So im a 19-years-old female, sister, f28 and brother in law came over with the kids for dinner at my parent’s house.

I was watching my nieces while dinner was getting ready, we sat down and I happened to sit next to brother in law. I was wearing a skirt and it was accidentally lifted above my knee, my brother in law looked down at my leg and made face then loudly said: “Oh shooo, Op! This is gross, you should’ve shaved, that hair isn’t supposed to be there”.

Everyone stared, I told him “if it’s not supposed to be there then why does it grow there, can you explain?” He was like “it’s just not supposed to be there”, I point at his mustache and say “well, guess the same thing can be said about your little moustache then, huh?”.

He looks at me eyes wide open, and awkward silence takes over though some laughed. My sister told me to knock it off as my brother in law got up from his chair and went inside the bathroom. My sister followed and I could hear him having a breakdown asking her if there was something wrong with his moustache, my brother and I kept giggling but dinner got cut short cause my brother in law wanted to leave.

I later got scolded by my sister saying I stepped over the line and disrespected someone who’s older than me, who’s her husband and demanded I apologize to him for insulting him and ruining dinner.

My sister said the reason my brother in law got so offended was that he considers his moustache as a symbol of his “manhood” and so I insulted his “manhood” not just made a “backhanded comment”.

She said I psychologically harmed him and should apologize for it but I’m not sure if this fixes anything except how he feels about his mustachy mustache.lol.

Girlfriend’s parents want to give/loan us money for resale, should we take the offer?
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My gf’s parents are quite well to do and once they knew we are looking for resale flats, they offered to loan/give us a sum of money. My gf and I do not have much savings but we have been consistently working for many years and have some decent CPF savings. We have been house hunting for a month now.

All along, I have reservations about accepting money and want to get a house with our own abilities, but my gf is keen to get their help. I agreed eventually, but slowly realised my future in laws are willing to provide the help if we get a resale near them, and fit some certain criteria of theirs, and these criteria keeps on changing.

I feel at a loss, because now i’m looking for flats that i’m hoping will please them, and not truly what i like. My gf says my in laws have a very good eye on property, which doesn’t really reassure me in any way.

Any thoughts or advice is much appreciated.

(Edit: thank you everyone for your responses. Some were some hard truths to read.

To clarify, loan/give is because to me, if we are receiving their help it has to be in the form of a loan, gf says she know her parents are willing to part the money as a gift. Brought up in a more traditional family with an average household income, money to my family doesn’t come easily. I have the same mindset as some of you- it comes with strings attached.

In any case, since my gf wanted the money, she feels it’s courtesy to loop her parents in the house viewing and potential flats discussion, but many fall flat because feng shui not good, ulu, etc etc. I mean, we have our own flat criteria, but now that there are additional criteria from her parents it has become quite an overwhelming list.

I will have a discussion with her, and see if there are better alternatives.)

my boyfriend used my face to finish

It started off as a normal bj as we’re watching tv and when I stopped sucking momentarily to slap his D on my face (i been doing this all the time now bc ik he loves it), he forced my head still and began thrusting himself against my face until he came.

Like I literally didn’t budge while he held my head firmly until he unloaded after no more then a couple minutes. I have no issues at all with this.. in fact I found it hot.

I’m just wondering if he may have some kind of k!nk, bc I’ve noticed he loves to have his D rubbed/slapped against my cheeks, mouth, tongue, quite a bit during bjs.

He’ll pop it out of my mouth suddenly and vigorously use it to play with my face as I just sit there with my mouth open waiting (not always patiently) until I can resume sucking lol.

My face is also his go to spot to finish and something that he does afterwards is he’ll spread his come all over the surface of my face using his D.

It makes me laugh bc it feels kinda ridiculous like i’m a painting canvas lol. (not in a bad way i see this as fun) 😭This was the first time he’s came this way, is this like a thing ?

Not complaining in the least bit -i’m happy to just have his D within close proximity. I know I can talk to him of course but I want him to keep doing things to me just simply bc he can.

The unspoken energy is hot, I don’t want him thinking he needs a reason… but I am curious

Netizens’ comments

1. It’s common enough that no partner I’ve talked about being into this has reacted with disgust, and three helped make it a reality
2. He might have a thing for some kind of “free use” play, the way you described it, or maybe he really likes your face lol
3. Basically, yes — the “facial” stuff, rubbing/slapping faces, etc. is very common in relatively mainstream adult videos. So much so that I assume many guys today don’t think it’s k!nky anymore, even though it was definitely more unusual a couple decades ago.

Apparently my husband and I were intimate last night but I don’t remember

I wanna start off that I don’t feel like my husband would ever EVER take advantage of me in any way shape or form. We are a healthy happy couple in our first home. We also have a pretty high libido and are intimate I’d say more than 6 times a week.

My husband works mids and I work mornings. I went to bed and he laid with me and me cuddled and fell asleep. That’s all I remember.

I woke up this morning and got out of the shower and he’s already awake playing games and he comes and gives me a hug and kiss good morning and was acting all flirtatious.

He then mentions that he enjoyed that last night. And I was super confused. Apparently I was kissing him and he was rubbing me and we were just like making out in bed?

But I have NO recollection of this. I didn’t feel weird necessarily after him saying this because this has happened before but during that time we BOTH started doing it with each other at the same time and work up f-ing each other basically.

And there was another time where he started kissing me and I did back and ya know, started getting on top and apparently he woke up and was like, what when did this start?

We have talked about how it makes us feel. It’s kinda weird to not have control when we are sleeping sometimes…and we both felt bad we acted on each other’s advances when the other was apparently like, sleep walking. But I mean we have each others consent regardless (unless specifically told obviously )

I looked it up and has anyone had this happen before? Is it cause we are married and comfortable and used to doing it in the bed…?

We both are weirded out by it, we make jokes that our bodies don’t let us have a break and that we probably can never sleep next to other people (think me having a girls night and falling asleep with the friend or him falling asleep next to his guy best friend on a camping trip or something)

$500 savings/month enough to buy bto?

A 27F failure who just started working with no money in bank. Please take in consideration that my salary is less than minimum so my cpf won’t be a lot.

I can save barely $500 every month which is around 60K in 10 years. Are they any grants for singles?

Netizens’ comments

1. Please don’t call yourself a failure.
   Why judge yourself even before you reach the end of the finish line?
   We are all work-in-progress until we breath out our last breathe.
2. Don’t think I’m in a position to give any financial advice but just wanted to say don’t view yourself as a failure OP. You only fail when you stop trying so keep pressing on and I’m sure you’ll find a way to reach your goals
3. You need to find a better job. That’s the best way forward. At least get minimum first, then slowly try to hop upwards from there. Don’t rely purely on grants.
4. Never too late, good that you started to save more money per month
   You can try to move your money into fixed incomes (SSB, T-bills, etc) when you hit into the 30k+s, also depends on your risk level
5. You will not be able to buy any flat until 35yo, still have time to save, upgrade and improve your financial situation.
6. Hi.
   Yes. a. First timer resale grant – 40k b. Proximity Grant – 10k c. Enhanced housing grant if you earn on average less than 4.5k/mth. Income based on last 12 month for assessment. Please refer to HDB’s site for the breakdown.
   *Edit – missed out the BTO part. Single buying 2 room flexi in non-mature is affordable. The only issue is the huge queue of it.
   2. Depends on how much u accumulated in CPF OA. Flats will be cheaper due to lease decay but in order to max out gearing on HDB loan, you will need to buy a unit that’ll last till you are 95yo. So be wary of that.
   3. 500 might not be enough. Rule of thumb to have 6 months salary cash flow as a emergency fund.
   4. I don’t get what is CPF less than minimum. You earning less than 1.6k? If yes, it’s easier to find a higher paying job than planning on what you have now.
7. It’s definitely possible to buy a bto with that amount, you just can’t be picky with the location and unit.
   A quick google will show you that a 2 room flexi (the only bto option for singles) can go as low as 100k. 60k is already more than 20% (downpayment) of that. There are also grants for singles.
   Feasibility aside, don’t be too hard on yourself, being financially independent already sorts you out of the failure pool!

So I’m from America and recently moved to Singapore. I’m 29 and earn a “okay” salary (it’s a local non-expat contract for the big 4 so can work it out from that) although it’s tough with the current rental market and definitely not rich.

I moved here single and so been trying to date. I don’t really have a preference in terms of people I date as long as we get on. I’ve had a few long term relationships back in the USA for which the most part were great, but unfortunately they didn’t work out.

So I started dating this girl a few months back. She’s from Malaysia but she’s PR here. She’s 25 and earns a reasonable salary for her age I’d say (between 3 and 4K).

The first date we went on I suggested some chill drinks and then she replied and asked if we could go to some fancy restaurant which would set me back about $250. Although, the whole night ended up being much more. Dinner was $250, taxis were $50. Then we went for drinks after (2 cocktails) which was $120. So altogether it cost nearly $420. She hadn’t even tried to offer to pay for something.

Anyway, fast forward a while and we’re officially together now and she still expects me to pay for everything when I’m with her. Whether that’s to pay for her taxi to my place, dinner dates, trips away and even daily expenses. On top of all this, she also expects me to buy her gifts for her birthday, treat to things. I have no idea where she expects all this money to come from.

I seem to have to pay for absolutely everything and she doesn’t even offer to pay. I’ve raised this to her and she said that I’m the man and should pay as she doesn’t earn a lot. I’ve told her that I’m not in a position to pay for everything and she said fair enough, but things still haven’t changed.

She’s said that all the guys she’s dated in Singapore, they’ve always paid for everything and I’m the first guy to raise this issue to her. I’m at the end of my tether because I do like hanging with her but I need her to take responsibility and offer to pay for things, unless of course I’ve specifically said I’m taking her out for dinner.

We’re going on holiday to Vietnam soon and in the process of booking things. I don’t expect her to pay 50/50 but unsure how to go about splitting the cost with her.

Am I being unreasonable here? How do guys in Singapore manage it? It’s literally getting to the point where I cannot afford to have a girlfriend. I don’t feel like I’m being used, since we spend a huge amount of time together and she does seem to genuinely like me, but she seems to have this mindset that guys are ATM cash machines and rich, which I’m far from.

Any advice people have?