How do you know if it’s time to stop trying for a girl?
I like this girl, and have been trying to find ways to tell her that I feel something. She responds positively to my compliments and we have normal conversations. I find opportunities to offer her that extra ticket to an event that I want to give her, but so far twice she said she was busy.
How to sense if its an indication of disinterest or if she genuinely is busy and actually did not think much about my offer?
Here are what netizens think:
You already got the answer to the question. Let me tell you, if someone is interested in you, you don’t have to try so hard and you will get their consent to go out. Learn to read all these signs so you won’t bang your head against the wall. Why not work on yourself and shine and you will see the result.
Why not wait for the ladies to express interest in you instead? Much less effort required.
Best way is to stop trying. Then a few days later will have a new post saying:” this boy who was chasing me suddenly stopped trying……”
Go meet other girls and let her know about it. Girl generally will only take notice in the face of competition. If she doesn’t, mean you 100% no chance.
[1] she is genuinely busy [2] she doesn’t give af [3] try other women [4] stop writing in for silly advice to simple problems
If a girl is interested in you, she will find time for you. No one will waste time on unimportant stuff
She’s rejecting you gently and you still don’t know. If she likes you she would have made an effort to spend time alone with you.
Twice rejected – means not interested. Usually if the girl reciprocates, she will not turn down an invitation from the guy who took the initiative. Move on loh.
In an unprecedented display of assertiveness, a man used his own body as a barrier to halt a vehicle, compelling the driver to yield to his companion’s car at the Tuas Checkpoint.
The incident which took place on 8 October at about 3.45pm, was captured in a dashcam video and shared on the SG Road Vigilante – SGRV Facebook page earlier today.
Unveiling the Bizarre Scenario
In the 53-second video clip, a bespectacled man wearing a light blue shirt who was a passenger of a black car on the second lane, had alighted from the vehicle and approached the camcar, gesturing towards the driver.
Then, he takes a bold step, positioning himself resolutely in front of the white vehicle and blocking the camcar driver from driving forward, to let his companion’s car enter the lane.
Despite the driver’s attempts to proceed, the man remains steadfast, refusing to let the camcar drive forward, even leaning onto the bonnet of the car.
With the black vehicle successfully cutting in, the man relinquishes his position as the self-appointed traffic guardian and nonchalantly returns to the passenger seat of his own car.
Public Reaction
While the man’s actions might have saved him a few precious minutes, they did not escape the watchful eyes of netizens.
His bold move at the Tuas Checkpoint sparked an uproar on social media, leaving many people outraged and questioning the necessity of such extreme behavior.
Netizens’ comments
Same as The lady Video but different style.. KIASU…
Innovative ! Able to think out of the box to achieve his objective
I admire his guts . He know it’s embarrassing but he still do it for his girl..
If me I will still keep inching forward. See what he can do.
Something shld be done to such ppl.. if he can get away with it.. it will probably become a “norm” in future
Please do not reproduce….lesser of your kind is better for the world..
A Singaporean woman recently posted on Facebook about how she felt like divorcing her husband as she was not in love with him anymore. She felt this way even though her husband was considered perfect and even respected her decision that she did not want any kids. He even bought a condo in Bukit Timah as his wife wanted it and he had to service the mortgage all alone.
Here is the full story.
If your husband does everything right, is it ever acceptable/ethical to suggest a separation/divorce because I’m not as in love with him as I was when we were dating?
I couldn’t have asked for a better husband. He doesn’t drink, doesn’t party, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t go out with friends, doesn’t swear, doesn’t raise his voice, does all the housework, washes all the dishes after I cook (every time), he’s a handyman (fixes everything himself), he’s ridiculously smart but only shows it when I ask for help, he respects my privacy, respects my space, he remembers my birthday, our anniversaries, plans a year ahead to make reservations or to prepare gifts, he’s a great listener with a keen understanding of the times I need help and the times I just want to complain, he stands up for me in front of his really conservative mother, I didn’t want kids and he did but he convinced himself that he also didn’t, maybe for my sake, he bought a condo in Bukit Timah only because I wanted it and he is servicing the mortgage alone… there is an endless list of things about him that makes him a perfect husband.
The only problem is, I’ve lost the sense of excitement with him and it’s starting to feel like he’s my father. He’s also losing his hair and every day he reminds me of my dad. I’ve suggested that he should get a transplant and I will pay for it but he insists that it’s not that important and I should save the money for other things that I want to buy. He never initiated sex, but I always made sure he had it 2-3 times a week, but lately I just feel a bit grossed out whenever we do it.
I know how this sounds. I sound like a bad person. Our life together is great, but it is also very boring. We go overseas at least twice a year together, but those vacations always feel very bland, and I think it’s primarily because I just don’t love him the way I used to love him anymore. My mom told me that having children would probably solve the problem, but I don’t think I am responsible/patient enough to raise a child as I value my freedom far too much. I also believe it is fundamentally selfish to have children because we are not doing it for them (they don’t yet exist), we’re doing it for our own entertainment.
I am running out of options and I just think it is right for me to leave him. He has done absolutely nothing wrong. But at the same time, I don’t feel happy and I don’t know what to do.
Okay so I met this dude while I was at lunch at some restaurant at Orchard. I’m eating my lunch and he walks up to me offering his number.
Of course, I say yes. He is a tall Swedish-looking man who works out and has good taste in movies (he’s seen Breathless y’all and he HATES the protagonist).
Anyway, we’re dating and all and I guess he’s my boyfriend now. But it makes me so uncomfortable how he wants to spend all this money on me.
He works in energy trading so he makes a lot of money. He has a high-rise penthouse, luxury cars, and so many antiques around his penthouse. And he always insists on buying things for me.
We were at Taka yesterday and I saw this dress I liked. It was like $400 so I got “yeah I’m getting this.” When we go to the counter i pull out my card to pay for it but this man pulls out his AmEx black card and goes “babe I got this.”
Like mf, I totally had this.
I don’t mind being spoiled but like I feel like it is too early in the relationship for him to be spoiling me like this. He already pays for my gym membership which is really nice but like I never asked for this and i have a lot of money of my own. I can take care of myself. How do I make him realize he is making me uncomfortable? How do I communicate this to him?
Is this love bombing?
Here is what Netizens say:
Be grateful and say thank you, its not like u are 100% sure the relationship is going to last forever. You are saving money and investing yourself more everytime he pays for you. Pride is not worth anything. Tell me how much is worth per kilo?
Just talk with him. Tell him that you appreciate everything he’s doing/ trying to do but he doesn’t need to buy your love. Or tell him to use his money on small things that you might like a little more, like flowers, your favorite candy etc. another idea is whoever plans the date pays. So if you plan the date you pay and vise verse. Either way you should talk to him and try and find some middle ground. Hope this helps 🙂
In a bizarre incident that recently occurred in Jurong West, a man was spotted dragging a stroller with a baby in it while riding his personal mobility device (PMD) with a toddler seated in front of him, on a public road along Jurong West.
A video of this peculiar occurrence was uploaded to the Facebook group SG Road Vigilante on Sunday, October 8th, leaving viewers both shocked and concerned.
The Unusual Sight
As the video clip begins, we see a man riding his PMD on the road near Block 426 Jurong West Ave 1. What makes this situation particularly concerning is that he’s not alone.
In front of him, secured in the baby pram, is a young child. The man’s actions are reckless, as he seems to be paying more attention to the baby pram than to the road ahead.
The Legal Implications
Under Singapore’s Active Mobility Act, it is explicitly prohibited for PMD users to ride on both roads and public footpaths. This legislation is in place to ensure the safety of both PMD users and pedestrians. The Act also specifies that unregistered PMDs are not allowed on public paths.
For those who violate these regulations, the consequences can be severe. First-time offenders face a fine of up to $2,000 and/or a jail term of up to 3 months if convicted.
Netizens’ comments
Probably he will get fine, by LTA, here Singapore not Vietnam lo
He is not only posing danger to himself and his children but to other road users as well. We see too many of these nowadays who seem to think that accident won’t happen to them.
Display of superb multi-tasking ability … he deserves a great round of applause ..
Accident waiting to happen then blame everyone except himself
Is this some sort of circus or stunt on going?
He won’t be in time to react if there are any vehicles coming towards his direction
In a shocking incident that unfolded within the confines of Changi Prison, a drugs offender, 51-year-old Kaliappan Kumarasamy, unleashed an unprovoked attack on a prison officer, causing severe facial injuries.
For his troubles, he was sentenced to 3 years of imprisonment after pleading guilty to one count of causing grievous hurt, according to The Straits Times.
What happened?
At the time, Kaliappan Kumarasamy, a 51-year-old inmate, was undergoing treatment at a drug rehabilitation center (DRC) situated within Changi Prison when the incident occurred.
On December 21, 2022, a seemingly routine interaction took a dark turn. Inmates at the DRC were let out of their jail cells to receive their medication.
The victim, 41-year-old chief warder Lim See Chuan, approached Kaliappan Kumarasamy to escort him back to his jail cell. As they walked down a corridor, they engaged in conversation, and a sudden and unprovoked act of violence occurred.
Deputy Public Prosecutor James Chew explained the sequence of events, stating that they were talking when the victim touched the accused’s right arm in a friendly manner. They continued walking when the accused then suddenly punched the victim in the face with his left fist.
The victim then fell onto the ground and tried to get up when the accused then attempted to punch him again on his head with his left fist but missed.
The assault left Mr. Lim bleeding from his nose and mouth. Despite his injuries, he managed to activate his communication device to ask his colleagues for help, and they then rushed to his aid.
Subdued
The situation escalated further as Kaliappan Kumarasamy continued to display aggressive behavior, raising both of his fists in a fight stance.
To subdue him, a prison officer had to resort to using pepper spray, eventually bringing the situation under control.
Mr. Lim was immediately taken to Changi General Hospital for medical treatment before being discharged later that day, but he still had numbness in his face, highlighting the severity of the assault.
Reasons for the assault
The attack on the victim was unprovoked, and according to DPP James Chew, Kaliappan had attacked Lim because he was angry at the Singapore Prison Service, for a separate investigation that was going on against him.
DPP Chew said that such “revenge attacks” cannot be tolerated and asked for a jail term of between 3 to 3.5 years.
Kaliappan was eventually sentenced to 3 years imprisonment, and he cannot be caned because he is over 50 years old.
something happened this morning and i have no one to talk to about this.
my uncle barged into my bedroom with my mother in the house who knew full well that i was changing in my room. they already make a huge deal about locking doors (especially my uncle and grandma who live next door and just bang on the door relentlessly till i open it).
anyways, my uncle barged in, stood there gawking at me for five good seconds then left without a sorry. i felt extremely violated and got mad and called my mom irresponsible which my uncle heard while leaving.
when i came back home from school, they were all up on me calling me a bad girl (cuz i called my mom irresponsible) and saying how i don’t have manners and am totally spoiled now and basically forcing me to apologize.
what infuriates me most is that no one acknowledges that i feel violated and what my uncle did was wrong. even my mom is trying to cover this up saying things like “she’s still a child”, “she doesn’t understand” (i am 18).
i feel really bad that no one is confronting my uncle and instead pining it all on me for being disrespectful. my family is acting like victim silencers and it makes me feel awful that they’re trying to make me apologize.
Netizen’s comments
If your door opens in to the room, you can get a wedge shaped piece of wood or something like that to put under the door while you’re inside to keep it shut. If anyone tries to barge in on you, ‘oopsies, the door got stuck’. Good luck, keep looking forward to the day when you can leave and never go back ever again.
A man who wanted to try his luck buying a lottery in Taiwan won the million-dollar jackpot, after the man won he immediately kneel down on the spot to propose marriage, shouting “the marriage fund is available”.
According to the description of “Lai Jiu Fa Business”, the winners of the million-dollar prize were a pair of childhood sweethearts in their 30s. On the day of the big prize, they worshipped and prayed at the Tui Gong Temple.
There was a betting shop next to it, so he decided to go to the lottery shop to buy scratch-off lottery cards to try his luck. After buying the card he left only to return back a few hours later to ask the shop to help them confirm the winning prize.
The man won the jackpot prize of NT$1 million which is equivalent to over $48,000 Singapore dollars.
The woman said she was grateful to the Earth God for making her a bride this year, adding that she plans to have a baby next year.
Unlike Singapore Pools, Taiwan’s lottery system is on another level, the company had once organized a lottery event which is NT$880 million. Which is around $42 million Singapore dollar.
A 14-year-old gunman in Bangkok opened fire at innocent people at Siam Paragon Mall and killed 2 people and injuring several others.
The deceased were a 31-year-old Myanmar national who died at the hospital, and a Chinese tourist who was killed on the spot.
The victim
At the time of the shooting, the 31-year-old victim, Myanmar national Ms Moe Mynt, was working as an employee at a toy shop in the Siam Paragon Mall.
She was shot three times, once in his throat and twice on her back.
Her employer attended her funeral and told her family that she would provide them with 10,000 baht per month, equalling what the victim had been remitting back home before she was shot dead.
Father kneels down & begs for forgiveness
Following the senseless shooting, the father of the gunman visited the funeral of the 31-year-old victim at Wat Phasuk Maneechak in the Pak Kret District of Nonthaburi, in Thailand on 7 October, according to Thai Rath.
He knelt down on the ground and begged the victim’s elderly mother for forgiveness and offered an envelope with money inside, but the elderly woman rejected his offer.
She said that the money can’t compare to the life of her daughter, but she understands the father and isn’t angry at him. Rather, she blames it all on his son, the killer.
A Written Apology
According to Khaosod English, a day before visiting the funeral, the father also penned a letter apologising for his son’s actions, saying that his family and him would like to ask for forgiveness and apologise to the families of the dead, the injured and the ones who were affected.
He also addressed the medical staff members, nurses, doctors, police, government and everyone affected by the incident, saying that he regrets the impact and damage caused by his son’s shooting, as he accepted responsibility for the tragedy.
Recap
According to timeline of events provided by the Thai police via The Bangkok Post, the shooter entered Siam Paragon via BTS Link 2 at 3.35 pm, appearing as an ordinary visitor, carrying a shoulder bag, and blended into the crowd.
Security camera footage revealed that five minutes later, he made his way to M floor, where he walked into a restroom. It was during this time that he began to prepare for the horrifying act he was about to commit.
Video and still images shared on social media showed a long-haired Thai male dressed in a black shirt and camouflage pants. He was wearing a baseball cap adorned with the American flag and, alarmingly, carrying a handgun.
At 4.10 pm, gunshots resonated from inside the toilet, instantly transforming the mall’s atmosphere into one of terror and chaos. The shooter, now out in the open, continued to fire at unsuspecting shoppers.
By 4.25 pm, he had moved to the mall’s second floor, continuing his shooting spree without restraint. Panic gripped the mall, and people were desperately seeking shelter.
A few minutes later, the shooter took the escalator to the third floor, where he continued his rampage. Shoppers and staff were trapped.
He was eventually cornered by the police into a furniture shop on the 3rd floor and he then surrendered to the police, putting down his weapon.
Hundred of shoppers were seen in videos circulating online, fleeing the mall and going to the Rama I Road in the Pathum Wan district.
The mall’s entry and exit points were also locked down and the BTW Skyway was also shut down, with the Skytrain bypassing the Siam BTS station on its travel route.
Police officers were seen inside the locked down mall, along with VIPs who had arrived for a briefing, including the Prime Minister Srettha Thavisin.
The deputy interior minister Chada Thaiset was also seen at the scene interrogating the 14-year-old in front of the media.
Reports revealed that the suspect was a student at a private school in Bangkok, with parents who were working as teachers.
A search of his home unveiled a stash of ammunition, including 49 9mm bullets and 15 spent shells of various sizes.
The authorities also went through his phone and found videos of his practising with a gun.
In the digital age, online shopping has become an integral part of our lives. The convenience of ordering products and having them delivered to our doorstep is a luxury many of us enjoy. However, what happens when this convenience turns into a perplexing situation?
One man’s recent experience with a logistics firm has left him both bewildered and frustrated.
According to Lianhe Zaobao, Mr. Zhang Yuanyu, an online store owner, ordered 14 bags of clothes that weighed more than 1300kg from Taobao, a popular online marketplace based in China.
He paid a hefty S$600 for delivery services to his door, expecting his purchase to arrive at his doorstep in Singapore.
A Bump in the Road
On the day of the scheduled delivery, Mr. Zhang received an unexpected text message from Ocean Pearl, the logistics company responsible for the shipment.
They requested a change in the delivery date, proposing the 30th of September instead. Curiously, no reasons were given for this change.
To make matters worse, they informed Mr. Zhang that if he couldn’t receive the goods on that date, they would have to charge him an additional $75.60 as storage fee.
This sudden change of plans left Mr. Zhang in a predicament, as he had taken leave from work specifically to await the delivery.
He refused to accept the change, demanding that the clothes be delivered as initially agreed on the 29th of September.
Unpleasant Surprises
Ocean Pearl then relented and agreed to deliver the clothes on the 29th of September. However, another unpleasant surprise awaited him.
He received a message stating that the goods couldn’t be moved upstairs, with the logistics company claiming they were “too heavy” and could not fit in the lift.
Instead, they suggested leaving the bags at the void deck, and they mentioned having already informed China about this decision.
A Disheartened Customer
Naturally, Mr. Zhang was disheartened by this turn of events. After all, he had paid a substantial amount to have his goods sent to his home.
He said that when he previously made similarly huge orders, the goods would be sent to his doorstep without fail.
Taking Matters Into His Own Hands
Ultimately, Mr. Zhang and his wife had to take matters into their own hands. They were left with no choice but to bring the bags home themselves.
Because each of the bags was too heavy to be carried up to their home, the couple had to open up the bags and bring the goods back little by little, with the process taking them almost 3 hours.
Mr. Zhang is now contemplating lodging a formal complaint with the Consumers Association of Singapore (CASE) regarding the logistics company’s conduct.
Ocean Pearl responds
Ocean Pearl responded to the incident and said that they had informed Mr Zhang that they couldn’t bring the bags up to him because they were too heavy.
They added that 10 out of the 14 bags weighed about 180kg each, and they were worried about their employees injuring themselves.
They also highlighted how they were worried the lift could handle the weight of the goods.
The company also added that when they informed the customer about it, he allegedly reacted with a bad attitude towards them.
They eventually left the shipment at the void deck because they had no other choice.
