I’m stupid and I hate myself. I’m writing this to vent my emotions right now for being so dumb. And I guess I hope that this post could also serve as a lesson to my fellow gamers out there.

First off, I’m a father of 3 wonderful kids and I’m kinda a gamer dad. I’ve been playing this game called Genshin Impact the past 15 months or so. (If ur a gamer I’m sure you’ve heard it). We’re not rich, average is what I would describe our life. Not lacking but not excessive to have a lot in the bank.

Before you say anything. This isn’t concerning my gambling addiction. Never spent money on the game that I regreted. I have control over my impulses over these things.

As a gamer dad who deals with real-life issues, I had sold my game accounts occasionally. It’s not “legal” to do so but It’s a painful sacrifice that I do from time to time. This time around, my 2nd daughter had been sick the past couple of days, been vomiting a lot of what she eats and pooping abnormally. Normally this wouldn’t be much of an issue for us, but this time around my wife just gave birth about a month ago which depleted every extra money we had put aside.

In this kind of situation is when I make difficult decisions, last night with a heavy heart I posted my genshin account on this buy and sell forum. Having a loaded account with lots of love, I figured that this would be worth around $400 or so. Just a good portion of what I had spent on the game (again at this point, I would reiterate that my spending on this game was justified and never was an issue). I figured i had my fun, would’ve love to have more fun with the account but family first and it’s time to let go.

After a couple of hours of posting I got a discord Friend request from 3 separate people all wanting to buy the account. We had our conversation, he asked for screen shots, at this point he looked like a legit buyer.

Now here’s where my FU begin. Usually in these types of transactions. Someone would need to go first and in case no one wants to, they hire / use a middleman to secure the transaction.

Neither I nor the buyer trusted each other, i’ve done this before, i’m not sending mine first. i didn’t want to go first nor did the buyer wanted to go first. Understandably both of us were very cautious with a possibility of scam.

So what’s the best way to go about when you dont trust each other? Use a middleman. Normally, i would be on top of this situation, i’ve been scammed before albeit smaller ($30) i know and learned my lessons of not giving the goods first before payment. But the combination of the stress of having to work, care for a sick toddler, lack of money for medical stuff and a newborn in the house left me on a very vulnerable situation that I bit the fastest way possible to have the resources to pay for my daughter’s medical expenses.

In the 5 years when I first did this. I had never used a middleman before, every successful transaction that I did was money first always. So naturally, i didn’t know how it worked nor knew reputable ones. This buyer suggested a trello board where it blacklists discord scammers and lists “trusted” middlemen. One of these “trusted” middleman was initated by my buyer and started to contact me.

I’m not gonna lie, I was very skeptic… i was on the fence but the pressure of needing the money that badly pushed me to overlook any kind of logic in this situation.

The middleman asked for my account details so that he can secure it for the buyer. I gave it to him, he initiated to change the email and asked for the verification to do so…. i hesitated, he said it’s how it’s really done. Blablabla… again my needs, stress and sleeplessness got into me, i gave in. He changed my email and lost complete access to my account. At this point, ok that’s it, in the next 2 mins either I lose everything or I solve my problems.

After they secured my account, the Buyer messaged me one last time before dissapearing into the abbyss. He said “$400 right? Give me a min” and that my folks is the longest 1 minute in my life, a minute that 11 hours after still hasn’t passed yet. Both the middleman and the buyer blocked me, couldn’t message them, couldn’t reach them in anyway. The best thing I could’ve done was to report my account was stolen but i have very little hopes for it.

Also, it’s good to note that These scammers know about my situation as I’ve been stress talking about my reason of selling and didn’t give a F about it.

So my fellow gamers out there. I highly suggest against doing what I did. But when you are put into a situation like where I am right now and really need to do so, please watch out, they’re good at screwing people over. Never ever fully trust somebody else with your property when you have nothing to hold onto. Some people are complete pieces of shit and I wish hell is real for them.

I thought that sleeping through my FU would make things better, but nope, haven’t slept a minute, daughter is still sick, lost my account and here I am wallowing on how useless and stupid of a father I am.

I recently lost my father. I have two siblings, my twin brother and older sister . We all grew up together in my parents’ house. It is a large multi-story 5 bedroom house worth almost a few million dollars.

My father’s will stated that his assets, cash, house, etc… were to be divided equally among the three of us. During my father’s funeral, I asked my siblings when a good time would be to meet up about putting the house on the market. My sister told me that there was no need, because my father had sold the house prior to his death.

I was confused because he was still living in it. My sister went on to explain that my father had been sick for years and was deep in debt, so he’d needed to sell the house. Of course, with his health as poor as it was, that would be a complicated undertaking. So my sister and her husband bought the house with the understanding that he would continue living there for free.

I was flabbergasted. When my father died, he only had about 120K in liquid assets. Her story made no sense to me. I demanded details.

She said that the mortgage lender would only approve them for 375k, which is far less than the house is worth. My dad apparently spent the other 250k paying off his debts, paying for treatments and “maintaining his quality of life” as my sister put it. So basically she’s telling me my inheritance is 40k and no more while she gets that + a house.

I called her a thief that took advantage of our father when he was vulnerable. She basically pocketed the difference in the value of the house out of my inheritance. She got really mad. She told me that she and her husband have been struggling to pay two mortgages for years while also raising four kids (not my kids, not my problem) and getting no income from the second house, but that was her CHOICE, and she got a house out of it. She started yelling at me and crying, so her husband intervened and took her away.

I turned to my brother for support, but he just shrugged and said he couldn’t find it within him to care about a house after we just buried Dad. I miss Dad too, and I hate fighting with my sister, but what she did was wrong. I’ve reached out to a lawyer and am planning to sue my sister, but I’m nervous. I know this will permanently fracture my family. I just want what’s rightfully mine, but is it worth blowing up my sister’s life?

A woman shared how her husband wants to leave her because she had a miscarriage, and her mother-in-law told her that she’s disgusted that she had another miscarriage.

Here is the story

I had a miscarriage yesterday. My husband told his mum know he’s got divorce papers and wants me to sign ASAP.

His mother told me she’s “disgusted I had another miscarriage” and that “I can’t perform simple wifey duties like producing children for my husband”

and now he’s demanding everything but the car (that’s mine), he already has a new woman signed up who “can have children” and I’m lost.

I don’t care anymore and just wanna get drunk. What do I do.??? I’m lost.

Netizens’ comments

• Can you reconnect with old friends? Any family near by that you trust? I wish you all the best. Remember that this is not your fault. You didn’t do this! This is a CRAPPY thing that is happening to you. Stay strong

• Not being able to have children with this man is a gift, even though it doesn’t feel like one right now. The next bit of your life is going to be rough, but once you’re through it, your whole world is going to open up to a rainbow-filled vista. Stay away from alcohol during the hard part so you can enjoy the beauty.

• Your MIL and husband are awful. That’s not how miscarriages work, not in the slightest. They are not your fault, they just happen, and are a lot more common than people think because they are kept hush hush.
  Isolating you from friends and family, making you think this is your fault, calling it wifely duties… If you believe in any kind of greater power, or the phrase everything happens for a reason, I think this reason now is for you to leave and find a happier life.

Girlfriend told me she used to work as an escort

Been with her for around 8 months now. Last week she told me that she used to work as an escort. I asked if she still does it and she said she stopped a few months before we got together.

I asked how many guys shes been with but she doesn’t know. She told me she did it for 4 months and worked 3-4 times a week and each time she would see around 5-6 clients.

Doing rough math in my head that would work out to be anywhere from 250-300 guys or something like that. I also asked if she used protection and she said usually but would let certain clients that she liked do it raw.

We both got tested early into the relationship since we don’t use condoms and everything was fine then. She also admitted that alot of the designer items she owns were gifts from clients.

She asked if I’m ok with it and I said as long as she isn’t doing it anymore its not an issue. But deep down I am disappointed and disgusted.

I haven’t been able to look at her the same way. On the outside she looks so cute, bubbly, and innocent but knowing the truth changes how I see her

Netizens’ comments

1. Did she volunteer this information? If you are disappointed and disgusted, why are you still with her?
2. If you’re looking at her differently then leave the relationship. It’s ok if you can’t be with her after learning about her previous job, it’s not ok to string either of you along for more than a month.
   Be honest with yourself. Be kind to her if you do decide to end it, and good luck.
3. Let her be with someone who will accept her history.
4. No one has to be with someone. If you’re not okay with it, it’s normal and you should leave her. Unless you want to be with her or just to be there for support. At least just don’t make your or else’s life worse.

My [38F] fiancé [37M] only realized that he can’t find his passport the night before our honeymoon and now we can’t go.

Some context: a family member gifted this trip to us for our wedding. It’s the only “nice” thing we’re doing for the occasion because otherwise we’re going to just have dinner with family.

After a bad financial year, I’ve been the sole breadwinner and while he’s been very helpful around the house, it’s starting to breed resentment and fear in me. I’m so nervous that this event will only be gasoline on that fire.

Could you please give me some perspective? My fiancé is so kind and we get along so well and I love him dearly, but these lapses in judgement are beginning to grind me down. This was the kind of trip that we’ll never be able to afford on our own, so I’m feeling this hard

My fiancé only looked for his passport the night before our honeymoon and can’t find it so now we can’t go because we’re tight on cash and this was a gift. Please help me not go insane.

I wrote this post in the middle of the night as we were still looking for the passport. Hope remained that we might find it, We did not.

I honestly should have gone alone, but the one detail I left out above is that his aunt and her family were also going to be on this trip and I felt uncomfortable joining them without him.

I’m still really emotional and am perhaps not acting too rationally right now, but I’ll let you know whether I end up making it or not. I’m also not going to lie — I’ve said many, many things that I regret.

Netizens’ comments

1. You should still go. Set the expectation that you will not be missing out on good things on account of his irresponsible choices.
2. Go on the trip without him. Maybe he’ll learn a lesson about not waiting until the last minute.
3. I hate to ask but are you sure it’s not deliberate? My mum’s last husband had such terrible luck with passports including losing it while on holiday… once he’d got his hooks in properly he literally shredded his passport in front of her to punish her so they couldn’t go on a cruise she’d planned and paid for.
   In the end I went with her instead which is the start of a very long and horrible story.
   But anyway… under normal circumstances if this happened to someone they’d be frantic, mortified, hugely apologetic for ruining your chance at a lovely trip. Was he those things?

A close friend of mine had her second child a few years ago and she confided in me that she was planning a third child soon. I know that she lives in a 4 room HDB and figured that sooner or later, the third child has to share a room with one of his/her siblings. She asked for my opinion on whether it was too soon, would a third child be too much, etc… I decided to share with her my experience sharing a room with a sibling and reminded her on some of the stories of my sibling I had shared with her in the past…

Since young, I had shared a room with my older brother. He is nothing short of inconsiderate. He has never spared a thought for me even back then I was sharing the room. He was in his rebellious phase early at 13-14 and is still in it now at 29. There are many habits of his that made sharing a room with him insufferable. Here are a few examples: coming home late during midnight and talking loudly on his phone, throwing his belongings and socks all over the room, going to sleep straight away without showering almost everyday so the room smelled like salted fish, blasting his music or video game on speakers throughout the night, etc.

I never felt like I belonged in the room. I had to sleep in the living room due to being disturbed constantly. Sleeping wasn’t the only thing that I was unable to do in the room I shared. Trying to study in the room or at home was unproductive too. My brother has been anti-education his whole life.

His education level was only O levels and he has always bragged that one day, he will start his own company and hire people who only know how to study like me. He thinks people who have their career with degrees are people who can only work hard but not smart, and they will always be just a salaryman.

He wants to own this people so that he can show off that he won by being smart enough to become rich without studying and working hard in his life. He thinks people who works hard cannot talk and socialize with the big bosses and get connections on their own, so they are doomed to live a life of a corporate slave. So whenever I tries to study at home or in the room, he would make snide remarks to his friend on his phone that I am studying hard to be a cog in the wheel or a corporate slave in the future. He would sneak a peek over my shoulder to see what I am studying and discuss and laugh with our cousin behind my back in a later date on what “stupid subjects” I am studying. Oh and he constantly blasts Andrew Tate’s podcasts while I am studying too. This had led me to constantly waste time and energy to travel to a library just to study. I felt very miserable being at home.

Things started looking better when my older sister got married and moved out. I got her room and finally I have gotten control of my life at home. My parents no longer nagged at me for being messy and I was being productive at home. My GPA improved constantly semester by semester after having my own room. I started a side hustle and it started generating income after 6 months. My parents and friends could see that I became a happier person. I would have been a much better person academically, financially and emotionally if I just have my own room from the start.

After telling her my whole experience above, I added on and said I would be lying if I didn’t even feel a tinge of resentment towards my parents for forcing me to share a room with my bro. I reminded her that she had seen my bitter phase in the past where I hated everyone and it wasn’t pretty. I told her go for it if she can be sure that she can discipline her kids well so her youngest child don’t have to suffer like I did. She started to look unsure about her decision and after that, she left saying she will give this even more thought now.

Few days later, I coincidentally bumped into her and her husband in a shopping mall while I was out with my girlfriend. We decided to have dinner together. While ordering the dishes, her husband pulled me aside for a private talk. He said that his wife is unsure of having a third child now and is putting it off until she can be sure she wants a third child. He told me it was one of his life’s dream to have a big family and he feels like the chance for that is over now. He told me that he’s trying not to blame me as it was her decision but his brain couldn’t help but register me as the asshole that ruined his plans. He said that he will try to view and treat me the same but it will take time for him to get rid of my label in his head. Now that he said all that, I felt like an asshole for sharing my life experience.

Hi, I am in a weird situation. I like helping people and do a lot of volunteering work on the side. I don’t like to hurt people.

However, I like girls who are not so nice. Ok, I dont refer to girls who are abusing or throwing plates at people. These are girls are not evil but at the same time, they arent angels either. They are usually selfish and they dress like they going to party after class everyday. They dont actually care about other people but they dont go out of their way to hurt them either.

On the other hand, I dont actually feel attracted to girls who are caring, you know the ones that do volunteering or stay back to help other people after class.

Of course, being the kind guy I am, the badass girls dont actually find me attractive. I am a kind, emphathetic and caring person which they dont find attractive (I know I repeated the sentence). They seem to go for the badass versions, like the guy versions of themselves, you know the selfish and sometimes even toxic kind.

The kind and caring girls are a 50 50. Some of them go for the kind guys whereas some go for the badass guys.

None of these makes any sense to me.

Also, can I do something to be more attractive to badass girls without losing my caring qualities?

PS: I am gyming regularly, have a hobby of painting and my grades are above average. I have small grp of friends but they are mostly similar kind of volunteery people. (Most of them get caring type gfs so I am the weirdo).

Here are what netizens think:

• Easy. The type you described sounds like most local influencers. Just follow them on social media and try your luck from there. Tip: most party girls or badass girls need wingmen for times when their badass boyfriends throw them aside for other more badass girls, this is where you come in handy. You won’t lose your caring qualities, in fact, this is the best time to show them, AND you also stand a chance of getting into their good books (or something else).

• Be yourself lor. Sure got this kind of girl who wants someone nicer. Usually these girls (combined with their girlfriends) can sniff out a fake instantly anyway

• Trust me, you won’t want to be a saint and hangout too long (read- marry) them. Speaking from being a spectator of my good friend’s implosion

Have lived in Singapore for seven years now and experienced something earlier this morning that came as a shock.

My toddler daughter and I were sitting at the bus stop out front of where we live along River Valley road and along came a man who began hurling verbal abuse at two Filipinas sitting next to us.

Words used included sluts, whores etc. He also pointed to the singlet he was wearing over a shirt which he had scribbled such words all over it with a marker.

Without thinking, I stood up and confronted him and told him to beat it (not so politely, mind you). This was personal, as my wife is Filipina, though anyone acting in such a way should be called out!

He continued to yell out racial and condescending slurs as he walked away.

This guy was tall and lanky, in his 50s or 60’s, long-ish grey beard and of Indian appearance. Has anyone encountered him before?

Should I be lodging some sort of report to the police?

Netizens’ comments

1. Local here. Thanks for standing up against such incidents. You can try police report, but it be reasonable to expect that nothing can be done, especially when there’s no video evidence.
2. Yes please do make a report, the next time it may be kids or more vulnerable people affected
3. Clearly mentally ill. Yes you can make a report if you think he might be a danger to himself or others.
4. Thank you for taking a stand against racism. Please proceed to report this incident to the authorities if you deem it necessary.
   From personal experience, if the offender is mentally unsound, the authorities may just tell him/her to stop bothering the public.
5. The guy is siao Lang la… Don’t bother.
6. OP please make a police report. At the bare minimum there is a record of the incident and if it continues regularly, there will be enough to warrant the police doing something about it in time.

I asked my boyfriend why he kept cheating on me. His answer completely broke me.

So me (30F) and my (EX) boyfriend (32M) were together for over 3 years. After 1 year of us being official, I discovered that he was cheating on me.

I was devastated, but I also believe in second chances. I desperately wanted to give our relationship another shot, so I forgave him. That moment kick-started the downward spiral of our relationship.

I would discover him cheating on a regular basis with multiple different people. Every time I would confront him, he was honest with me. Because he was upfront, I would always give him another chance. I believed that, because he was honest, what he was doing wasn’t that bad. After this catastrophe of a relationship dragged on for the next 2 years, I finally reached my breaking point!

2 days ago, I was in the bedroom and he was in the living room watching TV. I peaked at his phone that was charging on the nightstand. I saw that he had created a new dating profile and was texting other women. I felt so defeated!

This had happened so many times and I just couldn’t figure out why he was hurting me. I came out of the bedroom sobbing and confronted him for the millionth time.

He was completely unfazed and just sat there calmly listening to me. I blurted out, “Why are you doing this to me?? Don’t you love me?? I do so much for you! I cook, clean, sleep with you, support you..everything! What else can I possibly do? Just please tell me…why?!”

He looked me dead in the eye with zero emotion and said, “Because I know that you won’t do anything about it.”

I don’t know why, but what he said opened my eyes for the first time. He was absolutely right! I knew right then and there that I was letting him walk all over me. He didn’t need to come up with bullshit excuses, deny it, or even hide it from me!

So here I am, sitting alone, feeling like the biggest and weakest loser on the planet.