My niece is 17 so she’s started thinking about her career/university.

Yesterday, the family was asking her if she had decided what she wanted to do with her life. She told them her dream job was the same job as my job.

Everyone automatically assumed she meant she wanted to work in marketing because that’s what I’m currently doing.

My niece said that’s not what she wants to do and she wanted to be a trophy wife.

Admittedly, this is a sore spot for me because a lot of my extended family went from treating me like someone who had worked hard to get where I currently am to a glorified trophy wife the second I got married.

My parents did call her out for what she said but my niece said her dad said that’s what I was.

I got annoyed and I ended up calling my brother-in-law and giving him a piece of my mind, and telling my niece I didn’t think it was a realistic dream for her.

My sister is upset with me for what I said to my niece and claims that her husband was only joking.

Netizen’s comments

• Let’s face it – your sister is upset because she and her husband got caught bad-mouthing you and are covering their embarrassment by getting mad at you. What they should be doing is apologizing to you for talking about you behind your back.
  As far as what you told your niece and your BIL – it was entirely appropriate. What did you sister expect you to say? That they were correct and what they said was fine?

In recent times, an alarming and unconventional trend has emerged in the People’s Republic of China (PRC) where men are engaging in street fights by spitting into each other’s mouths. This bizarre phenomenon has gained notoriety, not only for its shocking nature but also for the cultural and societal implications it carries.

Introduction

Addressing unusual behaviors in society is crucial to maintaining a healthy and harmonious community. The emergence of PRC men engaging in street fights by spitting into each other’s mouths is a stark example of the need for understanding and intervention.

The Rise of Bizarre Street Fights

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Here are what netizens think:

• imagine the world only spit fight. There will be no violence in this world. No fist fights or gun fights.

• Swapping spit and even kissed at one point.

• They have more willpower than I ever would

• Say it, don’t spray it

• This is how their government controls them. They can’t fight or their social credit score will drop.

• That explosive spit kiss is what started covid in china

• So is it common in China to spit on eachother cuz this isn’t the first video I saw of this happening back and -forth….

• this clip would be alot shorter if this was in America

• How are they not swinging? I would say i am a very calm person but spitting on me is a go to fight

• This is how war will look like in 2030 vision.

• At least they both go home to their families

• Oh my goodness all of this spitting going on cut it out that nasty spitting and each other like that-

• this is how they spread their virus to the world

My ex of 6 years messaged me last night

I loved him when I was in school. Asked him out, went out for 3 months. Those 3 months were outright awful.

He was emotionally closed off, never wanted to call me, never texted first, never told me he missed me.

Looking back at it, I can’t even call it dating. If I didn’t text him first, he didn’t message for weeks. I told him I loved him, and he told me to stop being a distraction in his life.

Then why say yes to going out with me?! That’s when I decided that I came first and never messaged him ever again after saying I was done.

He texted me yesterday night, after 6 whole years. He misses me, he feels the same, he didn’t have the courage to say it all this time, he wants to go out with me.

The audacity?! I don’t even know him anymore. I have had no contact with him. Why now? What makes him think he can waltz back into my life after all these years?

There’s no way I’m going back.

Netizens’ comments

• “New phone, who dis?”

• said he misses you? after 6 years have passed and you only dated for 3 months? my bs radar is screaming. this dude sounds like he’s desperately trying to get some skin.

• Don’t let this be round 2 of what happened last time. He’s not worth it

A woman seeks help from the internet brigade after she have a problem she can’t solve, stating that she is unable to bear the smell of her boyfriend.

Here is the story:

He showers every day, wears nice smelling clothes (good laundry), wears a normal amount of deodorant, wears expensive cologne, and overall I know he has decent hygiene.

But he has a case of smelly “bird” and I want to bring it up but I don’t want to make him feel bad or awkward. He’s uncut if that helps.

I love my boyfriend but sometimes his bird smells awful. It’s such a turn-off to smell it when you’re getting it on. I’ve tried showering with him and washed it for him during “er-hem” explaining to him how I love a clean bird. I’m beginning to think it’s me and maybe my smell is very strong. I wash regularly and no one has ever objected to going down on me so I don’t know.

Sometimes it just smells like a dirty public toilet’s toilet bowl, like you can smell it even before entering the toilet.

I just want to know if anyone else has this problem.

Here are what netizens think:

• He showers once a day but I don’t think he takes the time to clean his member.

• my bf had this issue some time ago when we were goin at it pretty frequently, all he had to do was trim up his man-fro a bit and smell decreased substantially. 

• You just have to be honest with him. It’ll be difficult at first because you don’t want to hurt his feelings but he will appreciate your honesty and you’ll both benefit later from it.

Help my buddy doesn’t bathe. For the past few weeks, I’ve noticed that he never goes to the toilet to shower. Despite guard duty on weekdays, he doesn’t shower.

Despite repeated warnings by his bunkmates he refuses to bathe. He really smells and tries to mask It with deodorant.

Furthermore, he does not eat any of his meals. He collects the full meal with the extra bun and discards the full meal away after.

When he was confronted by the sgts, he tried to fake bathe by bringing his towel and soap to the toilet stood inside the cubicle for a while and walked out. He then informed me he has bathed

What can I do to convince him to bathe.

Netizens’ comments

• maybe all of you can hold your nose when near him

• ok regardless of all the judgement, objectively, if he uses deo it means that he knows he smells bad enough to require it.
  so proper way to solve this would be to find the reason why. if u really want to help, u cant start with the endgoal of him in the cubicle everyday showering since it will just push him further away (think smoking and quit smoking signs).
  is it an in camp thing or in general thing? is it adjustment disorder since u mention not eating as well?

I’m a woman turning 30 this year and I’m finding it really hard to find a partner. Most guys looking are in their early 20s and most guys my age are already with someone.

I work in audit and I work very long hours. I admit I’m married to my job but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to “settle down.” And by “settle down” I just mean having someone I can partner with for the rest of my life. I don’t even care if I have children. I’m indifferent. I just want a guy whom I can spend time and grow old with.

Been on several dates and I realize very few guys want commitment. I only had one relationship that failed because he cheated on me and justified it by claiming I’m too busy with my work. I have already tried my best to spend time with him but audit is a really tough job. But anyway, that’s in the past.

I want a low-maintenance guy who can be comfortable being by himself but who is happy to spend time together when time permits. Surely there are guys like that? Don’t guys have to work in the 30s as well?

All the house-husband types are already taken.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m dating anything that walks, please take me

• There is definitely someone out there who is also scratching his head and searching high and low for a girl like you. Just that both of you could have missed each another or you both have not met. Be a little patient, and look around. He could be around you. Good luck and don’t give up hope.

• Find a house husband like already house husband so when u free can go n talk n grow old with him, when u r not free he can work on his family…

Bf bought me an obiang branded bag from overseas. What should I do?

Bf insisted to spend min 1k on my upcoming anniversary gift because I have gifted him an ipad pro for his bday.

Nearing the anniversary, I have bought him an iphone to replace his 4 year old phone. He was actually quite unhappy upon receiving the present because he once told me he don’t appreciate receiving a phone as present. So I intend to sell it on carousell since I can’t refund the phone that was purchased during Lazada flash sale. My bf decided okay he will use the gift since it’s a gift from me so he broke the seal of the iphone box even though i managed to find an interested iphone buyer but left it unused up til now. In fear that I wouldn’t like his 1k+ gift, he revealed he’s buying a DSLR for me as I can take nice photos if travel overseas. I stopped him from buying. Reason being the current working adult me has no use of a DSLR, and my flagship phone camera is suffice for someone who doesn’t take photography to the next level. I find the bulkiness of the camera more of a hindrance for an amateur. 

A few days later, bf went into jb with his friends and asked me if I am cool with getting a branded bag for my anniversary gift since they are headed to JPO. I have zero branded watches/bags, because I believe that scrimping and investing are good for my future. I just thought it’s a good idea to be gifted my first branded, so I gave him the green light. I very much prefer a swissmade watch but since he suggested, I decided to flow along with no objections (additional info – He doesn’t like to be restricted by a wishlist…. And I clearly updated him I wanted watch/necklace/proposal ring from him). I specifically told him no coach/longchamp in order to avoid “auntie” designs. He chose to surprise me with a gucci instead.

I was ecstatic to receive it initially, however…. After unboxing and removing from the dust bag…. The bag looks just like what I’ve imagined a coach bag to look like. When I posed with it in front of the mirror, I couldn’t control my expression and my bf could feel that I was disappointed. The bag doesn’t feel like a luxury bag…. I would pay $150 tops for the bag, but it costs around $2k. He chose the bag based on functionality(i.e. Able to store umbrella and water bottle) rather than aesthetic. Later I went on to google about the bag and JPO, and realised that the design is unlisted on gucci website (any bag pro could tell me what this means? Does it means my bf has bought a fake?) and JPO mainly sell outdated products.

Bf told me if he’s alright with me selling if I can sell it above cost price, but the max the buyer is willing to pay is only 50% of cost. Bf is still heartbroken and unwilling to bring it back to JPO for exchange/refund because it’s very bulky and he said it’s hard to bring across the custom via bus. It’s endearing to see him put effort into choosing my gift, and I’m really guilty of rejecting the gift. If this bag is <$300, i would have willingly kept it as a memento instead of desperately wanting to turn it back to cash.

It’s now sitting at my house gathering dust for the past week. Have been feeling  uneasy whenever I see the bag… Probably because I don’t want to use it and a $2k bag that I don’t want to own is now my responsibility. Can anybody advise me what is the next best step?

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