Been to Singapore and Malaysia, I prefer to live in Malaysia much more than Singapore

I am Chinese living in London. I have been looking to relocate to South East Asia, and both Singapore and Malaysia are on top of the list.

I have spent some time in both countries, I prefer to live in Malaysia much more than in Singapore. True, Singapore is a more developed country and is perceived to be very safe.

However, if this is what I want I would stay in London, Singapore has not reached the same level of development as London yet.

My wife has worked at Goldman Sachs in Singapore for three years. We all agree Malaysia is where we would actually love to live.

1, Cost of living is much more affordable than in Singapore, this is a very big factor

2, Malaysian are much more friendly than Singaporeans

3, Pace of life is slower in Malaysia, Singapore is too hectic for me

4, Singapore is too small, and there is more to do in Malaysia and more variety

5, I can actually own a car in Malaysia, and this is almost impossible in Singapore

I am currently looking to apply for a residence permit to live in Malaysia, which is a big obstacle for me. However, both I and my wife have made up our minds to relocate to Malaysia probably in 2024.

What do Malaysian think of Singapore?

I grew up in a village in mainland China and lived there for 18 years. I know what corruption and poverty looks like FYI.

Netizens’ comments

1. Been to Singapore to study + work. You are right.
   However, many Malaysians cross over to work in Singapore simply because the currency much more powerful.
   If $$ is no issue for you, anywhere is paradise really.
2. I think Malaysia is better if you’re already rich – you probably have more upward mobility in Singapore relative to Malaysia.
   I’m a foreigner that’s visited both places extensively and I prefer Malaysia because I’ve already acquired capital.
   If I were starting a career in the region though I’d pick Singapore any day.
3. If you’ve big salary here in Malaysia, absolutely. But unfortunately, many Malaysians go to work in Singapore because they don’t have big salary.

just broke up with my fiance whom I share a joint account with. Am I the asshole for asking for 100% of the money in our joint account because I think he should compensate me for my time wasted on him?

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years and we have been working for 2 years since graduating. He proposed to me last december and since then, I have been asking him to plan for our wedding, which I would prefer to be held as soon as possible because I am tired of working and want to be a housewife.

He told me he would prefer to have the wedding next year because he needs some time to plan the wedding but I want it to be held preferably by end of this year. Since he has agreed to stay at my parents’ house after marriage then there shouldn’t be any issues at all.

I just cannot understand why he wants to wait until next year to have the wedding because actually I was asking for a very simple wedding.

I only wanted to invite our friends and relatives to a dinner at a mid-tier hotel like Pan Pacific and to get very affordable wedding bands like Cartier. He certainly can afford them because he has $30k in his personal savings account and he earns $5k a month.

I’m not even asking for much because I know there are way more expensive places to hold a banquet and way more high-end jewellery brands to get wedding bands from. But he thinks that the wedding bands and hotels I chose are too extravagant even though I have offered to help him pay 20% of all expenses.

Because of all these issues, we quarrelled a lot and eventually I decided to break up with him because I realise he’s a very selfish person who doesn’t even care about what I want at all. Even the engagement ring he got for me was a small 0.9 carat which cost only $9k although I have specifically told him that I wanted a 1.5 carat.

Now that we have broken up, we are in the midst of discussing how to split our joint account money and he said he will give me half of the money inside, which is only $10k.

His excuse for giving me only half of the money is that he was the only one contributing to the joint account. He did contributed to 100% of the joint account but I was the one who encouraged him to save up. Whenever he wanted to buy useless things like Nintendo Switch, I stopped him from buying them.

Without me, he wouldn’t even have savings at all. Moreover, I wasted 3 years of my life on him so I think I deserve more than $10k.

Honestly, even if he gives me all the money, which is merely $20k, I still don’t think it’s enough to compensate for the 3 years.

But he seems reluctant to give me 100% of the money and kept giving me all sorts of lame excuses. Should I continue to ask for $20k or should I just settle for $10k? I’m so tired of fighting over this.

Hi Singapore, I visited your country a few months back and stayed in one of your famous and old hotels, but I shan’t name them for privacy purposes.

So the local legend is that the hotel has “guests” that never checked out, if you catch my drift. If you don’t, ghosts okay? I’m talking about ghosts.

So with it being a legend and all, I paid no heed to it because I figured they were all just stories meant to spook people for entertainment purposes.

I also spoke with some of the locals who told me that they knock on the hotel room door first before entering, but I didn’t because where I’m from, we just don’t practice that custom.

I was told that it was apparently to “inform” whatever was inside the room that we were gonna be entering and not disturb “them”.

So the first night, I was sleeping alone in the hotel room and the bathroom light inexplicably turned on by itself, and I brushed it off the electrical circuits malfunctioning or something.

I got up and went to switch off the lights, before going back to bed.

This time, the showers turned on by themselves, and the rational side of me is trying to explain the happenings as electrical and plumbing issues.

But they happened about minutes apart.

So I went to the bathroom, turned on the lights to look at the showers, there was nothing out of place. I switch off the running shower and looked at the lever that turns on the water – you had to turn it to activate the water, and I didn’t know if it had any electrical mechanisms involved.

By now all kinds of thoughts were running in my head, and I am getting very, VERY spooked, and I didn’t want to be alone inside that hotel room.

And I also couldn’t check out of the hotel because it was about 1am and it would be really troublesome to look for another hotel at this timing, and I was really reluctant to go outside and roam the streets until the morning.

The first thought I had was to hire an escort for an overnight “activity” session, so I wouldn’t be alone.

I went on *website name redacted* and hired this beautiful asian girl for a whole nighter, about $700 to spend the night with me.

We didn’t do much sleeping that night *winks*, but there was one instance where the bathroom lights turned on by itself again while we were “busy”.

Anyway, I checked out of the hotel the next morning and went to another hotel, and the weird happenings didn’t happen again.

I must say, that was an interesting holiday…

I was lying in bed, naked as the day I was born. It was my birthday and I was looking forward to the day ahead. Little did I know that my girlfriend had something special planned.

I felt the warmth of her body as she slipped into bed with me. I kept my eyes closed, not wanting to spoil the surprise. She started kissing my chest and neck, her wet lips sent a chill through my body. I felt her hands exploring my body, her delicate fingers tracing my curves.

I was about to open my eyes when I felt her lips on my bird. I gasped as she started to mouth action, her tongue swirling around the head. I reached up and grabbed her head, guiding her as she bobbed up and down.

My breathing got heavier as I felt her tongue flick at the tip. I was close to the edge when I felt her move up my body and press her lips to mine. I opened my eyes and she smiled at me, her eyes twinkling with mischief.

She kissed me deeply, pressing her body against mine. I could feel her warmth radiating through me and I wanted her more than ever. I felt her hand sliding down my body, her fingers teasing my balls.

Suddenly, I felt her lips wrap around my cock again. She started to suck and lick, her tongue swirling around the shaft. I gasped as pleasure surged through me and I felt myself getting close to the edge.

Just as I was about to come, she pulled away and smiled at me. “Happy Birthday,” she said, her voice low and seductive.

I couldn’t believe what had just happened. I had been sound asleep and she had woken me up in the most incredible way. I felt like I was walking on air as I thanked her for the amazing surprise.

We kissed for a few more minutes and then she climbed off of me. She pulled the covers up and I snuggled up against her. I couldn’t believe how lucky I was to have such an amazing girlfriend.

As I drifted off to sleep, I couldn’t help but smile. I had the best birthday surprise ever and I couldn’t wait to see what other surprises she had in store for me.