A start-up I joined dismissed me on my second day of work

So as the title says, but the reason for dismissal was because I needed to commit more days. We already signed a contractor contract and agreed on my working days before we signed it.

But on my second day, they texted me saying they need more days to commit or otherwise they can’t do anything.

What should I do? Am I wrong for feeling a bit tilted? I feel like that’s something they should have told me before we agreed on anything so that I could have looked for another job.

Netizens’ comments

1. Name and shame
2. Sure they have. But that also changes the terms of the contract which means that together with the increased commitment to working days, you can also negotiate for a higher salary.
3. Avoid SME and start-up where possible.
4. Any probation clauses?
   Possibly have grounds to claim unfair dismissal, but you’ll need to look at the details more closely yourself.

Ministry of Manpower’s guide on Wrongful Dismissal

Wrongful dismissal happens when an employee was dismissed without just or sufficient cause.

Wrongful dismissals include:

• Dismissal on discriminatory grounds based on age, race, gender, religion, marital status and family responsibilities or disability.
• Dismissal to deprive an employee of benefits or entitlements, e.g. to deprive employee of her maternity benefits.
• Dismissal to punish an employee for exercising an employment right, e.g. dismissing employee after employee submitted a mediation request to TADM for salary-related claims.

When to file a claim

You should file a wrongful dismissal claim at TADM within one month from the last day of your employment if you feel that your dismissal was wrongful.

For dismissals without notice, your employer must show proof that the dismissal was not wrongful.

For dismissals with notice or salary in lieu of notice, you must show proof that your dismissal was wrongful.

If your wrongful dismissal claims cannot be resolved at TADM, it will be referred to the Employment Claims Tribunals (ECT). If the ECT judges that a dismissal is wrongful, your employer may be ordered to do one of the following:

• Reinstate you to your former job and pay you for any income loss due to the wrongful dismissal.
• Pay you a sum of money as compensation.

For managers and executives: If you were dismissed with notice or salary in lieu of notice, you can only file a wrongful dismissal claim if you have served your employer for at least 6 months.

I (F) get really turned on by guys’ balls, but this makes me feel self-conscious and I don’t know how to feel comfortable with it

I (F) would say that the part of a guy’s body that turns me on the most is usually his balls. But I feel kind of self-conscious about it, because no one ever talks about this (i.e. women being into a guy’s balls) as if it’s a thing.

When my friends and I talk about such things, I feel too self-conscious to bring this up, because it just doesn’t feel like there’s a cultural framework via which I can articulate it.

I’m even hesitant to share this with my boyfriend, at least to its full extent. I would really love to fully embrace this as a major part of myself and feel comfortable doing so, but it’s a challenge for me to share it with other people, which seems like a major part of expressing oneself.

Are there other women who get especially turned on by guys’ balls? And if so, does anyone have thoughts on why there’s so little representation of this dynamic in the culture (like literally none)?

Or maybe I really am very unusual in this particular way, which I guess would also be good to know lol.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m not a women, but my partner is and she’s obsessed with my balls, I love it
2. Completely normal.
   One of my exes loved mine. She played with them, touched them, stared at them, etc.
   It was awkward for me at first just because I wasn’t used to it. But then I got used to it.
   If you like/want something always communicate.
3. You probably don’t see media that portrays this because the vast majority of such media is created by men and they’re extremely proud of their shaft instead.

National Service (NS) is a cornerstone of Singaporean society, with young males required to serve in the military. National Service is not just a legal obligation; it is a crucial component of Singapore’s national security strategy. All Singaporean males are required to undergo NS to ensure the country’s defense capabilities.

A young man posted on Facebook:

I am about to enlist in the Army, can the uncle over here teach me step-by-step how to dodge NS? I am a high IQ individual, I am better off contributing to the science and math ecosystem in Sg.

Please please! I only got 3 months left, time is running out! My last resort is to swim out of Sg

Here are what netizens think:

• If ur IQ is really so high u no need any uncle to teach you how to dodge NS. U can figure it out urself.

•  if u only know how to score As but zero knowledge in NS it means u low IQ

• Go enjoy yourself la 20years later when you think back you feel grateful you got the best memories.

• Go for express Sx change in Thailand.

• Every boy think the same before enlistment. Please don’t do anything to harm urself. Army is never a bed of roses. U’ll hate every minute of it. But it’s the most memorable journey in life.

• Go thru the army when people sleep in the night u are Learning a skill. When people rest after chionging u take out ur slip of papers wrapped in plastic n self learn investing skills. That’s what I did in the army. It’s tough but u cultivate a habit in whatever circumstance u are u can still make good out of it.

• No need to siam la,be a man…just serve your ns..u will be grateful n thank yourself later bcoz some experience in ns cant be replace by ur high IQ.

• Just quickly get out of the country and don’t come back. You won’t miss it unless you got strong family ties or you are the homely boy. Those friends of mine who obediently served NS and then went US to get their PhD, then settled down there, regretted not leaving before their NS! They hardly come back to SG now. And they cannot imagine living here with all its stifling rules and crowded, restricted physical space. Think carefully my suggestion!

My 28 y.o wife and I (30) have been married for about a year now. Except for a few hiccups here and there, we’ve had a very smooth relationship. We support each other and even spend a lot of time doing household chores together.

However, there’s a quirk of hers that I find very annoying. She’s very susceptible to catching a cold and she has a runny nose most of the times she has a cold. And she has this dirty habit of blowing her nose loudly into a napkin wherever she is; even when I’m sitting right beside her and having dinner. I try very hard to act like it’s nothing, but within, I feel disgusted and nauseated.

Yesterday, when she did that, we were having dinner and it almost made me retch. She noticed and asked me if everything was okay. I couldn’t hold it in anymore and I told her that I found this habit of hers repulsive. I told her that she should’ve excused herself and gone to the bathroom. I put it across as delicately as possible, but she still got upset and said that it was “acceptable” to do that and that I shouldn’t fuss over what was simply “a bodily function.” This defensive attitude of hers irked me and I said, perhaps in a somewhat curt tone, that it was impolite and inconsiderate of her to do this in front of others, and that, as a woman, she should be more graceful and polished in her manners. When I said that, she simply stopped eating her meal and went away to the bedroom.

She’s been giving me the silent treatment since then and totally ignoring me. I’m not sure, but I think I might have heard her sobbing when I went to bed in the night. Even today morning, she didn’t eat the breakfast I’d made for her and had cereal instead. I tried to apologize but she pretended like I wasn’t even there. I kind of feel bad for her now. It’s “that” time of the month for her and she gets quite touchy and sensitive during that time. I think I might have been a tad bit harsh with her.

Here is what netizens think:

• What does her being a woman have to do with any of this? 

• When I read that, I still had the hopes that it was mentioned because they actually did it together. Like, a fun couples thing. Then, when the nose blowy thing started I still thought it could go two ways, if you really hate the sound or something you can discuss that.

• He’s so wonderful doing the womanly chores with her. Next time she needs to blow her nose she should wipe it on his sleeve. Show him what disgusting actually looks like

• Seriously, it was almost, almost understandable for him to feel grossed out

• My husband has this same reaction to blowing noses – he can’t even blow his own if he’s congested. And unfortunately I have allergies and constantly congested sinuses. And we compromise. Sometimes I step away, or try to be quiet and other times he just plugs his ears.

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Hi. I am a 35 years old man and my partner is a 41 yr old woman. We have a 4 yr old son and have been together for 5 years. She keeps telling me she cannot stay with me and needs to be in a relationship with a woman. Back in 2015 when we first met she hinted that she liked women, too.

Based on solid evidence she has a trait of dishonesty in the past with me but, regardless, I had told her that I want a committed monogamous relationship and she said she was ok with it.

Despite, our relationship not working, she has lied to me on multiple occasions, and that she is saying she is gender fluid and cannot be with me, I cannot live without my son for an extended period of time on a regular basis and I do not want my 4-year-old to be hurt.

I really wish that my life can be normal, I don’t mind getting hurt. But my child is the one I worried about.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• You know it will never work like that. Coming from a broken home myself trust me when I tell you you’re better of separate. For both you and your child.

• “What can I do to minimise if not avoid my child being hurt by his mom wanting to be with a woman?” Uh, you sure this is about your son?

• Your son will get older and realise the situation and end up hating both of you for living a lie they were made to believe.
• Sometimes people don’t realise what is precious until its gone, start dating again
• This is going to be messy during the divorce