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GF SAW NEW BF’S KKJ FOR THE 1ST TIME & SAYS IT’S SMALL, THEN LAUGH AT HIM WHEN HE CRY

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GF SAW NEW BF’S KKJ FOR THE 1ST TIME & SAYS IT’S SMALL, THEN LAUGH AT HIM WHEN HE CRY

My girlfriend said I was small down there and laughed at me when I was being vulnerable.

This has been bothering me a lot and I just want to vent into the void. I’ve been dating this woman for a couple a months now, but we have been friends for a while before we started dating.

We have not slept together much since we’ve been together, but she saw my private parts for the first time a few weeks ago.

I’m okay with what I have, and other people I’ve been with enjoy it. I’ve had insecurities in the past, but my other partners got me through it.

We had an awkward conversation where it came up and she was honest with me that it is not as big as I thought it was.

I’ve already been feeling really insecure about the relationship and when I was being vulnerable and started to break down with her and she laughed at me which I think was the worst part.

She did try to console me. I acted like everything was fine afterwards and that was it. Now I’m sitting here emotional and not even sure what to do next.

To give more clarity. (32m) and (35f). It was me being vulnerable about the whole relationship, and my feelings about it, and my insecurities about us in general not about my size.

I wasn’t insecure about it until she made me feel insecure. Never brought up my size before. She talked about her previous exes being small before this.

This brings in more insecurities if we break up will she just talk about me like this and be mean?

Netizens’ comments

  1. If that’s her behaviour with something so delicate, I don’t wanna know her behaviour in other topics. Let her go and maybe next time you will someone more supportive.
  2. That is definitely not ok. It does not matter what the topic is about, it does not matter if you are a male or female. If someone is insecure or upset about something you handle it/them with compassion, kindness and care and you definitely do not laugh at them. Because if the tables had been turned and she had come to you, the outcome of you laughing at her would be extremely different.
  3. Yeah you should break up. I am a small guy, was in a 7 year relationship with a woman who had plenty of experiences with guys twice my size. Well, she did make a joke about my size once, it was actually funny, and by that point our relationship was just about over. My point is if a woman cares about you she won’t make fun of it.

NETIZENS SHARE THINGS THEY MISS FROM THE 90s & 00s, LIFE WAS SIMPLER BACK THEN

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NETIZENS SHARE THINGS THEY MISS FROM THE 90s & 00s, LIFE WAS SIMPLER BACK THEN

What are some things you missed most from the 90s and 00s?

For me the top 3 that came to mind:

Less foreigners and crowds, specifically before the mid 00s. The foreigners that were here were either the top execs or working in low paying manual jobs. Much less competition for the average Singaporean. Everything changed when they opened the floodgates in the mid 00s.

People were less materialistic, elitist and judgemental. No IG and TikTok and people were not pressured to compared with one another and becoming so unhappy.

The most iconic movies were made in the 90s, like Jurassic Park, Independence Day, Titanic and the whole lot of Disney cartoons. Same thing for mediacorp tv shows. Nowadays the movies and shows used too much CGI, stories are complicated and difficult to follow and acting standards certainly dropped.

Netizens’ comments

  1. Taking a bus to a “faraway” place that isn’t serviced by mrt felt like an epic journey. Back then the combination of less-available bus information and our young naivety made it feel like an epic undertaking.
    In primary school I remember hearing about a Tamiya car shop somewhere in tampines. My friends and I drooled at the kind of rare parts we might find there that weren’t available in our local shop in Toa Payoh.
    We used the school library computer, on its 56kpbs connection (might’ve been 10kbps, slow as hell for sure), to try find information on where this particular shopblock was. No one knew how to read maps and we barely understood the internet as more than the platform where we play neopets.
    Well we found the block, planned out which busses to take, what bus to take home if we get lost, and packed water and snacks. Met up at the bus interchange and went on an epic journey to the east to hunt for legendary tamiya parts and perhaps race with the strangers who lived in those strange distant lands.
    It was nerve wracking because our parents weren’t involved and all the roads looked the same, except we knew we were far as hell from our comfortable hdb estate.
    We made it to the shop eventually. Spent some money on motors and other carbon fibre parts that weren’t available back home. Spoke with some uncles who had thousands of dollars in the hobby and big toolboxes. 10/10 wish I could experience another adventure like that.
  2. Me: Watching Cardcaptor Sakura on Saturday morning in my pajamas on Kids Central.
    My husband: Watching chinese dub Digimon Adventures on Sunday morning on channel 8.
  3. The weather.
    I was in primary school in late 90s, early 2000s. I remember I could walk back home in the middle of the day (~1-3pm) and not really break a sweat.
    Try doing that now, I think can die lol.
  4. Memories of buses…
    The bus driver uncles would pretend they’re race car drivers, and execute a downshift on the manual transmission before a turn just so they could punch it out of the corner. Obviously, it was a bus so we weren’t going fast, but it sure felt exciting.
    When it started raining, passengers would close all the windows without prompting. But the bus would quickly fog up and the driver would furiously wipe the inside surface of the windshield at every opportunity, like at stoplights. Sometimes the bus would be quite empty when it started raining so we’ll end up with drenched seats that no one wanted to sit on.
    Maintaining your student concession bus pass through the year was a challenge. Mine was always pretty ragged after just half a year’s use because they had this rule about no lamination. Monthly stamps were so inexpensive back then, and they were good for every service at every hour. We sure made use of that perk during the weekends when we would go explore different parts of the country.
    Recalling even further back, I have vague memories of riding the bus with my grandma. There were a driver and a ticket master who gave out punched paper tickets. I still have no clue how that system worked, as when I started traveling independently on buses, we had already switched to single operator with the coin box (many variants) with no tickets. The paper tickets came back later via auto-dispensers.
    Fond memories…all.
  5. You don’t miss the 90s, you miss being a kid without responsibilities because your parents tanked all that shit for you in the 90s.

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GUY GOT CARRIED AWAY WHEN GF PLAYING HIS KKJ, RIP OUT HER HAIR & NOW SHE GOT BALD SPOT

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GUY GOT CARRIED AWAY WHEN GF PLAYING HIS KKJ, RIP OUT HER HAIR & NOW SHE GOT BALD SPOT

My (23f) boyfriend (24m) ripped out my hair and now I have a bald spot. Help?

My boyfriend likes to hold my hair when I give him head, he likes to pull sometimes do and move my head (I know he does this because I’m not fast enough sometimes. I get that).

However, I have told him multiple times before that he needs to be careful because I have thin hair and sometimes he gives me major headaches from banging my head around too much.

He’s always been fairly understanding of this but last night it seems like he got a little too carried away since he pulled too hard on my head and ripped a chunk of my hair out.

I stopped and cried my eyes out because it’s my hair!! And now it’s gone and I told him so!!! He told me he couldn’t help it because he got too “carried away in the moment” so he “couldn’t control the force he was going at”. I ended up going home and I haven’t heard from him since last night.

Luckily my stylist is willing to stay late tomorrow to help fix the spot, but I’m still feeling extremely emotional over what happened.

I want to talk about it with him when I’m less upset but I honestly don’t know what to say other than “I f-ng told you so”. Any advice on how to approach this?

TLDR; boyfriend ripped out my hair when i was blowing him. Hasn’t fully apologized and haven’t heard from him in 24 hours. How do I talk about it with him?

Netizens’ comments

  1. “You don’t respect me. This is over.”
  2. He was told not to do something and he just kept doing it until you had your hair ripped out. And even then he’s trying to justify it?
    If you can’t trust him to respect your boundaries, you shouldn’t sleep with him. For your own safety.
  3. I’m kinda curious what you think the options are here. I mean above and beyond dumping him.

SUV DRIVER THINKS HE’S PLAYING BOWLING ON PIE, RUNS OVER WHOLE ROW OF TRAFFIC CONES

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SUV DRIVER THINKS HE’S PLAYING BOWLING ON PIE, RUNS OVER WHOLE ROW OF TRAFFIC CONES

Singapore’s highways are no strangers to the sight of orange traffic cones, and roadworks have become a common occurrence. However, sometimes, peculiar incidents occur that leave us baffled.

One such incident unfolded late at night when a white SUV decided to take matters into its own hands, or rather, wheels, and embarked on an unusual adventure along the Pan-Island Expressway (PIE).

The Midnight Misadventure

On a seemingly ordinary night, at precisely 2:35 am on September 30th, a dashcam recorded a rather unexpected event on the PIE that was destined to capture the attention of many.

As the dashcam footage unraveled, it revealed a white SUV traveling in the same lane, just ahead of the recording vehicle.

Approaching the highway’s split towards the Bukit Timah Expressway (BKE), a peculiar scene came into view. A line of traffic cones, road signs, and a crash impact truck occupied the lane on the far right.

The Unexpected Turn

Rather than following the conventional path, as the recording vehicle did, the SUV made an unconventional move. Instead of veering onto the middle lane towards the BKE, it chose to continue its journey on the PIE. What happened next would surprise anyone witnessing it.

With remarkable precision or sheer chance, the SUV aligned itself perfectly with the row of traffic cones. In an instant, it plowed through them, sending the orange pylons tumbling in all directions. It was a sight that could only be described as surreal, as the SUV continued on its path of destruction.

As the SUV continued its rampage, it narrowly missed hitting one solitary cone, thus thwarting the possibility of a perfect strike. Despite this, the audacious driver remained undeterred.

The Close Call

In the midst of the chaos, a close encounter ensued. The SUV, still on its destructive course, came dangerously close to colliding with the impact attenuator truck stationed alongside the cones. It was a moment that had onlookers holding their breath, uncertain of what might happen next.

With a stroke of luck or perhaps skill, the SUV emerged unscathed from its near collision with the truck. It pressed on, passing yet another row of traffic cones, a second truck, and several roadside workers. Remarkably, it refrained from causing any further havoc, leaving behind a trail of bewildered witnesses.

RAIN EXPECTED ON MOST DAYS IN 1ST HALF OF OCT, BUT TEMPERATURES WILL REMAIN 33-34°C

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RAIN EXPECTED ON MOST DAYS IN 1ST HALF OF OCT, BUT TEMPERATURES WILL REMAIN 33-34°C

Mainly Short-Duration Thundery Showers in First Fortnight of October 2023

Singapore, 2 October 2023 – The prevailing Southwest Monsoon conditions are likely to persist over Singapore and the surrounding region, and the low-level winds are expected to blow from the southeast or southwest on most days. On a few days, the winds may temporarily weaken to become light and variable in direction.

2    In the coming fortnight, localised short-duration thundery showers are expected between the late morning and afternoon over parts of the island on most days due to the daytime heating of land areas. On one or two days, regional convergence of winds may bring widespread moderate to heavy thundery showers over Singapore in the afternoon. Overall, the rainfall for the first half of October 2023 is likely to be below average over most parts of Singapore.

3    The daily maximum temperatures are expected to range between 33 degrees Celsius and 34 degrees Celsius on most days. Although showers are expected on most days in the coming fortnight, the daily maximum temperature could still reach a high of slightly above 34 degrees Celsius on one or two days.

4     For updates of the daily weather forecast, please visit the MSS website (www.weather.gov.sg), NEA website (www.nea.gov.sg), or download the myENV app.

REVIEW (1 – 30 September 2023)

5    Southwest Monsoon conditions prevailed over Singapore and the surrounding region in September 2023, with low-level winds blowing mostly from the southeast or southwest.

6    Localised short-duration thundery showers fell over parts of the island in the late morning and afternoon on several days. On 6 September 2023, large-scale convergence of winds over Singapore and the surrounding region led to the development of widespread moderate to heavy thundery showers over many parts of the island in afternoon. The daily total rainfall of 157.5 mm recorded at Lower Peirce Reservoir that day was the highest rainfall recorded for September 2023. On 24 September 2023, a Sumatra squall brought moderate to heavy thundery showers over many parts of Singapore in the morning. There were also several days where the weather was generally fair and occasionally windy.

7    The daily maximum temperatures in September 2023 were above 32 degrees Celsius on all days except 24 September 2023. The highest daily maximum temperature of 34.9 degrees Celsius was recorded at Sentosa on 19 September 2023. On several nights, the daily minimum temperatures over the eastern, southern and western coastal areas of the island were above 28 degrees Celsius.

8    Most parts of Singapore recorded above average rainfall in September 2023. Lower Peirce Reservoir recorded rainfall of 85 per cent above average, and Tengah recorded rainfall of 45 per cent below average.

CLIMATE STATION STATISTICS

Long-term Statistics for October
(Climatological reference period: 1991 – 2020)

Average daily maximum temperature:31.8 °C
Average daily minimum temperature:25.0 °C
Average monthly temperature:27.9 °C
Average rainfall:168.3 mm
Average number of rain days:15

Historical Extremes for October
(Rainfall since 1869 and temperature since 1929)

Highest monthly mean daily maximum temperature:33.0°C (2002)
Lowest monthly mean daily minimum temperature:22.8 °C (1964)
Highest monthly rainfall ever recorded:497.1 mm (1947)
Lowest monthly rainfall ever recorded:10.8 mm (2002)

LORRY CRASHED & FLIPPED OVER, SPILLING BROWN LIQUID & BLOCKING OFF THE ROAD @ UPP THOMSON

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LORRY CRASHED & FLIPPED OVER, SPILLING BROWN LIQUID & BLOCKING OFF THE ROAD @ UPP THOMSON

On Thursday, the 28th of September, 2023, at approximately 0930 hours, Upper Thomson Road witnessed a chaotic incident. A lorry or truck, while making a right turn at the junction of Ang Mo Kio Avenue 1, tipped over onto its left side.

The Accident Unfolds

As the clock approached 9:30 in the morning, the streets were bustling with commuters, and traffic was at its peak. Little did anyone know that a routine turn would soon turn into a spectacle.

The vehicle involved in the accident was a lorry or truck, which had lost balance while making a right turn. For a brief moment, it teetered on its left wheels, defying gravity, before eventually succumbing to gravity’s pull and toppling over.

The accident caused a spillage of a brownish liquid onto the roadside. This added an unexpected hazard to the situation, further complicating the cleanup process.

The overturned lorry occupied two out of the three lanes on Upper Thomson Road. This not only caused a significant traffic jam but also created a precarious situation for oncoming vehicles.

The Aftermath

Miraculously, the driver of the lorry emerged from the accident with only minor injuries. Despite the chaos and shock of the accident, the driver declined medical assistance and chose not to be taken to the hospital.

With the lorry teetering on its side, a call was made for a crane truck to the rescue. The process of lifting the lorry back into an upright position was initiated, albeit with caution and precision.

The Netizen’s Facebook post (SIC)

An Accident Happening on 28/9/23 (Thursday) At Approximately about 0930Hrs, A Footage of A Vehicle Involving An Accident, A Lorry/ Truck Has Tipped over on Left side White Making The Right Turn Along Upper Thomson Road, At The Junction of Ang Mor Kio Avenue 1 Lorry/ Truck Overturn W Making Right Turn Upper Thomson;

Driver Suffer Minor Injuries& The Driver Did Not Want To Be Taken To Hospital, The Lorry/ Truck Is Momentarily Balance On Its Left Wheels, Bef It Tipped Over To Its Side As A Result & Spilling Brownish Liquid Onto A Roadside& The Vehicle Has Taken Up 2 Lane of The 3-Lane Road. Later

A Crane Truck Called, In the Progress Of Lifting Up Lorry/ Truck Back Upright Position. My Heart and Prayers Goes To The Driver and gws!

NETIZEN BOOKED GRAB, DRIVER SAYS “IF I KNEW YOU GOING ORCHARD, I WOULDN’T HAVE ACCEPTED”

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NETIZEN BOOKED GRAB, DRIVER SAYS “IF I KNEW YOU GOING ORCHARD, I WOULDN’T HAVE ACCEPTED”

In the bustling city of Singapore, where every minute counts, ride-hailing services like Grab have become an essential part of daily life. But what happens when the convenience of these services collides with the realities faced by drivers?

Can’t seem to get a ride

The story begins with a customer in a familiar predicament – running late for an appointment at Takashimaya, a prominent shopping center in Orchard Road. Faced with the need for quick transportation, the customer turns to Grab, hoping for a swift solution.

However, their journey starts with a series of booking attempts. They initially try booking a ‘JustGrab’ ride, only to find that there are no available drivers.

Undeterred, they attempt to book a ‘GrabCar (Gogek),’ but once again, no drivers are available. With time ticking away, the customer turns to ‘GrabShare,’ a carpooling service that proves to have an available driver.

A Candid Conversation

As the customer boards the GrabShare car, they engage in a conversation with the driver. What the driver shares sheds light on the challenges faced by ride-hailing drivers.

The driver candidly admits, “I didn’t want to pick up passengers to Orchard or from Orchard because it’s Saturday, and it’s jammed.”

They go on to explain that had they known the destination would be Orchard, they wouldn’t have accepted the ride, regardless of the fare offered, due to the expected traffic congestion.

Driver hates driving to Orchard

Despite the driver’s initial reluctance, the customer’s journey from the pick-up point to the drop-off location turns out to be relatively smooth. The traffic congestion, while present, is not as severe as feared, and the customer reaches their destination without significant delays.

What stands out in this story is a recurring theme among drivers: their complaints about the challenges of their profession.

The customer notes that during approximately 80% of their Grab rides, drivers have expressed grievances about the state of their business.

He questioned why the drivers are complaining about business being bad when they are the ones picking and choosing their customers.

Here is what he said

Yesterday I was running late for my appointment at Takashimaya. So I book Grab/Gogek. I book justgrab (no drivers available), book gogek (no drivers available) so I decided to try Grabshare. Thankfully there is driver.

So when I board the car the driver chatted with me. Then he said this “I didn’t want to pick up passengers to orchard/from orchard because its Saturday and its jam.

I didn’t know that you were going to orchard area. If I know, I wouldn’t have accept it no matter how much you pay me because its very sian”

I was like no wonder no drivers wanted to accept it. But the thing is throughout the ride from my pick up point to the drop off point.

The journey was pretty smooth. The jam wasn’t that bad as if driving from Singapore to JB. Its just that have to drive a bit slower.

Then the thing is…….. 80% of the time I took Grab ah when the drivers chatted with me they always complain about how business was bad, how hard it was to have passengers to book Grab but yet they want to pick and choose the area they want to go.

Honestly, when I alighted at my location so many people were waiting for Grab or want to take cab. Earning money is never easy and relax.

So if the Grab/gogek/taxi drivers wants to pick and choose location. Don’t complain about how business has drop, nobody want to book cars. The fact is that you just have to go to the right location.

WOMAN’S FLIGHT GOT CHANGED SO SHE ASKS FOR REFUND, BUT GOT NOTHING SINCE AUGUST

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WOMAN’S FLIGHT GOT CHANGED SO SHE ASKS FOR REFUND, BUT GOT NOTHING SINCE AUGUST

In the fast-paced world of air travel, schedule changes can happen at any moment, leaving passengers in a state of flux.

A Shift in Plans

It all began with a simple email notification. A Jetstar customer was informed that their scheduled flight, originally set for 11 am, had been moved up to 7 am.

Faced with this abrupt change, the customer was presented with a choice: accept the new flight time or opt for a refund. They chose the latter option, initiating a series of events that would test their patience and trust in the airline.

The journey through the refund process started on August 14th. At that point, Jetstar assured the customer, “we will refund within a week.” However, as days turned into weeks, the customer’s optimism waned. The airline’s promise of a swift resolution morphed into “we will refund within 30 days,” and still, nothing happened.

As the weeks turned into months, the customer’s frustration grew. Jetstar’s communication further compounded their confusion.

The airline claimed to have initiated the refund to the customer’s bank account, only to later backtrack and state, “we will send you an email within 7 days.” Meanwhile, the customer’s bank, UOB, denied any knowledge of the transaction.

The Phone Calls

Determined to resolve the issue, the customer reached out to Jetstar’s customer service repeatedly. During these calls, they were informed that the refund had actually been initiated on September 26th, not in August as initially stated. The customer found themselves trapped in a maze of conflicting information.

Adding to the mystique of the situation, the customer noticed that their flight booking had disappeared from the Jetstar app. It was as if their entire journey had been erased, further deepening their bewilderment.

Frustrated and seeking answers, the Jetstar customer turned to their fellow travelers for support and information. They posed a question that many have pondered: “Has anyone successfully received a refund from Jetstar before?”

The Search for Clarity

In one final attempt to resolve the issue, the customer engaged in a chat conversation with Jetstar’s customer service. Yet, even in this digital exchange, the clarity they sought remained elusive.

Jetstar claimed that the refund was processed on August 22nd, further muddying the waters of confusion. The discrepancy between August and September left the customer questioning the airline’s credibility.

Here is what she said

Jetstar changed flight time from 11am to 7am so I was given a choice to accept or cancel and refund. A refund initiated.

Since 14 August, from “we will refund with a week”, to “we will refund within 30 days”, to “we had made a refund to your bank account” and “we will send you an email within 7 days”. This is transaction number. (UOB said no)

All didn’t happen.

I called up again today, was told you made a refund on 26 September. So pls wait 7 more days. The refund was initiated 14 Aug not sept. Cso said she will check and next thing I know, the line cut.

They even gave me a bank transaction number that UOB hasn’t got it. The booking is now gone from the app.

It just remind me of Ryanair where they reply they had refunded to bank account more than 10 times but you will never receive.

Anyone successfully got your refund from Jetstar before? Pls share… Jetstar Asia

I contacted jetstar on chat again, was told the refund was made 22 Aug, so did jetstar refund? On 22 Aug or 26 Sep? Not to Citibank but my uob account.

29 Y.O S’PORE MAN GETS HIS HAND STUCK INSIDE CUP HOLDER ON SIA FLIGHT TO VIETNAM

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29 Y.O S’PORE MAN GETS HIS HAND STUCK INSIDE CUP HOLDER ON SIA FLIGHT TO VIETNAM

A 29-year-old Singaporean man, Abraham, who embarked on a journey he would never forget while on a Singapore Airlines flight to Saigon, Vietnam, on September 30, 2023.

Intrusive Thoughts Take Over

It all began about an hour into the flight when Abraham, decided to let his “intrusive thoughts” take control. In a playful moment of curiosity, he squeezed his hand through the cup holder before him. What seemed like a harmless experiment quickly turned into a bizarre predicament.

As Abraham attempted to withdraw his hand, he realized, to his astonishment, that he couldn’t. Panic gave way to amusement as he grappled with the realization that he was stuck in an unlikely trap at cruising altitude.

The Video That Went Viral

Amidst the rising perplexity, Abraham’s quick-thinking friend reached for his phone and began recording the unfolding spectacle. Little did they know that this lighthearted moment would soon become an internet sensation.

The video, with its unexpected and humorous twist, garnered over 430,000 views on TikTok. However, TikTok promptly issued a cautionary statement, emphasizing the potential risks involved: “Participating in this activity could result in you or others getting hurt.”

Butter to the Rescue

Amidst the awkwardness, Abraham tried to remain upbeat. He humorously suggested, “Put butter. Don’t call the flight attendant,” as he contemplated unconventional methods to liberate his hand from the grasp of the cup holder instead of embarrassing himself with the flight stewardess.

As the situation escalated, Abraham’s friend couldn’t resist but call a flight attendant for help. The flight attendant, appearing equally perplexed and amused by the bizarre predicament, attempted to extricate Abraham’s hand. However, her efforts proved futile.

Abraham persistently requested butter, envisioning it as a makeshift lubricant to facilitate his escape. Unfortunately for him, the flight attendant regretfully informed him that butter was not part of their in-flight offerings.

The Agonizing Wait

For a seemingly endless ten minutes, Abraham sat there, caught in a momentary lapse of judgment. His hand remained steadfastly ensnared by the cup holder. Throughout this ordeal, he couldn’t help but feel a sense of foolishness.

With determination and a touch of embarrassment, Abraham finally managed to free his hand from the cup holder’s clutches. The relief was palpable as he reflected on the humorous yet bewildering predicament that had unfolded.

@kdarshen Indeed a great way to fly #singaporeairlines #flysq #agreatwaytofly #bestie ♬ bunyi asal – haa

CHILDREN IS INNOCENT, PARENTS SHOULD NOT DRAGGED KIDS INTO THEIR PROBLEMS

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CHILDREN IS INNOCENT, PARENTS SHOULD NOT DRAGGED KIDS INTO THEIR PROBLEMS

Why do children have to suffer when it’s the parent who married the wrong person? Why can’t I have my own life and my own happy family? Why can’t I get married without feeling guilty?

My mom has been dropping the bomb every now and then saying things like she will be alone in future after my siblings and I get married, nobody to care for her etc, while not putting in any effort in her own marriage.

I have been her part time husband since young, accompanying her everywhere in the absence of my dad, and I grew up wondering WHY do children have to be the ones who suffer when it’s the parents marriage that failed. And it’s not even like my parents are divorced, they are just not putting in any effort to even communicate properly with each other. It’s frustrating.

My siblings and I even have to be the ones passing messages between them at times. Cant they just talk properly???

Why is it that you don’t have a happy marriage and you want to stop us from having ours? Cant you let us get married without feeling guilty for being unable to spend as much time with you? Why???? Why would people be unhappy and choose to pass on that unhappiness to their loved ones?

Am I wrong for feeling this way? I am sure I won’t be a parent who wants my children to be unhappy if I am unhappy so I don’t understand why would my parents be like that?

Here are what netizens think:

  • No, you’re not wrong in feeling this way. You are not obligated to fix or make either of your parents happy in their marriage. Having said this, you are still their child and you still have a responsibility towards them. Make them happy by treating them well, visiting them often after you’re married, taking care of their well-being, etc. Especially towards your mum. Most of the time she may not realise her words are guilt tripping you. She’s probably just really lonely and sad…she has lots of bottled up feelings and no one to express it to but her children. Deep down, like every woman, she just wants to be loved and cared for and guess what? She deserves all that and more.. the years of sacrifice as a mother is unimaginable… So though her words might annoy you for the most part, be patient with her and constantly reassure her that you’ll be there for her…
  • It seems some mothers are the ones who engaged in emotional blackmail and causing a gulf between child and father. You need to tell her nicely to live her own life and no longer use you as a crutch. You will still visit her but now she has to live her own life and you yours. Watch out so that she don’t sabotage your relationship.
  • Your parent problems are not your problems. Both their expectation and ego could have caused their communication breakdown. Stay away from their problem and choose the life you want to lead and don’t let their problems affect your life. Be happy.
  • You are past of the problem. When one gets support elsewhere, one becomes even more reluctant to make it work. Tell her you have a life elsewhere. If she complains, tell her it’s time she reconciles.
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