizing for being late, thanking me for seeing her, said she had a good time, hoped I got home safe. I replied I had a good time and would like to do it again and left it at that. The next day I got the “I only ever see us as friends” text.

Now I do not regret the date. I had fun and I even got a free dessert out of it. I am just confused on why someone would extend the date twice if they were not really feeling it.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe she was feeling it at first part of the day and not the second part…Don’t look too much into it.-

• Multiple reasons. You’re having fun, but not romantically interested. Something happened in the later part of date that was a turn off. Want to take some extra time to see if there’s some chemistry that you’re not feeling initially.

• She didn’t instantly know if she was interested or not.

I’ve been working on my online dating profile recently, and common advice is to include a photo of yourself with friends. It makes sense, but it’s hard to do when you don’t have either.

I’ve lived the last decade without really having any friends. It wasn’t intentional, but it’s just kind of happened. I’ve lost touch with all my friends from school, and since then everyone I have met has been through work. I have great relationships with a few colleagues, but at the same time they are not really interested in hanging out outside of work (they are older and have families anyway). And none of my interests or hobbies really require interacting with other people.

I feel my need for social interaction is fulfilled by my family and work friends. This doesn’t bother me. But I am concerned that it will be perceived as strange or a red flag. Obviously the solution is to make some friends. But I feel like if it doesn’t authentically happen, then it’s kind of pointless. I also don’t want to just use people. Or maybe I’m making too big of a deal about this?

Does this describe anyone else?.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m in the same boat, but I consider myself a little bit weird. I wouldn’t look at it as a red flag if the person I was dating didn’t have friends only because I understand what it’s like.

• most peoples profiles look like they havent spent a day of their lives inside, and I dont know about you but thats a turn off to me, I LOVE my ocassional down time haha. If you do manage to get pictures with some friends/coworkers/strangers make sure its obvious which one is you. I’ve been excited about a couple profile only to find out 3/4 pictures in that she was the comparatively unattractive one in her pictures.

A girl shared how she doesn’t want her parents to post photos of her onto Facebook but they keep doing it.

Here is the story:

“I don’t want my parents to post pictures of me on Facebook, but they keep doing so and ignoring my feelings.

I am under 18, which means that I’ve grown up with social media. My parents have had Facebook ever since I was 2 or 3 in 2008 or so. My parents would post pictures of me when I was a toddler, which I’m fine with. I get it. If I was a parent with a cute little kid I probably would have done the same thing.

When I was 6 or 7, my mom would be chasing me with her phone trying to take pictures and I’d yell, “don’t post them on Facebook!” However, she still did and now when she shows me the years old posts, I feel humiliated.

I’m not allowed to have any kind of social media until I’m 25, according to my mom. In my opinion, it’s hypocritical.

This is the main incident. My dad won his fantasy football league and won a stupid trophy with some beer cans and metal plaques. My dad made me sit on the sofa right in front of a giant sunny window with the trophy in front of me.

He took a picture (after I closed my mouth to stop complaining). He then photoshopped the picture to make my skin bright orange, so I was pissed.

I begged him not to post it on Facebook, but he still did. I looked at his phone and he captioned the post “this is a champion household!” Cringe, but whatever. Even my dad’s colleagues saw the post and commented. I didn’t want that photoshopped and forced picture of me on the internet.

This has been ongoing for years. It’s probably petty, but I’m sick of it.”

Editor’s note: It just means that they are proud of you and want to show you off to their friends, you’ll understand when you’re older.

Okay so I’m not sure on how to start this, but my sister’s ex boyfriend (Who we will call Anthony) lived with us. He had been staying with us for a few years and we all grew to the reality that he was living in our house.

I was always the one in my family that got along with my sister’s boyfriends since I always chatted with them and we sparked similar interests.

I’m not very sure why it happened, it just always did.

However, I did realize how strange Anthony would be towards me. He would always want to hang around me when my sister was gone and even said he favored me more than my other sisters.

Of course I didn’t think anything of it because he would say it all the time. Although in 2020, things took a dark turn.

After Covid struck and we were all forced to stay inside and quarantine, which meant that we were going to be spending a lot of time all together.

One fateful night though, I got a knock on my door. I was confused, no one was awake at this time since it was so late!

Cautiously, I opened my door and there stood Anthony. He had never gone to my room before so I let him inside and he closed the door.

We start talking and he decides he wants to “Play Fight” I agree since I trusted that he wouldn’t do anything.

Big mistake I’ll tell you that.

So next thing I know, I’m pinned down and bent over my bed. I’m laughing nervously and trying to pull myself up when I feel him press up behind me!

Now all my alarms are going off in my head and it gets worse when he starts moving his hips and pushing my head down.

It took me so long to comprehend that yes, this was happening.

I’m not imagining it, he is really doing this. So now I’m trying to pull myself up and he’s still pushing me down!

My heart is beating fast and I’m worried because I don’t know what to do. My sister’s boyfriend who I trusted so dearly, was standing behind me and grinding against me.

Thankfully he stopped after a few minutes and had me walk him back to his room.

I reluctantly did and he hugs me. Then he hugs me from behind and claims that it was easier more him instead of leaning over to hug me.

But I knew and felt his intentions. Finally, I get back to my room and curl up in bed. That was probably the worst night ever. Sadly it wasn’t the last either.

The same thing happened a few more times before he finally left in the beginning of 2021.