We’ve been together for 4 years. I love him to death. But for the last 2 years he hasn’t had a job and he has no motivation in life.
All he does all day is play video games and smoke. I fell in love with a working man. I know sounds cliche but it’s true. Him having a job made him attractive.
But now, I’m losing attraction to him every day. I can’t even bring up him getting a job because he gets so upset about it.
I just got a really good job and I have a goal for my life. I have a plan. He has nothing. I thought about this a year ago and told him he needs to at least start, START or I would leave.
He hasn’t done anything. I’m scared if I actually do break up with him tho, it’ll push him over the edge. He’s said multiple times I’m the one for him and if I leave him he’s going to die alone.
My situation is also the exact same as my parents. My dad doesn’t have a job and drinks all the time while my mom works her butt off.
I don’t want to end up like them. Unhappy for thirty years where he was gone for about 20 of those. I don’t want the man he’s become.
I want my old partner back.
Netizen’s comments
Tell him exactly this. It will become very clear how much he actually cares about you and your relationship in the coming weeks.
My friend involved in this suggested I post here and make my case lol so here we go. I live in a small old HDB estate and everyone knows everyone else’s business. Last weekend a lot of my friends (mutual friends still with my ex) went to my ex BFs baby shower and they have been talking about it all this week.
I’m so tired of hearing about it. He completely cut off contact with me when we split and we haven’t talked in like 6 years so I feel people should know better than to bring him up around me. I’ll admit at the end of our relationship I wasn’t my best self and did do something a bit extreme so I understand why things ended and why he wants no contact but I also think a lot of his actions drove me to it and I did apologise but it’s left things awkward.
One thing was a bit into our relationship he became a “competitive” gamer and it was impossible to live with. He was always travelling for “tournaments” and “practice” and stuff and yes I’m talking about video games, not a sport. When he was home he streamed so he was literally just always on the computer. I was lucky to get a few hours a day for him to just watch TV with me.
Today a friend was again talking about the shower and I just said I hoped he had his computer addiction dealt with because if not from experience I feel bad for his wife and coming kid. Another friend pointed out it’s essentially his job and him being able to be flexible and work from home is good and apparently him and his new wife game together.
The friend who brought up the baby shower told me not to be bitter and that saying he was addicted to something (even though I didn’t imply like drugs I just said the computer) could be really bad and I need to watch what I say but I just said the truth.
I think if they don’t want my opinion on him and his life they should stop bringing him up to me.
Here are what netizens think:
It’s literally his job. Also it’s been 6 years – you need to move on
This is call the typical cannot taste the grapes then tell people the grapes sour
A Singaporean mother on TikTok, Nuradamiqah, shared how her toddler son had officially exited his “baby era”. How? By pointing a middle finger at his mother.
The Incident Unfolds
During a routine school pickup, Adam, in response to his mom’s request to go home, shockingly displayed his middle finger.
While this might be amusing to some, Nuradamiqah was far from amused. A TikTok video posted on Nov 2 captured the details of this eyebrow-raising incident.
What was supposed to be a typical day turned extraordinary when Adam decided to go vulgar in his response. Nuradamiqah, however, kept her composure, focusing on the severity of her son’s actions.
Nuradamiqah’s TikTok video not only revealed the incident but also showcased her approach to parenting in the face of unexpected challenges. Her controlled response and subsequent actions are a testament to her unconventional yet effective parenting style.
Instead of reacting impulsively, Nuradamiqah opted for a composed approach, addressing the situation eye to eye with Adam. She remained calm even as Adam requested three hot dogs as an afterschool snack.
Hot Dog Analogy
In a twist that reflects both creativity and sternness, Nuradamiqah used a hot dog analogy to teach Adam a lesson.
Apparently his friend had taught him that it was “okay” to point a middle finger when he feels angry.
You want three hot dogs right? mummy give you 4!
your finger? mummy cut ah! mummy cut! cook with the hot dog! you want?
your friend jump down, you jump also?
don’t cry ah! you don’t cry!
if 4 hot dogs not enough, i give you 5 hot dogs!
open your pants, one more hot dog down there!
mummy cut, mummy cook!
Tough Love in Action
Nuradamiqah’s firm stance and unconventional parenting method put Adam in his place. As he apologized to his mom while controlling his tears, it became evident that tough love had made its impact.
The incident serves as a valuable teachable moment for parents, highlighting the importance of addressing inappropriate behavior with a combination of composure and creativity. Nuradamiqah’s approach encourages parents to turn challenging situations into opportunities for growth.
Financial difficulties can push individuals to make regrettable choices. Gng Hoon Hong, a 48-year-old Prudential insurance agent, recently faced the consequences of his actions when he misappropriated over S$117,000 of his client’s money.
The funds, originally meant for insurance premiums, were diverted to support his personal expenses, including home renovation, groceries, car installments, and daily living, according to TODAY.
Background
In the early 2000s, Ms Tung Lei Lei and her husband engaged Gng’s services to purchase insurance policies from Prudential Assurance Company. Over the years, a bond of trust developed between Gng and the couple, especially after Gng assisted Ms Tung with insurance matters following her husband’s passing in 2009.
Breach of Trust
Initially, Gng dutifully managed the insurance premium payments. However, starting in 2012, a significant change occurred. Instead of transferring the entire sum received from Ms Tung, Gng began misappropriating portions for personal use.
In a desperate attempt to cover his tracks, Gng approached Ms Tung in 2018, seeking a S$10,000 loan under the guise of supporting an animal shelter. Unbeknownst to Ms Tung, three insurance policies had lapsed due to non-payment.
Unraveling the Deceit
Ms Tung’s suspicion about Gng’s financial troubles prompted her to investigate further. Upon inquiring with Prudential, she discovered the lapsed policies and confronted Gng.
Gng, in an attempt to mislead Ms Tung, presented a forged printout from Prudential’s website, falsely indicating that one policy was still active. The truth, however, revealed a web of deceit.
Legal Consequences
Gng’s actions came to light in 2021 when Ms Tung reported the matter to Prudential, leading to Gng’s arrest. Investigations disclosed a shocking revelation—S$117,160.94 had been misappropriated over 32 occasions spanning 6.5 years.
Following the revelation, Gng repaid a fraction of the misappropriated funds but failed to settle the full amount, leaving Ms Tung in financial distress.
We are mid-40s and have been in committed r/s for 1 1/2 yrs. Both already have established careers, finances,
(1) kids from my previous marriage and him from a previous r/s. We’ve already planned to be together permanently and marriage has been a possibility. Over a few months last year, I sent him about a dozen pics and links to illustrate what I would like in an engagement ring if the time ever came.
I told him that I’d like a vintage pre-owned old mine cut diamond/sapphire bezel set ring (not a replica) because seeing the wear on the inner band makes me feel connected to history and like I’m carrying on the ring’s story through time.
The design goes with my personal style and the bezel setting goes well with the nature of my job. If we were going to get engaged, he knew how important the ring would be to me since I am a jewellery lover and put so much thought into every aspect of the ring I’d like, which I definitely let him know.
We went to Valentine’s Dinner a day early where I had a few too many martinis. He got on one knee in the restaurant and pulled out a brand new large oval-cut prong-set diamond ring and proposed. Its a beautiful ring but not even close to what I wanted. The night’s still fuzzy, but I didn’t react very well to the ring. Like, not at all.
He’s normally very sensitive to my likes and dislikes, but this time I felt like he didn’t listen or care at all about what I wanted. I admit, I acted ungratefully but I was hurt that he screw up such an important event that I had imagined so differently. When I said it wasn’t what I expected, he said he wanted me to be happy with it anyway because it’s the ring he picked out for me and wanted me to have. I’m the one who has to wear it every day for the rest of my life though and every time I look at it, it reminds me of how he totally ignored my feelings about such a significant event and significant item he expects me to wear daily.
This has erupted into a full-blown questioning of the entire relationship. He says I’m acting spoiled and ungrateful and he doesn’t trust me anymore because I have rejected the ring and he sees that as me rejecting him. He said I embarrassed him at the restaurant by acting pissed instead of excited. He spent more on this than I expected but I’d rather have a less expensive ring in the style I wanted instead of this.
He said he cannot get his money back from the jewellery store but that they said the centre stone (a totally different cut than I wanted) can be set in a different setting.
I’m still really bothered by this and as someone who’s survived an emotionally abusive upbringing as well as emotionally abusive long term relationships, I’ve finally gotten to a place to feel strong enough to stand up for myself and not to settle.
Should I just let it go or continue to make an issue out of it? Am I the red flag or is he?
In the bustling urban landscape of Singapore, where shopping malls are the heartbeat of commerce, an unfortunate incident unfolded at the PLAYe Bedok Mall Branch on December 4th, 2023. A man, adorned in a distinctive S’pore Poly Tchoukball shirt, was caught shoplifting at 6:20 pm. The victimized company took to Facebook, seeking assistance from the community and sharing a CCTV footage clip. This incident not only raises concerns about security but also sheds light on the potential penalties for shoplifting in Singapore.
The company wrote on Facebook:
“Shoplifting incident at PLAYe Bedok Mall Branch, Dec 4th 2023 (Monday) 6:20pm. We appreciate any assistance in identifying the individual. Clip of CCTV footage in comments.“
The Incident Unfolded
The shoplifting incident at PLAYe Bedok Mall Branch on that fateful Monday evening sent shockwaves through the community. The victim company promptly took to social media, particularly Facebook, to share details of the incident and seek assistance in identifying the individual involved. The accompanying post included a clip of the CCTV footage, a modern tool that has become instrumental in dealing with and preventing such incidents.
CCTV Footage
Importance of CCTV Footage
In an era dominated by technology, CCTV footage plays a crucial role in identifying and catching shoplifters. The detailed surveillance not only serves as evidence in legal proceedings but also acts as a deterrent. The victim company’s decision to share the footage on social media highlights the power of technology in addressing criminal activities within the community.
Singapore’s Legal Perspective
Singapore, known for its strict legal system, takes a robust stance against shoplifting. Understanding the legal perspective is vital for both businesses and individuals. Reporting such incidents and taking legal action are not only encouraged but essential in maintaining law and order within the city-state.
Theft
The offence of theft under Section 379 of the Penal Code, Chapter 224 carries a jail term of up to 3 years, or a fine, or both.
Theft in dwelling under Section 380 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence carries an imprisonment term of up to seven years and a fine.
In a disturbing case of betrayal, a 27-year-old Malaysian man and Singapore permanent resident, whose identity is protected, has been sentenced to 45 weeks’ jail for committing voyeurism against two of his female friends, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The shocking incident involved filming his friend’s girlfriend and another female friend, breaching the trust established during their time as undergraduates and flatmates in Singapore.
The perpetrator was part of a close-knit group of four friends, which included a 27-year-old woman, her 26-year-old boyfriend, and another 26-year-old woman. Having known each other since their undergraduate days, they later shared a flat in Singapore, creating an environment of trust and familiarity.
What happened?
The court revealed that the first victim, a 27-year-old woman and also the offender’s colleague, fell prey to his voyeuristic acts. Starting in early 2021, the perpetrator secretly recorded upskirt videos of her within the shared flat and extended his invasive filming to their workplace, capturing her on film a total of 20 times.
As if one victim wasn’t enough, the offender expanded his voyeuristic behavior to include the other female friend, capturing upskirt videos of her at least nine times within their shared living space. The violation escalated when he filmed the first victim while she showered, breaching the sanctity of her private moments and capturing her face on camera.
Caught in the act
The sinister episode reached its climax when the perpetrator, alone at home, attempted to record the first victim while she showered. Detected by the victim, a confrontation ensued, leading to the discovery of the voyeuristic acts. The offender, in an attempt to cover his tracks, apologized, claiming he heard water in the toilet and wanted to ensure there was no one else present.
The victim’s boyfriend, returning home later, confronted the offender. Despite admitting to his actions, the offender continued to deceive, providing a false justification for his voyeuristic behavior. The victim’s boyfriend, however, uncovered evidence on the offender’s phone, including undeleted videos and screenshots, prompting a late-night visit to the police center to report the disturbing incident.
Jailed
The court, upon hearing the harrowing details, sentenced the Malaysian man to 45 weeks’ jail for the two counts of voyeurism, with a third charge taken into consideration. The severity of the punishment reflects the gravity of the offenses committed against the trust and privacy of his friends.
In a rare and emotionally charged event, North Korean leader Kim Jong-un was captured on camera shedding tears as he appealed to the women of North Korea to contribute to the nation’s growth by having more children. This poignant moment unfolded during a national mothers meeting in Pyongyang, where thousands gathered to witness the leader’s unprecedented plea, according to The Telegraph.
Declining Birth Rates
The gathering witnessed an emotional Kim Jong-un, dabbing his eyes with a white handkerchief. The carefully choreographed event left a profound impact as many in the audience wept alongside their leader. The tears shed by Kim Jong-un underscored the gravity of the issue at hand – a concerning decline in North Korea’s birth rate.
The backdrop of Kim’s appeal is the growing apprehension over the declining birth rate in North Korea. South Korea’s government estimates a steady decrease in fertility rates, posing challenges for a nation heavily reliant on manual labor and military service.
During his address, Kim Jong-un explicitly addressed the issue, stating, “Stopping the decline in birthrates and providing good child care and education are all our family affairs that we should solve together with our mothers.” This marked the first time the leader publicly acknowledged the fall in his country’s births.
Population declining
North Korea remains secretive about its population trends, making it challenging to obtain accurate data. South Korea’s unification ministry highlighted the significance of Kim Jong-un’s acknowledgment of the decline in births, indicating the severity of the issue.
According to the United Nations Population Fund and the World Bank, North Korea’s fertility rate has hovered around 1.79-1.8 children per woman since 2020. This decline is notable, considering the higher rates in the late 1960s, followed by a sharp decrease in the late 1990s.
The decline in fertility rates can be attributed to past birth control programs and a major famine in the mid-1990s, estimated to have claimed hundreds of thousands of lives. These historical factors have left a lasting impact on North Korea’s demographic landscape.
Interestingly, despite North Korea’s declining fertility rates, they still exceed those of rapidly aging South Korea, which reported a record-low fertility rate of 0.78 last year. This contrast underscores the unique challenges faced by each Korean state.
Incentives
To address the issue, North Korea has introduced benefits for families with three or more children. These include preferential free housing, state subsidies, free essential goods, and educational perks for children. Kim Jong-un stressed the importance of mothers in instilling “socialist virtues” in their offspring.
In his emotional address, Kim Jong-un reminded mothers that their “primary revolutionary task” is to instill socialist virtues in their children and foster loyalty to the ruling party. The leader emphasized the necessity for mothers to embrace communism for the revolutionary transformation of their families.
Kim Jong-un issued a warning against foreign influence on young minds, instructing parents to send their children to engage in hard labor for the state, correcting behavior not aligned with the state’s ideology. This directive reinforces the regime’s commitment to maintaining ideological purity.
In a recent announcement by Forbes Magazine, Ho Ching, the wife of Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong and Temasek Trust chairperson, has once again secured her position among the 100 most powerful women globally.
Holding the 33rd spot, this recognition adds another layer to Ho Ching’s career, marked by her leadership at Temasek, among other things.
The Forbes List
The Forbes list, an annual compilation of influential women, has positioned Ho Ching as a prominent figure, emphasizing her impact on the world stage.
Being part of this prestigious list holds significance not only for Ho Ching but also for Singapore, as it highlights the country’s presence in international leadership circles.
Ho Ching’s Background
Ho Ching married Singapore Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong in 1985. In 2004, the same year her husband became Prime Minister, Ho Ching assumed the role of Temasek’s CEO,before being named the chairperson of Temasek Trust.
Forbes Ranking Details
Ho Ching’s 33rd spot on the Forbes list, puts her only 2 places behind American media mogul Oprah Winfrey and ahead of other globally recognised figures such as Beyonce Knowles, Rihanna and even Barbie.
Ho Ching’s Bio Data on Forbes
Ho Ching was the CEO of Singaporean sovereign wealth fund Temasek from 2004 to 2021, and helped its portfolio grow to more than $313 billion.
In October 2021, Ho Ching was named the next chairman of the Temasek Trust, the entity responsible for Temasek’s philanthropic endowments.
Ho opened offices in San Francisco in 2018 and poured over a quarter of Temasek’s money into sectors like life sciences, tech and agribusiness.
Ho is also the wife of Singaporean Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong.
Flash floods wreaked havoc in Johor Bahru, leaving an indelible mark on the city’s landscape. The incident, captured in a viral video featuring a drifting Mercedes-Benz with a Singapore license plate, unfolded on Wednesday, December 6.
The Mercedes-Benz Saga
In the midst of the waterlogged roads, a red Mercedes-Benz floated gracefully, its bonnet submerged while the boot defiantly remained above the surface of the brown flood waters.
A stark contrast to other vehicles navigating cautiously through the floodwaters, this luxury car became the symbol of an unexpected aquatic adventure. Miraculously, no injuries were reported, and the Mercedes-Benz was eventually towed back to Singapore.
Weather Turmoil: Sudden Storm and Flash Floods
The tranquility of Wednesday afternoon was shattered by a sudden storm that unleashed havoc across Johor Bahru. Flash floods ensued, affecting 25 areas, prompting the Johor Bahru City Council (MBJB) to deploy a response team at 2 pm.
As the storm raged on, flash floods struck 25 locations within Johor Bahru. By 3:40 pm, water had receded in some areas, thanks to the swift action of MBJB’s enforcement unit, which tirelessly towed vehicles out of flooded zones along Jalan Ayer Molek.
In a desperate bid to escape the rising floodwaters, several residents resorted to extreme measures, smashing through doors and roofs. The sheer force of nature had pushed the community to its limits, forcing them to confront the unyielding power of the elements.
Flash Floods’ Origin: A Perfect Storm
The genesis of the flash floods lay in the perfect storm – a sudden downpour coinciding with the rising tide. This unfortunate alignment of weather elements led to a surge in water levels, catching residents and drivers off guard.
MBJB played a crucial role in managing the flash floods. From deploying a response team to mobilizing the enforcement unit for vehicle towing, the local government demonstrated a coordinated effort to address the crisis.
