my bf has been ldr for almost 2 years. We are currently meeting irl for the 4th time. He has come to visit me for 2 weeks.

My parents wanted to meet up for a few hours a total of 2 times over his visit. We had dinner and spent the night. The second was to go bowling and have dinner. Both times it is like pulling teeth to get him to spend time with my family for like tops 3-4 hours. These short visits with my family mean a lot to them.

Prior to him coming I told him about the new year’s eve plans and he said he was gonna just go to sleep immediately after he got to my parent’s house. After much convincing, he stayed up until midnight and then went to sleep.

The night before we were supposed to go bowling and out to dinner he told me he didn’t wanna go and that he was gonna text them that. This upset me because I know their feelings would be hurt and it makes me feel like he doesn’t like them. I cried because of this and he changed his mind.

Once we went bowling he purposely got longkang balls so he can sit down and play on his phone again or stare into space. He told me he was bored and wanted to go back to rest. This kinda killed my mood for the night.

Besides these two times, it has been just us hanging out and doing whatever we want. I just don’t understand why it has to be so difficult to take time for them just once or twice.

How do I address this?

Here is what netizens say:

is this really the kind of guy you want to call your boyfriend? I might consider reevaluating the relationship if I were you.

Have you considered that the activities you guys were doing is not of his interest and probably nothing to do with your family?

Maybe he just don’t care and busy texting other girls lo

I (24F) met my husband (23M) met when we were 15 and 16 in secondary school. We found out I was pregnant shortly after we started dating and I gave birth to our son at 17. Since then our relationship was on a fast track and we got married at 21 after finishing school.

We wanted to bought a flat last year and my in-laws have not been super supportive of our decisions. They made constant jokes about selling their house to move in with us and bringing my husband’s 2 siblings(both adults) with them since they lived with them full time.

But it all changed when they tried to push us to buy a bigger and more expensive house (five-room) then we wanted so that we had room for the family to come to visit and stay. My MIL kept showing husband houses she liked and when he told her we were looking for something different she told him we had to “compromise for the family”.

They finally lost it on us when we told them we put an offer to a flat that is at the West side (They stayed at the East) (which was in an area we planned to move to all along we just never told them) and they didn’t handle that well. Telling me I’m taking their son and grandchild away from them. The offer went through and we moved in as soon as possible but had to deal with in-laws constantly coming to visit uninvited.

My MIL and SIL were showing up every weekend for months without calling in advance. Husband and I both tried to explain that we are constantly having to cancel weekend plans for their visits and canceling other friends and family visits because of them but they do not care. Making my home their second home, not listening to our rules, and constantly undermining me in my own home. Finally we told them if they didn’t call and ask in advance they would be turned away at the door and they stopped showing up.

2 weeks ago husband got a call from FIL saying that his job had laid him off and he would be short on expenses this month. That’s when MIL took the phone and suggested this be the perfect time for them to come move closer to us. They were already looking to sell their home and they could all come stay with us until FIL found a new job.

We told them our home couldn’t accommodate 4 more people nor could we financially support them. FIL insisted it wouldn’t be for long but he is very frugal and does not like to spend money unnecessarily and I feel like this is just an excuse to cut back on living expenses for them. I also want my son to have room to grow and have room for a second child sometime in the next year or so.

My husband is in the middle and understands why I don’t want them moving in but at the same time thinks we shouldn’t turn our backs on his family. I am torn because I think I have solid arguments for why they shouldn’t but it’s my husband’s house too and I don’t want to upset him.

How to settle?

When I first saw her, I knew she was the one. I’m not one who believe in love at first sight but seeing her had changed my mind. I had been admiring her from afar for ages.

Fate was on my side. I was transferred to her class. My class number exceeded thus I was the lucky one to switch over. She was friendly and the first person to say hi to me. I don’t know how many times my heart skipped a beat whenever I saw her.

I realised she got a bf in school. I tried to convince myself to give up. As our friendship grew I find myself increasingly attracted to her. She’s funny, cheerful, kind, beautiful inside and out. I’ve never met anyone like her. Before I know it myself, I was smitten. Actually we have become good friends. We text each other about homework and stuff. I think she has a great personality. She’s very smart and confident. She also know how to play the drums which I think is so cool. I was afraid that she would notice I’m crushing her hard so I start to distant myself a little.

I think it was meant to be. One day when I was out I saw her bf with a different girl. They held hands and acted like a couple so I don’t think its platonic. I secretly snapped a few photos.

Now I’m in a dilemma. Do I tell and show her what I saw? Or should I continue to pray that her relationship with her bf will die a natural death?

Actually under normal circumstances, if I saw something like this, I wouldn’t tell.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s not “the one” if it’s not reciprocal and she shows zero interest beyond basic friendly gestures.And unlike what many people here think, you can’t “engineer” attraction through any mechanism because she clearly did not show any in the first place.Wishful thinking is bad for you. You let your misplaced emotions cloud your judgement. Boost your testosterone and such mistakes won’t happen again.

• The guy is cheating on her with some other girl, as her friend I think you should just let her know. What happen to you two after that, whether you be together or not, leave it to fate ba.

• U have to know, even if u break the 2 of them up, she might be yours to begin with.

• I would show her the picture, as a good friend. No one deserves to get cheated. But do not expect her to fall for you just because of that.

This morning I went through my husband’s phone because he’s been acting weird. Little did I find out, he wasn’t cheating BUT…

In 2019 he practised kissing with his cousin to kiss me better? I went through his text messages with his cousin and found texts sent like “we held ourselves back” “i wanted to pull your pants down and slap that ass, but it would’ve made things awkward” “i would have bitten your neck” etc. NOW am I the only one that finds this weird? From reading the texts, I don’t think anything more happened than kissing, but like getting taught by YOUR COUSIN??? KISSING YOUR COUSIN??

me and his cousin have hung out before and we’re cool so????

This is kinda disgusting and yet so weird, does anyone has this kind of experience or heard of anyone doing such an act against god?

Here are what netizens think:

• Well, I guess you want to make sure that the phone number matches the cousin? Some people save phone numbers with different names….

• I really wonder whether this is the cousin (cousin name but number is actually of someone else) and if it is indeed the cousin, it still isn’t any better. All I can say is, this is weird and you probably need to get out of this. Unless that’s your thing, and you’re his other cousin. Haha.

• You had suspicions so YOU violate trust by looking through your partner’s phone? Maybe you need to.have a serious “come to jesus” moment with yourself about that.

• Never heard the phrase kissing cousins huh? It’s there for a reason. Now my in law cousins actually are together and had a kid. They hate each other but can’t separate because now it would be awkward at family get togethers

I received a call from a scammer with strong Malaysian accent on 17 May 8:12pm pretending to be someone I know. the caller claimed that his handphone and wallet got stolen by the workers renovating his house and this was his new number.

His mobile number is ********. i asked him who he was and he said he was someone that talked to me often, how could i forget. instead i blurted out my colleague’s name which he said he was.

Next day, still thinking he was my colleague he called for help to transfer money to his contractor because he has fired them for the stolen incident but he needed to pay them for the works already done and his bank account is not activated yet. he mentioned he would pay me back the next day once his account is activated.

Thinking he needed it urgently, I transferred 3600 to his contractor. then he requested for another 6000 because his friend mistakenly transferred to his account instead of the contractor. but i only decided to transfer 1400, saying my limit was 5000. he kept asking me to check if my limit could be changed.

So, I said i was out for lunch and will do so when i’m back in office. back in office, i suddenly thought to message my colleague on microsoft teams, and asked him about it. he said he did not call me at all, and then I realized it was all a scam!

Should have checked with my colleague before doing any transfers! i hope police can nab this scammer!

In the age of QR code ordering becoming increasingly popular in restaurants, one customer was in for a surprise when she noticed a 10% service charge on her bill at a noodle shop. Given that this was a “self-service” restaurant, where customers are responsible for ordering and carrying their food from the counter to their tables, she couldn’t help but question the rationale behind this additional cost. After all, if customers are expected to handle most aspects of their dining experience, why add a service fee?

Understanding the Dilemma

A customer who raised this issue, was quick to clarify that her intent was not to shame the restaurant or deter potential patrons. Instead, she hoped to encourage similar establishments to rethink the practice of charging customers unnecessarily. While she acknowledges that the cost of food may warrant price increases, she believes it doesn’t justify shifting those costs onto customers, especially in the case of smaller eateries that offer little to no additional services. Should these restaurants have the liberty to impose extra charges?

Defining Service Charges

She suggests that charging a service fee should be contingent upon actually providing certain services. These services could include refilling tea, offering wet wipes, or promptly replacing used plates and utensils. In the case of restaurants that offer tableside service, continuous tea refills, and plate replacements, the service charge can be seen as reasonable.

While this fee may not seem substantial to some, for many families, it can add up to a significant expense. She hope is that restaurants offering a similar dining experience will carefully consider whether it’s necessary to charge customers an additional fee, particularly for those households where every penny counts.

The Rise of Service Fees in the QR Code Ordering Era

With the widespread adoption of QR code ordering in restaurants, it’s becoming increasingly common for establishments to tack on a 10% service charge. However, for self-service restaurants, where customers are expected to take care of their own dining needs, this practice has left some customers puzzled.

A Call for Reflection

The call for self-service restaurants to reflect on this matter and avoid charging customers unnecessarily holds weight. While the rising cost of ingredients might necessitate price adjustments, it doesn’t mean these costs should be passed on to customers. Moreover, she emphasizes that restaurants imposing service charges should offer additional services, such as tea refills and tableware replacement. For restaurants that provide such premium services, charging a service fee can be seen as justified.

In conclusion, it’s imperative for restaurants to weigh the pros and cons of charging customers an additional service fee, especially in self-service scenarios. While the trend of adding service charges via QR code ordering is on the rise, there’s a need for a nuanced approach.

I am homesick living with my boyfriend, so I recently had just moved into my boyfriends house and started living with him.

My family know about it and we’re absolutely shattered that I left and it was a whole dramatic catastrophe because no one knew I even had a boyfriend and that I moved to be with him. I went missing.

But after all the drama died down, I started to really miss my family. My mother specifically, and my newborn nephew. My siblings. Even my stepdad.

I cry every time my boyfriend leaves for work because I know crying stresses him out. But a few days ago he came home for lunch and I forgot he would, and I was crying and screaming my head off lmao.

Partly because I was thinking that my family would never wanna see me again. My boyfriend hugged me until I shut up.

But jesus christ I feel homesick as I’m typing this. I feel devastated and lonely. What can I do to combat these feelings?

Netizens’ comments

• Go back to live with your family, they will want to see you and know you are ok. This situation is not ok.

• The fact that you’re scared to cry and show your emotions is worrying, please be really careful that you don’t get trapped in something that makes you so unhappy, especially when you’re this young. Go home if you’re miserable, I’m sure your family would love to have you back. Good luck OP.

In the world of condominium living, there exists a peculiar dynamic that often goes unnoticed by the average person. Some condo residents seem to harbor a sense of entitlement and superiority, leading them to talk down to the security guards who work diligently to keep their homes safe.

The Condo Boom

Condominiums have become increasingly popular in recent years, attracting individuals seeking a blend of luxury, convenience, and prestige. With amenities such as pools, gyms, and concierge services, condos have become synonymous with a certain standard of living.

The Power of Affluence

One prevailing belief among some condo residents is that their affluence grants them ultimate power. They perceive themselves as being above the ordinary, and this perception can sometimes translate into condescending behavior towards others.

The Role of Security Guards

The Unsung Heroes

Security guards are the unsung heroes of condo living. They work tirelessly to ensure the safety and security of the residents, often under challenging circumstances.

The Dilemma

Residents, on the other hand, may find themselves in a peculiar dilemma. While they may assert their power, they also rely on security guards for protection, leaving them in a clouded perception of their own importance.

Perplexity of Power and Perception

The Paradox

The paradox lies in the fact that those who claim to be powerful enough to belittle security guards also feel the need for their protection. This perplexity raises questions about the true nature of power.

Burstiness of Behavior

The burstiness of behavior exhibited by some condo residents stems from a sudden surge of self-importance, often triggered by their surroundings and peers.

The Role of Money

Misconceptions

A prevailing misconception among some condo residents is that money is everything. They may equate wealth with superiority, believing that financial success grants them the right to mistreat others.

The Reality Check

However, the reality is far from their perception. Money may provide comfort and privilege, but it does not necessarily bestow moral authority or superiority.

Conclusion

In the world of condominium living, there exists a stark contrast between the perception of power and the reality of dependence. Some residents may find themselves talking down to security guards, driven by a sense of superiority rooted in their affluence. However, it is essential to remember that true power lies in empathy, respect, and understanding, rather than in material wealth.