I caught my BF looking up for ‘chicken’ while I was out of town.

He googled for them and also followed one on social media

I have been out of town and I recently found out my bf was researching for ‘chicken’ and followed one on his social media.

He at first lied and said he didn’t even know she was a ‘chicken’ and he just followed her because he was curious.

After I kept asking him over and over, he finally admitted he was looking up ‘chicken’ in our area and got curious to see what one looked like, so he followed her on his personal social media account.

He claims he had no intention of doing anything inappropriate.

I should add that we have not been having s- at all. He doesn’t want to with me hardly ever. This has been an ongoing problem for months and he claims he has an issue with low testosterone.

He’s saying he was just fantasizing about getting with a ‘chicken’ and took it too far.

How do I handle this situation?

Here are what netizens think

• Sounds like he’s not interested in you anymore and doesn’t have the balls to just say it. At least in an intimate manner.
  
  People do this crazy thing where the idea of being honest with a partner and hurting them seems way way scarier than doing sneaky shit in secret and hoping they don’t get caught, which is objectively way worse and can easily make the partner feel more terrible than if they just were honest.
  
  How you caught him may or may not be unethical (you didn’t specify) but the cat’s out of the bag and now you two need to figure out what you both actually want here and if there are needs not being met and unable to be met it’s time to seriously consider the relationship.
  
• Could be curiosity gone too far, it really could. The fact that he told you so makes me think that it was and that there was no real intention of doing beyond that

When I got retrenched recently, I was devastated. I didn’t know what to do or where to start. I started looking for jobs, but I was so scared that I would bump into my friends while doing them.

Afraid that people I know will ask me how was I doing and the awkward conversations that would follow

I had been working at the same job for the past decade and had built up a network of friends and colleagues. I was so used to seeing them every day, and I was afraid of what they would think if they saw me doing some temporary part-time job.

I was worried that they would think less of me, or that they would judge me. I was so embarrassed by the prospect of them seeing me in a different light that I was afraid to take up any of the temporary jobs that were available.

I did not want to risk bumping into them and the awkward conversations that would follow after but I knew that I had to do something soon because I am running out of money for my daily expenses.

So I decided to take up a temporary part-time job while I was looking for another full-time job. I was still nervous and scared, but I knew that I had to do it.

Thankfully, I met someone who I became friends with while doing this part time job and he introduced me to a world of job opportunities that was the same as my previous field.

I managed to get hired by another company after his recommendation to the manager and it did not take me long to rise up again.

I guess eventually choosing to take the part time job was a good idea and I just hope that this encourages anyone who’s in a similar situation to take whatever you have first as you will never know what sort of connections you can form from them.

When it comes to the world of insurance, there are a lot of people who are attracted to the hope and promise of making money.

Insurance bosses always tell the recruits that they are suitable for the job

My friend who is an insurance team boss tells me that they always get new recruits to join by telling them that they are suitable for the job, but in actual fact they only want the extra headcount because one more person working for them means one more person to earn the commission from.

I have known my friend for quite a few years, and he has always been upfront about his intentions with the insurance business.

He was always honest about the fact that he was in it for the money, and that he was looking for people to join him so that he can get a share in their insurance commission.

It was never a secret that he was looking for new recruits to increase his insurance team size, and he was always open about the fact that he was going to make more money if he had more people working for him.

One more person means more chances of commission

At first, I was a bit taken aback by this approach, but then I realized that it was quite common in the insurance industry.

The more people a team has, the more commission they can earn, so it makes sense that they would want to recruit as many people as possible.

I also understand that my friend was looking for people who fit the job, but he was also looking to increase the size of the team and he said that it didn’t really matter if they are good in selling any insurance policies because one more person means one more chance of getting more commission.

He also said that he has to paint the best picture for them to see and he said that it would be too off-putting for them if he were direct with them.

He said that nobody wants to feel like they are being taken advantage of, so he preferred to tell them that they were suitable for the job instead.

He said that it was a way of “selling” the job to them without making them feel like they were being taken advantage of.

Living in a HDB has its benefits and drawbacks. On one hand, I get to be close to amenities and entertainment, and I also have a great view of the city from my window.

On the other hand, I don’t have much privacy and I’m often subjected to the noise of my neighbours.

Recently, I keep hearing ‘Yes Baby’ at night till I cannot sleep

I’ve been living in the same HDB for over a year now, and I’ve become quite used to the noise of my neighbours. From the occasional loud music to their arguments and children’s crying, I’ve heard it all.

But recently, I’ve been subjected to a different kind of noise that’s been keeping me up at night – the sound of my neighbour shouting “Yes, baby” in the middle of the night.

It started about a month ago, and it has been happening almost every night since. It’s always the same – my neighbour and their partner start going at it and then the shouting starts. It’s loud, and it’s not just a few “Yes, baby”s here and there.

It’s long and drawn out, and it’s always the same. And it’s keeping me up at night.

At first, I tried to ignore it and just put some headphones on to block out the noise. But even that didn’t work.

Tried talking to my neighbours but they really just pretend like nothing happened

I tried to talk to my neighbours indirectly when I see them in the lift by asking him ‘how was last night?’ but they would just smile and act blur.

I know that it’s their private time and I don’t want to intrude on that, but the noise is seriously keeping me up at night and I don’t know what to do. I’ve even considered asking the authorities to step in, but I’m worried that it would be too intrusive.

I don’t want to be the person who complains about the noise every night, but I’m not sure what else to do. I’m obviously not going to be able to move out, so that’s not an option. I’ve considered buying some soundproofing to put up on my walls, but I’m not sure if that would even work.

At this point, I’m at a bit of a loss. I don’t want to disturb their private time, but I also don’t want to be kept up at night by the sound of my neighbour shouting “Yes, baby”.

I guess I’ll just have to wait and see if the noise dies down on its own, or if I have to take matters into my own hands.

I recently experienced a very unfortunate situation with a “hit and run” F&B business.

These people aim to get people to invest then once they get the money they let the investors die

What I meant by this was that a group of people who worked together would try to start a business and find investors to invest together and then once they got the money and profited from it they would throw the business to die and move on to the next.

I was almost once conned into it but thankfully my sixth sense warned me from investing with this group of people who were introduced to me by a friend.

My friend unfortunately was unlucky to have lost quite a bit of money.

Here is a recount of what happened according to my friend who was scammed

The people who had started the business were only in it for the money. They had found a lot of investors and managed to quote a hefty price for the investment. They had promised us all a good return on our money, but when it came time for the returns, they disappeared.

It was only then that I realized that the people had started the business with no intention of making it successful. They had simply seen an opportunity to make a quick buck and had taken advantage of it.

I was devastated by the experience and felt like I had been taken advantage of. I had been so sure that the business was going to be successful and had invested a lot of money into it. Now I had nothing to show for it.

I have since learned my lesson and have become much more cautious when it comes to investing. I now do extensive research before investing in any business, and I make sure to check the background of the people running the company. I also make sure to read all the paperwork thoroughly before signing any contracts.

I would also like to warn other potential investors of the dangers of investing in a hit and run business, be it in F&B or any other fields.

There are many people out there who will try to take advantage of you and your money and thus it is important to know how to spot the signs of such ‘investments’.

If it is possible, definitely do a background check of these people and see if they had any other failed businesses elsewhere.