Parents say our generation have it easy.

Honestly this has driven a bigger wedge into my r/s with my parents. We were never really on good terms to begin with but I don’t understand if it’s me who is wrong.

Last time earn $2,000 very good can feed family, now eat what

I make x5 times starting salary my dad did when he was my age (mid-twenties). In his mid-twenties, he can get married, pay for BTO, have 3 kids.

Sure, the first few years were a struggle, but he eventually also increased his salary gradually over a decade and lives a comfortable life now.

My dad was also paid for OT work horh, my mom never had to work except that time part time during the financial crisis.

They put a lot of financial pressure and expectations on me since I was a kid, so it drove me to work very hard to earn above average for my age. But I can’t seem to afford what they did when they were young.

I can BTO with my gf, but we deffo can’t afford to have kids right off the bat. And we’re already in our late twenties.

They think we earn a lot because they see our salary then compare with last time salary and cost of living

My parents like to say we have it easy. Say that we earn a lot of money, so should give them more allowance and all. Like you serious bro?

If I give you money and luxury, you won’t have grandkids because we won’t be able to afford having children. And they keep saying we using grandkids as a hostage to not give them money.

Like hello, I only earn a bit more than average, my partner and me not rich leh. You two are the ones living in a f-ing condo, and your kids and struggling to afford the life you had (which isn’t even luxurious, I’m only asking for apartment and the ability to raise kids).

None of my siblings went to uni by the way, so you can see my parents prefer living their life instead of investing in us.

Insist that our lives are so good now, we have it easier than them

I had a huge fight with my dad because he insist that Singapore’s system is perfect. If he can retire, we can also.

And I’m not an economist, but I think he’s rly downplaying how much more difficult it is for us to survive, let alone thrive in our current situation.

Things are just so much more expensive today than 30 years ago that our x5 starting salaries doesn’t justify anything.

I understand he worked hard to raise us, but I’m working hard too. Does our generation really have it easy??

Being in the Army was a whole new experience for me. I had heard a lot of stories from my friends and family who had served in the military before, but nothing could prepare me for the reality of my first week of enlistment.

As soon as I arrived in camp, I was thrown into a world of unfamiliar faces and unfamiliar rules.

Could not book out for the first two weeks

The first few days in camp were hectic, and I was overwhelmed by the constant activity and the strict rules that were in place. I wasn’t sure how I was going to survive the next two years.

I remember when we were completely cut off from the outside world and all of our needs had to be met within the camp for the first two to three weeks after enlisting.

It was what we called the confinement week, where as told by our commanders was a period of time for us to get used to army life as we transitioned from a teen into a soldier, from civilian to military.

This was especially difficult for one of my camp mates who was a smoker. He had run out of cigarettes in the first week as he had only brought two packs in and was desperate for a fix.

Offered me $50 for my cigarettes

He offered me $20 initially for me to sell him a pack of cigarettes which cost only $11 dollars at that time and I was also hesitant to sell it to him as I was quite a heavy smoker even though I had almost 9 packs with me.

The best part of this was that no one else in my section and platoon smoked and the company only had a few smokers.

Soon, his desperation got the better of him as he kept offering me higher and higher, till it reached $50.

In the end, I sold him four packs in the confinement week, made $200 from him and cut down on my smoking. It was the easiest $200 I have earned in my life.

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I can feel the rage boiling inside of me every time I see my brother take advantage of my mum.

Makes her do everything for him, then don’t give anything in return

It’s like he thinks there’s nothing wrong with using her as a free maid, taking advantage of her kind nature, and not giving her anything in return.

He expects her to take care of his children, clean the house, do all the household chores, and even cook for his whole family. It’s like he doesn’t care about the toll this takes on her physically and mentally.

The worst part is that he doesn’t even pay her anything. He doesn’t give her an allowance or anything like that, which makes me feel like punching him.

How can he expect her to do all this without any kind of compensation? It’s like he’s taking advantage of her kindness and her loyalty.

I can see the exhaustion in my mum’s eyes every time she comes back home after spending the day taking care of my brother’s kids and doing all the chores for his family.

I can see how tired she is, and I can feel the frustration in her voice when she talks about how she doesn’t get anything in return.

My mum is one of the most generous and kind-hearted people I know, and it hurts me to see her being taken advantage of like this.

Tried talking to him but he keep use the ‘family’ card

I’ve tried talking to my brother about it, but he doesn’t seem to understand why it’s wrong to use her for free labor.

He just keeps saying that she’s family and that she should be happy to help out, without thinking about how it affects her.

I can no longer stand to see my mother being treated like this. All I want is for her to be respected and to be given something in return for all the hard work she puts in.

I’m so angry at my brother for not seeing this that I feel like punching him. I know it won’t solve anything, but I can’t help the way I feel.

My mum deserves better, and I’m determined to make sure she gets it. I’m not sure how I’m going to do it yet, but I’m determined to find a way to make sure she’s respected and given something in return for all her hard work.

It all started a few months prior when I noticed that my girlfriend had put on some extra pounds and wasn’t looking her best.

Became so fat that I wanted to ask her to lose weight, but scared to offend her

I found myself feeling increasingly frustrated and concerned about her health, so I decided to take action.

She looked like a ba zhang when she wears her usual clothes and thus I told myself that I should tell her to lose weight but I did not want to be too direct and say that she is fat for fear that she will quarrel with me.

I figured that if I could get her to take up some sort of exercise, then I could help her get back in shape and be healthy again.

I started by sending her videos of different types of workouts that I thought would be suitable for her, hoping that she would take the hint and start exercising.

Unfortunately, my plan didn’t work out. Instead of taking my hint and starting to work out, my girlfriend just laughed it off and said that she wasn’t interested in getting fit.

I was so frustrated and disappointed that my plan hadn’t worked, but I just had to accept it.

I thought that maybe, by sending her these workout videos, I had been too pushy and she was just too stubborn to take my hint. After all, nobody likes to be told what to do.

Luckily she got my hint

But then, a few weeks later, she sent me an Instagram story showing me that she was at the gym. I was so surprised and relieved that she had actually taken my hint and started exercising.

Not only was she getting fit, she was also doing it for herself, not for me.

It was then that I realized that maybe, just maybe, my plan had worked after all. Perhaps my girlfriend had taken my hint, even if it was a subtle one.

It’s been a few months since then, and my girlfriend is still going to the gym. She looks amazing and is much healthier now. And I couldn’t be more proud of her.

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I’m a 32-year-old single male from Singapore. I recently went to Taiwan for a month for business and leisure and decided to have a little adventure.

I wanted to explore the ‘services’ provided by the local Taiwanese girls and discovered that there is a thriving s- industry in this amazing city though it is not that obvious to the eyes of the public.

After doing some research, I was able to identify several places where I could get great s- services. In this article, I’ll share my experiences and the places I went to get these services in Taipei.

Even though it is known that such services exist, it is not very obvious to the eyes of the public

Most people I spoke to said that they usually go to massage parlours for their release but to be honest it is nothing special.

In Taipei, even though it is known where the red light districts are, it is usually quite discreet away from the general public.

Most of the activities happens in Linsen and Wanhua districts.

Linsen district is very near to the Taipei Main Station and it is very convenient to go to.

A lot of girls in this industry are from China and Vietnam and there are also Taiwanese ladies here and there.

They usually lure you into their shops with discounts but if you do not do your homework properly, you might get charged more and threatened by them should you refuse to pay.

Popular places which I tried

Here are some of the popular places which I tried and just like back home, most shops have the word ‘SPA’ in their shop names, but it is often just a front for the sleazy things going on inside.

I tried a few girls during my stay in the country and some of them will allow you to fully autoroam or use your fingers on them, but some will totally not allow you to touch them at all.

I went to 泰悠活, located at No. 88 Minquan East Road Section 2, Zhongshan District, Taipei, Taiwan.

Traditional Thai massage and oil massage is offered here. Pay NTD 1500 for the oil massage plus extras when you are offered it.

They only provide hand service.

I also went to 亚太三温暖, located at 105, Taiwan, Taipei City, Songshan District, Section 3, Nanjing E Rd, 337號15樓.

This is a large sauna complex with hidden passages which leads to rooms where S- and massage are offered for around NTD 4,000.

You can also use all the facilities which they provide.

Hostess bars

Another place where you can try are hostess bars in the city.

Most of these bars are also in the Linsen and Old Monga redlight districts and the ladies there are usually Taiwanese.

Depending on which girl you pick, the services varies.

Some girls will remove all their clothing, some will only remove the top half and usually you can ‘piak’ them after some private negotiations with them.

Be sure to be good in Mandarin because most of them their English little bit, Mandarin no limit.

Nightclubs

Another place where you can go and meet local Taiwanese girls are the nightclubs.

These nightclubs are often filled with many locals who want to let their hair down and enjoy a night of partying and maybe get ‘laid’.

From University students to those working office ladies, there are plenty of varieties to choose from.

You can even find Ang Mo women and maybe pick one up, as most of them here want to try Asian ‘cuisines’.

Here are some of the clubs where I would recommend and where I got lucky at.

Wave Club – 110, Taiwan, Taipei City, Xinyi District, Songshou Rd, 12號7樓

Omni Nightclub – 106, Taiwan, Taipei City, Da’an District, Section 4, Zhongxiao E Rd, 201號5樓

Triangle – No.1, Yumen Street, Zhongshan District, Taipei City 104, Taiwan

AI Nightclub – Level 7, No.12, Songshou Road, Xinyi District, Taipei City 110, Taiwan

‘Chickens’ on the streets

Many of these street ‘chicken’s only come out after a certain timing, and they may even stop your car to ask if you want any services.

You can also find them at the Linsen and Old Monga area.

However, some of them are older in age and therefore are not so attractive to the normal man.

I did not try any of these as none of them caught my eye or made me have the ‘feel’.

Must be daring if you want free girls

One thing I realised is that Taiwanese girls likes straightforward and daring guys so don’t be shy and beat about the bush if you like them and want to bring them back.

If they don’t like you, they won’t bother to talk to you or stay that long with you.

Usually, if their goal is to get laid, they will want to go back with you as fast as possible and if you do not show any interest, they might just move on to the next target and there goes your chance.

Conclusion

In conclusion, I had an amazing experience in Taipei. I was able to explore the local s- services industry and discover some great places to get s- services.

I also managed to get some free s- from the nightclubs and I cannot wait for my next trip there already.

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Advice on dealing with a sensitive husband

We are parents to a bb.

My husband likes to be the best. He is sensitive to criticism whether it is direct or implied. He will strike me physically if he feels that I am criticising him

. He has done so already, at least once every one to two months. I continue to stay with him because I have no family and afraid of being alone.

Our baby is cries a lot these days. We try to soothe him by 8 pm so that bb can sleep. My husband wishes to play with bb around 7:30 pm so I pass bb to my husband. He aggressively bounces bb or have bb lie down on his lap. Bb is frequently unhappy and cries. I have to spend time soothing the bb and eventually bb settles.

My husband is mad at me. Calls the baby names and scolds me for not letting him play with the baby. I ask him to stop calling bb names, it’s akin to bullying. My husband loses it.

I am worried that my thin skinned husband will not be mature enough to parent our child responsibly. I worry for bb’s safety. I fear that my husband will interpret bb’s cries as rejection and lash out at bb. I don’t mind being hurt anymore but my child is important.

If we separate now, he might still receive joint custody – not an option atm. Any advice welcome. Is this a totally irreparable relationship?

Here are what netizens think:

• Honey, lets call it as it is. U are not dealing with a “sensitive” husband. U’re dealing with domestic abuse. First step for u is to stop making excuses, both for him n for urself. It doesn’t matter whether he’s like this before or after marriage. Its wrong.

• a baby is a still human with his/her own mind even though he/she cannot speak yet. he doesn’t know how to respect the baby and you. there’s nothing to repair because he simply thinks he is superior.

• Aggressively bouncing baby may cause shaken baby syndrome. He has also physically hit you. You can seek help at a shelter.

Relationship question from a newbie

Thank you for reading my post.

I have relationship question and I hope you can offer me some input. This is my first time stepping out of my comfort zone to woo someone and I have no experience dealing with romantic relationships as I have never dated before.

If your crush says/does the following:

1) He said I made him feel touched with feelings

2) He’s more comfortable with me after I confessed

3) We messaged more frequently than before

4) He generally cares for me

5) We share our daily activities with each other

6) We say “I love you” to each other before we sleep

7) We have nicknames for each other

But also does the opposite:

1) Mentioned that he is confused with his feelings towards me

2) He rejected me recently

3) He said anything can happen in the future

4) He is afraid that his family will disapprove / judge us

5) He doesn’t want to hurt me

6) He said I have no chance with him

It’s very confusing to me, and I don’t know if I should carry on with my romantic advancement or walk away. If you were me, what would you do? Would you carry on try and woo him, or would you just walk away? Your input is greatly appreciated and thank you!

Here are what netizens think:

• Guess you both very very very young and immature at this stage. Leave him alone and move on. Get your career build up first and you might meet your Mr Right later. Don’t hang on with this guy cos he don’t know what he really want

• Breadcrumbs, he’s leaving breadcrumbs to keep you. Nothing to do with him liking you .. just like you chasing after him. Like the attention. He already has eyes on someone else. Don’t waste yr time and youth. He never ask to be yr bf means you are never together. Find someone else who loves you back .. Don’t waste yr time, youth and other potentials

• Your confession should help to make things easier for him if he also feels for you. Some guys fear rejection (nothing wrong) and thus, having the other party to confess first would be like an affirmation for them to pursue the relationship. The point about him being afraid of disapproval or judgement from his family can be another very real hurdle if he cannot be firm about his feelings for you, like how things currently are.

• Do you realize out of the 13 things you mentioned, none of it is an action of interest? Seems like he is not interested at all (already mentioned that you have no chance with him) but still occassionally throwing bait at you to keep you hooked for idk what reasons.